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writes:I have been in a very difficult situation lately. I met this guy almost two years ago and almost immediately we were in contact every day. It wasnt long before I developed really strong feelings for him, to be honest I thought I had finally met the one.He knew I really liked him and how he was with me I knew he liked me too. Stuff happened between us not full sex but close enough. Then he started to tell me things and I thought he might be bisexual and then just recently he came out and told mehe is gay.I'm the nay person he has ever told and I feel like he needs me to support him, but another part of me thinks were are my feelings in any of this he just doesnt seem to care about how I might feel he doesn't even mention it he s so selfish. The hardest part is he's been having a lot of sex and as I'm the only ersn eh knows I'm the person he tells every detail to. He still texts me morning and night and says I'm his friend. Is it wrong of me to hate him a bit right now, I honestly feel like I want to end our 'frendship' I tried to a few weeks ago and he talked me out of it, should I end the friendship? I honestly feel so used by this person but on the other hand I love him and he needs me, please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): That is not a great situation. It seems like he is going through his own issues and is very much focussed on himself. You sound like you have come to terms with your sexual orientation whereas he may be struggling. I know it is difficult, but don't judge him. Coming to terms with one's sexuality can be very hard. However, you do have feelings for him which makes it difficult.
Be honest with him about your feelings - if he is not interested then it may be a good idea to not see eachother for a while - hopefully you can be friends at one stage....
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): That is not a great situation. It seems like he is going through his own issues and is very much focussed on himself. You sound like you have come to terms with your sexual orientation whereas he may be struggling. I know it is difficult, but don't judge him. Coming to terms with one's sexuality can be very hard. However, you do have feelings for him which makes it difficult.
Be honest with him about your feelings - if he is not interested then it may be a good idea to not see eachother for a while - hopefully you can be friends at one stage....
Good luck
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 The guy's obviously a selfish, unthinking user. Dump him and when he asks why, tell him to work it out for himself, if he can be bothered.
Reflection is a good way to learn. In time, when feelings hopefully subside, you both may well end up being friends but until then, I'd give him a wide berth as it is doing you and your feelings no good. He's old enough to sort his own problems by himself. Or with his 'boyfriends'.
Good luck.
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