Mutually abusive marraige--has my wife fallen out of love?
Q. Hi my wife and I are in an abusive relationship. she hits me and throws screaming fits . She also also breaks down my self image verbally.I have in the past retaliated and verbally abused her in turn. Despite this when things are good they are ...
A. 27 May 2012: wow. You seem so stressed. I am in a similar situation. I have hit my dear husband a few times and said terrible things about him. After I do it I feel disgusting. I am shocked at my own behaviour and wonder how I can do something like t... (read in full...)
I cant imagine life without my girlfriend yet I'm unable to forget my ex
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and we are very much in love however, for the past 2 years I have found myself feeling slightly depressed over my previous relationship. I still love my ex, I think about her constantly and if I ...
A. 24 May 2012: well, I went through something similar. I had such annoyingly strong feelings for my ex, I thought I couldnt cope. Loving my fiance (now husband) and not wanting to be with anybody but him, especially not my ex... I STILLL had these confusingly ... (read in full...)
Should I have some fun with this guy or wait and see if my ex comes back?
Q. so i have a question, i'm not a very good looking person, put frankly, i have never and don't ever get much male attention at all, the only male attention i recieve is off fat and ugly guys(i know that sounds bad, looks shouldn't matter, but if it's ...
A. 23 May 2012: wow! There is just so much wrong with this post. You are in a bad place emotionally and if you do not get out fast you are going to get yourself so hurt... I can just see it. First of all, what the heck is wrong with you? The first thing you ... (read in full...)
How important is relationship experience when choosing a partner?
Q. I wonder, how important is dating or relationship experience when choosing a partner? Does someone need to have relationship experience for you to consider them a viable partner? How do you view inexperience or someone with little relationship...
A. 23 May 2012: honestly, I'd actually feel better with some one who doesnt have baggage or some one else to compare me to or that they could still have strong feelings for.
That said, if by little relationship experience you mean 'plenty of flinging experien... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as real love?
Q. Is there such a thing as real love? Or do guys just want the best girl they can convince to be with them at the time? Looking at the fwb scenario, or even guys who take a girlfriend out of convenience because she is nice to him, but who has no ...
A. 23 May 2012: I agree with Tisha. Also, you do live in a country where the woman /man ratio is 4:1 and I think in situations like this men do get away with more crap.. So I totally understand your disillusionment...
You know what else I see!? A woman who know... (read in full...)
His lack of kissing skills mean I lack .... well, read the rest, people!
Q. My bf's never really been a good kisser. I like real french kisses with a lot of tongue action and that's what really gets me going down there (meaning i get wet with a long passionate french kiss.). When he kisses me, it's a lot of kisses on the ...
A. 23 May 2012: I dont think you really love him. Thats why this fails to turn you on. That, and the fact that you might (subconciosly) be comparing him to other people / a person. That person could just touch you and your hairs "down there" would stand on end... ... (read in full...)
How do I let my ex know that I miss him and would like to try again?
Q. My ex broke up with me a week ago....and I still want him. I fell for him really hard and wasn't sure where I stood with him. It lead up to a big argument causing us not to speak for a while and then he said wanted to stay friends (we were friends ...
A. 22 May 2012: Hi! This is yourself in the future warning you : dont even go there! Put the phone down and start the process of mourning this relationship.
You are what I call " a shelf girlfriend" I've been a shelf girlfirend and it aint pretty.
A shel... (read in full...)
Ladies: I have some dating queries, please let me know what you think
Q. Hi, this is a post for the ladies (guys can def help too). I'm a guy and have been meeting the odd female here and there but I never actually get a formal relationship out of any of them. So I have been thinking of what may be the problem. It i...
A. 22 May 2012: lol! You are over thinking this waaay too much... That right there is your problem. Let me ask you a question. What letter does a womans name start with? Silly question right? Womens name start with every letter of the alphabet because each wom... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he wanted to kiss me?
