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If I have not had sex for a long time, will doing it again feel like the first time?

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Question - (30 April 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 30 April 2010)
A female Malawi age 26-29, *adalo 1 writes:

I haven't had sex for a long time now.When I do it again,is it going to feel like the first time?

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A female reader, goowes United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

goowes agony auntMaybe, or it may be loose. The muscle gets tighter when used more so you would be like first time if done alot. Or if you do Keigle exercises. But you are young and it depends on your genetic muscle makeup. Just don't freak or let someone label you if its not. Technically it will be looser.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

raiders agony auntIt will not feel like the fist time you might experience some discomfort but not pain, unless you went from a 4 inch to a 9 inch penis than I think it might hurt a little.

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A female reader, YouWish United States + , writes (30 April 2010):

YouWish agony auntHeh. Depends on how your first time was. If you're with someone better than who you had the first time, I'd say it would be better. If you're with some jerk, I'd have to say it wouldn't.

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A female reader, cnith United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

cnith agony auntI am like Timm D said. And yes, it was similar to being a virgin again. Not exactly the same but yes, similar. I was celibate and nothing had gone 'in there' not even tampons for 15 years. Even getting fingered was uncomfortable. I had to wait to readjust. Well, OK, he did... I have a wonderful partner tho' who didn't rush into anything.

Now if a long time is a few months for you, then no, it won't be the same as a virgin. It'll be like nothing happened. Ie. you just had sex last week.

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A male reader, TimmD United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

TimmD agony auntPlease define "A long time now".

For some people it is common to go a few years in between relationships and sex. You don't seem very old to consider it "a long time".

If u were to wait 15+ years in between having sex, then yes I'd say it would feel like the first time.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (30 April 2010):

person12345 agony auntIt might be a little tighter than the last time if it's been longer than 6 months, but probably not so long as you are turned on. The biggest thing that comes up is that after a long time without sex, even just a month or so, is that generally it's hard to keep lubricated even if you're very turned on. So make sure to have some lube handy in case you start to chafe. It shouldn't hurt though. Your vagina never becomes re-virginized with the hymen growing back or anything like that. Just make sure you get plenty of foreplay and you'll be totally fine. It'll be like there never even was an absence.

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