I'm having sex with my third cousin. Is this wrong?
Q. Recently i have been having sex with my third cousin, it's been going on for the past month now, i really really enjoy it, and i feel like i love him, i cant get him out of my head. But when im not with him i think about the what ifs and get really ...
A. 15 January 2006: Sex with cousins is not wrong but in the Victorian era it was frowned on because of the liklihood of any children being born with genetic defects through the closeness of your family history.
Third cousin is far removed from first cousin so enjoy... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from my married lover and find happiness with the single guy who is pursuing me?
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship with a married man for the past 7 months since june of 2005. I met him online when I was living in Cheyenne Wy. He did not disclose to me up front that he was married and he did not tell me until after 3 days I h...
A. 15 January 2006: Easy! You open your mind and realise that married lover will never give up his comfy life with boring wife just to make you his new partner. You're wasting a perfectly good life linked to a married man. Im sure you've spent endless holidays and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hides in a shell when it comes to kissing me, and he looks at other girls! Please help!
Q. well my boyfriend is not kissing me but when people ask us to kiss he does it but he looks at other girls in our school and we have been going out for 3 months now please help me make him come out of his shell what should i do i really dont want to ...
A. 15 January 2006: Its possible he is uncomfortable having such close contact with a person and finds kissing yeuck! Many people do get put off at sharing saliva and that phobia is not limited to just him. You seem to get on well as friends so why not just enjoy ... (read in full...)
When I ask her out, she says she's grounded or busy. Does she like me or not?!
Q. Help! i like this girl but i don't know if she likes me back. I'm 17, and i've known this girl for about 4 years. At first, I started hanging out with her brother in hopes of getting to know her better, It worked as far as her coming into the ...
A. 15 January 2006: take the hint darling!
She doesn't want to go out with you and is telling you in the kindest possible way.
focus your attentions on someone who is attracted to you and stop wasting your time with this lady. She is clearly not interested in ha... (read in full...)
What if I meet my online guy and he thinks I'm ugly?
Q. I will just sum it up: I met this guy online, we have talked many times, we sent pictures. The picture I sent of me to him was a really good pic of me. So when he asked to see more, of course, I sent him more but they werent that great of pictures. ...
A. 15 January 2006: Relax! he feels exactly the same way about meeting you and wonders if you will think he is ugly too.
Arrange a meeting and take it as it comes. I dont feel either of you will take one look at each other and run in opposite directions. You've a... (read in full...)
How can I change my life?
Q. I am pregnant with my second child, in debt and away from my family. My husband is not happy and we live like roommates and have been for a long while. I am so tired of not having healthy love in my life, what am I to do? I have no where to go....
A. 15 January 2006: Are there any Mothers and babies groups near you. join one of them and start meeting new friends. Just being in a group with other women in the same situation can help you see life with a new perspective and then what you have at home is not so ... (read in full...)
Bikini-line waxing tips, anyone?
Q. I'm trying to get my bikini area mostly free of hair, but I can't find the best way. Shaving leaves bumps and hurts, the creams won't work for the stubble type of hair, and I don't want to have to wait for my hair to get long in order to wax. I need ...
A. 15 January 2006: Do yourselfa favour and spend a little money on having it done by a professional. if you do it yourself, you leave yourself wide open to irritation/ infection and discomfort so go to the beauty Parlour that specialises in brazilian waxings and have ... (read in full...)
There is a big age gap and what does he really want?
Q. Hi I am 16 years old and have a part time job. About four months ago a new chef started at work. After the 2nd weekend of working together he started texting me. He says he really fancies me and he has even said he is in love with me. The only pro...
A. 15 January 2006: he wants your beautiful body and as for being in love with you, tell him you need to spend 24/7 as a couple over many months before that emotion grows. What he feels right now is burning lust and desire and the need to get his wicked way with you.
... (read in full...)
Is selling stories the same as selling sex??
