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First date--I have the ability to make people feel awkward! HELP!
Q. Ok, so I asked this girl out to a movie with a group of friends about two weeks ago. I'm not normally so balsy (asking someone out who you don't know at all is pretty weird at my school) but I'm really attracted to this girl so I just went for it. ...
A. 6 May 2010: Any idea what it is that makes people around you feel awkward?
Whatever it is we all have some kind of super power, mine for instance is to make people mad at me :P lol
But seriously? I understand how it can feel the best advice I can offer is... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant, will he get into trouble?
Q. Hi there. I am 16 years and my boyfriend is 25.We have been dating for almost 2 years. If he makes me pregnant and i then go stay with him and his family, will he get into any kind of trouble?? ...
A. 5 May 2010: Theoretically you can get in trouble because if i remember correctly if you're under 18 and there is more than a two year age gao any PUBLIC displays of affection can (theoretically) get you in trouble with the law. As there is a law against this, ... (read in full...)
How is it possible for us to have the same dream when we have never even met?
Q. Me and my girlfriend had the same dream: I was at the airport waiting for her plane to arrive. About 3 mins later a voice came on saying her plane arrived. I ran to the gate and looked around trying to find her. The gate closed and she was nowhere ...
A. 5 May 2010: Two things
1) weirdly enough people have the same dreams all the time. My boyfriend often googles his dreams and weirdly enough people he didn't know even existed have had EXACTLY the same dream as him... No idea why - but it does happen
2) Yo... (read in full...)
Girls and their "playtime"
Q. How often do girls maturbate? How do they do it? Do they look at porn while they do it? Or just think about it?...
A. 3 May 2010: Girls aren't like guys (for the most part).
Porn is aimed at guys because guys are visual and are turned on very easily by the things they *see*.
Girls get turned on differently they need to feel relaxed, special, sexy and have their brains t... (read in full...)
I feel so low about everything in my life.....
Q. Hi, just need someone to talk to. I seem to have lost my way. I'm single, have a job I love, and good friends. But I have lost my joy in life. I think ther is a combination of things that have just got on top of me. I'm ok for money but the ...
A. 2 May 2010: You're right
When you're depressed you are very irrational about a lot of things. I know & have always known that I could never and would never commit suicide, but before I was on anti-depressants I started feeling so lonely that I came very very... (read in full...)
I feel so low about everything in my life.....
Q. Hi, just need someone to talk to. I seem to have lost my way. I'm single, have a job I love, and good friends. But I have lost my joy in life. I think ther is a combination of things that have just got on top of me. I'm ok for money but the ...
A. 2 May 2010: You can get in touch with a psychologist who will be someone to talk to and will help you through grieving over your lovely man. That must be so tough on you, especially as you seem to be feeling very alone right now.
I think you may possibly... (read in full...)
Why does he keep our relationship a secret?
Q. So me and my bf have been dating for 2 months officially we have known each other for 5 months. After everythin is official with us he has changed. I feel like I'm not the only person he is with and he has a bigg issue changing his relationship ...
A. 26 April 2010: I understand about where charley999's bf is coming from, and i totally understand not having people in your relationship. My bf is quite shy and doesn't want people in our relationship but when I talked to him about it, he went into FB and changed ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep our relationship a secret?
Q. So me and my bf have been dating for 2 months officially we have known each other for 5 months. After everythin is official with us he has changed. I feel like I'm not the only person he is with and he has a bigg issue changing his relationship ...
A. 26 April 2010: I know how you feel, and i think it is legitimate to feel like you're not the only one.
I would sit him down and talk to him about it and if his actions don't change sharpish, then you don't need a playa in your life
Explain to him how importan... (read in full...)
I feel like an outsider looking in......
Q. Hello, I'm not sure what I am asking here but here goes.. I am an only child. I was born to parents who were in thier 40's when they had me so I didn't really get much of the usual upbringing. BEfore my parents had me , they moved from their c...
A. 20 April 2010: I agree with PuzzleSolver (well put by the way) I think that there are a few things you can do for yourself 1) Join some clubs - I would say of things you enjoy, but you don't seem to know yourself very well so go ahead and take some classes, jo... (read in full...)
