How do I know if he just wants something casual or a real relationship?
Q. Ok so my question may not be all that serious or big, but I think if I dont make the right decision now, it may turn into a bigger problem later down the track... I have this friend who I am pretty sure likes me alot! And I am def attracted to him...
A. 18 December 2007: Well you can't judge him by your last boyfriend's standards can you? Just because he let you go after a week doesn't necessarily mean this guy will. Take a chance! If you don't take any risks in this life, what are you living for? If it doesn't work ... (read in full...)
I am always the one to initiate sex.
Q. Ok, so I have been dating my girlfriend for about 1 and a half years, and we have been through a lot together. I am a junior (almost senior) in college and she is working at her dad's bank as a teller, so she obviosly gets more money than I do (her ...
A. 18 December 2007: Don't worry, you're not the only one. I used to feel like that about my boyfriend. I seem to have a much higher sex drive than him...or so I thought. The reason he never initiated sex was because he didn't want to force me to do it if I didn't want ... (read in full...)
Any ideas about moving my sister into another house, maybe a hostel or a flat? She's 17, steals from us, smokes; we consider her a lost cause.
Q. Hi guys, I need some help with some legal stuff. My sister is turning 17 on january 1st and my mum wants to throw her out. My sister is just awful and has made all of our lives a living hell for the past 3 years nearly. We have tried reasoning ...
A. 11 December 2007: to baybeelizzie i do have some issues with what you're saying as you sound exactly like my sister. my mum and dad have never ever been harsh with my sister and thats why she is taking advantage. i was raised exactly the same as she was and there is ... (read in full...)
Could my bf go to jail if I am pregant??
Q. Hi i am 16 and my bf is 18. I was wondering if i got pregnant can he go to jail because we want a child and we are fixin to get married. I live in the state of tenessee and i was wanting to move out of my parents house to, i wanted to know t...
A. 9 December 2007: Nevermind if you could go to jail or not, you should not be having a baby at your age. In fact it's ridiculous. What is it these days with young girls? You're a child having a child. Do you even understand what will happen to your body when you do ... (read in full...)
My fiancee cheated on me, he said I'm rubbish in bed, we have a baby together but should I leave him?
Q. my fiancee cheated on me with my sister in law at a family party in september, i only just found out by accident when i saw a text she sent him at the time. i took him back because we have 2 year old daughter, but i cant stand him touching me and ...
A. 6 December 2007: Are you completely insane? LEAVE HIM. You do have a child that is biologically his but it doesn't mean its YOURS(as in both). W... (read in full...)
My penis is too big for my girlfriend!
Q. My Penis Is To Big For My girlfriend.. When We Have Sex We Normall Start Off With A Bit Of Oral Which Is Fine But When We Have Sex I Cant Fit My Penis Inside Of Her, We Have Tried Loob And It Doesn't Work... How Can We Have Sex?...
A. 6 December 2007: You can buy plugs from sex shops or even ann summers. They are usually used for anal sex to widen up the anal passage so the penis fits inside. BUT in this case if you have tried lube and you still can't fit in then I suggest you buy some of these. ... (read in full...)
I'm new to Sex, but I don't enjoy it. Does it get better?
Q. I have recently began having sex with my boyfriend we were both virgins before hand and waited until we both felt ready. However, I don't seem to enjoy sex. I get turned on during foreplay, but when we actually have sex it doesn't seem to be ...
A. 6 December 2007: Sex does get better with time because over time you learn different things about your bodies. You need to study eachothers body and tell eachother what you like and what you'd like to have done to you. Remember only 25% of women can orgasm during ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is allergic to condoms are there alternatives for him?
Q. I think my boyfriend is allergic to condoms.. we both want to practice safe sex but its too late... I really think he is allergic to whatever is in the comdom. perhaps the latex... is there a form of contraception or a condom thats very effec...
A. 6 December 2007: Yes I can help you. Durex do a latex-free condom called AVANTI. Apparently its stronger than natural latex but is also thinner and more sensitive(which is always good). You can get them over the counter from most high street pharmacists but if you ... (read in full...)
My husband has sex dreams every night and I am upset!
Q. My husband has strange bedtime habits - insight would be greatly appreciated. When he falls asleep he very often starts moaning, making noises like he's enjoying sex, occassionally he mutters something, and he is clealy in a sexually arroused state. ...
A. 6 December 2007: to BIRDYNUMSNUMS I think you are being a little harsh here. You yourself might be fine with the idea of your man having sexual fantasies about other women but I can definitely assure you that you're in a minority. Most women are very insecure, ... (read in full...)
I think I've lost the ability to be horny.
Q. hi, I am a 17 year old female with a boyfriend of too months. We are very close and considering sex. We are both virgins and he is really up for it, i want to but i just feel i have no sex drive at all. I have been in 'touchey feely' encounter...