Q. My other half surprised me with a comment the other night and it caused such an argument. He said that all those people (mostly women) who sell their stories to magazines (which can be about anything) are the same as prostitutes. I didn't agree but ...
A. 15 January 2006: he's a blinkered man with no imagination or creativity. selling stories to magazines is a way of putting your experiences and dreams into words and when a magazine buys them then you have earned pocket money for it. Its a good way to earn money if ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my unpredictable, threatening partner? Practical advice required.
Q. I have an unpredicatble partner. He can be loving and caring but also gets angry and threatening. He can be patronising and full of himself. He has a teacherish manner and can be pretty selfish when he wants to be but then he can also be romantic...
A. 15 January 2006: You are in a difficult situation because you love hm a lot and are dependant on him for many things. One half of you wants to walk but the other half is full of fear of the unknown.
Do you have a women's refuge near you. Have a chat to them and... (read in full...)
We're both 13 and we want to experiment with sex more. Any suggestions?
Q. I'm 13 and my boyfriend is also 13.We have been together for a couple of months now and really want to do more. We've thought about sex(and condoms)but i wouldn't really feel comftable. I do wanna do more sexual stuff but i don't know what?...
A. 11 January 2006: Do you know something kiddo? Its much more fun being part of a couple and enjoying bowling/skating/dancing/kite flying and sending cutesy texts then it is actually having sex when your 13. because it can be messy/fumbling and very unsatisfying if ... (read in full...)
He could be 'the one' and I can't stop thinking about him but I don't think he's interested anymore
Q. I met this guy a few weeks ago, we exchanged info and talked twice in the past couple of weeks. I have this feeling he is 'the one' and I barely know him. Im pretty sure he doesnt feel the same exact way, but I still think he likes me. The first ...
A. 11 January 2006: i sense he has lost interest in taking things to the next level and in all honesty, he is not THE one but someone who was right for that particular time in your life.
Try asking him out on a date and if he gives you excuses then cut your losses a... (read in full...)
I think about my social worker all the time...what do I do??
Q. I have been having problems at home relating to the relationnship between my son and his step-father (my partner who I am now about to split up with). Because I was so worried about my son so much, I went to the doctors, to cut a long story sh...
A. 11 January 2006: Your feelings for your social worker are normal because she is kind/understanding and non judgemental and you feel like she is now the only friend in your life.
BUT dont expect anything to happen between you her professional ethics will not allo... (read in full...)
He wants to live his life as a woman...should I tell him to leave??
Q. Married for 24 years my husband files divorce on me explaining he is "transgendered" and wants to live his life as a woman. He expresses he is not gay, but I find him flirting with men on the internet, and showing himself off in his female ...
A. 11 January 2006: Dont put yourself down. His transvestism wasnt apparent when you first met so dont feel its something yousaid or he eat or whatever little theories you have in your mind. Its inherrent in his genes and have come out now that he has reached a certain ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but don't know if I should ask her out...
Q. I really fancy this girl (with one leg shorter than the other), who I keep seeing at the railway station on the way into the city, or out and about. I don't even know her name, but we seem we to be on smiling knodding terms. The first time I saw...
A. 11 January 2006: OK youve already got to first base by being on smiley nodding terms. Now progress from that and sit next to her and start up some trivial chatting. By the end of the first weekyou can lob in an invitation to the movies/a coffee or whatever. I sense ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my wife's twin!
Q. am a 30-year-old married man. I am happy with my wife but the only problem is her twin sister! I am attracted towards her too. I try to avoid them and get successful also but whenever I see her again I am back to square one. To be true, I don’t ...
A. 11 January 2006: Ah ha! you are experiencing the age old dilemma - will the twin be exactly like the one Im with. You're curious to know if there is a difference but best advice is dont go down that road. It will all end in tears. Stick with the twin you already ... (read in full...)
How do I choose between the two of them...help!
Q. How do you decide between two men? i've been with my current boyfriend he's 35 and i'm 22 for about three years he lovely,safe and trustworthy, recently i met a different guy he's my own age and possesses all the same qualities, i split up with my ...
