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Should I take a part time living arrangement in order to see more of my boyfriend?
Q. i will be 28 and never lived with roomates or anything..the closest thing was my ex and being there a few nights a week. I met someone who is around my age and is having bad luck right now..it's been 5 dates or so but we have been talking for a ...
A. 11 July 2012: Stay put at home with ur parents bc this resonant problems from all angles. If he leaves u then it just wasn't meant to be.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, I want us to be exclusive but he has a partner
Q. I'm at my wits end. I've been having an affair for 3 years. I am separated from my husband. It started out as just sex with this man. However, It has developed considerably, especially in the last year. We have talked about being together. He sai...
A. 5 July 2012: I definitely agree with AuntyEm. At some point u have to consider the obvious facts.....will u continue to live in fairyland or reality. Fairyland tells u the relationship with him n his woman will be over real soon and you'll have a permanent ... (read in full...)
My separated husband is ill, do I still proceed with divorce proceedings?
Q. I've been physically separated from H for 8 months now,10 months in total including in-house separation. Been married for 14 years, I'm currently living with my 2 sons.The separation resulted from H's emotional infidelity, 4 emotional affairs I know ...
A. 28 June 2012: I totally agree with AuntyEm. You need to complete this divorce process. Let his mistress deal with his issues. As far as the kids, u need full custody. Don't be manipulated for the rest of ur life. He is not sorry. He is upset he cannot have u and ... (read in full...)
Why would he go away so far, with a woman 24 years younger? And leave his devoted loving wife?
Q. so i know this is out there a lot but my husband left me for a younger girl 24 years younger. they are living together oh and she has a 2 year old. Anyway just wanted to know if anyone could shed light on why he would leave a good wife that woul...
A. 27 June 2012: The answer to this is clear. If your soon to be ex husband has a nice car, stable job and is well off then that alone attracts women. This female is younger probably looking for stability and met your husband. Your husband proved that he coul... (read in full...)
Why is my ex trying to create conflict between me and my best friend?
Q. Last year I dated a guy for 3 months until I found out that he's married with kids. It was his pregnant wife who found out about him dating me and telling me about it (so she was the one who uncovered him). I was devastated and I asked him to stop ...
A. 16 June 2012: Yes, I totally concur with both aunts. He is not trying to damage ur friendship, simply bc he doesn't care as long as at the end of the day he f#*ks a lady other than his wife. And you are beyond naive to believe he cares for either of u. N even if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps cheating on me, but I can't stop loving him. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a man for a year and a half. We are together usually every night, I sleep over his place, his family loves me and we say I love you but in Feb I caught him with a girl over his house. One night stand type of thing, we split and ...
A. 4 June 2012: He may not be in love with u, I don't doubt he loves u. U can love but not be in love. His behavior is a pattern. I say he don't love nor respect u. N he is also taking u for granted n taking advantage of u. U are allowing this. U can justify, ... (read in full...)
B/f had 3 year relationship with me a baby, then I find out he was seeing another woman for 6 years!
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and 3 days before i gave birth to our now 2 month old son the 'other woman' knocked my door and i found out he was having a on and off again relationship with her for 6 years! Even though she found out ...
A. 4 June 2012: The update wasn't important. All the aunts and uncles still unanimously agree that u should move on without this guy in ur life. As far as the pregnant girl and whether she should keep her innocent child is her decision and a good one. If she the ... (read in full...)
B/f had 3 year relationship with me a baby, then I find out he was seeing another woman for 6 years!
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and 3 days before i gave birth to our now 2 month old son the 'other woman' knocked my door and i found out he was having a on and off again relationship with her for 6 years! Even though she found out ...
A. 1 June 2012: I totally concur with aunt honesty. This guy is not sorry, he's sorry he got caught. If this was a 1night deal that he felt horrible about n never did it again n told u, this would be a completely different story. The other women's baby has nothing ... (read in full...)
My married man said I cant have no one else but him
Q. I have been with a married man for going on 8 months now and it seems that we go well together, meaning the relationship between us just keeps going, we dont seem to have any problems, yeah sometimes i get mad at him when i cant be with him but he ...
