I don't know what I want, and I don't think he does either
Q. I have just gone through a divorce after 16 years of marriage. I met this guy that is also going through a divorce. We started talking for a couple of months. We had a good relationship then we had a argument and things never went back to how they ...
A. 12 July 2011: He doesn't know what he wants, his head seems all over the place tbh! I think he probably has feelings for you, but divorcing has messed him up. He (and you) could probably do with a few months on your own, to get used to being 'unmarried' so t... (read in full...)
Alone and pregnant???
Q. I've been seeing someone for around 2 weeks now and there is a chance i may be pregnant already, however we have used contraception each time and i am going to take a home pregnancy test tomorrow to be sure, i need to get a chance to tell him that ...
A. 12 July 2011: There is no need to stress him out yet is there? If you used contraception correctly, you are probably not pregnant anyway! Get a test, and do it! If it proves positive, then you need to tell him you need to see him IN PERSON urgently!
Hopef... (read in full...)
Would it bother you if your gf called you by the same pet name she called her ex-bfs?
Q. ok maybe some of you will think this is a stupid question but it bothers me to no end somehow. this girl i have been dating for a while now has a pet name for me. the pet name is (dont laugh please) babykins. yes i am serious. anyway, when s...
A. 12 July 2011: I wouldn't worry too much about it!
It's like someone calling you hun, chick, love etc.
Anyway, you are her 'babykins' right now, not the 1.5 year old ex hey?!!! He's her 'ex' for a reason after all, she is choosing to be with you know, so don... (read in full...)
My parents have cheated on each other... Is the same thing going to happen to me?
Q. Ok folks, this is a biggie. 7 years ago my Dad went through a mid-life crisis, during which time he was very depressed. This sparked a separation with my Mum and resulted in him cheating on her. Somehow the two managed to work things out and w...
A. 12 July 2011: If I knew the answer to that, I would be a millionaire ;-)
Seriously, though, you are your own person, with your own life, and even if your parents had a happy non cheating marriage, doesn't mean you would or wouldn't.
Some people cheat, an... (read in full...)
Reconnected, but rekindled?
Q. When I was in college I had a crush on a girl that I was real good friends with. I felt I wasn't good enough for her so I never pursued a relationship. As soon as we parted ways after college I lost contact with her. Now its 16 years later and I ...
A. 12 July 2011: I'm in uk, so not sure how far 4 states away are! lol.
But seriously, what have you got to lose? Ask her out on a date, you are both single after all. If nothing romantic comes from it, you might just get a good friend anyway! So a win win situ... (read in full...)
Embarrassed about online dating
Q. Recently I met a really nice guy through online dating and I'm too embarrassed to admit it to anyone. I haven't even told anyone about him. When I go out, I tell my parents (yes I still live at home at 22. Grad students don't get paid that much) ...
A. 12 July 2011: Personally, I've never used on line dating, but I don't think you should be ashamed of it! It's just an advance in technology that people who are busy, or shy or whatever reason now use it.
This guy might end up being the love of your life! (S... (read in full...)
Mother figure or friends with benefits... I don't know what to do with this relationship!
Q. hi, i have been with my boyfriend for 19 months now. we met in his local pub. we started seeing each other and he kept asking me to stay at his flat more and more,it ended up i was there 5 days a week. he was so loving and he could never get enough ...
A. 12 July 2011: I think you've answered your own question there...'he can't tell me he is in love with me, although he loves me as a lovely person...'
You know what they say, there is a fine line between love and hate...(it sounds like he is not over his ex reall... (read in full...)
Is Oral, sex ?
Q. Here it goes.. I was saving myself until I got married for the right man. I was making out with my boyfriend and I ended up giving him oral sex. Does that make me a non virgin anymore?...
A. 28 June 2011: Sexual intercourse normally = penetration (penis to vagina/anus)
Everything else is normally classed as 'sexual contact'
So yes you are a virgin.
Personally, I don't understand doing 'sexual contact' but not intercourse with a partn... (read in full...)
Why didn't he jump at the chance to get my number? Now what?
Q. Hey guys and girls Just needed a bit of advice as I'm really confused! 2 months ago a new guy started working at my local cornershop, he only works weekend evening, after a few weekends, we'd have strong eye contact And smiled at each other and e...
A. 28 June 2011: Maybe he is not single?
You could always give him your number? Keep it light, you know, 'I like chatting to you, maybe (if you're single), we could go for a drink when you're not working, here's my number? Give me a call/text in the week if you f... (read in full...)