A. 11 January 2006: Which one seriously wants to be part of your life and which one makes you happiest. I would use the rule of thumb "the one I always think of first is the one i want to be with" then make your decision and stick to it.
Yo-yo tendencies are not kind... (read in full...)
How do I get back with her?
Q. Hello. Well, me and my g/f broke up last week. She said that she really wanted to be friends. And me being the nice guy that I am said ok. And so now we are good friends. But I still have a feeling that this relationship will work out for the ...
A. 11 January 2006: Im afraid she is just not into you anymore so "lets be friends" is a kind way of saying it.
There is no way you can recapture the relationship you had and being friends will be the only thing on offer from her side.
Keep in contact by text ... (read in full...)
My past bothers him...what should I do?
Q. I have a somewhat wild past..my current boyfriend has heard many rumors and is now bothering him. We have discussed this, but its still bothering him. What should I do? ...
A. 11 January 2006: Dont pander to his insecurities tomake him feel better about your past. This guy will throw it back in your face a million times. Its your past, it shouldnt come back to haunt you and frankly, it has nothing to do with him.
I feel you and he will ... (read in full...)
Can friends become lovers??
Q. I'm just wondering...is it possible for friends to become lovers? and should i tell him i really like him? I get mixed signals from him but i think he's into me. I'm afraid i will ruin our friendship if he dosen't feel the same way and we will nev...
A. 11 January 2006: Its happens but it seldom leads to an enduring sexual relationship. Its best to keep things on a platonic basis because the moment his hard drive connects to your modem, friendship is replaced by awkwardness and the need to keep away from each other ... (read in full...)
What do boys look for in girls in terms of race and personality??
Q. Question about teens, especially interested in guys point of view. Would a 16 year old white guy be likely to want to date someone from a different race (asian) or do most guys tend to stick with their own race? Also what do guys think of girls ...
A. 11 January 2006: Its not about race or looks, its all about the chemistry that two people will feel when they meet. if someone is right for that particular time of your life, age,colour or creed wont make any difference.
meet lots of people and the rite one to h... (read in full...)
I feel too young to be tied down...
Q. i am 17 yrs old i love my bf but i feel like i am getting tied down too quickly i want to be with him but just not yet! it would brake his heart if i broke up with him! what should i do?...
A. 11 January 2006: And you are too young to be tied down.You need to experience more of life/live a little more/have fun not become a staid appendage to someone else.
Limit the amount of time you spend together and start doing fun things with your friends. Go bowli... (read in full...)
I love Ned but keep thinking about Harry! Should I give it a go with Harry? Help
Q. I met a fantastic guy "Harry" 4 years ago. He's gentle, fun, very interesting and a warm person. I was very happy and fell in love pretty quickly. I was absolutely sure this was perfect and he wasn't. After 3 years we split up. It was a first ...
A. 11 January 2006: Ok so harry is the focus of your thoughts but has he asked you to go backand try again? If there has been no contact from harry since you split up then the chances are he has moved out of range and not interested in reviving the past.
You could tr... (read in full...)
We own property together and I want out..should I stay or go?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years. About 6 months ago it got emmotionally violent, so i moved out of the house we bought together. I recently started seeing another man, he is calm, loving, and offers me all the emmotional support i ...
A. 11 January 2006: All the questions on your mind have already been answered by you and you know exactly what you should do about your ex. He is now a good friend but the sexual attraction has gone.
being tied to someone because of bricks and mortar are not a go... (read in full...)
My bf resents all my guy friends...I really don't know what i should do?
Q. Hi, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and we have a great relationship. however, he gets upset if i make new friends with other guys, even though its all innocent. Before i met him i had many friends (mainly guys), but since ive ...
A. 11 January 2006: Im afraid you've let yourself get caught in a controlling spider's web of insecurity and jealousy. He doesnt feel confident of his own social abilities and feels safe with you but woe betide anyone who wants to hold your attention. You're all His! ... (read in full...)
