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How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating?

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Question - (2 June 2011) 5 Answers - (Newest, 3 June 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

how can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating?

I'd be interested in hearing some realistic ways of finding out if he is.

Thanks for reading this

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A female reader, Fate100percent United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2011):

I agree with the other posts, but gut feeling is nearly always right! Be wary of people who are very protective over their phones/facebook/opening emails/texts when you are around.

Also changed behaviour etc. The only way to know for sure is to hire a private detective! lol. But who has the money/time to do that?! Unless you are really insecure, you will notice if they are acting weird around these things, and then you have to ask or accept it or leave. x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011):

I find the surest way is when his phone is never left laying around and always on silence

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (2 June 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntif you are asking and you are not paranoid.. then he probably is.

does he guard his computer, his cell phone his camera? does he take calls and leave the room, come to bed later, is he more attentive or less attentive? (either is a sign)

so many things.. but the number one thing is unless you make things up in your head, trust your gut.

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A female reader, OhGetReal United States +, writes (2 June 2011):

OhGetReal agony auntTrust your gut, that's how you know. How do you find out? If you ask him, he'll deny it till the cows come home. If he disappears, won't answer his phone when you call, if he takes calls in private. If he lies a lot, if he spends nights out with his boys without you often, if he smells different, if he talks about another woman and mentions her name or asks weird questions about another woman...look out.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (2 June 2011):

person12345 agony auntFirst off intuition can sometimes play a part, many women just say they can feel that something is horribly wrong (but it could be many things ranging from him being stressed at work to you just thinking yourself into it).

Some cheaters will get VERY protective of their electronic devices. I'm not advising snooping, but if you so much as pick up his phone or sit at his computer and he gets upset, it's suspicious.

If you notice big changes in his sex drive, in either direction, it COULD be a red flag.

Also if you notice changes in the way he dresses, like going to the gym a lot more, putting more effort into his appearance, etc...

This is just a tiny tiny list of things that individually probably mean nothing.

There are so many things that could be or could be nothing that it's impossible to say. What is it that makes you wonder?

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