A. 24 May 2012: Are you so naive? Please try harder not to be. This is sad and ridiculous, and way too common. When u learned he was married why didn't u leave. He has no intentions on leaving her for u. I mean you said it yourself that he is buying a home for them ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend moved in, doesn't have a job, doesn't watch the kids, is he crossing the line?
Q. Idk what to do. My bf of three years is driving me crazy. We have two children together and im living in a low income apartment, he kinda came over and never left because he didnt have anywhere else to go. I dont have a job because i cant find ...
A. 23 May 2012: Why are u with him? Why is he living with u? He's shown he doesn't trust u nor will he watch your children. He basically don't want u to enjoy an outside life having friends and going out. It's okay for him to go out but u have to be tied down with ... (read in full...)
How do handle all this stress and stop making mistakes? Had a break up. Depressed Relocated.
Q. Hi, I don't know where to begin, I am really upset but I'll try to list the facts as brief as possible *Recently graduated from College in finance *Never had a full time job * Moved away from home (I thought it was a relief, until now) *Mo...
A. 9 May 2012: Quality instead of quantity. Instead of moving at a quick pace to get something done, move at an average pace n proofread each item entry number if u can. Going in earlier to work is commendable, keep doing that. When u get there get started on ur ... (read in full...)
I am confused about my sexuality, any advice?
Q. I am a male in my twenties and i am here because i am completely confused about my sexuality, i'm not even sure if i am gay or not. A couple of years ago i would not even think of asking this question since i was positive that i was 100% straight, i ...
A. 2 May 2012: Seriously dude, sexuality is so fluid. Almost no one is absolute straight or gay. We generally are 90% straight give or take 5%, or we are 90% gay give or take 5%. Sometimes we're 60% / 40%. You cannot put a label on something that's constantly ... (read in full...)
My roomate and my ex are getting too friendly, am I wrong for being upset about this?
Q. My roommate and I are supposed to be best friends. Well about six months ago, I dated this girl that I really, really cared about. My roommate knew I really cared for her and knew that when we broke up, it really effected me. Well fast forward six ...
A. 26 April 2012: Yes your behavior was out of line. You can't prohibit your ex from being friends with others, neither can u prohibit your roommate/bestfriend from being friends with ur ex, or any other person. Once your relationship with the ex ended, she no longer ... (read in full...)
She talks about meeting other girls, yet spends hours talking to me!
Q. I'm so confused by this girl. I met her about a month and a half ago and I really like her. We live hours apart so we don't see each other often. But we literally have gotten to where we text constantly throughout the day and talk on the phone for ...
A. 25 April 2012: Yes, it is a lot you're investing when she's only looking for greener pastures. Simply talk with her, and if you have romantic feelings for her, let her know. And let her know you would like to date if she's interested. She could be saying she will ... (read in full...)
My husband is a control freak and abusive but I love him!
Q. I have been married for two years now. My husband is a very controlling man and extremely domineering. He becomes jelous or angry at me for the most absurd reasons such as me hanging the clothes out to dry when his brother is in the backyard. (his ...
A. 25 April 2012: You should never return to him. He wants ownership, and u are not a purchased vehicle that should be controlled. Stand up for yourself. If u are too afraid to speak then obviously this man isn't for u. Let him divorce u and until he does divorce you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want kids right now. What should I think?
Q. My BF of 4 years told me that he does not want kids right now. It always seems to be a touchy subject. All he ever tells me is that he may want them in the future. A friend of mine recently had a baby and the topic came up. He told me that if i wer...
A. 21 April 2012: I totally concur with BimBim, you may be wasting away your good reproductive years with a person who may never change their mind. Murky waters here........ (read in full...)
I like girls but have feelings for boys too. Am I gay?
Q. I have concerns I am young boy who is in in middle school.I get Teased at for have many girls that are friends for example I get called "gay " and well it hurt and I cry due to these name calling. But all also I have thoughts toward my s...
