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writes: Dear cupid,Me and my boyfriend broke up almost 2 months ago. No matter what I do I can't get over him. I really loved him and now I have no idea what to do. How do I get over someone that I really loved?
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reader, MegsL123  +, writes (17 June 2008):
I may not be the best expert on this but i am totally head over heels for someone, we used to go out and he finished wif me, we still text & call flat out but everytime they tell me never to speak to them i don't, for example recently i got a text sayin maybe its best we don't talk at all anymore, so i didn't reply....less than 24 hrs later he text saying he wanted just one more kiss, i never replied, an hour after that i receieved another text sayin he didnt mean what he said, he missed me, cudnt go any longer without speakin to me and he promised it wud not happen again! The moral of the story "treat them mean to keep them keen" if that don't work, he really don't deserve u anyway and he will realise that when he hasnt got you anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Its been just a little over 3 years since he broke p with me to get married. I was distraught-I cant explain but even the word heartbroken..cannot explain How I felt-My heart is like a icebox-since that very day he told me the words that he had to get married to someone-its liek m heart has never beat another beat-you kno that feeling you used to get in your heart when he used to hol you -make you eel special-LOVE-well thas all gone. Its asif my heart no longer exists-thereis no feeling within it any more.
I have had some minor contact since via text message-and we even met up-after I was out on a night-it wasnt planned-if it was I would have made more of an effort.
Well he came to see me-and gave m the biggest hug-It felf so right-andyou know when you look into someones eyes-at its appears that the persn is looking into your soul-past the body-it felt just like the way it used to.
He made me smile-yes it was hard to talk-I didnt know what to ask him-I certainly didnt want to ask him about marriage.
Anyway he gave me a hug to say goodbye-we never discusse if we would see each other again-and we have not-this was in October 2007. He leant towards me as to kss me on my lips-but then at the last minute pulled away-I left and that was it.
Since then this woman phones me up about december time-and mentions his name asking if I know him? I said whos asking-she sid its his girlfriend-That made me feel slightly better a she didnt say wife? but I said you should ask him. So I text him saying someone called me asking if I knew you-he caled me back-straight asking what did she ay-no how are you or nothing?...you know what writing this down and thinking about this-Im thinking HOW on earth does he care about me one single bit???
Well I said to him she said she ws your girlfriend-by this time I was feeling sick-I said so you didnt get married??-he said I did butshe turned out to be a coniing B~}{ch!
I said so have you got a future with this girl-he said yes.
Like that wasnt goin to kill me!!
He called me later on that day-and apologised-I said itwas ok.
So since December I never heard from him-no happy xmas-no happy new year-I sent him a new years card-i got no reply.
Then in March I see him on facebook-he replies to my message-I see hes in a relationship with this girl-Yes she is pretty-but that should b me in that picture next to him...what about all those promises? you never meant a word-and if I had held that sheild over my chest I would not be heartbroken today. yes 3 years of being alone-every waking thought being of him...wht is this love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): my boy friend and i of a year and a half just broke up i left him because he is a piece of shit lying cheater.... but still i love him more then anything in this world and being without him is tearing me apart. nothing i do gets him out of my head especially when i go to bed, it keeps me up all night. this hurts sooo bad and i need help any answers???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): OK
i gues it is impossible to know how they really feel back or what they think
no one will ever know
i recently lost my girl due to stupidity.. she wants to be friends and theres nothing i can do to change her mind..
she has no idea how much she meant to me.. i cant be jsut her friend i want to be more.. im on a very very thin line with myself at the moment i have no clue either what i can do..
ive tried for weeks to get over her i cannot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): i know how you are feeling, when you really love someone you don't want to let them go. It is really true "thae hardest thing and the right thing can sometimes be the same things" although it is hard to let a loved one go, sometimes you need to to focus on building up your own personal strength and for that to happen you MUST move on. remember, the good times, yet don't let them rule your life. Just focus on the other good aspects in your life and remembe rlife is for living and you should make the very most of it. People change and we are all in some way hurting, but its life and you need to appreciate it and look to the future!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): i broke up with my boyfriend recently. he cheated on me and then just said he doesnt want to be with me anymore.I obviously cried alot but i have now realised that life is too short.REMEMBER all the great times you had together, there is no point trying to forget them, as you should always remember the good times, but its just an era now over in your life. Time to move on.I wrote down on a peice of paper everything i didnt like about him, that i would have changed about our relationship - all things that i can upgrade to next time.Men who hurt us arnt worst our time! Get into the right frame of mind.Keep occupied, and dont sob over old letters and photos, simply tuck them away in a little box, as a memory.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Hey, I agree with what the other girl said here!