How to dance for my man
Q. I am a 31 year old woman. My husband and I were watching a movie from 1996, The People vs. Larry Flynt. At the end, Woody Harrelson's Larry Flynt is watching a video of his late wife doing a striptease for him. My husband says he wants one of ...
A. 28 June 2011: google strip tease, there are classes, or you tube videos! (they will give you ideas!)
But only do it if you feel happy to do so!
Confidence is the key!... (read in full...)
I think I have herpies, and don't know the long term effects of it! What will happen to me?
Q. I'm really worried and concerned. I had unprotected sex over the weekend and now i have a big spot down bellow. It looks a bit like an ulcer. Their are three other tiny spots by it, but, they don't look like ulseres, they just look like tiny ...
A. 27 June 2011: The best place to get yourself to is a GUM clinic i believe.
They will not judge you at all and will test you for everything free. (And will not tell your GP if you don't want them too, so it will not be on your regular medical records)
I heard... (read in full...)
How do I get over a 4 year love affair?
Q. I am so glad I came across this site. I need some suggestions on how to get over my lover. I am a married woman with no children and I have been having an affair with a married man for 4 years. His wife has just found out due to some old emails a...
A. 22 June 2011: You are most welcome :-)
(Oh and I know the sort of wife she is now! lol and no they seem to always take their men back-sometimes I wonder if this is really what they want or to prove something to the other woman?)
You sound like you've got ... (read in full...)
How can I love him again like I used to?
Q. I've been with my partner for 13 years. We have 3 children under the age of 6. It took 6 years of trying for my first child, and the other 2 came very soon after. My partner is loving, caring, and a great dad, but I worry my love for him has ...
A. 22 June 2011: Three kids under 6, I bet that is hard work and tiring too! Have you got any family/friends that could have the kids for the night? Or babysit for you, so you can go out on a date together just the two of you? I have friends similar ages to ... (read in full...)
Am I sick or evil for wishing bad things for my ex?
Q. ok, I hate myself right now. my ex was manipulative and lied and was insensitive and we broke up and now i look at her facebook page and see she is having fun, traveling with some new guy in Florida. and i cannot help but wish her BAD. i am je...
A. 22 June 2011: Firstly delete her off your fb if it's upsetting you to look at her profile! It's normal to be upset if you've split up with someone yes, maybe a bit angry (if she cheated or something) for a while. How recent it was/how long you were together/ho... (read in full...)
How do I get over a 4 year love affair?
Q. I am so glad I came across this site. I need some suggestions on how to get over my lover. I am a married woman with no children and I have been having an affair with a married man for 4 years. His wife has just found out due to some old emails a...
A. 22 June 2011: That's the trouble if you have an affair, you can't really talk to anyone about how you are feeling when it ends (and it always does come to an end). I don't think you can remain friends with him, especially as his wife now knows? If he decides t... (read in full...)
Embarrassed to tell girl I am a virgin - Should I be?
Q. Hi, I'm a 23 year old virgin and couple of weeks ago I meet this chick and for whatever reason she thinks I'm awesome :) anyway we've started to hop into bed and fool around but haven’t gone all the way yet. The thing is she doesn’t know I'm a ...
A. 21 June 2011: How does her staying in Europe for a year mean she had sex? And why do you feel you need to tell her at all (if she hasn't asked?) You say you don't want to give her the satisfaction of being your first? Do you really think that that's all... (read in full...)
Anybody meet their spouses as teenagers?
Q. well this is just me thinking if im honest ... how many people here on this site have been with spouses since they were in their mid teens (14-17) because me and my bf started goin out last year (me 13 and him 14) and after a year and 3 month...
A. 21 June 2011: Two of my best friends met their (now) husbands as teenagers 13 ish if I recall. Both are settled with kids and not (of my knowledge) affairs or problems.
So yes it can happen and does happen. I guess if you both grow and mature at the same rat... (read in full...)
Mother figure or friends with benefits... I don't know what to do with this relationship!
Q. hi, i have been with my boyfriend for 19 months now. we met in his local pub. we started seeing each other and he kept asking me to stay at his flat more and more,it ended up i was there 5 days a week. he was so loving and he could never get enough ...
A. 21 June 2011: I have to agree with Drew21! Do you have a job? (I'm asking because maybe you could go out with work friends?) I think he is using you (you feed him all week and buy his fags...) You deserve better than that! Having a relationship with someo... (read in full...)
Is it possible that a guy can be this shy?!
