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She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 8 March 2010: Well I'm with you on the crazy part. You are in for one heck of a rude awakening. Good luck and I mean it. I hope she will be all you think she is and I hope she continues to make you happy. My remarks were strickly hard love.... (read in full...)
She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 8 March 2010: Quote "but she too reckless to be a hustler, Celtic. Rule number one of a hustler, never endanger yourself." Sorry, she isn't endangering herself if what she is hustling is a daddy for her four or now five kids. You are still not thinking ... (read in full...)
She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 8 March 2010: Sorry guy you get what you ask for and a whole lot more. Not as if you weren't warned or anything.... (read in full...)
She moves very fast...should I run?
Q. So... I met this girl online on a dating chat site. The kind where you have your own avatar and walk around a virtual world and etc. We have been together on this site for about... 2 weeks give or take. spending upwards of 8 hours a day with each ...
A. 17 February 2010: I have to agree, you need serious help if you think love is involved. You both sound a little desperate. Stop, turn and run the other way as fast as you can. Stop all contact with her and start thinking with your head and not your hormones. Love ... (read in full...)
We have a baby, I'm pregnant again and we have age difference problems... Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I am 28, my partner is 17 years older than me. We've been living together for 7 years now, relationship was always up and down, but generally alright. I have never cheated on him and don't have anybody in mind now) Now we have a 2 y.o daughter and...
A. 17 February 2010: If he feels you should leave if you are not happy then call him on it. It might take loosing what he has before he will do what is necessary to make you happy. It might be easier for him to keep the relationship the way it is, change is difficult, ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 15 February 2010: I am sorry for your situation. If you truly love him then give him another chance. I am not saying he desreves one or that he can be trusted. It will definately be difficult for you if he does right by his child. He fathered it and now it will ... (read in full...)
We have a baby, I'm pregnant again and we have age difference problems... Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I am 28, my partner is 17 years older than me. We've been living together for 7 years now, relationship was always up and down, but generally alright. I have never cheated on him and don't have anybody in mind now) Now we have a 2 y.o daughter and...
A. 15 February 2010: Neither. Relationships are hard and children don't make them any easier, but you do have an obligation to your children. You called him your partner, does that mean you are not married? If you aren't, you have no obligation to him. Children need ... (read in full...)
Is he pulling away because of the grief/stress in his life...or has he lost interest in me?
Q. Is it grief, or lack of interest? My bf recently lost of a loved a while ago and has been having a very difficult past few months. I have been by his side trying to be supportive and helpful. We live together. The past few months have been ...
A. 15 February 2010: Who did he loose and what family obligations does he have? Why is Valentines Day so important to you and what do you mean by a romantic day? Need answers to give advice. Sorry... (read in full...)
I spent Valentines Day spent alone while my bf preferred to be with his friends!! Advice?
Q. well today is Valentines day. I've seen my boyfriend once before he has left the house for church. I didn't want him to leave this morninq but its church so i feel as thouqh i cant qet mad. My problem is that he's been home [the apt upstairs] for ...
A. 15 February 2010: Why didn't you go to church with him? Are you both Christian? Was he with Christian friends? Why wern't you there? Does he really not care about anything that concerns you or do you just want more of his time. I can't answer your question ... (read in full...)
He's messing around with my heart...should I just move on?
Q. Hi i'm really stuck and needing advice desperately! i split up with my boyfriend of 4 years over christmas and new year, it was my idea for us to split up. I had become very unhappy in the relationship and it was at a point where it had become ...
A. 15 February 2010: He has a girlfriend and he is cheating on her with you, is that what you want for yourself in the future, to be cheated on by him. I would advise you find someone who is worthy of your love and move on. Good Luck... (read in full...)
Depression and love
Q. Okay I admit it. I am at a stage in my life where I am the typical Nice Guy. The one we hate to love. I'm the nice guy because my situation in life makes me insecure, lonely and very needy for attention and affection. Because of this when any girl ...
