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writes:My BF of 4 years told me that he does not want kids right now. It always seems to be a touchy subject. All he ever tells me is that he may want them in the future. A friend of mine recently had a baby and the topic came up. He told me that if i were to get pregnant now, he would expect me to have an abortion because he doesn't want a kid right now. I said what if i wouldn't want to, couldn't etc. When he replied he was laughing, and joked that he'd move to another country. Im not too sure what to think. Any advice? He is 33 and i am 26.
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reader, cmarieky  +, writes (21 April 2012):
I totally concur with BimBim, you may be wasting away your good reproductive years with a person who may never change their mind. Murky waters here.....
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (21 April 2012):
 Sadly it seems to be time for you to make the decision, to stay with him and probably not have children, or to break up with him and hope you find somebody who is more open to the idea of parenthood.
For him it doesnt matter if he doesn't decide to have children for another 30 years, but your biological clock is ticking away ....
I really dont know what else to suggest apart from having one last heart to heart talk to him about the facts of life. If you really want children you may need to let him know its a deal breaker.
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