He spilled the beans on our secret relationship!
Q. Hi, I have a really big problem right now! I've been meeting up secretly with this guy. When he was drunk, he told another of our friends about us and now it's gotten out. A few of my friends know about it and recently questioned me. I completely...
A. 19 April 2010: I'm not sure why you can't tell her.
If I were you I would take her aside at school and say "hey, I know that others were around when they were asking about *insert player's name here* and I feel bad because I lied, but I think I was just a litt... (read in full...)
My lost virginity didn't matter to him but now I'm worried I might be pregnant
Q. Okay so i'm 14, and i just lost my virginity yesterday, and the guy I lost it to doesn't even care, it was just sex to him. I did anything he wanted. I just wanted to make him happy. So today I find out that he goes back out with his ex. I think ...
A. 18 April 2010: 1) GET THE MORNING AFTER PILL ASAP!!! (3 - 5 days is the limit I think) And take it.
2) You are 14 - if you look at this realistically
- even if you two make it work, chances are it won't last until marriage
- this guy is a jerk with no concern ... (read in full...)
Does the spelling change the meaning behind the words?
Q. Does love and luv have the same meaning? When a guy tells you he loves u is it more stronger than when he says i luv u? Or are they the same? It sounds the same but when you text it differently are the feelings behind it not as strong?...
A. 18 April 2010: Luv and Love are generally considered to be different but the only person who can tell you is whoever texted it to you.
I *Love* my current boyfriend who has been around for a while now, and my best friend has been in a relationship with a guy for ... (read in full...)
He spilled the beans on our secret relationship!
Q. Hi, I have a really big problem right now! I've been meeting up secretly with this guy. When he was drunk, he told another of our friends about us and now it's gotten out. A few of my friends know about it and recently questioned me. I completely...
A. 18 April 2010: Why did you hide the relationship in the first place?
I know that it can be really hard at this age, especially because people interfere in relationships and muck them up.
I have however found that relationships that stay hidden are generall... (read in full...)
From Ugly Ducking to Swan but now feeling socially inept..HELP??
Q. Hey everyone, I'm a 22 year old male, 6'2, I'm averaged size but a little bigger cuz of my height...built like Steelers QB Ben Roethlisberger (haha, that probably isnt the best example at this point in time haha) and Ive gotten that way by losing ...
A. 18 April 2010: Relax
Join some clubs that you're interested in and don't try to be smooth. Most women either completely distrust "smooth" guys or are in it because the lies make them feel good. either way I don't think you want to be a smooth guy.
The truth of... (read in full...)
I thought he was going to ask me out but then he didnt
Q. I've been friends with a guy for about years. The last two or three we have been really close. I want to take our rlationship to the next level but don't know how. I can't just come out and say it because he gets very skiddish at the thought of ...
A. 18 April 2010: I went thru something similar with a really close guy friend quite a few years ago.
We got really really close sharing deep, personal things with each other, flirting via sms (we also had many personal jokes via sms) and smsing almost every day.... (read in full...)
I don't think about him much but I dream about him! WHY?
Q. I've been having trouble with a guy friend! So I deceided that I needed some space. I wrote him a message saying I needed space but still wanted to be his friend. So we haven't been talking during vacation. The weird thing is that I still have ...
A. 18 April 2010: He's on your subconscious mind is the short answer :) If you are having dreams about him, this tells me that whilst you may not be thinking about him consciously you are certainly thinking about him subconsciously. Don't try and divine any meani... (read in full...)
He tells people we're married but we're not even going out!
Q. During the summer when i was 13 i was asked for my phone number by an older boy when while i was at the pool with mu best friend. i shocked myself because i gave him my phone number and i never did that before. When he called we both found out ...
A. 18 April 2010: Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I think this guy has issues.
Sex would definitely have changed your relationship but you say a lot of this started before then...
I think that this guy doesn't know what he wants - my guess is that he wants you because ... (read in full...)
Why would a shy girl appear to be looking through you not at you?