It's really not easy though, as I'm going through it myself right now.. just REMEMBER THIS:
Out of Sight, Out of Mind! If you can't help seeing the person bc of circumstances, then DO your BEST NOT TO LOOK their way, do NOT make Eye contact if it can be helped!!
Ignore them as BEST as humanly possible & YES, do try to ELIMINATE ALL CONTACT with them!
KNOW that you can NOT make them CHANGE or change how they feel or who they are.. so if you do NOT like the person for who they are - REMEMBER THAT, as they obviously are not worth your effort AT ALL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): how to forget that certain person you love is just that simple is to forget. The only reason you ask for help on this is because you always think about yourself forgeting that specific person but you dont realize you would of never thought about that person til you thought about. YOU GETTING WHAT I'M SAYING?!!! Just get throw away all the rememberable things and keep yourself occupied by the things you love (not like) to do like for example go to the spa or go to the movies you wanted to see. To really top things off treat yourself with a overseas vacation you always wanted to take. If you dont want to do that just say busy and keep from contacting or being contacted by that certain other also follow this rules:
1. Get you number changed
2. If you decided to give your new number out and scared
he or she might get it have their number blocked so
they cant reach you.
3. STAY BUSY until you go home for the day.
4. NEVER answer the door if he comes by and DONT even let
him know you are home and still annore him or her if
they know you are there.
5. NEVER so signs of weakness
6. When you see him or her, you Must say hello (wondering
why right???). When you say hi and walk away without
looking like you want to hold a conversation but you
dont. make him or her draw into you and then when they
they think they got you snapp away without thinking and
finish doing what you was doing.
THIS WILL HELP YOU TO KNOW OR PRACTICE SO YOU CAN HANDLE
YOUR SELF IF YOU ARE SOMEWHERE THAT YOU KNOW OR SEE THAT
PERSON AT.
7. If he or she wants you to go somewhere with them, say
NO and if they ask why tell them you are too busy with
something great and just walk away like you dont care.
8. NEVER, I REPEAT NEVER, say i do love you if he or she
asks you do you still love them because if you do they
know they still got you around their finger.
Follow this rules and you will never have to think or worry about that certain one again UNLESS you choose to be.......
Because rememeber you can only get out of something you really want to get out of........
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Hi
I am going thro the same trauma. I am madly in love with this guy, we were going to get married. But we broke up due to various reasons. I cant stop thinking about him. I have tried all different ways...ut nothing works. Now he wants to be friends with me but if he cant stand up and do whatever it takes to bring me back into his life. Then I dont wanna be freinds with him. Wish i could erase him from my heart, mind and soul. But the more i try the worse it gets. I guess Time is the best healer and pray real hard ...coz you never know when God might just listen to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): I am going through the exact same thing
my girl said she loved me more then anything
until she ends it just recently all because i tried to see her and she never made a effort and she reckons i got upset to much
i cannot find a way to stop loving her
i try to avoid it but every time i see her it comes back again
shes the only person i can ever love
i think just ignore them
let them come back to you if they really love you
if not then they can fuck of and let you live you own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Ifeel the same way but mine is so strong,we broke up in september an i still talk to him this very day,and matter of fact i saw him today and all the feelings i had before that were starting to go away came back and stronger for some reason.Bascially after its over let it stay over leave him alone or you will get that feeling of need for him all over again...I TELL YOU THE GAME OF LOVE IS JUST SO CRA-Z
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): I think you should try to get back with him. If you guys had somthing special that should go on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): I know what you feel although im not in that same position. Im currently seeing this guy and i have been for a year and a half. He's always told me he loves me and that im his everything. But we always argue about stupid things and i feel like he just takes advantage and its hurting me so bad. I dont know whether to split up with him or whether or not im over reacting :/
Well. I suggest if you know for a fact that you two wont get back together then just tell yourself that there will be plenty more people out there and if he dosnt come running back to you then it obv wasnt love so therefore not worth saving or worrying about for that matter =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): well you can always talk to a friendor maybe stop thinking about him and start having so funblook in the mirror and repeat I dont love him I dont love him 20 times each day !
