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writes:I am the one who posted pregnant by my old flame in late march some updates for you who may remember I chose to have an abortion I was 3 months pregnant I could not tell my live in boyfriend of 5 years that I have been messing around with my old flame.I have not told my old flame that I was pregnant now I am in a situation where I dont know if I should tell my old flame that I was pregnant and did not keep the child but anyway I need help coping with this because I am very sad and depressed and dont know how I am going to deal with this greif I regret the desision that I have made but I felt like due to my situation thats was the only way out and now I feel like I wanna die this is too heavy a burden on my heart
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (6 May 2010):
dont tel either of them but DO get some counselling so you can put this behind you
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reader, cnith +, writes (2 May 2010):
 I'm so sorry you went this route and now are having such great pains. I can't imagine it, tbh.
Unfortunately, it does your old flame NO GOOD to know you've erased his child. It doesn't benefit anyone, actually. You'll just keep hurting yourself. No doubt your bf will also find out somehow, these things do tend to come out.
You have to keep this burden to yourself as a reminder to stop doing these things. However, go talk to a counselor to get it off your chest or write a book about it and say it's 'fiction' so no one finds out.
I agree, it's too hard of a burden to bear but don't hurt yourself further by telling the guys. No doubt they will blow up or at the very least cause you more drama. You don't need that.
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