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writes: Hi, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and we have a great relationship. however, he gets upset if i make new friends with other guys, even though its all innocent. Before i met him i had many friends (mainly guys), but since ive been with him ive become more isolated away from my male friends and i just have have a few female friends now. I don't feel it was my choice to cut ties with my male friends, because my boyfriend would get upset and angry if i met up with them or got a message from them. Now i have made a couple of new male friends at an exercise class i go to and i havent told my boyfriend because im scared of how he would react. I wouldnt cheat on my boyfriend with these guys, so he has nothing to worry about from what i can see. and i have spoken to my boyfriend about my concerns a few times and he does try to stop acting like this but always starts again. I really don't know what i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (11 January 2006):
Im afraid you've let yourself get caught in a controlling spider's web of insecurity and jealousy. He doesnt feel confident of his own social abilities and feels safe with you but woe betide anyone who wants to hold your attention. You're all His! his! his! and he won't share you with anyone.Do you really want to be cut off from humanity with time because if you have dropped all your friends during the 3 years you have been together, then be fully aware that you wont have a life of your own if and when you marry him. he will then demand you stop giving time and attention to your family.
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