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): hi im in love with somone however there things iv hidden from him and i know he loves me to but if i tell him his still going to break up with me so i want break up with him and not tell him the reason but i dont know what to say could you help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): hi there , i have been threw this 3 times all real long relationships first one was 2 years 2nd 7 years and now 3 years ... seems like they allways get harder each time .. its been a month since we brokeup .. the real reason was she was moving away for school , yet told me nothing about it , like i want to u to so fourth.. so i was confused on to if i was being used for a place to stay since she had been staying with me for about 2 years .. so i broke it off yet she started seeing someone else .. that made it harder .. now alls i do is think about her all the time .. at first it was kinda easy but as the days went by it became harder .. so to all out there wondering what is the best way .. it really all depends on who u are how much you love them and TIME .. TIME TIME TIME .. but time sucks heh
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): Time... That is the only cure.. Im going threw the same thing and that is all i can say. Keep your head up and alway think of yourself as a prize..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): I think you should go back to him, and if thats not possible yet, or at all, wait..just wait and see..I'm in the exact same situation..It hurts..and i don't know what to do anymore..it's been almost 3 months now and i cant her and the feelings of her pout of my mind...so all i can do is to comfort myself in the fact that she still has feelings and i know they are just as strong as mine, so even, she tries to ignore the emotions, and she's cold...but I need her to know I'll always lover her...and I will wait, even if she doesn't, if she gets another man, I'll move on...but otherwise, I'm not going to do anything to jeopardize what i believe in and who i love...I hope she reads this...i really do
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): My ex broke up with me in november
and all i can do is think about everything he ever said, everyhting we did everyhting that happened that day, even still
it's absoloutly tearing me apart
and no matter how much i tell myself i deserve better etc... and all that it seems to make no difference,
i hate him for what he did to me, but, yet i am still in love, and ive even told myself there is absoloutly no way id get back together, and i do stand by that, I've just had enough of feeling like this, its not fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): i dont think its an easy process, i loved a woman and was with her for 4 years, we broke up cuz i wasnt giving her attention she was use to, she felt i forgot bout her....but i loved her with my very soul, and now almost 2 years later, she has a baby with someone else, we are in contact very lightly, but thats it. that pain will never leave my body
u gotta talk to urself and tell ur self its not worth the suffering anymore, once u can see the negatives in ur thinkin ur well on ur way
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): After 6 months, someone that I truly cared for broke up with me. It was 2 days after Christmas 2007. I have tried contacting her 3 times in about 20 days. (2 voicemails, 1 snail mail letter) I did not go to her home, job, text message, emails etc. She had a cop using her cell phone to not contact her anymore and she would file a Protective Order against me.
I called the cop back and told him I await the filing and have no problems with this in a court room. I also said that I have contacted counsel regarding the use of a personal phone for official business. Bottom line, I still care for this woman, but I will not curl up, die and be a punk for anyone.
Don't waste time nor energy on someone who doesn't want to be with you. Also, and I know this sounds bizarre....imagine your love making love to 20 people and truly enjoying it. When you can handle that mental image without being upset, you are well on your way to getting over your pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Hey, um....I'm really young, but i still know how it feels. and in response to what someone said on December 25, 2007.
I disagree with something that was said, i don't think you should live for yourself and only yourself, I think you should love and learn, meaning not make the same mistake twice, but not give up on love. you have to remember everyone is different and that was only one person, they wont all be that way.
Anyways I googled this thinking maybe I would find something to help me, I am so in love with this girl, and we are still trying to be friends but broke up in November, I have no clue what to do. We are still in love with each other, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now....and i don't know what to do....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): i know how rough you feel my dear :(
there is a guy whom i have loved since i was a little kid and i stopped seeing him about four years ago.....it still hurts like a bitch tho.......the best way to deal with the pain is to keep yourself busy, go out with friends and do things that make you happy, possibly consider starting a new realationship as soon as you feel ready, it might not be love for you but "rebound" relationships have been known to help mend hearts.