Q. Is it possible that a guy can be this shy?! Ive been texting a guy i met in a nightclub, he lives in another town almost 3 hours away. He came across shy and awkward, but he was nice. He did explain he really likes me but that he is super shy. ...
A. 21 June 2011: Just out of interest, where were you making plans to meet? At another nightclub? (Just 'cause you said he wasn't into night clubs).
I'm not convinced anyone is that shy to be honest.
Perhaps it is the distance? Or maybe an ex or something has... (read in full...)
How do I get over my ex? I'm struggling to do that. Still hurt and seething inside.
Q. I am struggling to get over my ex, we were together over 2 years. He squashed my self worth and lied so much that in the end I had no choice but to leave. The problem is I am extremely bitter! I'm full of anger, hurt and sadness when I think ab...
A. 20 June 2011: I think it is absolutely normal to feel like this! We have all been there...It's just one of the 'cycles of emotions' you go through.
Then one day you just think f*ck it, I will NOT allow someone else to take up so much of my time with hatred/a... (read in full...)
I'm going crazy thinking that my boyfriend is cheating on me. Is he??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years and we live together. There has been no change in his behaviour or mood towards me which would make me suspect anything is wrong. Just a few weeks ago, he was showing me an email from a family member ...
A. 20 June 2011: He is going to be annoyed if you say you logged into his account! Can you say he left it open one time and you read it by accident or something? I think you will just explode if you don't say something! He might re-think this emailing if he knows ... (read in full...)
My married lover ended things but is jealous of me dating!
Q. I had an affair for 18 months with a married man who has two small kids. Last month he ended it telling me that the lying to everyone was making him stressed. We both work together and he wanted to stay friends. I am the 3rd person (i know of) he ...
A. 18 June 2011: You're the 3rd person (that you know of...?) That means there may have been more. Of course he is going to say they were meaningless sex! (He will say that about you to when he moves on to the next one!) He is a liar and a cheat, you have wasted ... (read in full...)
Can open relationships ever work?
Q. right, so I am a bloke with a massive attraction to this girl. she gorgeous and smart and funny and lovely and SINGLE and SHE LIKES ME...well, you know that with those combination then she's gotta have a problem if shes still single, right? right. ...
A. 17 June 2011: Would you really not care if she was sleeping with other guys? Would that not drive you mad? (Also the sexual health risk need to be considered... (no matter how careful you are!) Open relationships can work, but ONLY if both people feel the ... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to bleed?
Q. Hi I would like to seek some advice. My bf and I had intercourse for the first time. We're both virgins. But I did not bleed. I thought virgins are supposed to bleed on their first time. Is it normal?...
A. 17 June 2011: Yes you are normal! I didn't either! Like every else has said, activities such as horse-riding, tampons, etc may have already broken your hymen without you even knowing. So relax you are normal! :-)... (read in full...)
Unattractive, no confidence, how do I talk to girls?
Q. Basicly i am a very unattractive guy, i have no confidence whatsover in myself or my appearence , i want to change how i look but do not have the guts to do it and i want to know how to talk to girls, and i dont know if i girl is genuinly interested ...
A. 5 June 2011: Who says you are unattractive? What 'floats' someone's boat might not another? I understand that initial attraction is by 'physical appearance', but hence the word 'initial'! What I mean is, we can all think a guy or girl is hot, then we get to know ... (read in full...)
Do I keep ignoring my ex and try to move on, or should I text her back?
Q. So me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago after 2 yrs together, and she started dating someone else a month after we broke up,which REALLY hurt me,but instead of freaking out about it,i told her that i still wanted to be friends with ...
A. 4 June 2011: I know you are angry with her right now (I would feel EXACTLY the same), and I don't know how people move onto another relationship so quickly either!!!? Tbh, he is probably just a rebound guy and it probably won't last ;-) or maybe she is just ... (read in full...)
Do I keep ignoring my ex and try to move on, or should I text her back?
Q. So me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago after 2 yrs together, and she started dating someone else a month after we broke up,which REALLY hurt me,but instead of freaking out about it,i told her that i still wanted to be friends with ...
A. 3 June 2011: She probably still has some feelings for you, they don't go away overnight, and she's probably a bit hurt you don't wanna talk to her at the momenet, but like I said, that is HER problem, just do what you have to to make YOU heal quicker :-) Then ... (read in full...)
My ex invited me to an event but I turned him down....should I have gone?
Q. I ran in to my ex boyfriend a couple of days ago. I completely ruined our relationship, and he's a good guy and nice enough to me in spite of the embarassing and stupid things I did when we were dating. I'm still in love with him and I miss him a ...