A. 15 April 2012: First thing first, relax....breathe and take a sigh. Whether youre gay or straight is okay...even if you may like both genders its okay. But as far as being joked on by other people, that's a bit of bullying and not okay. Speak with your schools ... (read in full...)
My hair is falling out and its really getting to me
Q. I'm 23 and have been losing my hair for about a year. I'm very paranoid. I used to have the barber thin my hair out because it was so thick and now its thin to the point of seeing my scalp. I had been losing hair around my temples for a few years ...
A. 12 April 2012: Talk to your doctor find out what's going on and what you can do about it. Also ask your doctor can your barber cut all your hair completely off. The complete bald head can be quite sexy...especially if you have your facial hair trimmed and neatly ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want to spend money on our baby's needs,
Q. Little by little, my husband is not wanting to buy what our 10 week old daughter needs. It started with batteries for her swing, then wipes(he restricts how many I can use), then formula(he gets mad at her if she doesn't drink it all, and sometimes ...
A. 12 April 2012: Look for a part time job and have relatives watch her while ur away. The money you make can solely be for the baby. His actions are abuse, forcing her to sit in soiled diapers and forcing her to finish her formula. Hopefully you do know if anything ... (read in full...)
My g/f sees a man once and week and he pays her bills. Do I believe her that there is nothing sexual?
Q. I got a girlfriend that sees a man once week and he pays her bills. and she says all they do is go out to eat and be his friend, but she swears on her kids life they dont do anything sexual. she says she loves me and i need to stop worrying about ...
A. 12 April 2012: Sweetheart, are not these red flags to you. Her having to see another man once a week so he pays her bills. Do she not work? Can she or the men she have kids by give her child support through the courts? I know your a guy and you trust her and all ... (read in full...)
What would you do if a partner pushed you into something and then backed out?
Q. After dating my current boyfriend for a month, he started the marriage/ live together talk. I said it was too soon, obviously. We both have a child, his lives with the mother. He pressed the idea a lot, even going as far as talking to my religious ...
A. 12 April 2012: I would definitely be looking for the exit door from a partner like that. It's immature to make a decision and have another person follow only to abandon the decision saying its too soon. Infatuation in a relationship lasts up til a year or year and ... (read in full...)
My crush has gotten another girl pregnant. I'm devastated!
Q. Feeling absolutly devasted and dont know what to do. A guy ive liked for a long time has gotten another girl pregnant. He says he likes me and hasd done all alone, that if he'd known how i felt he would have been with me. I just feel too upset to...
A. 4 April 2012: Consider yourself lucky. Stick around be his friend only and check out how devoted he is to providing for his child emotionally and financially. This just may be your lucky escape bc if he show no regard for the child then he would have shown no ... (read in full...)
What kinds of hugs mean attraction?
Q. Hello. I have a 10-year-old son, and he thinks that as soon as a girl his age hugs him, it automatically means she's attracted to him. However, my wife and I are trying to explain the different types of hugging, as sometimes, he calls any woman ...
A. 3 April 2012: Full frontal embrace with one persons arms locked around the neck and the other persons arms locked around the waist is a romantic/flirty/intimate hug. A one arm hug is generally reserved for friends and family except female may sometimes embrace ... (read in full...)
What is harassment?
Q. If a girl breaks up with a bloke and stops communication and does not tell him exactly why, is it harassment to continue to write to the girl over email every few days to find out why? I mean if she does not answer, when is it considered harassment?...
A. 24 February 2012: Harassment is in the eye of the beholder. If she perceives she is being harassed after a situation then she probably is being harassed if the individual continues to do whatever it was or make contact. You can harass someone by walking by them ... (read in full...)
Why am I always the friend... with benefits? I want marriage, kids, to start a new family!
Q. met him on vacation. a year and a half ago. he lives in the united states and i live in canada. immediately we had passion, fire and the relationship was heated. i didnt want to think so much about it, or even care to see him again. but we did. ...
A. 1 February 2012: Make it clear before you have sex and make sure you're in a monogamous relationship before u have sex. Let them know what u want. Make friends and don't give sex away so easily. You're happiness will come for now focus on u. ... (read in full...)