I think she's interested in me, but she is dating someone. Need to know the signs...help me.
Q. She's interested in me, but recently started dating someone. I sense that she is uncomfortable with an in-between feeling so-to-speak when she sees me around while she's hangin with him. Can y'all give me examples of how she will put on ...
A. 11 January 2006: leave this one alone as i sense she knows you have a crush on her but still went ahead and dated someone else. The only fronts she will put on will be laughing too loudly;hanging onto his arm;gazing into his eyes for all the world to see and ignor... (read in full...)
He's an authoritative figure and I really like him..what should I do?
Q. Ok, I really can not get over someone, but i really had no relationship with this person, i see him often and i get so confused, everyone said he liked me or gave me special attention, and i really liked him, but ive been hurt so many times, hes an ...
A. 11 January 2006: This man is not for you simply because he hasnt made any moves to start something with you. i sense he sees you as a pretty girl with intelligence and he singles you out for special attention because you seem to be receptive to life around you. ... (read in full...)
My wife told all about her sexual past... Some of these visions now haunt me! Can we move past this?
Q. My wife feels it is better to tell all about our sexual past. to get it out there is to be true to one another. we are in our forties. she has told me that I am her forth partner. this includes a 15 year marraige, a one month bad mistake off of a ...
A. 11 January 2006: C'mon now! You're an adult and so is she and its understandable that she has had a past. It would be extremely worrying if she hadnt. being haunted by past visions is frankly stupidity and very provincial. In the real world, you have to forget t... (read in full...)
What's going on in my wife's mind? Her boyfriend left her, and I just want to understand what she needs!
Q. Me and my wife have had many problems over the last ten years and have been separated twice now and the last is only 3 months ago. During this last time I have been going to counselling for my verbal anger problem and up until 4 weeks ago we were ...
A. 11 January 2006: You both need to go to marrriage guidance counselling together and sort out the tangled relationship you have. She sees you as too needy and therefore doesnt respect you as a man and you will put up with anything just to make sure she is in your ... (read in full...)
How can I show him I like him?
Q. I just recently met this guy that is all I want in a man but when I am alone with him I shut down from being aggressive because he seems out of my league. I want to know how can I show him I like him without seeming standoffish?...
A. 11 January 2006: Smile/chat be friendly. But if you have problems being in his company then enlist the help of a mutual friend who can pave the way for you by telling him that you like him a lot but feel intimidated in his company. Double date so that he doesnt f... (read in full...)
Does he really love me or did he just say it?
Q. I'm 20 and going into my first relationship and I'm abit apprehensive about it as my b/f lives 500 miles away. We met a few times at partys when I visited my aunt in wales. He said it was love at first sight, I think it was too and we're getting ...
A. 11 January 2006: hey! slow down. I know it feels wonderful and yo're on cloud nine but its only been a week. Enjoy the times you spend together and after 6 months you will see a future emerging with deep and meaningful feelings that may turn into real love. But ... (read in full...)
Should I tell himI've had a sexual encounter before?
Q. Should I tell my man that I'm not a virgin? I've been in a long distance relationship for a few months now and me and my b/f havent had sex but we talk about it alot and look forward to sharing the experience though we feel there is no rush. Anyw...
A. 11 January 2006: Why? Give him the pleasure of thinking he is an honoured man to be the first to tread unbroken territory. In theory yo're not lying so what purpose would it serve to tell him that you've had sex with someone else. Thats going to leave you wide o... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but he's controlling and makes me cry. Should I go back to him?
Q. I am still in love with my ex boyfriend who would take me back in a second, but when I am with him he often talks to me badly, tries to control everything I do and often makes me cry. I know he loves me alot but I do not know if it is worth putting ...
A. 10 January 2006: Who, in their right mind wants to get back with a control freak who makes them cry and feel undermined.
Avoid getting back and look for someone who will love and cherish you and make you feel important. You know it makes sense.... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but he's controlling and makes me cry. Should I go back to him?