A. 4 December 2007: Well to be honest if you haven't tried penetrative sex then you can't be horny for it can you? Once you've done it you'll start to crave it. There are all different ways in which you can be pleasured and if your partner performs oral sex or ... (read in full...)
I want to make love more frequently, not only on the "established" days... How should I tell him?
Q. I am going out with is man 18 years older than me. We only sleep together on Wednesday nights and at weekends. I want to make love to him not just on the fixed day but I've never talked to him about it. Because he says our frequent lovemaking has ...
A. 4 December 2007: You must let him know your feelings but you must also understand that he is much older than you and as you will know men at that age aren't as active in the bedroom department as younger men are. You have to take this into consideration too. He is ... (read in full...)
Does the absence of noise mean the absence of satisfaction??
Q. I'm really not asking this because of my sex life,which has tremendously improved. Some of the questions posted today had me thinking. Though i came up with answers i need to hear what other people think. As a man,if your lover doesn't scream during ...
A. 3 December 2007: No you do not have to scream to have an orgasm and i just wish the movie industry would stop portraying it as this way. Porn films are also very inaccurate so I hope you aren't taking advice and tips from them. The most notable thing when someone is ... (read in full...)
What should I do for enjoyment of first night. What is condom?
Q. hello,im 23.i m pakistani n my fiance is british citizen.we both r muslim n vergin.we love each other so much.we r going to get married in jan 2008.acctually i hav 3 questions........ 1.what is condom?what kind of stucture it has?for men or fore wom...
A. 3 December 2007: 1. A condom is basically a thin rubber tube like structure that is lubricated(wet). The man places it on the end of his penis and rolls it down the penis right to the base. When you are having sex and the man ejaculates or cums he will release semen ... (read in full...)
Poll question. How old were you when you lost your virginity?
Q. Hey would like to know how old were you when you lost your virginity and also did you tell your parents about it or not till later? How were you sure it was the right person?...
A. 29 November 2007: I was 17 when I lost my virginity. I'm 18 now and I'm still with the boy I lost mine too. Luckily enough for me he was a virgin too which made the experience much better for the both of us as we learned together. I didn't tell my mum that I was ... (read in full...)
Is it gay to watch gay porn?
Q. is it gay to watch gay porn...
A. 29 November 2007: No it just means you're curious but to be honest most straigh men are completely disgusted with man on man action. At your age I don't know if you are just experimenting with this or not as you seem too old for this as experimenting with stuff like ... (read in full...)
How do I hide my 'Camel Toe'?
Q. i recently noticed that my vagina is fat i can't wear shirts up to my waist cause it looks to big is there anything you can suggest please...
A. 29 November 2007: Wear baggier trousers maybe? Wear trousers that are a size up with a belt, this should give you some space in that area and help you hide it :)... (read in full...)
Is cumming and having an orgasm the same thing?
Q. For a boy is cumming and orgasming the same thing?...
A. 29 November 2007: It's the same for a girl too and yes cumming and orgasming is the same thing, just different words.... (read in full...)
Am I not enough for him?
Q. Why does my boyfriend feel the need to masturbate when I'm here and willing to try whatever he wants?...
A. 29 November 2007: Because he is very self-centred and has no care at all for your feelings. If he'd rather do that than have sex with you then let him, but there's not much point staying with him if this is the way he wants to act is there?... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity soon..and need some questions answered...
Q. I'm 16 and hoping to lose my virginity to my bf of 4 months whos 20, i know many people will think that this is to soon but i know he's the one. He makes me feel so loved and gives me butterflies everytime he calls and i've never felt this way about ...
A. 27 November 2007: The condom is 99% accurate at keeping you safe and the pill is also 99% accurate so using both is a brilliant idea. If you're boyfriend is a virgin, which is doubtful at his age, then it would be safest to use a condom because let's be honest, you ... (read in full...)
He complains that I'm "too wet" when we make love!
Q. I've just divorced my husband and met this man 18 years older than me. I am 45. This man is very good in bed. I've got turn on without minutes and gets very wet. He complains he couldnt feel anything when I am wet. He talks like its my fault ...
A. 27 November 2007: You could just dry yourself a bit with a tissue before he goes inside you. This should keep it a bit dryer but men should be able to feel it even more when the woman is wetter. This is the whole point of the woman becoming wet. Ignore him.... (read in full...)
Should I give him the benefit of the doubt?
Q. a few months ago i found a note in my husbands pocket written by a woman who works for him. I had helped him with some of his reports once and I knew her writing. It was very graphic talking about great orgasms. I confronted him and was told it ...
A. 25 November 2007: Is there anyone at his work who you could ask to keep an eye on him? I know this sounds silly but it will cost less than paying a detective to do it! Plus if it sorts things out then its also a good option. Don't ask a man to do it though as they ... (read in full...)
Should I move closer to be with her?
