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I'm a young woman, living in Canada.
I've been through a lot in life, illness with myself and family, horrible relationships, basically the same issues that we all find ourselves facing at some point in our lives.
I came across this site looking for some answers, and found the help and support I needed, and found that I also had some advice that I could share with others too.
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My sister sent him naked photos, how do I get over this and him?
Q. A year ago my bf lied about being home one evening. Something told me he was lying I went to his apartment stood in the middle of it and called him. I asked what we was doing he said cleaning his apartment. Needless to say I got back with him. I ...
A. 14 December 2009: I think you are looking at this the wrong way. The guy is scum, and he should not be calling you. If you take him back you will have set the bar for how he can treat you. If he knows he can get away with starting something with your sister, he ... (read in full...)
How can I get some 'me' time in this smothering relationship?
Q. Okay, so my girlfriend is very needy and possessive. We've been dating for 6 months now, and we're both 15. Over the last few months, it's been getting worse and worse. She LITERALLY expects me to hang out with her every second of my spare time, ...
A. 27 November 2009: That is a tough one.
Maybe you should tell her that if you didn't care for her so much, you would have walked away long ago. However, you do care, and for that reason you still want to be with her. However, she needs to realize that part of ... (read in full...)
I have a serious problem with eating... Please help!
Q. hello. im 17 years old and for the past 3 months i have not been eating properly, i was a size 12 but im now a 10 i eat an apple a day and drink water, looking at food makes me want to be sick. my family have not noticed yet as im really clever a...
A. 26 November 2009: I think you know that what you are doing in not healthy.
I worry for you b/c I think this has progressed to the point where you need professional help.
Eating so little is very bad for you. When your body goes through its fat stores, it w... (read in full...)
My sister sent him naked photos, how do I get over this and him?
Q. A year ago my bf lied about being home one evening. Something told me he was lying I went to his apartment stood in the middle of it and called him. I asked what we was doing he said cleaning his apartment. Needless to say I got back with him. I ...
A. 25 November 2009: I completely disagree with CoolAndCoolest! There is absolutely no reason why you should have to put up with a man who shows you so much disrespect. Regardless of any other women, he crossed a HUGE line with the picture from you sister. I doubt... (read in full...)
Why does my ex expect me to wait for her?
Q. My ex always wants to hang out, but she is always late, or makes me wait all night (so I cancel other plans) and then blows me off. Why does my ex always expect me to just wait on her?...
A. 24 November 2009: The question should be why are you letting her do this to you?
Obviously she has little respect for you or your time. However, you have kind of shown her that it is ok to think that way.
My advice to you if you want to continue hanging... (read in full...)
I dropped her and she's devastated..have I made her insecure?
Q. Hi. I have just split from my gf and its all my doing. I have not met anyone else just feel its run its course and to be honest don't really love her anymore. Problem is it feels like being a teenager again, I feel sick with guilt because she is a...
A. 24 November 2009: If you think you made a mistake, then call her and talk to her and articulate what it is you want and need from her.
If however you are sure that you don't want to be in this relationship, then just leave well enough alone and walk away. Y... (read in full...)
Getting past the hurt and loving again... help!
Q. I met a wonder fun woman back in the spring. She had just come out of a very personal illness (breast cancer) as well as having been cheated on by her boyfriend during this illness. The boy friend also had a young daughter that this woman felt ...
A. 24 November 2009: Well, if this is something that she feel strongly about, then there is really nothing you can do to change her mind.
If you really want to try one last time, maybe you can send her an email or call her and tell her how you feel. Let her know... (read in full...)
I'm losing my looks!
Q. Hey. I'm 17, and basically I think my looks are fading, and fast. I know everyone is gonna think im crazy, but seriously I have noticed a big change. I never thought I was amazingly stunning, but I didnt think I was bad either. I got noticed by b...
A. 24 November 2009: Try not to worry about it. I know it's easy for me to say, but try to believe that.
You are still young, and your body is still changing. Like you mentioned, your features are sharpening, your body is evolving....
Now is the time though ... (read in full...)
He let the girl he cheated on me with make comments about me and my marriage!
Q. My capricorn man cheated on me and got caught. When we met, I told him I was married, unhappily, and lived a seperate life from my husband. He understood and we have been together 8 months. We recently got a place together, but often times, I ...
A. 12 November 2009: Ok, first can I say that situation is not healthy or fair to any of you?
How can you be staying with another man and then going home to your husband?
I don't think that this guy believes that you are going to leave your husband, and pro... (read in full...)
How do I find a safe sex buddy?
Q. Bit of a strange question. I am a divorced woman and have been single for about 12 months. I have a healthy sex drive and masturbate regularly. I have not had sex with a man since splitting up from my husband and is really missing it. ...