Q. I am the second shyest and awkwardest person on the planet. The most shy and awkward person is the guy I'm into. We are both 19 and college students, and we've become pretty good friends over the last few months. I've been into him for a while; ...
A. 9 May 2012: so? What happened? Did you guys kiss? This is the sweetest post on Dear cupid... (read in full...)
What are the chances my girlfriend still loves her ex?
Q. this is a question going out to the ladies out there, can you go from a 4 year relationship to a new relationship (say within 1 year) and love the new guy? To make the story short, I basically starting going out with a girl who got out of 4 year r...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know what it is like to have paranoid feelings because of past experiences, so I think that your feelings are totally natural because you've gone through this before. The truth is, if I really loved som... (read in full...)
It hurts me so much that we can be together and then she does these things behind my back!
Q. My girlfriend for a month so far we (dated for 3 years she left me for another man back together after a year) keeps on talking too other men dirty and has cheated on me with one in the last month. And swears she will change and i forgive like ...
A. 7 May 2012: YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS!!! I am almost angry with you. Here you are, a good gem of a guy... Lots of girls all over the planet right now crying in their pillows wishing they could meet some one like you, and you are wasting your precious heart on ... (read in full...)
Do I confront my wife about her cheating or just file for a divorce?
Q. i have discovered that my wife of six years is having an online affair,as if thats not bad enough the third party involved mentions in his emails about my children being as his own children and says they will all be together as a new family soon,i ...
A. 13 April 2012: I am so sorry you have been treated this badly, it breaks my heart. I am also sorry you are going through this disease. To add to what the others are saying, perhaps when you do confront her it would be best to have someone else present, a relative ... (read in full...)
Was I right to not let him kiss me?
Q. I think me and my grind nearly kissed. He's a guy and I don't think either of us are the other ones type at all, he's certainly not mine. We aren't romantically compatible because we both want very different things from a relationship, but recently, ...
A. 13 April 2012: If you don't want to kiss someone then yes, its the right thing. Why are you even second guessing yourself? Why do you think you owe it to any guy to kiss him, just because there was an opportunity?
Girl you need to own yourself. I don't want y... (read in full...)
How can I have a relationship when I don't trust women?
Q. All I have in this world is my balls and my word. And I don't trust women. I am not saying they're all bad. I just think when the times get tough, they disappear. And when the times are good, they love you. Am I wrong? With an attitude like this, ...
A. 13 April 2012: I'm sorry to hear that you feel this way, it sounds like you have been deeply hurt by a woman, or women?
Perhaps you have become addicted to the pain, if so you really need to make an effort to change your way of thinking, for your own good.
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Am I being petty over my husband's friend?
Q. Hello! So my husband and I were separated for three months and have decided to work things out. While we were separated he was seeing a lady who works in his building. They would go out and hang out and what not. I don't have a problem with tha...
A. 9 April 2012: I agree with Danielepew. I think the other folks here are talking rubbish. Your husband should stand up for you, not her, that would piss me off too. Also, she should have backed off, when he asked her to. She was not respecting your space. Y... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he wanted to kiss me?
Q. I am the second shyest and awkwardest person on the planet. The most shy and awkward person is the guy I'm into. We are both 19 and college students, and we've become pretty good friends over the last few months. I've been into him for a while; ...
A. 25 March 2012: This is so sweet! I'm sitting on my mobile reading and smiling in the minibus!
Don't rush it, please? I think it will happen soon, I think he wants to kiss you... Just don't rush it... When its supposed to happen, it will be like you can't he... (read in full...)
The way he looks at me, does that mean he loves me?
Q. hey guys,i'm with my boyfriend for a month now, and i'm so happy with him and i think i'm in love with him, he gave me my first kiss, he treated me well,he's so funny and he said 'i love you' everytime we are together and when he kissed me he said ...
A. 25 March 2012: aaah! I remember my first kiss! I remember when it was like the only people in the world who knew how to kiss were us. I was 17 and he'd had other girlfriends... So I remember the jealousey. Now I've married him, but not before he hurt me deeply, ... (read in full...)