Q. Ok, so I met someone on holiday who I really like, but she lives 300 miles away. What do i do? First of all I would explain that this was an unplanned holiday given to me by a friend who was taking his girlfriend, now ex. It was intended to be a...
A. 25 November 2007: I think that if you want to move closer to be with her then you should. What you should also do is find out what she wants. Does she want a real relationship with you? Is she taking it seriously? If so then go for it. There is no timing for these ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating and should I tell my fiance?
Q. Should i tell my fiance that i pecked a close male friend on the lips (this happened once when i had been going out with my boy for approx 2 months)? i have no feelings for this person i pecked - in fact, hes like a brother from another mother - ...
A. 20 November 2007: No you shouldn't tell him and I'm sure that even if you did he would probably laugh it off. This is nothing. A peck on the lips with a close friend is nothing to even be worrying about. If it was something more than that and you have feelings for ... (read in full...)
He told me to be patient and wait for our relationship to get public. It's a secret one now as he has a gf. What should I do?
Q. I have a secret relationship with a boy cause he has a girlfriend? He told me to be patient and wait for our relationship to get public? But i dont believe that much, so i need help? I love him. What should i do? Should i do something so he would ...
A. 20 November 2007: Do you really want to be with a guy that is already cheating on his girlfriend? He obviously doesn't feel that strongly for you. He is a coward and should have ended it with his girlfriend as soon as he started having feelings for you. If he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just told me that he wants to stop having sex! He thinks that if we don't have sex for a while he might fall in love with me...
Q. My boyfriend just told me tonight that he wants to stop having sex. We've been together for about 4 months and he knows I love him, but he says he doesn't feel that way yet. He thinks that if we don't have sex for a while he might fall in love ...
A. 20 November 2007: Yes he is completely crazy. To be honest I don't think you should have slept with him in the first place if the feelings you have for him are not received back. I can't believe that he has said this to you. It's just awful. If he has been sleeping ... (read in full...)
He texted his ex, but I had sex with mine. How do I get the ex out of my head?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. a few months back i found out that he's been dirty texting his best mates ex. who he always used to slag off to me. anyway i told him that i knew bout the texts and he owned up, was very sorry, changed ...
A. 19 November 2007: You are the one in the wrong here and i don't see why you even mentioned your boyfriend dirty texting another girl. The texting went on at the beginning of the relationship did it not? There's a lot more to having sex with someone than texting ... (read in full...)
We have a child together but he doesn't want to leave his wife, how do I cope with this?
Q. well this is going to be long. Nearly two years ago I started an affair with a married man ( i was married too). After 5 months or so I was pregnant. I knew it was his child and he never doubted that. He stood by me and our relationship grew. We ...
A. 19 November 2007: He is having his cake and eating it! Can't you see that? All married men who cheat very rarely leave their wives. They are cowards. You should never have gone near him in the first place. You were married yourself. What exactly does marriage mean to ... (read in full...)
The clothes have stayed on - but for how long?
Q. hi i need a bit of help with a problem i have slept with my boyfriends brother whilst i was VERY drunk and he is going out with my best friend i confessed to her because the guilt was killing me and we got that sorted they are still together but i ...
A. 19 November 2007: Where exactly does your boyfriend fit into all this? If you don't want to be with your boyfriend then don't be, but do not stir things up with his brother. His brother is with his best friend and you are so unbelievingly lucky to have been forgiven. ... (read in full...)
The clothes have stayed on - but for how long?
Q. hi i need a bit of help with a problem i have slept with my boyfriends brother whilst i was VERY drunk and he is going out with my best friend i confessed to her because the guilt was killing me and we got that sorted they are still together but i ...
A. 19 November 2007: Where exactly does your boyfriend fit into all this? If you don't want to be with your boyfriend then don't be, but do not stir things up with his brother. His brother is with his best friend and you are so unbelievingly lucky to have been forgiven. ... (read in full...)
Should I give him the benefit of the doubt?
Q. a few months ago i found a note in my husbands pocket written by a woman who works for him. I had helped him with some of his reports once and I knew her writing. It was very graphic talking about great orgasms. I confronted him and was told it ...
A. 19 November 2007: I think your husband is up to something here. I can probably believe the first note but where did this second note appear and why did he pick it up and not throw it in the bin straight away? I mean, what sort of person would pocket a note like that? ... (read in full...)
I have a thing for virgins! Is this normal?
Q. I am a 21 year old female, and I have a thing for guys who are virgins. I really don't know why, I am not attracted to young boys, it is certianly not to do with age... so I am not a female pedophile at all, I just find myself wanted to sleep with ...
A. 19 November 2007: I think you are completely normal. You are basically just feeling what most men like to feel during sex. You are in control. You are the only one out of the two of you that has a clue on how it should be and you have the ability to really impress ... (read in full...)