A. 11 November 2009: I understand what you mean about not wanting to get involved with someone online. It's like gambling...not sure whether you'll get lucky or end up paying big time. Same thing with meeting someone at the bar... My only suggestion would... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by staying with my husband?
Q. I'm very confused, and feel like my brain is not functioning properly, I make a decision know it's the right one, then change my mind. I really want your advice. Should I stay with my husband. I want to stay and be happy together, but do...
A. 29 October 2009: I agree with what everyone else has said - leave your husband and don't look back. The only thing that I would add is that it seems to me that you are dealing with some serious depression. Forget counselling with your husband, and concentrate ... (read in full...)
Does he still hate me this much?
Q. Been really good friends with a guy for many years. No romance. Finally he professed his love. I was stunned and shocked and kinda rejected him cause I was dating someone else at the time which I told him about. It's been 20 years and he just ...
A. 29 October 2009: I very much doubt that he is harbouring feelings of resentment after this much time.
As you said, it has been 20 years. Maybe he feels, as I do, that he doesn't want to add ppl to his FB with whom he has had no meaningful contact. Basicall... (read in full...)
Is this normal if you like the person?
Q. Hi, just started seeing this lady, 31 years and I'm 39. Before she was on the scene I was having sex up to 3 times a day. Now I have seemed to have lost the drive. We like each a lot and spend all awake hours together. She also used to have a high ...
A. 28 October 2009: Maybe you both are just more comfortable with each other than you have been with other partners in the past and your relationship is more about sex.
It is normal when you are in a committed relationship. You have passed the stage where it's all... (read in full...)
How do I pass my algebra?
Q. I have been having trouble in collage level algebra, and i have posted on here about this before i struggle even when i really try thus i studied for 3-4 hours for our last test and still failed, you ask why, because my teacher counted off on many ...
A. 28 October 2009: I had a teacher who did the same thing to me in high school.
I am not strong at maths to being with, and after struggling to understand the way in which he was doing things, I finally approached a physics professor who showed me other ways to ... (read in full...)
Over drinks my boyfriend brought up a threesome. Am I a drama queen for how I reacted?
Q. about two weeks ago my partner and a friend of mine were having a good old drink or two, when my partner suggested a 3 some and within seconds of him saying this my friend a girl, then came onto me. i responded at first as my partner was glaring me ...
A. 15 October 2009: I think you've done the right thing.
At first, you let yourself be pressured/persuaded into doing something you didn't want. However, when the situation presented itself again, you left and told your boyfriend that this is not acceptab... (read in full...)
Was I taken for a ride by a younger woman I met online? I'm heartbroken..
Q. I am a male approaching mid 30s and I met this young woman (early 20s) on an asian e-dating site about 5 months ago. We were just chatting and talking on/off until about 2 months ago, and that's when I started having some sexual relation with ...
A. 15 October 2009: You were definitely being taken advantage of by this woman.
Anyone who can't tell you where she lives, her full name, who changes their number....she is up to no good.
A lot of what has transpired seems contrived to me. I don't doubt that... (read in full...)
My girl's ethnic preference has got me down.. Don't wanna be racist, and don't think I am. But it still smarts!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now, and everything has been great. She's warm, funny, loving, great in bed, and on and on. I love her. Hell yeah I do! And we are about to move in together. Sounds great, right? It is, BUT.. I've been...
A. 23 May 2009: I think that you answered the question best yourself...as you said "I know she has arrived here with me and I'm who she wants to be with". If you are secure in her knowledge of her love for you, you are way ahead of the game where many ... (read in full...)
Why do women use the Pill and other hormone based contraception?
Q. I have a copper IUD. It works great. My question is, why are hormonal contraceptives so popular when hormones are so volatile? I don't understand the reasoning why women use the pill and hormone based contraception which has adverse side eff...
A. 20 May 2009: I should also add, that for many women, the freedom of having a predictable period, or no period at all is one of the best things about hormone based contraceptives. ... (read in full...)
Why do women use the Pill and other hormone based contraception?
Q. I have a copper IUD. It works great. My question is, why are hormonal contraceptives so popular when hormones are so volatile? I don't understand the reasoning why women use the pill and hormone based contraception which has adverse side eff...
A. 20 May 2009: I have looked into this myself.
For one thing, most doctors don't recommend an IUD for women who haven't gone through childbirth first. Copper IUD's will sometimes be used as emergency contraception where the use of hormones is not recommen... (read in full...)
Amazing sex but now she's pregnant help!
Q. I had amazing sex with this girl the other week she is my best mates girlfriend and i dont have any regrets there just one problem she's pregnant what should i do? ...
A. 20 May 2009: Wait, are you trying to figure out if you are possibly the father? Because if you only slept with her last week, then you wouldn't be the father....too soon for her to tell.
... (read in full...)