goodluck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): I know exactly how you feel. I was with my ex for around 3 years and he was the first man I ever truly loved. He wasn't all that great to me and my family couldn't understand why I was with him so things were pretty tricky the whole time we were together. We split almost 8 months ago (his idea for the third time) and I feel I am no further ahead getting over him. Don't get me wrong, I know he is wrong for me and I know I can never go back there but I miss him and everything about him so much. It's so hard!!! I know one day I will look back and find the situation so much easier but I just wish it would hurry up!! Oh and jumping in the sack with someone else DOES NOT work!! EVER!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): Hi there, I have loved and lost too. I was with my ex two years, we decided to get married, his parents and family were happy, so were mine. We palnning when we wanted children, he helped with my studies. We were always in contact. Then suddenly it was all over in just a few hours. Its now been 4 months since the break up. I am still finding it hard. But the best way forward is to feel whatever you are feeling and to get over it. This can be done by keeping yourself busy. You owe it to yourself. Please always remember that was only a part of your life! there is soo much to do out there, live your live for you and only you!! do things that will make you strong and be the better person.take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): Me and my boyfriend were together for some years and the moment I told him i was pregnant he just up and left me. it was the most devistating thing I had to experience. my heart was broken into a million pieces and no one could help me, I had friends and family but no one could feel my pain. For the first 4 months I cried just about everyday, then one day something just clicked and I realized that crying was'nt solving anything. I got out of bed and on with my life. And it seemed like the moment I stopped worrying is the moment he started trying to come back into my life. We are back together now but i will never forget the pain he caused me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): I was with a wonderful girl for about two and a half years but we broke up in May. Just before she dumped me she confessed that she had just been using me financially for a few months before she ended it and hadn't loved me the way she used to.Obviously feeling fragile, let down, used and depressed I was an emotional wreck for about 3 months.Since then I have tried to surround myself with friends and not try dating until I felt I was comfortable with myself.I currently have a girlfriend who I care for deeply even though the relationship is fairly new but, deep down I still have feelings for my ex. Not in a romantic way but more in a caring way i.e. I always hope that she's happy and stable or found the right guy for her.Getting over someone you truly loved takes time. As many people have said (although I don't know what truth there is in this) that it takes approximately half the time you were together to get over them completely.Well that means I won't be over my ex until August next year!Hopefully my new girlfriend will help me get over my ex. When I'm with her she completely takes my mind away from my ex and I'm extremely thankful for this.My advice is, just get closer to the friends you have. If they are your true friends then they will never break your heart. After this, the pain will get easier and eventually, you will be able to love someone again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): I truly belive that the only way you will get over someone is by letting time heal your pain. Keep your self busy al the time spend time with family and friends. Go to exercise it makes you feel very confident then you will see you dont need a man to make you happy all you need is you and god. : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): sweetheart, go sleep with someone else. not in a bad way but the truth is that its hte best way to get over somone
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): I had a lesbian relationship that was incredible. It was like a lover and a best freind. I went abroad, they cheated and are npw in a relationship with someone else. I still love them and I know that I do. But I can't go back even though it would be so easy and nice...but so unhealthy because they are a bad influence. I think she wants me back but it is complicated. I just don't know what to do. Well, I do. But it doesn't stop it being very very hard. God bless you. He will help you when no-one else can. xxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): My ex just broke up with me about 4 days ago and it's been really painful. I have known the guy for about 4 1/2 years and we were together for about 4. I have never ever thought I would feel such pain in this lifetime but I do, especially now that everything's really been difficult on me, having family crisis (coz my dad has been really sick, still in the hospital), am currently unemployed coz i just had a surgery last month, and doesn't have a permanent place to stay in. To make it worst, I don't have any friends that live closeby. I may have a couple of them but they have their own lives, busy with work 7 days/wk, so no time to go out. Everything that I couldn't possibly imagine is happening right now. It's dragging me down to the bottom and I feel so depressed. Couldn't eat and sleep. I try to distract myself from thinking about these things but it's really, really hard especially when I remember that just last month, I was diagnosed with HPV, one type of sexually transmitted disease which my ex gave me. I was really, really hurt when I found this out. Told him about it but he denied it and said it wasn't from him. It crushed my heart because I have been always faithful to him all this time. Although he denied it - (he doesn't have any symptoms coz it's a "high risk strain" type of virus that can only be found from Pap Smear from a woman; can cause cervical cancer, so he thinks he doesn't have it even though we've never used protection)for about a month, he supported me and promised me that he will never leave me and he will help me go through it. He would call me every couple of hours, everyday just to see how I'm doing and that made me forget about everything but just few days ago, a week before my birthday, he just broke up with me. One night he just didn't pick up his phone and the following morning, told me that it's time for us to part and move on. I don't know what to do. I am really, really hurt right now. Can't function at all. I feel like this is the end of the world for me. I just never expected that someone can be as cold as he is after all the things that I have done for him. He has cheated on me before and I have forgiven him although he never admitted to it but I found so many things that have