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male
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36-40,
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writes:My ex always wants to hang out, but she is always late, or makes me wait all night (so I cancel other plans) and then blows me off. Why does my ex always expect me to just wait on her?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 November 2009):
 why are you hanging around waiting for an ex? Why is she your ex? Is she your ex because she decided to be your ex and now she has decided to keep you hanging around like a little puppy dog waiting for a pat?
Grow Some!! Stop waiting around, stop even planning to meet up with her. I honestly dont understand what you are doing, it doesnt make sense.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 November 2009):
 Isn't she your ex for a reason? I'm puzzled you're making plans to hang out with her.
I'll tell you why she expects you to wait for her. Because you already do. You have demonstrated time and time again that you will put up with her behavior. As soon as you stop being so predictable, things will change.
You can't change her behavior. You can only change yours.
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (24 November 2009):
 The question should be why are you letting her do this to you?
Obviously she has little respect for you or your time. However, you have kind of shown her that it is ok to think that way.
My advice to you if you want to continue hanging with her, is to tell her in the future that you are going to make plans regardless b/c she has proven to be unreliable with keeping her plans with you. She can call you when she is ready to get together and if you're free then you'll meet her.
Don't let her treat you this way. Show her it is unacceptable. Hang out with your friends, ppl who are more than willing to spend time with you and put you first.
You teach ppl how to treat you.
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reader, patient66 +, writes (24 November 2009):
A women that is interested would not be late or blow you off. She's useing you for plan B, if she doesnt got anything better to do.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): ok, i think, coming from a girl, this is pretty selfish for her to think that she can get you to do anything she wants you to do for her. and she is just wanting to be around you because you will do a lot of things for her and she doensn't care that you want to do other things. i believe this is very inconsiderate and just ignoring the problem isn't such a good thing. it's just like telling her it's okay to do this. if a guy confronted me telling me that he didn't appreciate what i was doing to him i would so definately stop.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 November 2009):
She's got you on a string, my friend. Best thing to do is to get away from her as quickly as you can.
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