Need advice on cuddling and making my girlfriend feel loved.
Q. Need some advice on how to be more intimate with my girl friend during the day and at night. We do have sex most nights but the cuddling thing after is the bit i most enjoy except i can't seem to do it. I need help on how to cuddle her and how to ...
A. 16 November 2007: Aww you really do sound very sweet and very much like my boyfriend. He also enjoys the cuddling part after sex but do you know why scientifically? The reason that couples enjoy this cuddling part is because of a hormone that is released when you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I want sex with him?
Q. i am 15 years old and i have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 5 months and i want to have sex with my boyfriend tomorow were gettin pissedd like the usual friday night and then going out wiff our mates n that ... how can i get round to ...
A. 16 November 2007: You definitely don't sound ready to have sex. You shouldn't technically be performing oral sex either as this is against the law. Also oral sex is pretty boring on its own. It's part of foreplay and if you're not having the sex after it i'd stop it ... (read in full...)
On the rare occasion we do have sex it's short and unconnected... but he has porn on his PC
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and our sex life has been steadily declining. We were both really inexperienced when we met (I was a virgin) so we waited a few months to have sex. During those first few months we fooled around a...
A. 16 November 2007: Nevermind about offending him! He's being awful to you and you should tell him exactly how you think he is acting and exactly what you think of him. There must be something far more serious going on here, I mean what man refuses to have sex with his ... (read in full...)
I am irritated that he can pleasure himself to porn but my needs are not met! He rarely makes a first move in the sexual department...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and everything, on the whole, is great. He is normally very caring and attentive and I felt blown away by my feelings for him. He has a friend who is an avid porn watcher and thinks there is ...
A. 16 November 2007: Porn is something that can be fun for some couples but if it is abused it can be very damaging to certain parties like yourself. Here your partner is choosing porn over you. You need to sit down and ask him what is it that porn does for him that you ... (read in full...)
I want to go on contraception. My mother would be shocked to hear this, so should I tell her?
Q. I'm 16 and i know my mum doesn't want me having sex till i'm older but i still want to go on some form of contraception just to be safe but i know if i told her she would freak out and never let me see my bf again. What do i do, go on contraception ...
A. 14 November 2007: If I was you I'd try and tell my mum first but if you think she will be completely against it then go ahead yourself. She should be proud enough that you have waited until you are at a legal age to have sex and also that you are sensible enough to ... (read in full...)
He mentioned he wants me in a 3'some with his best friend and...now, he's got the females neighbors number on his phone. What is up with this guy?
Q. A little confused about my boyfriend if he truly loves me. We've been together for 2yrs 1/2 and we were making love when all of a sudden he whispered in my ear that he would love to see his best friend have sex with me cuz he's like a brother to ...
A. 13 November 2007: I think you should definitely be worried. I mean what sort of creep fantasises about his best mate sleeping with his girl? For most guys this is their ultimate nightmare. It's quite obvious that he is just seeing you as property not as a girlfriend. ... (read in full...)
Help! Theres another girl "sniffing" around my guy..what should I do about it?
Q. Hi, I've had a long string of bad relationships but this time ive found a really nice guy. Only problem is theres another girl "sniffing" around. She knows full well he has a girlfriend yet she still persists to post flirty messages on his facebook...
A. 13 November 2007: I think you should definitely talk to him about this girl! I would kill my boyfriend if he was waking me up in the middle of the night by receiving flirty texts from another girl! If he can't stop her sending these messages and texts himself then ... (read in full...)
Give me some perspectives on 'what love really is'?
Q. I would like people to explain to me what they think love is, how they feel when they are in love, what they think love is...? How different is love from when you were together 6 months to 6 years to 60 years? I would just be interested in pe...
A. 6 November 2007: To me "love" is exactly what I feel for my boyfriend of 18 months. I can't bear to be away from him. I constantly think of him. Most things remind me of him. When he's on his way to meet me I get the most unbelievable butterflies just at the thought ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said he needs to sample the single life before we marry, now he's sleeping around, I love him but should I wait?
Q. Ok I am in an odd situation... I've been with my boyfriend since high school and we have a great relationship we don't have many big fights. We are both second year university students now and he and I have been talking about the possibility of ...
A. 4 November 2007: Forget about him. He is a complete loser. Who does he think he is? He really is the cat who got the cream isn't he? I mean after all he has a girlfriend in a stable relationship who he knows he can fall back on whenever he wants and at the same time ... (read in full...)
We've been together for a short time and he wants a threesome for his b-day! Should we do this?
Q. I have a BF that wants a threesome for his birthday we have been together only a short time is this a good idea...
A. 1 November 2007: Personally I never think three somes are a good idea as they can cause all sorts of trouble. If you are just starting out in your relationship i'd say this is a big no no. Do you love him? Does he love you? Has this been established yet. Is it ... (read in full...)
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