proved it. Please, can anybody give me an advice? I still think about him deeply and still love him a lot in spite of all of this. I've never loved anyone before him and it's really killing me that I can't seem to get over him. I really need your help. =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): hello hunni this is really hard and believe me i know what your going through when your in a situation like this your friends are the most important thing tell your closest friends everything make sure you let it all out dont keep it bottled up they will always have something encorouging to say the saying is true "boyfriends may come and go but friends are forever" hang in there much love x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): I have just broke up from a relationship. I really love this guy but because i was jelous and untrusting, i pushed him away. Now when i text or call he ignores the phone, and he wouldnt tell me it was over but he told my sister we had broke up. I am not over him but i find talking with people going through the same thing helps, as most of my friends and family are sick of hearing his name.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): well my ex broke up wit me 1 month ago we dated for 2 yrs and have been best friends for 7 years. so it was pretty much a fairy tale u could say. i was in iraq for 7 mnths, and 8 days before comin back she decides she fell out of love with me.she tries to blame me for things that happened in the past but they are small things that were already fixed. she throws these things at me as an excuse . shes not really breakin up wit me cuz of those things she just flat out fell out of love. well i defenitly agree that not having any contact wit that person is way better i mean i still love her but not knowin who shes wit and wut shes doin is for the better i kno one day shell regret her decision but when she realizes it by that timne it will already be too late. remember u r worth so much more than u think if sum one dont appreciate u , ur better off w/o them
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): i just broke up with a guy 2 months ago, a guy i have been with for the past 3 years and while we were together he had lied to me most of the time, so many things he has done behind my back. now i dont know why i cant seem to end this relationship, i cant seem to forget him, i have even thought of committing suicide, i stoped keeping in touch with him for one month and when i heard he called my friend to ask how i was i called him, ever since than i find it hard to let him go. now everytime i call he curses me and calls me names, slams the phone on me and dont answer my calls it the worst feelling anyone can go through but insteed of letting it go, i call even more and get my self hurt even more. so i really dont know how u get over someone, they say time is the healer i wish it was but why is it not happening to me. life is so unfair sometimes and i wish i was never part of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): me n my ex broke up yesterday we have brokein up a few times in the past. we were with each other for 6 years since i was 14. she was n still is my first love and will always be. i just cant seem to stop thinkin abt her i no its just been a day but i no frm times wen we broke up that it just doesnt get any better fast enuf. we broke up for nearly 2 months abt a yr ago n i was gettin on well n was starting to feel good abt myself but then she decided she made a mistake and wanted to get back together me like a fool said yes i knew in my head it was the wrong choice to make n i no now it defo was. that girl means the world to me n the hardest thing is we have the same friends n she lives only 5mins away frm me so i dont have the option of blockin her out which i know wud help me if i didnt see her or hear abt her. we have both cheated on each other so lookin back the relationship was doomed frm the very start but i cudnt get the strenght up to say its over to her but i did last night but within the hour i was sayin im sorry i dont no y i do it. i just cant explane it. i always read abt ppl feeling sick when they break up n said it was aload of crap but iv gottan sick 3 times 2day i cnt stop thinkin abt her abt all the good times we had.. and then i was reading 1 of ur comments n some1 mention dnt think abt the gud times only think abt the bad n i have to say that helped for ooo abt 2 mins. i dnt no wat to do i feel so lost like i just wanna crawl in2 a ball and have no contact with any1. she is constanly liein to me thats why i decide last night to end it and it was the hardest decision i ever made but i no its the right 1 i just need to find the heart to stick to it coz right now i feel that if i saw her id beg for her back even tho i no she would hurt me again. plz i need support
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): unlike maybe most of you who have had your hearts broken i on the other hand broke my ex's heart and now its been the worst regret ever in my life.we dated for a year and things were great but when i began my first year in college i thought that maybe my girl (now my ex) wasnt the right one, that maybe there might be someone else, plus i had a foolish crush on my neighbor (who turned out to playin hoodrat) which made things worse. long story short i broke my girls heart to see if there was something else. she wanted me back but i just didnt pay any mind, when i realized that i made a big mistake it was already too late, she was through with me, hated my guts and a few months later got another boyfriend, for the past maybe 8 months ive been tryin to prove to her that im a changed man and to take me back but she just cant seem to trust me (which is understandable). all summer i wept at night missing her, missing how good we had it, missing being in her presense, missing when she told me i love you. she was honestly the greatest thing that ever happend to me and i did a great job on fucking that up. now my heart has a giant hole which i have no doubt that no other girl can fill. i miss her, i lover her to death. but she wont have me back no matter what i do. even though its hard a part of me has accepted that i need to move on (even though i dont want to) and maybe she'll want me back in the future and we can see what happens from there. but until then i know the right thing to do is to let her go even thought im still not over her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Well. I'm having the same problem you are. And i've learned you can't move on because you want to. You have to wait until your ready. Your probably not ready yet. i know i'm not. and it's hard to get him back. if you want him back truely just talk to him like a friend, remind him of why he loved you in the first place. also, look at all his flaws. and remember if it's meant to be, with work it will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): I don't know what you should do.