Q. When I gaze into her eyes, it looks as though she is looking beyond me. An example of this is when she was with her friends just chatting it up, but at one point she started to look in my direction with aforementioned smile. Like I said though, her ...
A. 18 April 2010: My guess is she likes you :)
Some people have that glazed over, looking-through-everyone look or if you're like me - i tend to fantasize. Not sexually, but what it would be like to have whoever I'm looking at madly in love with me, to have them brin... (read in full...)
I'm really into her, but she doesn't want any part of it.
Q. There is this classmate of mine, who is my best friend and is a girl. I sort of like her, she knows this. Everything was fine until i gave a cell phone as her birthday gift. I did not give it because i like her, i just gave it as a friend.she ...
A. 15 April 2010: A cell phone is quite a big gift & would scare a lot of girls slightly and give them the idea that you're quite intense. I know you didn't mean it like that but I've been in her position.
I didn't want to lead the guy on - 'cause that's just crue... (read in full...)
Is he up to something if it took him 2 months to kiss me?
Q. What do you think?? is my boyfriend up to something bad? my bf is really sweet.it took him 2months to kiss me..we'd hang out cuddle, hold hands but he didn't make a move to kiss me. i asked him why it took him that long cos most guys would just jum...
A. 15 April 2010: I say you've got a gentleman - hang on to him. Men like him are few and far between! :) ... (read in full...)
No time for every day attention.
Q. a case for the female readers in here(guys can say some but this more related to female mind). So, there is a nice girl that i like and would love to have a relationship with her BUT i work alot and im taking courses which makes it difficult to have ...
A. 13 April 2010: Short answer: yes I would but...
Long Answer:
It can be really frustrating for many girls if we don't get attention - and it can upset many relationships when you don't get to see each other.
That being said there are many things you can do besid... (read in full...)
I think I might have an eating disorder.
Q. hi, im 17 and have had a problem with my diet since i was 13. this was when i started to put on weight,nd so at 14 i went on a diet. this diet got very extreme though, and by the end of it i was doing about 6 hours of exersize a day and eating as ...
A. 13 April 2010: Yo-yo-ing weight combined with binge eating alternating with starvation would definitely be an eating disorder. I don't have personal experience in that area, but I do know a fair amount about healthy lifestyles.
It's so important to eat balanced... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has anger problems.
Q. I have a problem with my current relationship that i cannot figure out the answer to. I have been woth my boyfriend for over 2 years now and things were great for a while. Well for the first year and a half. The problem started when he moved ba...
A. 12 April 2010: He may subconsciously resent you because in the back of his mind 'you' took away his freedom & independence. (I'm not saying you did - cuz it's totally not ur fault - so don't let that stress you (: )
To a guy losing his independence and having to m... (read in full...)
Breaking up by text message. I find it rude and immature!
Q. My girlfriend of 4 years basically is trying to break up with me through a text message. I feel that is very rude and immature. So I'm thinking about writing this back. " I don’t understand the reason why you send a text to do this. Keep the phone. ...
A. 12 April 2010: My guess is that she's trying to let you down softly so that she doesn't look like the villian.
If you've been together for 4 years and managed to make it work thus far but she now ^all of a sudden^ doesn't have time for you then she's lyin... (read in full...)
Breaking up by text message. I find it rude and immature!
Q. My girlfriend of 4 years basically is trying to break up with me through a text message. I feel that is very rude and immature. So I'm thinking about writing this back. " I don’t understand the reason why you send a text to do this. Keep the phone. ...
A. 11 April 2010: I would so *call her* and tell her that you're worth more than that and you're sorry that she's not big enough to handle it face to face. And then move on & forget about her. Cherish what was good & sweet - but move on.
I say good riddance if she'... (read in full...)
I'm really into her but I have low self esteem
Q. For about a week now I've been dating a woman 2 years older than me. I've had a few girlfriends in the past, but I keep getting this really amazing feeling around her that I can honestly say I haven't felt before, and I'm really excited about being ...
A. 11 April 2010: For the most part most girls won't let you get away with something they don't like. The girl you're talking about sounds like she is confident - is she? If so she'll probably shrug you off when she doesn't want your arm around her. If she does shrug ... (read in full...)
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