I just used her for sex so how do I end it and still look good?
Q. I started screwing, nothing serious, around with this chick from my job when I'm home from college. She was a rebound girl from my last relationship and i wasn't being to pick when i choose her. I'm not saying I'm a great catch but I'm way out of ...
A. 25 March 2012: Rephrase: I am a dick, I just don't want to seem like one.
Those of us with vagina's, well most of us, can't handle some one in there that isn't going to stay, its just hard for us. We try, but yeah... The sooner a girl figures that out the bett... (read in full...)
Major crush on my neighbor, but we are both in relationships! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a question. I have this neighbor who lives right next door to me who I have a major crush on for a while. I know he likes me too we flirt all the time and he acts all shy and nervous when we talk. This is the thing, he is with ...
A. 22 March 2012: Ok. So, two people are in unsatisfying relationships, which sound complicated enough as it is... how does adding another relationship to the mix make this situation easier?
Your current guy does not have any respect for him, his woman doesn't ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts..
Q. I lost my virginity about a month ago. since then, i've had sex about 4 times. the problem is that i have pain during penetration. he can get it all the way in but he is not able to thrust because it hurts me. will this go away or is there something ...
A. 21 March 2012: Its called "vaginasmus". I have it too. Google it.
There is nothing wrong with you. A LOT of women have it, and no one talks about it.
Its a psycological condition. You think the penis is too big so everytime you see one you tense up.
S... (read in full...)
Why wont the guy I'm dating add me to facebook?
Q. The guy im seeing wont add me on facebook. We've been dating 4 months and after our 3rd or 4th date I added him but he didnt accept. I got angry one night and took it up with him and he told me the reason he didnt accept is because it still said he ...
A. 21 March 2012: Please listen to the GUYs on this one. I didn't even have to read your post to know he's playing you. If he liked u he'd make it public. Meantime he'd just like to keep you hidden from the person(s) he's really dating.
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How much time should I give her to get past a death in her family?
Q. I've been dating a woman (46) for 4 weeks when her younger brother suddenly died. She and her family are a mess. She's hardly called or written but when she wrote last, she said she wants me in her life but if I didn't want to wait for her she would ...
A. 19 March 2012: Rather callous, and unfeeling. Ever lost some one in your immediate family?
Look, tell her to contact you when and if she is ready, but honestly for her sake I hope she never is...
And one day, when you lose a parent or a sibling, I hope ... (read in full...)
How can I get completely over my ex?
Q. It's been 2 years since we broke up and i can't get over him.. We were together for almost 2 years.. He was my first love,my first long,serious relationship,he was everything to me,we loved each other,we went abroad to study together,we were there ...
A. 19 March 2012: I love the first answer. I also think that there are some people you never "get over" and you just have to learn to live without. I find that it just takes years... That the sadness just gets easier to live with till you hardly remember it. I have ... (read in full...)
Why does this girl tell me that she masturbates?
Q. Please don't laugh I'm 23 I have a friend. And this girl. She will text me randomly or tell me randomly that she masterbated. Like I'm confused. Why would a girl tell a guy she masterbated? Is that good for me? Or bad that she tells me t...
A. 19 March 2012: My first response is that she is trying to impress / seduce you. It might seem silly but she may really like you.
That, or she thinks that telling this to random people makes her "liberated" somehow... ... (read in full...)
A cologne to turn my girlfriend on?
Q. Hi Guys, This question is for women to answer and men are welcome too :D. Do you know a specific perfume that i can use to turn my girlfriend on and really worked for you? ...
A. 18 March 2012: Wow. This is really sweet :) though the reasoning behind your question says that what one woman likes is what a different woman likes, and that very thinking is one of the biggest most common mistakes guys make :) so, I agree with the first answer. ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me says he cannot accept me in public
Q. Hello all - my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago and this has devastated me. I have been reading all the stuff posted here just to help me going. but no luck, it just drives me nuts. I mean it was almost like marriage and we used to ...
