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writes:I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years and I think he is absolutely perfect! He is sweet, caring, Always supportive of me, gorgeous body and face, and amazing in bed. He is 19 and already making almost a thousand dollars a day, smart, fun to be around, he is perfect in every way I can imagine. The problem here is that he has an exgirlfriend, who I really feel loves him as much as I do, and he has cheated on me with her four times in the past with her. He is always open and honest about it, apologizes, and says its up to me if I want to continue to see him. The second time it happened I broke up with him (we had been together for 10 months) and I started dating someone new and he was with her. After I had sex with the new guy, I was vehemently angry at how pathetic it was in comparison to my former lover. It was so annoying. We ended up getting back together and I was very happy, until he started talking to his ex and cheated on me again. Yesterday I found some texts on his phone from her and now I am worried. I haven't been able to bring myself to break it off with him because I love him so much, what should I do?
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reader, Summer DeMilo  +, writes (16 April 2009):
Honey, you don't love him - you are in a sex trance. Sometimes the sex is so good that it makes you oblivious to how bad everything else is. I've been through this and seriously in the end you just get hurt. A guy ISN'T NICE if he is keeps on cheating on you - with the same woman! Aren't you worried about getting a STD from this crazy love triangle? True love is very hard to find but great sex is as easy as a good vibrator - buy one and move on!
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reader, Dazed~Confused +, writes (16 April 2009):
 "He is always open and honest about it, apologizes, and says its up to me if I want to continue to see him."
When you say that it sounds like he almost doesn't care if you leave or not, but he won't say no if you decide to stick around. If you left, you know he would just go be with that other girl.
Like others have said, he's cheated on you numerous times...with the same woman! Obviously he'll keep doing it as long as she's around. Do you really want to stick around for that????
You deserve better, walk away before you wake up and realize you've wasted your life on this guy. At that point the only person you can be mad at is yourself.
If he really loved you, and respected you, he would not do this to you.
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reader, Blondy +, writes (16 April 2009):
Blondy is verified as being by the original poster of the question He works for his dad's company that does venture capitalist stuff (I think thats what its called, I can't understand it when he explains it) But I don't care about the money! Its the fact that he is, aside from the cheating, the best guy I could ever imagine in every way. And If I left him I would be so afraid that no one else would ever be anywhere near as good as him, in anyway. Because thats how I felt when we did beakup, I tried to date around and every guy I went out with made me realize even more how amazing of a person he is. He isn't a jerk, he is soooo nice to me. There is just something that he and his ex have that he and I don't, and I want that with him but I don't know what it even is? They just click differently than he and I. I really would be afraid of leaving him and then always comparing guys against him, and I know I would end up wanting him back right away just like last time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): How many days a month does he work? Four?
Seriously - what is the significance of all the traits you mentioned.
Let's break it down: what if he were ugly, mediocre in bed, made $100/day, had no charisma, and you had no sex drive? Is this guy's idea of friendship worth it?
I dated a guy with ALL the same traits once and when I realized he was just counting up all the women who wanted him I just stopped talking to him. It was a good move.
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Dump his lame ass. There is someone out there, in fact, you WILL meet someone who will make him look pathetic in bed, guaranteed. Its all relative.
Good luck.
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 the guy is a jerk - you have (after the first time) given him the green light to cheat on you with her any time he likes.... no matter how much you love him or how much he earns - this is it, this is all he can ever offer you - in bed with you one minute and her the next - its not that exciting from where i am sitting??. So sex with someone else was rubbish, probably cause you were expecting too much and were still madly in love with the jerk?? Seriously i this guy will always cheat on you and your life with him a reckon will be miserable for most oo the time - it will only be good when hes sucking up to you when hes cheated with her and wants you back. Both of you girls should get some backbone and fire him off from your lives completley
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Strewth! Is he a politician or something??
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 April 2009):
 Hey a thousand a day? What does he do?
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