A. 11 February 2010: first I would like to ask if you know your sexual preference. That might be the reason you aren't that interested in your relationships with women.and why there is no chemistry. Maybe they are not worth your effort. Do you find men attractive? If ... (read in full...)
I am 19, want to get engaged and pregnant but I am afraid of my parents reaction.
Q. Me and my partner (both 19) have been together for a a year and 2 months we love each other dearly and are mature for our age. We have talked alot throughout our relationship about having a child and also getting engaged. It seems like forever ...
A. 10 February 2010: The most important thing you can give a child is love and the opportunity for a good life with a mother and father that are able to provide a stable home. It takes money to raise a child properly and to make a decent living you need a college ... (read in full...)
3 months married and I feel I've made a BIG mistake!!!
Q. Reposted with an update: We've been married for 3 months, been together for 3 and half years in total. We lived together for a year but I moved back in with my parents cos I hated his housemates. We got our own place and moved in a week before th...
A. 8 February 2010: Porn is addicting and it sounds like he is hooked. With porn comes masturbation. So porn IS your problem. Also porn gives men a messed up outlook on their sexual relationships with their partners. We are not porn stars, we don't look like them, ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 10 months lies to me
Q. Ok i'm having this problem with my relationship... My girlfriend, of 10 months, lies to me. She lies to me about where she goes, especially at night time. She tells me that she's going to sleep but goes out. I know this because when I get off from ...
A. 7 February 2010: You said, Should I be trusting and let all these things go? or should I ask her for the truth and if she doesnt give it, I get out?
Do you mean if she doesn't tell you what you already believe to be true. Quit trying to catch her. Keep your eyes... (read in full...)
Whenever we get in a fight she leaves and looks for sex?
Q. when ever my girl friend get in a fight with me she leaves and looks for sex to ease her pain she says. why does she go there everytime?...
A. 7 February 2010: She doesn't care about your feelings and she knows you will be there when she wants to come back. She might even be causing the fights so she can get laid. Cut her loose, she's no good.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't get jealous?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't get jealous. Is this considered a good thing or a bad thing?...
A. 7 February 2010: It is a good thing. Jealousy can destroy a relationship or a marriage. Jealousy deosn't mean they love you, it usually means they have self-esteem issues. But, it you fool around on your guy and he gets angry then you have lost his trust and ... (read in full...)
Pimples on my vagina...
Q. Please help me. I always had pimples in my vagina. The pimples always appeared and after 2 or 3 days then they disappeared. I had not had a sexual relationship. Six months before I marry but I did not tell my husband about that. Now he came to know ...
A. 7 February 2010: You both need to go to a doctor or clinic and be tested for std's. That is what it sounds like, go to this website. It sounds like herpes and you need to be treated.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/STDFact-herpes.htm#Howspread
Don't put it off. No... (read in full...)
Rejected by mother and father, fearing rejection as an adult. Falling for guys who give attention.
Q. We have been together for almost 12 years and have a son together. Its the 4th time now where she has developed feelings she thinks are love, with a guy she has gotten to know, who has charmed her, treated her well and shown her attention. She has ...
A. 5 February 2010: You may be the one that needs therapy. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but the real question might be why do you keep letting this woman whom has shown you again and again that she doesn't give a crap about you back into your life, keeping you form ... (read in full...)
How can I make him pay me more attention?
Q. So my boyfriend of 10 months have been having some probems he does not really pay me that much attention, he spends all his time with his friends playing video games and such and comes home at around 2 in the morning from their house ( we live ...
A. 5 February 2010: I don't think that is a good idea, I have found it doesn't work. You don't get to spend more time with him by not being there, you'r not going to be able to make him jealous and thats not what you want anyway. The best thing you can do is let him ... (read in full...)
Which should I choose; my unfulfilling life with my boyfriend or my old friends and family back home?
Q. I am living with my boyfriend 24hrs drive away from my friends and family and a 3.5 hr expensive flight. I have been here living for over a year. We have plans to marry. I am having a hard time meeting friends here and having a hard time being ...