A. 8 October 2009: That F****** B*****D!!! You are so bloody lucky to have him out of your life and all you need is some time to realise it. He wasted four years of your life and should not be allowedto waste another second. Good riddance!!! And you are absolutely ... (read in full...)
Is being too nice the reason why she doesn't like me back?
Q. Hey, Well theres this chick i like we are really good friends anyway although we havent known each other for a long time she says that im the only person who is genuinely nice to her all the time and that she feels im the only person she can b...
A. 8 October 2009: This girl has an incredibly low sense of self esteem and on some level believes that she deserves to be treated this way by this guy. I don't know how much time it will take for her to reliaze otherwise. On the one hand, I praise you for wanting to ... (read in full...)
I'ved moved away from my ex, who repeatedly cheated on me, but I still love and miss him! Help!
Q. I dated guy on and off for 9 monthes.. he cheated on me 8 times.. no matter what he put me through i still can't get over him. i try. i date other guys, nothing works. i love him. he knows that. he just moved to oklahoma and i have no way to c...
A. 24 August 2009: I'm so sorry sweetie! Its natural to want them back as much as you want to kill em. Cheating is a huge rejection. you can't halp but wonder "whats wrong with me" and want him to come back and prove that nothing is. Now is not the time to be dating ... (read in full...)
Had a holiday romance, the guy doesn't seem interested now we're back home, and I can't get over it! What should I do?
Q. Hello all. I am still upset, and grieving after a one week holiday romance that happened 6 weeks ago now. I don;t know what 's the matter with me, but I run it over and over in my head, and miss him so badly, night and day. I tried contacti...
A. 24 August 2009: Here's what's wrong with you : you're human. Thats it. You're a tender, vulnerable human being who has feelings!! and thank God for that. You see, our culture has so trivalised sex and romantic relationships. People these days change partners like ... (read in full...)
I think my fiance is cheating - but I need evidence so he cant deny it!
Q. Hello. I have been in a 5 year relationship with my fiance. We have a home and children together. I am concerned about his behaviour and am 90% sure he is cheating on me. Here are the reasons: 1.He has a gym in his garage around the corner fro...
A. 9 April 2009: You say you don't have evidence and to me the evidence is glaring at you. You poor dear- what a gloomy shit-u-tion you are in. I'm convinced he's cheating. If he is, what are you planning to do re:"future descesions"?... (read in full...)
Getting Over Your Girlfriend's Sexual History: How I Did It
Q. All right, damn it. I've dealt with this stuff in the past and finally got over it. Took me a long, long, long time, but in the end, I did it. However, in my quest for answers, examining my inner thoughts and societal views, talking to both male ...
A. 2 April 2009: Hillarious. Honest. I may not agree with everything you say, but I completely understand. If a woman wants a "man" how can she expect him to act like any thing less? I don't think you're sexist, just a realist.... (read in full...)
I just wish I could tell myself it was a mistake, learn from it, never do it again
Q. I seriously need help, I need real advice. Well, I've been with My boyfriend for almost 5 months and right when We first started going out there was a guy I used to hang out with and he liked me. So of course he wanted to kiss me and he pretty much...
A. 21 March 2009: It's so pointless to torment yourself. And lettting your man know will probably only do damage and hurt him unnecisarily. But you may have to come clean if your concience can't take it. (I don't, however, think this is a good idea- cheating happens ... (read in full...)
I just wish I could tell myself it was a mistake, learn from it, never do it again
Q. I seriously need help, I need real advice. Well, I've been with My boyfriend for almost 5 months and right when We first started going out there was a guy I used to hang out with and he liked me. So of course he wanted to kiss me and he pretty much...
A. 21 March 2009: It's so pointless to torment yourself. And lettting your man know will probably only do damage and hurt him unnecisarily. But you may have to come clean if your concience can't take it. (I don't, however, think this is a good idea- cheating happens ... (read in full...)