Does he want to see me with another woman for my pleasure or his?
Q. Hello everyone , i would like to have your opinion about a relationship-sex issue that is troubling me for some time .Iam a woman 36 yrs,I was married 7 years and had 2 small chidren when i met my current fiancee, who is 36 yrs old also .I had a ...
A. 1 February 2012: You should speak up and make it very clear to him that you are not interested in opening your sexual relations with a third party intimately. You also should let him know that this offends you that he continue to bring this up. You may not want to ... (read in full...)
Online dating...I want children, he doesn't
Q. I am currently on-line dating. A guy has expressed an interest in me, however he specifies that he doesn't want children, whereas I do. Is it worth me even bothering to date him? I don't know if I will have kids anyway, due to having ME. I'm not ...
A. 19 January 2012: You two aren't compatible honey. Kids aren't something you can negotiate, either you love them and you want them or you don't. And if this guy you're interested in is around your age then I doubt he'd change his mind. And if u do succeed at changing ... (read in full...)
How do you find out if a man is gay?
Q. Let's say you like a guy at work and have doubts whether he is gay or straight. Is it a good idea to ask another co-worker (declared gay) about the first one? Can it be that the second guy goes and tells the guy I like about my suspicion? What would ...
A. 14 January 2012: You make friends with him and tell him you'd love to hang out. Find out if he's single or ask why his last relationship failed. In talking about his past relATIONSHIP he will mention he or she for his x. I think you should just make friends first.... (read in full...)
I don't have feelings for my girlfriend and feel guilty because of my real intentions behind having a relationship with her. What should I do?
Q. Recently,on dating site, I have got 42 years old American woman interested in me and it's been two weeks since we have expressed love for each other.I'm 30 years old. She has 11 years old daughter from her first love who left here 6 years ago. She...
A. 31 December 2011: You should just be honest n let her make a decision on it based on the truth you told her than lies you sold her. ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to keep my cousin's secret from her family?
Q. Hie! I am 22yrs and i have a cousin sister who is 24yrs who had been living wth HIV/AIDS 4 a year now but we are keeping it a secret me and her that even her own mother doesnt now. A year ago wen she told me that she was HIV positive after she went ...
A. 30 December 2011: I agree with the poster below me, if anyone or everyone else must know then let her your cousin be the one to tell them. All she needs from you is support and honesty. It will be okay for her. There are medication today that can keep HIV from ... (read in full...)
I have a feeling that my bf is gay! Appreciate your thoughts...
Q. My boyfriend and I are finally dating after knowing each other for 8 years. We had a bit of a blurred relationship in the past where we were having sex but not officially together. We were both to blame. He says it was due to his social anxiety ...
A. 9 December 2011: These are not clear cut signs he gay. He seems to be just a mostly non aggressive man. I guess your doubts would vanish if he ran after other ladies flirting and beating on his chest. All guys are overly masculine. And all gays (guys) aren't ... (read in full...)
Met a new friend but she hasn't phoned me should I pursue things?
Q. im a gay woman in my 30s who has a g.friend but am looking to make friends who are also gay in my area of hampshire. thing is tho how? also one of my mates who is gay took me to her friends flat who is gay and we got on well, her mate walked m...
A. 9 December 2011: You're still in the early stages of could be friendship. Friendship doesn't happen right away especially when you're both adults and have your own lives and relationships. Allow friendship to happen as they may. She may not be too keen on having u ... (read in full...)
Trying to be the husband she and most would want, but is she losing interest in me?
Q. I have been married now over a 10 years, I really love my wife and have done everything in my power to make her happy to be married to me. In addition to that, I read a lot into what women would like in a husband just to make sure I am better than...
A. 7 December 2011: She may not be losing interest. It could be that she is overwhelmed by your love and actions which may make her feel like there's no way to compete against you bc u do so much. Maybe she feels unworthy, unattractive, unfulfilled without children. I ... (read in full...)
