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writes:HiI am looking for anyone who has been through this situation before. My wife is turning 50 next month and i asked her what she would like for her birthday. (she has every thing you could wish for) or so i thought. She could come up with anything but after a few days told me to my shock she would like to spend 24 hour with a 21 year guy. I thought she was joking but i soon relised she wasn't.when i questioned her further she said its her form of mid life crises. she say she as picked a guy and if i loved her she would let her do iti understand things like this can be dangerous in a relationship, but we have done many strange things over the past 30 years.swingers etc.anyone been there before and survived Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): slept for 24hrs oh my!!!!hunny well as dr ven says WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY! You have 48hrs to catch up with love TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (8 May 2008):
 well i know what you're asking for for your next birthday :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all
well she did it. spent 24 hour with her toy boy and when she came home she slept for 24 hours.
we have since talked and i know what went on. she says she as got it out of her system for another 10 years
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reader, Arch Angel +, writes (21 April 2008):
 Caveat emptor...
Before you "buy" your wife such a "thoughtful" present, perhaps the both of you would benefit from a "24hr" visit to a romantic location in lieu of the 21 year old. If she says no, well then you know that you need some help with the marriage.
It sounds as if you believe that you can buy your wifes happiness, and that she believes that she can buy whatever or whomever she wishes.
Get some counseling and wish you both all the best.
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reader, jlove  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 hell no. be the man, and tell her NO. swingers? u guys have been married too long for this junk.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (16 April 2008):
Tellulah said it all.
if you're a swinger.. whats the problem?
shit you shoudl ask for a 21 year old for your next birthday :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): I agree with Tellulah and Mandy, as well. If you and she have did 'swinging' etc and you are asking if your marriage can survive this...I am am wondering why you are asking this? Obviously, your marriage came through this in the past--right? Unless, of course..you are feeling intimidated by the thought? I don't know. Sometimes couples who 'play around' in their pasts, will get older and decide to close the marriage boundaries to having other sexual partners. Did you both do this? Was it a mutual decision? If it was, and it bothers you now and you don't want to see this occur...communicate that to her.
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (16 April 2008):
tell her the 21 year old for 24 hours was busy.. so she can have a 63 year old for 72 hours instead?
man in fairness, ye are swingers... this should be such a shock.. you are just feeling bad cos she wants the younger model this time... I dont know really, wife swopping aint my thing but why not get yourself a 21 year old on the same night??? it seems its no holds barred in the relationship..
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Like TELLULAH said: If you have done a lot of sexual stuff before (swinging etc) why are you so surprised?
and like you said: things like this can be dangerous in a relationship.
Do you realise something? There is allready something destroyed in your relationship. For my opinion a wish like this is not normal and if still there is a wish like this, if a woman realy loves her partner, she would not give in to such a wish if the partner can't agree with it.
if you love her you would not let her do it and if she loved you, she wouldn't ask you for it!
I think it is time for a marriage counselling for you two. This would give you a platform to talk about such things and learn how to handle it so that it is right for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Oh hunny I dont think I can help a bit my fiance is 23 Im 45 And I guess alot of people out there would put me in the pile of lonely old woman needs young man to excite and delight but the true fact are I love him very much...Your question just hit me in the face you asked your wife what she wanted for her b/day and she said a 21yr old OH BOY!!!!!!Well if you've done things in your past that as you say swingers and such, I dont no, It doesnt make it any easier really as you do that as a couple basiclly you will be having to let your wife go off on her b/day to her present. How are you going to feel thats the main question here I think and if you can carry on with life when she returns...I wish you luck on this one sweetheart and hopefully there is someone out there who can answer this alot better maybe someone who has been there TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (16 April 2008):
 If you have done a lot of sexual stuff before (swinging etc) why are you so surprised?. If it doesnt bother you, let her do it. Its not likely that he will run off with a woman old enough to be his mum is it?
I cant imagine why any woman of that age, would want a twenty one year old to see her naked anyway!! but maybe thats just me.
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