A. 3 February 2010: You are in charge of your own happiness and the decission you make will change your life. Don't be afraid of change or commitment. Grow up. Do you want a life with girlfriends and mommy. You are already in your 30's, you can have a wonderful ... (read in full...)
Should I move on and not talk to him anymore?
Q. Ok i'm going to try to make this a straight to the point question. I met this guy ad we really hit it off and after about a little less than a year(?) we got engaged. not soon after we got word that his step mum was diagnosed with cancer, so he ...
A. 3 February 2010: Do both. Don't hang you hopes and dreams on him, I don't think he knows what he wants but if he does he's not being honest. Start dating again, see what's out there and continue your friendship with him, because he doesn't seem to want to commit, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pushover but I want him to become strong and confident.
Q. I have been dating a great guy for the last four months. He is intelligent, generous, kind, loving, considerate, responsible, very nice to everyone. We have lot in common and we have a lot of fun together. The thing is I think he is a pushover an...
A. 3 February 2010: There is no such thing as a perfect person, I am sure you are not without faults. I think he was right for the most part women don't like a nice guy. Look at you. If you don't like him as he is, then find someone else. You might not deserve ... (read in full...)
Dating a different race...
Q. Okay, so here's my problem. I'm 16 and have always been attracted to all races, it's never been an issue until recently. I'm white, and have become really close friends with this guy.. who's black, we're very flirty with each other. I like him and ...
A. 3 February 2010: I can't tell you what to do but I can give you some advice. I don't think your fathers feelings about your dating a black man makes him a racist. A father wants what he believes is best for his daughter and there are many problems involved in ... (read in full...)
If he's not into me why is he talking to me? Help me understand!
Q. I went out on a blind date 10 days ago. It went pretty well and I think we both had a good time. I've talked to him online almost every day since then. He also asked me to watch a movie with him one night, but I was busy. I had a five night ...
A. 1 February 2010: Some guys need a little push, don't even let him start that foolishness. When a guy ask about a date, don't let him leave, hangup, or log off untill the day and time is set. If he says lets go out and eat when you get back, say great Friday night ... (read in full...)
I want her back...how do I tell her this?
Q. I dated a girl few years ago but we broke up shortly after. We've been friends since but I want to go out with her again. How do I tell her I want her back?...
A. 1 February 2010: Tell her, I had so much fun with you when we were dating, I would really love to start going out with you again. How do you feel about getting back together. It's not that difficult to tell someone how you feel, just be prepared for her answer. ... (read in full...)
I'm really angry right now. What can I do?
Q. I'm a bit angry right now. I just broke up with my boyfriend. Reason being that he had trust issues with me and my past, for the record in the past I wasn't a slut (although he thinks I was) and well, I gave oral sex to a guy we both know (I stopped ...
A. 31 January 2010: I think your past sex life is no ones business but yours and I would have told him so. I think there are some things that he would need to know, such as if you worked in the porn industry, if you were a prostitute, if you were bisexual, if you have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend became violent and doesn't tell me what is the matter. Can you help me?
Q. hi. my boyfriend is a very nice person and is very caring. recently he has been quite violent and aggresive. i dont know whats wrong. ive asked him and he says nothing is bothering him. can anyone help me please. ...
A. 31 January 2010: Don't worry about finding out what he is up set about. The most important thing you need to understand is that nothing gives someone the right to take out their anger and agression on you. Nothing. First thing you need to do is leave. Then you ... (read in full...)
Sometimes a peach can have too much syrup and it doesn't mean the tree is getting too much water.
Q. Well I am in a s*load of trouble over a relationship I had with my boss at work. I handled the whole thing badly and it blew up in my face. I tried to get some advice on this problem the other day but my question wasn't posted because it was d...
A. 27 January 2010: Most women's vagina get wet during foreplay, oral sex and intercourse. It is her bodys way of providing lubrication for sex. Otherwise it would be very uncomfortable or painful. When some women orgasm they ejaculate a liquid something like a man, ... (read in full...)