A. 3 June 2011: Are you assuming he has another partner? It's not clear from your post? I can understand your reasons for not going though!
You could add him as a back as a friend, and say sorry you couldn't make it because of (add something that sounds g... (read in full...)
Aren't there ANY women who don't want kids out there?
Q. Why is it that women say that the things they want in a boyfriend or partner tend to be things like: confidence, kind, generous, loving, make me feel special, sense of humour? It's total nonsense. All they want is someone to father their chi...
A. 3 June 2011: I am a bit older than you, and I haven't got kids, and never wanted them either! (Prefer animals tbh!!) So it's not all women! I don't particulary want to get involved with someone who has kids either (but find most men in this age bracket do!) ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating?
Q. how can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating? I'd be interested in hearing some realistic ways of finding out if he is. Thanks for reading this...
A. 3 June 2011: I agree with the other posts, but gut feeling is nearly always right! Be wary of people who are very protective over their phones/facebook/opening emails/texts when you are around. Also changed behaviour etc. The only way to know for sure is... (read in full...)
Do I keep ignoring my ex and try to move on, or should I text her back?
Q. So me and my ex broke up about a month and a half ago after 2 yrs together, and she started dating someone else a month after we broke up,which REALLY hurt me,but instead of freaking out about it,i told her that i still wanted to be friends with ...
A. 2 June 2011: I think you confused her by saying you wanted to be friends tbh (even though you said you needed time to get your head together). If you really do want to be friends with her at some point (though realistically this will defo not be anytime soon!) ... (read in full...)
Kissed another....Should I tell my hubby???
Q. I've been married 2 years, together for 9. Last year I kissed another man on 3 separate occassions. I felt disgusted about what I did and put an immediate stop to it. I never told my husband. I was able to live with it up til now. We just bought a ...
A. 1 June 2011: Normally I think honesty is the best policy, but on this occassion I wouldn't tell him. (It may make you feel better in the short term if you did, but it certainly won't make him)!
You made a mistake, you have learnt that the hard way, but at l... (read in full...)
Had Affair, Now Months Later This Guy Won't Leave Me Alone!
Q. Hi, really need some non-judgmental advice! I am engaged to a loving man and have been with him for 8 years, we have a gorgeous little boy together. I haven't felt completely happy for a long time. I have stuck in there for my son and also because ...
A. 1 June 2011: He's probably having a bad time with his wife again leading to him thinking about you! If I were you I would changed your email and home number. As for your relationship with your fiance, perhaps you should discuss counselling with him? I... (read in full...)
My partner has had a lot of lovers- why does this bother me so much?
Q. Hi Ive been with my partner quite a while now, and things are great. However at some point we talked about past partners. I was surprised to find that at 43 she has had 28 previous partners, 5 of them "one nighters" (although she had hope...
A. 31 May 2011: I don't think you're strange, but I think perhaps she has confused sex with feelings (you said 5 of them were one nighters though she hoped something would come from them). Some women have sex, confusing it with love, or that it will lead to love... (read in full...)
Confused about being friends with my ex
Q. hey everyone and sorry if this is a bit long: me and my ex went out for just over 8 months, things were good , only had one arguement in that time. however one day he decides to just tell me he's met someone else ( basically broke up) i obv was ...
A. 31 May 2011: Only you can really decide what to do, but keeping in touch with you ex every day seems a little weird (and is not really fair to the new good guy in your life) Either tell the ex you have moved on, and would like no contact or occassional contact ... (read in full...)
Is there any man out there who is satisfied with just one good woman?
Q. Can someone please tell me what is wrong with men? They say they love you, it feels right together, you have so much in common..... you are both having fun and things are great......Then why oh why, do they seem to think they need more than 1 ...
A. 31 May 2011: If you find a man who is 'content with his lot' send him my way...!! lol You just have to look at the 'celebs' with a gorgeous wife, and even they can't keep it in their pants!!
I think they are just different to women tbh! Most men don't re... (read in full...)
I cant continue this LDR but I don't want to hurt her
Q. Hi After ten months of a long distance relationship, I can't go on. I love her, love my time with her, but the relationship model is all wrong, it's not working. We have just done the "time to think" thing, I know we are finished, so does she, we ...
A. 31 May 2011: Staying friends with someone you've just split from is really really hard and imo, only prolongs the agony! (I've recently tried it!) If you are both certain you want to end the relationship, the sooner you get used to being alone again the ... (read in full...)
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