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female
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anonymous
writes:i have been wiv my boyfriend for about 2 years and we havn't had sex yet because i think am too young (am 15) we're both virgins and i think he wants to have sex do u think i should or not even though i dont want to yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): im 14 and ive hd sex i dnt regret it bt i wish id thought about it more before
even though u think ure boyfriend wants sex hes probably jsut as nervous as you
remember to hve sex when both of you are ready xx
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female
reader, :):):) +, writes (16 June 2007):
Dont dont dont! I lost my virginity when I was 15 and was definitly not ready, just because it seemed like everyone else was.It was a big mistake and Ive regretted it since although we've remained friends.Please dont feel pressured, once you've lost your virginity, thats it. Make sure its special and you feel the time is right.If hes the guy for you he'll understand and will wait till you feel ready.xxx
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reader, fishfood +, writes (15 June 2007):
 no hun, the fact that uve said u dont want to yet shows that u shouldnt have sex with him as ur not ready. only do it when ur ready, never let anyone force u or guilt-trip u into doing anything for them.
the fact that uve been with eachother for 2 years and havnt had sex yet makes it sound like hes a decent guy who really cares for u so hopefully he wont pressure u into anything. u should both be proud uve abstained from doing it for this long!!
untill he actually asks u if ur ready or brings the subject up, dont think about it too much as ur worrying urself about something that hasnt happened yet.
good luck hun
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): If you feel like you don't want to, your not ready. You are only 15, you have your whole life ahead of you. Young romances don't usually last forever. You haven't even begun to experience life yet. Don't ever let someone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. When you are ready, start slow. There are other ways to be sexual intimite other that sexual intercourse. Good Luck and don't rush yourself.
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reader, Salad_Barbarian  + ♥, writes (15 June 2007):
 If you don't want to then don't. First it's illegal and second it won't be nearly as good than if you had waited until both of you are comfortable with it. If you love each other you will be willing to wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): NO! Absolutely not. You are too young, and so is he. Besides which, the fact that you don't want to have sex with him means you are honoring and respecting yourself and your feelings by not doing so.
Don't bring up the subject of sex with him. If he asks you, then just tell him you don't want to and are not going to (don't just say you don't want to right now, or he might try to talk you into it). You don't have to give him a reason, either. I expect you know already that sex can lead to pregnancy and perhaps even a sexually transmitted disease - neither of which is worth the risk!!
If he really likes you, then even though he might want to have sex with you, he should be willing to respect your refusal. If he insists then stop seeing him - and talk to your parents!
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reader, Gem86 +, writes (15 June 2007):
I think you already know the answer to this. If you dont want to, you shouldnt. Dont be pressured, and dont rush things, take care xxx
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