I was raped and need advice on what to do
Q. i'am really lost and really do not know what to do, it's really hard to say but i have not told anyone in the 2years that it has happened. i was raped when i was 15 there was more to it, as i formed an attachment towards this man. he was a security ...
A. 26 January 2010: I don't understand what your saying. He raped you and then you had a relationship with him? Either way it is rape, you were underage and he was an adult, he bears the responsibility and he should pay the consiquences for his actions. You should ... (read in full...)
I want certain things in the bedroom and he won't listen to me!
Q. In work I am the boss of 60 people, of which 35 are men.I've been with mu now husband since I was 17, he was my first everything.Few years before we married I met a guy who I just had sex with, he suggested that he ties me up and has sex with me, I ...
A. 26 January 2010: Here is my observation. You said you are sick of being in charge, however if you are trying to dictate the type of sexual relationship you have with your husband, you are still trying to be in charge. You never mentioned love with the man you ... (read in full...)
He meant the world to me. He kissed, ignored, then left. Why?
Q. So this guy and i have been friends for about one and half years now. Our friendship was amazing for the first year but for the past six months it's been confusing and hurtful but we always fix the problems. However, when we were friends i would ...
A. 25 January 2010: Nothing is going to make you feel better, you were hurt and that sucks, but it is part of life. He was a jerk, ther are a lot of jerks out there. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve. If you want to talk to him then tell him he's a jerk and he ... (read in full...)
I told him I loved him and now I feel foolish
Q. He and I have been dating for 4 months, but known each other for 5 years. We actually dated for a year, but remained friends all this time. On wednesday while we were out to dinner, I told him that I love him. He didnt say it back, but he said ...
A. 25 January 2010: You have known him for some time and at the least you are good friends . You are old enought to know your heart and if you love him don't regret telling him. You know love is serious business and you were right to speak your heart, but listen to ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend feel more secure?
Q. Hi I could do with a little bit of genuine advice, because Im in a bit of a pickle with regards to an issue that keeps being raised in my relationship. I am 21 years old and I have been with my girlfriend nearly 15 months. I love her so ...
A. 23 January 2010: So many feelings and issues to address, but I'll try to stay focused. It sounds like she has low self-esteem and that is why she is afraid of loosing you or she is worried you don't find her more appealing than someone else. You can not change ... (read in full...)
Husbands Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is driving me away
Q. I have been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2 years, upon which we moved in together after the wedding. Over the course of us living together, I began to notice he had signs of obsessive compulsive disorder. He would create rules around ...
A. 23 January 2010: To: Not My Name - I did not say Howard Hughes wasn't OCD, I was stating her husband, like Howard Hughes, might be germaphobic. Because not all individuals that suffer from phobia's are OCD as well. Sorry you took my words out of context. I hope ... (read in full...)
Husbands Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is driving me away
Q. I have been with my husband for 8 years, married for 2 years, upon which we moved in together after the wedding. Over the course of us living together, I began to notice he had signs of obsessive compulsive disorder. He would create rules around ...
A. 23 January 2010: It doesn't sound like he has OCD. OCD has to do with his compulsive behavior, his routines, not what he is imposing on you, it sounds like he is germaphobic like Howard Hughes was. I think you have a right to be happy and honoring your vows are ... (read in full...)
Wife hints at a threesome, should I surprise her one day or keep it as a fantasy?
Q. I have always been turned on with the idea of a MMF threesome with my wife. Not Bisexual in anyway, just for her. The other day we had a couple drinks and we started fooling around, the topic came up and she told me the type of guy she would wa...
A. 22 January 2010: Don't do it. You really have nothing to gain and everything to loose. In so many cases you stand to loose love, respect, and trust. Once you see her with another man the time will come you will worry that you might be completely left out of the ... (read in full...)
Why does he get so mad when he lies and hurts my feelings?
Q. I know my boyfriend asked this girl I know to send him a naked picture of herself to him. I know because I saw it on his phone when I looked through it. I also saw that when she tried to hang out with him, he turned her down and said they shouldn't ...