I can only give one piece of advice, about what NOT to do - DON'T have contact with your ex. It will just make things harder.
I dated a guy, 6 years ago, who then moved to California. I LOVED him, but couldn't pursue him, we lost touch with each other and a few years later married someone else. This January he called me - he'd moved back to town and was at loose ends. All the old feelings rushed back, and more. I still speak to him once a week, and while it is such a pleasure to be able to see him, it has taken a great deal of the joy out of my marriage. I have much self-conflict, and the security and self-confidence I had have been greatly eroded. Sometimes I feel like I'm corroding inside, as if there is a rusting ulcer somewhere inside my ribs.
I should have declined to see him and asked him never to contact me, although I'm not sure I could have done so.
There is a silver lining: I dodged a bullet. My ex was a (recovering, fingers crossed) crack addict, and now, after his return, a paranoid schizophrenic. (This is one of the reasons I maintain contact; he has alienated a LOT of people, and needs all the friends he can get. Also, I could never leave my husband for a train wreck.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): dearest you , all i can say is we all ahve loved and have had our hearts broken six months down the line i still ache and i dont think anyone shall ever replace my love ,, but as days and weeks go past i get strong and i know i have can love again , and its not your fault your better to know now that spend a life time with this guy , and wake up one day and its over , he hurt you but your heart will heal its wounds of love , just smile and know you have your friends and family close to you , but if tomorrow came and you could have him back dont he will only break your heart again , love is a battle ground and hey every relationship is a learning curb and if you have not learned from what ever went wrong here , but i know you have , so smile do things you love with the other people who love you and dont search for love because the more you search the less chance you shall have, it allways comes to you when your eyes are closed , have faith and never loose you soul and always look at the beauty of life ,,,xxxx love yea lots smile
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): I broke up 3 weeks ago...
All I can tell you is that there are three stages:
1st stage: U hate urself and everything that reminds u of him and wish that things could work out...
How to deal with it: KEEP urself BUSY!
2nd Stage: Going out with ur friends, partying, looking gr8, date around
How to deal with it: it means ur moving on so that great but dont get too attached to whoever ur dating keep it casual until ur sure of how u feel...
3rd Stage: You r really over him... How do u know u reached this stage--- its when u think of him and say to urself 'WOT THE HELL WAS I THINKIN!!' hehehehe
I am currently in stage 2 :))) and to be honest I am having a great time !!!!!!
At the end of the day its great to be single ;))
Goodluck and hope u get over wotever u r in!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): I wont go into my story, it involves the love of my life (so far I God damn hope) finding someone else a few months ago. Now I broke up with him twice before so you could say I only have myself to blame for feeling so shit, so I have to get myself out of this.I KNOW I had to break up with him. I have to remember WHY. No relationship is perfect, he pissed me off. I didnt fancy him a lot of the time. I did not get on with his friends or family. His stupidity sometimes seriously got to me. We had nothing in common, except sense of humour. But I still love him deeply. Odd isnt it? My brother says to me ''Just get over it, you dumped him. Deal with it, get on with your life''. I didnt find this helpful. I can moan all I like to my friends or whoever will listen about this, how I think about him ALL the time, have done for months. Sleepless nights, cant eat because I feel so sick in my stomach. I am TIRED of thinking. But there is a light. It has to come from a slow realisation that it really isnt THAT bad. Look at it this way - think how many people there are in this world and the tiny fraction you have met. What are the chances that you would have found the one and only love of your life within those few people you have met?? And yes, it is about meeting more people and accepting that a new relationship would be different yes, and perhaps not what you expect at the start, certainly wont feel the same, but you have to give everything a chance.Look on this as an opportunity. To experience people, and ultimately life. The worst thing you can do is sit on your arse and mope. Get busy!
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