Will he realise he loves me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. I know for sure that i love him, i never question that. But recently he told me he doesnt think he loves me. He said he's trying to. The way he acts around me makes me think he does, spending ...
A. 7 May 2009: He may love you, but he may not be in love with you. I have heard guys make this distinction before. Either way, it's not easy to accept or deal with. Maybe you should tell him that you both need time...to see what it is you feel. On... (read in full...)
Is a polygraph test the answer?
Q. I am in a real dilemma and don't know what to do. I am engaged and have been with my fiance for 9 years now and never imagined this horrible nightmare i am now in. We were shopping on the weekend when some girl approached me and said your ...
A. 30 April 2009: It depends on which type of polygraph test is administered. The ones used by law enforcement in the States are easier to beat than those in Canada. However, it's not like you're going to be doing this at a police station. So, you need to find out ... (read in full...)
Nipples off center?
Q. Are you supposed to have an orgasm the first time you have sex? Is it normal for your nipples to be off center?...
A. 16 April 2009: Having an orgasm is more about your mental state than anything else when you're a woman. All this talk about g-spots, multiple orgasm, etc, are a lot of pressure for women... In order to have an orgasm, you have to be open to experiencing it,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome but can barely perform in bed when he is with me!
Q. My boyfriend is constantly masterbating and watches porn from 1-8 hours a day. He searches partner finders in hopes to add a third party in the bedroom. However, whenever we have sex he can only perform half of the ime....
A. 16 April 2009: Some "experts" say that the availability of porn these days has caused a new type of sexual dysfunction. Men expect the same sort of things they see in porn to happen in real life and aren't turned on my "regular" women or regular sex anymore. ... (read in full...)
My fiance likes to wear my daughter's underwear!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend/fiance for a year now and we live together along with my 15 yr old daughter and his 15 yr old son.. about 4 months into our relationship I did a load of laundry for him and found a pair of womens underware in his ...
A. 16 April 2009: He's obviously fantasizing about your daughter. If he can call out her name while you two are being intimate...that should be a huge warning sign for you. He may just be fantasizing now, but do you want to take that chance that he will take the... (read in full...)
"Women are good in bed!" Explain exactly...
Q. Hello guys. I've just got married and I don't have any experience with men. Can you tell me how the woman can be good at sex... because I heard many of you people talk about this but I don't understand what men mean when they say women are good in ...
A. 16 April 2009: Project confidence. The rest of it you will figure out as you go along, both of you. But, from my experience, guys like someone who is comfortable with their body and are able to show it. You don't need to know a lot of different positions or ... (read in full...)
What would you describe as 'good' sex for a boy?
Q. What would you describe as 'good' sex for a boy? My boyfriend responds to me a lot on that side of things. But not enough. Obviously to a large extent the answer needs to come from him himself. But I was wondering if, in general, there was anything...
A. 16 April 2009: What makes sex good for you? Everyone would probably have their own idea....the best person to ask is him....
That being said...find out what his erogenous zones are, what his fantasies are, stimulate him physically and mentally and I bet he'll be... (read in full...)
He's the perfect guy, except he keeps texting his ex!
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years and I think he is absolutely perfect! He is sweet, caring, Always supportive of me, gorgeous body and face, and amazing in bed. He is 19 and already making almost a thousand dollars a day, smart, fun to ...
A. 16 April 2009: "He is always open and honest about it, apologizes, and says its up to me if I want to continue to see him."
When you say that it sounds like he almost doesn't care if you leave or not, but he won't say no if you decide to stick around. If you l... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 15 April 2009: Are you two in couples counselling? I think you really need to do that. This is not healthy for either one of you. Your marriage has/had bigger issues than you cheating, and those need to be resolved before the 2 of you have any hope of sort... (read in full...)
I do love him but due to his current status, I am not willing to see him at all!
Q. My ex is engaged and has been contacting me for two months now explaining how much he loves me and misses me. He originally contacted me to check on me because he thought I was still living in another state but I had been living back in the stat...
A. 14 April 2009: Continue doing exactly what you are doing? Obviously he's second guessing whether he wants to get married or not. It's not fair to you to be a part of his drama.
The fact that he won't even admit that he's engaged is telling.
I think you h... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 13 April 2009: Good Luck!
Wow, you are going to have a hard time of it.
It's going to be a long road getting your wife to trust you again no matter what. Keep in mind now she's dealing with hormones on top of everything else.
You can't blame her f... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain these weird dreams I'm having?
Q. okay well hi, i know this is nothing to do with relationships but i cant think of another way to find out.! basicly, ive been gettin really strange dreams, its now half past midnight and ive tried to sleep twice and i just cant! when i lay down ...