My Gf got pissed that I dropped some rice in her bowl of soup, that I was angry at her and that I didn't call her, and now we shouldn't see each other till the end of the year! How trivial is that!!
Q. My gf and I are mad at each other. We’ve dated for about 16 months. I’m 27 and she’s 26. We’re each other's first gf/bf. We were eating at a buffet along with her sister. My gf returned to the table with a small bowl of soup and placed it on the...
A. 6 December 2011: Some cowardly male individual who shall remain nameless due to his desire to be anonymous have written to you OP saying ignore me. On the contrary, op if you are dating someone you know have certain issues and you wish to remain with that ... (read in full...)
My Gf got pissed that I dropped some rice in her bowl of soup, that I was angry at her and that I didn't call her, and now we shouldn't see each other till the end of the year! How trivial is that!!
Q. My gf and I are mad at each other. We’ve dated for about 16 months. I’m 27 and she’s 26. We’re each other's first gf/bf. We were eating at a buffet along with her sister. My gf returned to the table with a small bowl of soup and placed it on the...
A. 4 December 2011: It's not solely your girlfriends fault. You dropped rice in her soup, although you did apologise the apology itself cannot take the rice out the soup. It was your duty without her request to get her another bowl of soup, afterall it was you who ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for telling this guy to delete my number?
Q. Hey everyone ... Happy Thanksgiving :D I have a question, am I wrong for ending things with him? I've been talking to This Guy.. he's 25 I'm 20. I don't date guys with kids because its way too much drama for me. But I gave him a chance, as long ...
A. 25 November 2011: I applaud u for being so wise. You absolutely did the right thing by pushing him away. He seems like a person who only sees u as an naive opportunity for sex, however you are far from naive. Keep this discernment about guys it'll spare u a lot of ... (read in full...)
I suspect my son is gay and is going to move away because he doesn't want us to know
Q. My son is 30 and for a few year I've suspected he might be gay. As far as I'm aware he hasn't had a girl friend and the friends he seems to be close to have always been mixed sex couples. He has women friends but no relationship that I'm aware of. ...
A. 22 October 2011: If he grew up in that area going to school making friends and have other relatives there then I can see he desiring to move away if indeed he is gay and don't feel comfortable expressing himself. What he needs from u is love and support. I think ... (read in full...)
Contact fizzles out after a date, what am I doing wrong?
Q. I have been a member on a dating website for a couple of months now,and have met a few different people,and the same thing seems to happen. There seems to be interest at first,and then it fizzles out. I actually made it through a few dates with t...
A. 18 October 2011: I think the solution is making casual friends.....not the no strings attached friends but the traditional friends who actually enjoy your company just because you're an interesting person. It's easy to date someone with whom ur well acquainted. It ... (read in full...)
Instead of looking for a job he's looking for escourts and transgenders. How do I leave him when I am penniless?
Q. I am so confused. I live the "perfect family lie," as I am a stay at home mom with 2 kids, one in school and one infant. Lately things have gone down hill majorly. My husband, who before the baby came, and still LOVES my first child, but I some...
A. 15 October 2011: You do have options. One option is to take the offer from his parents n move in with them. If they can help with the kids go back to college. Take out loans and a job on campus. Another option is take out loan of about 15 hundreds dollars and go get ... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks since I found out his devastating news!
Q. Ok,I need some advice. I've been to ashamed to share this with family or friends yet. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I'm 28 and he's 26. I found out recently almost by accident that before he started dating me he was involved...
A. 14 October 2011: Whether this happen five days ago or five years ago he needs to be put away for that crime with the young girl. If you don't report him he will continue on to other underage girls. If you were or are a parent wouldn't you want his sick ass caged ... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks since I found out his devastating news!
Q. Ok,I need some advice. I've been to ashamed to share this with family or friends yet. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I'm 28 and he's 26. I found out recently almost by accident that before he started dating me he was involved...
A. 14 October 2011: Pedophile. If the age is not of consent in your country report this immediately. Please get up from the computer and contact the authorities you can remain anonymous. This is disgusting. Good for you for getting away from this perv. ... (read in full...)
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