A. 11 January 2010: First of all he sounds like a dick, and he's a lying dick you would be better off without. He'd do nice things for mistresses and whores, and their isn't any emotional attachment for them. He is using you. Either forget your feelings for him and ... (read in full...)
Does a player ever change?
Q. I just started a dating this guy i liked for a while (lets call him D) but the problem is another guy i know(M)is causing problems. I have never dated M or did any more then flirt with him and play games with him but we didnt really talk as much the ...
A. 6 January 2010: Anyone can change, but you've got to keep you eyes open. Why would he, "Does he love you and want an exclusive relationship?" I wouldn't trust him as far as you could throw him. But, if you are that into him and you think he is worth the effort ... (read in full...)
Why can I not get that chemistry with someone any more?
Q. You know the feeling you get when you just meet someone and your stomach drops because of that amazing chemical reaction? I haven't had it in almost a year. Seriously, i'm going insane, no matter what situation, who i'm with or even if it was just...
A. 3 January 2010: I don't agree. Thank goodness for those feelings. Why bother if their not there. I married the ideal man because I knew he was great husband material. I was right, but I never had those feelings for him before we married and I never had them ... (read in full...)
What in the world is this guy doing?
Q. I have absolutely no idea what to think about this guy. This guy is the co-owner of a bistro that is next to my work, a place that I eat at when I work (I started because there's nowhere else to eat over a 30min. break in the area!) I'm 18 and I ...
A. 1 January 2010: I have to add another reason here, if he seems to ignore you when the owner is there he might be concerned for his job or he might have a relatiionship with him. If you are that interested in him take the chance and ask him if he would like to go ... (read in full...)
How do I make intercourse more enjoyable for my wife?
Q. This question is for ladies. I got married 5 months back, and we have intercourse once every 2 days (almost). The problem is that when I am pumping, she has very little or no sensation. She does feel really good sometimes, but I have been unabl...
A. 24 December 2009: It is not completely your job to make sure your wife is enjoying sex as much as you are, it requires 50/50 participation. Women receive pleasure from clitoral stimulation, that is why most women orgasm easier from oral sex. It is the same in ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions about sex play between siblings?
Q. From about age 9 until I was 15 my sister (13 months older) and I would have sex play. It started off as just playing doctor and looking at each other, but progressed as we got older. We never had intercourse, but there were several instance...
A. 12 December 2009: At some point you knew what you were doing was wrong, but I wonder what your home was like, were there other siblings, did you have both parents and were they walking around with their head up their butt. They should have been aware what was going ... (read in full...)
Her past is affecting the way I see her now but I don't want to let her go...please help!
Q. Hi all, this my story: I am 23 and last year I got to know to a girl (24) from my college whom I liked, but there was nothing between us, she just belonged to the same circle of friends as I, so we just hanged out together and stuff, sometimes...
A. 11 December 2009: Don't try to justify to yourself, why you should pursue a relationship with her. I was mainly trying to focus in her sexual behavior. Do you want a relationship with someone that will spread their legs for anybody? You knew what you wanted to do ... (read in full...)
Why do married men have affairs with less attractive women?
Q. On a Dr. Phil show it was said that 80 percent of married men have affairs with women who are less attractive than their wives, why do married men choose women who are less attractive, my husband had an affair and the women was not what I ever ...
A. 11 December 2009: All people want to feel loved, desired, respected, wanted and safe in a relationship. How much of that were you giving to your husband? I despise cheaters, male or female. Did you ever think maybe she made him FEEL like a man. If your husband is ... (read in full...)
Her past is affecting the way I see her now but I don't want to let her go...please help!
Q. Hi all, this my story: I am 23 and last year I got to know to a girl (24) from my college whom I liked, but there was nothing between us, she just belonged to the same circle of friends as I, so we just hanged out together and stuff, sometimes...
A. 8 December 2009: I am so sorry you are going through this, I know it hurts, but I will be honest with you, don't blame yourself for your thoughts about her. What she has done is pretty sorry. I feel sorry for her as well. This is a lot of baggage for you to take ... (read in full...)
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