I want to take charge of the conversation somehow,but I don't know how
Q. I've been going out (aka - Not yet in a relationship), with this guy for a couple of months. He's really sweet and seems like good boyfriend material but he seems so boring! At first I was overjoyed with how much of a gentleman he is, and didn't mind...
A. 21 March 2009: Dying to know what happened in the end?... (read in full...)
Just ending a long painful relationship
Q. Just ending a long painful relationship where I was verbally Abused and mentally as well. My ex said I was terrible in bed and I couldn't kiss well And said I was boring in bed but he bugged me for sex all The time. So now that the relationshi...
A. 21 March 2009: And the irony is HE'S THE ONE WHO WAS CRAP IN BED!!! How can you not know how the rship is over? he was simply not good enough for you thats how!!! And the bugger has ruined your self esteem- I'd be angry at you for allowing it if I didn't feel so ... (read in full...)
Should I forget ever had a sister to stop the conflict?
Q. A while ago i had posted that my sis phoned me in tears to tell me that her so called 'man' said he wouldnt mind a threesome with me and her. Some guys came back and said it aint a big deal, the thing is its put a strain on my relationship my boyfr...
A. 21 March 2009: It'll all blow over... Everyone involved is blowing this out of proportion.
Except your sister- how the @#$# could he even suggest something like that? I can't believe your dad would even allow him in the house-he's so disrespectful!!
And how... (read in full...)
I miss him like crazy... How long will it take me to get over him?
Q. I ended it with my boyfriend because (even though I'm totally mad about him) the way he treated me was not good enough. He never took me out, or bothered introducing me to his friends. He would take without giving and I don't think he was that into ...
A. 21 March 2009: Read "He's Just Not That Into You" Have a good laugh... Part of your longing for him is probably the fact that you've known him for a while. Bet you didn't expect that kind of behaviour from him... Sorry girl. Its so dissapointing :( All I can say ... (read in full...)
How can I totally forget him?
Q. I'm in a LDR.... just 3 weeks ago I found out that my bf has been cheating with me for the last 3 years so I left him. Right now his with other girl and they are about to get married. I just can't get rid of his memories. It kills me when it comes ...
A. 20 March 2009: *^&$%#$%!!!! )^&@#$@#$!!!! &(#$%@%!@$!!
He really REALLY REALLY SUCKS!!! Good for you!!! He's out of your life. And frankly the best revenge you can get when someone steals your man is to let her keep him!!!!
Who the heck would want to spend th... (read in full...)
Am I a bad girlfriend?
Q. hey, this is gunna be long but i really need the help. see back in 8th grade i dated this guy for a year it was a on-off relationship and then in 9th we had a dance and he didnt go to our school so he couldnt come and 2 of my friends got jealous i ...
A. 29 January 2009: OK- first of all, a bad girlfriend would never even care about whether or not she's bad. Secondly, who ever that "friend" was, get rid of em! I Don't think you're being a bad gf, you're just being a teenager. However the fact that your behaviour is ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm not much of a woman....
Q. I am 42 yrs old and with a man that i dont seem to be able to turn on unless he is drinking .Then it is not good because as soon as he cums its all over the foreplay is gone and the holding is gone and I am very depressed because of the cituation ...
A. 30 December 2008: You have SO got to read "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Brehendt... to hear this from a man's point of view. There's a whole chapter on He's Just Not That Into You if he's always drunk. You are a sexy foxy being worthy of love and you kno... (read in full...)
I am depressed with my sad existance. Do looks improve everything?
Q. i feel life is very unfair the way things are .the goodlooking /cute ,girls get good jobs,good freinds,a fair share of boyfreinds,good exams ,there have figures . goodlooking /cute people are lucky . i try very hard and i get no where.i have no ...
A. 30 December 2008: Well, aren't you just a bag of sunshine and happiness? Isn't that a lovely positive way to talk about yourself? I'm sure that attitude has people banging down your doors...
Do yourself a favour- adjust that attitude. I don't know who lied to you a... (read in full...)
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