Q. I am still in love with my ex boyfriend who would take me back in a second, but when I am with him he often talks to me badly, tries to control everything I do and often makes me cry. I know he loves me alot but I do not know if it is worth putting ...
A. 10 January 2006: Who, in their right mind wants to get back with a control freak who makes them cry and feel undermined. Avoid getting back and look for someone who will love and cherish you and make you feel important. You know it makes sense.... (read in full...)
Met a celebrity and slept with him. He said to call if I want to hook up again. Is he being sincere?
Q. i recently went out with my friend and got a little bit too drunk. I met this guy, and even though he is a little bit of a celebrity he seemed really nice. I ended up at his flat and one thing led to another and we slept together. In the morning ...
A. 10 January 2006: Noooooooo! he says that to most of the women he beds because celebrity brings with it many rewards and you were one of them. if he was sincere about things things further with you, he would be burning up the phone with hot texts and calls. Chal... (read in full...)
My guy wants to join the Air Force, but I worry about him changing into someone I feel I don't know!
Q. Hi, I am really confused and do not know what to do. My boyfriend and me have been friends for 5 years and been dating for almost a year. He wants to join the airforce and I really do not know what to do. I do not want him to leave because ...
A. 10 January 2006: darling, of course he is going to come back a different person. he will be tougher,more confident, less insecure about life in general and a good all round egg.The training he gets will turn him from boy to man and that can only be good for you. ... (read in full...)
Should I give the woman who divoced her husband for me, some space?
Q. I dated a woman off and on for a couple of years and we split and she married. Recently I called off my engagemnt and she immediately wanted to divorce him. We have been together for the past 7 months and things are going great, but now she is ...
A. 10 January 2006: When a person asks for space its a way of saying "I dont want to be committed to anyone right now". I sense her hesitancy is to do with whats going on around her and like a child, she wants it all but the choices are too grown up. Give her space... (read in full...)
This boy says he loves me even though he hasn't met me.Should I leave my current bf for this guy?
Q. I am a 16 year old girl with a 20 year old boyfriend. but i have recently met a 16 year old guy that says he knows i am the one and that he loves me even though he has never met me. my boyfriend has cheated on me before and we broke up for about a ...
A. 10 January 2006: Er! you cant love someone until youhave spent 24/7 in each other's company for at least 6 months and then there is no guarantee that it will be deep and lasting love. Enjoy the 16 year old's attentions but if you have worked hard to make your pro... (read in full...)
She wants me back-I still love her but am scared she will hurt me again...what should I do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend of 3 years split up on Boxing Day (just over 2 weeks ago), and I’m absolutely distraught. We didn’t split because we wanted too – we knew that if we didn’t, we’d end up driving each other apart. Things hadn’t been great for a ...
A. 10 January 2006: You will never stop loving her no matter what she does to you but going back tothe past seldom works out in the long run. Consider the reasons you split up then weigh up whether you are emotionally strong enough to go through it all over again. ... (read in full...)
He can be wonderful when we are alone but releases negative vibes when we are with others...should we be together??
Q. What do you do when you love someone who you know is just so wrong for you in every way.My husband and I have been married for 12 years.In that time we have seperated several times but this is the longest time (12 weeks)as I still love him but I am ...
A. 10 January 2006: Stop trying to live your life according to the women's magazines. You had chemistry when you met/you spent time getting to know each other and you felt strongly enough to want to spend your life with him.
After 12 years of marriage you already ... (read in full...)
Am I too needy and insecure of my high-flying boyfriend?
Q. Dear cupid. I hope someone out there will be able to give me some advice on my situation. I have been in the best relationship of my entire life with the man of my dreams, and we want to marry, he is currently in NY working on a project for...
A. 10 January 2006: No love, he dosnt MAKE you feel inferior,inadequate,illiterate or downright stupid. He is a well read,knowledgeable man who saw in you the potential to be a nice piece of arm candy but at the ame time, he hopes that with time, you will be his level ... (read in full...)
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