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writes:There is a girl in one of my seminars in university who I would like to get to know better - but only as a friend. We worked together for the first time on Friday and she seemed really intelligent and thoughtful and a nice person. Unfortunately these seminars are the only time I know I I might be able to talk to her - and even then it was only be chance that she ended up working with me.I really like her a lot, not in a romantic way or attraction, and think we could be good friends.I'm just a bit unsure how to pursue this without giving the wrong idea especially considering nearly any time I would talk to her would stand out and I would clearly be going out of my way to do so.Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, it seems that in a rather round about way we seem to have ended up where we likely end up being friends anyway without any particular actions towards that. Mutual appreciation for a somewhat specialist subject.
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reader, Gem86  +, writes (2 November 2008):
 I would maybe suggest that you ask her if shes on facebook or something, add her and start talking that way.
Also, if youre in seminars together you could always ask if she wants to go for a coffee afterwards (if you have free time after them).
If you definately just want to be friends, maybe you could mention at some point a girl youre interested (so she knows its not her if you understand my point). Make sure your subtle though hehe.
I hope those suggestions help you out a little bit, Good Luck :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 November 2008):
Well if you worked with her of Friday then you have an ideal reason to go up and say Hi on Monday and get chatting.
Ask her how her weekend went.
Then just get in the habit of chatting to her at the start / end of every seminar and possibly sitting with her. Ask her for advice on a girl you like that is obviously not her and she will see you are not coming on to her.
Good Luck!! xx
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