A. 9 April 2009: I'm not an expert or anything, so I can't comment on the meaning of your dreams, but it sounds like you are suffering from stress and anxiety. You probably need to talk to someone, and your doctor might suggest anti-depressants.
If you don't wa... (read in full...)
Possible to forgive AND forget?
Q. Do you think people can forgive and forget. Do you think a relationship can continue and grow after someone has betrayed you... My boyfriend was the definition of a loyal, kind, caring man that would do anything for someone in need. He had kin...
A. 7 April 2009: Hi Ashley,
All of this sounds very fishy to me. My best advice is to go with your guy instinct. You said that it seemed almost too good to be true b/w the two of you, and if you're thinking that then maybe your gut is telling you somethin... (read in full...)
Can the gynocologist tell if I've been sexually active?
Q. I'm going to a gyno tomorrow to get an exam, for me to get Birth Control. I'm freaking out because my mom told me to be honest with the doctor and I am but I'm not a virgin and my mom would freak if she found out I've been sexually active. She said ...
A. 31 March 2009: The gynaecologist can tell, but it doesn't matter. Legally, she cannot tell your mother. So, do as your mom says, be honest with the gynaecologist because your health is what is most important. The only way your mom will find out is if you tell ... (read in full...)
Have I made a mistake in the way I treated her?
Q. I was wondering if someone can help me with a difficult situation that I have. I have recently broken up with a great girl, however I decided to end is with her, at which point she was really upset and very pleading to get back with me. There is ...
A. 31 March 2009: Do not start anything with her unless you are sure you have feelings for her. While you can't say for certain what the future will hold, if you aren't sure what you want or don't think that you want to have a relationship with her then don't start ... (read in full...)
He's saying our son isn't his..I don't have time for his bullshit
Q. My kids dad and I aren't seeing eye to eye. We were suppose to get married unfortunately, it didn't happen. We are in and out of a relationship. I recently gave birth to our son on February 26. He wasn't around during my pregnancy. He d...
A. 19 March 2009: I'm not sure that there is anything you can do to make the situation better. The problem is with him, and he's going to have to sort it out for himself.
If I were you, I would get a paternity test, get it on record that he is the father. ... (read in full...)
Is he innocent? Or a nut?
Q. Help! My husband has been texting/calling a lady for over a month and says I shouldn't mind this. At first I thought it was just innocent friendly, keeping in touch chat. He supposedly meet her on the road (he is a otr truck driver) and breifly ...
A. 18 March 2009: She has no reason to lie to you, but he has every reason to do so.
He got caught, and instead of manning up, he's behaving like a child and lying to get out of it.
You obviously have a decision to make, and the two of you need to talk and... (read in full...)
Does she just want to teach me a lesson? Help me out here!
Q. I've got a long distance relationship with a girl. She has problems and is stressed so I asked if we could just be friends until I got stuff together to come down and be with her. But I made it clear that I wasn't going to cheat on her and she told ...
A. 18 March 2009: I think she is maybe trying to force your hand. And that in and of itself is a warning sign. If she's going to manipulate you to be with her, then you won't ever have a healthy relationship.
You say she has problems and issues to work out, wel... (read in full...)
I used the Plan B pill and denied it! Now he accuses me of lying when he has told me so many, himself! Is this fair?
Q. Ok... So I come on here regularly and give advice every once in a while, but now, I really need to hear others opinions. I posted this question last night, but didn't get much responce. So, can anyone help? Ok. My boyfriend and I went on ...
A. 18 March 2009: just like it hurt you when he lied to you, he feels the same way now, especially since he badly wanted children.
All I can say is give him time. I don't think making a decision about your body was wrong, but if you honestly felt it was the righ... (read in full...)
I don't get it..did I do something wrong when we met for our first date! Help me understand!
Q. Sorry about the length but please do read it all. Thanks! I met this guy online and he was so excited at the prospect of meeting me. He asked me out and planned dinner at the beach. The night we met up something wasn’t right. He seemed distract...
A. 18 March 2009: In my opinion you didn't do anything wrong. He was obviously distracted by something, and there's nothing you can do about that.
Give him some slack too....not having a job, and with the prospects so slim, is stressful.
That being sa... (read in full...)
A month after the break up coffee date: First step to winning her back????
Q. So, my girlfriend broke up with me about thirty days ago. After the break things were cool until about a week later when we were hanging out and she was blatantly flirting with another guy. The next morning I explained that I thought it was rude ...
A. 18 March 2009: You can't force her to feel something she doesn't. Give her time to miss you, and let her contact you.
Without knowing the whole situation, I would also hazard a guess that she may have flirted with another guy in front of you specific... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 17 March 2009: Having found out recently that the guy I loved was cheating on me, the one thing I can tell you is that your wife is hurting.
What you did was a betrayal of her trust and love for you, and that is something that once broken is very hard to rebui... (read in full...)
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