Does he regret marrying her and breaking up with me or is he just trying to be nice?
Q. okay so my ex of 16 months that i have a daughter with, him and i broke up 4 months ago he's married to a girl that he had been dating a month they've been married a month. he claims he is over me and has no feelings and that he is really in love ...
A. 7 August 2012: First off he has no license, wrecked her car and got pulled over... I can understand her dropping him off and picking him up. He is trying to buy diapers and things you may need to support you and his child, probably to avoid the legal system as far ... (read in full...)
How could he just abandon someone he has been through everything with? What was he thinking!
Q. Ok here it goes and please no rude comments really looking for a solution not to be bullied. I have known my ex for 11 years. He was my best friend and the guy I always ran to for help. We did date a few years ago but went are seperate ways bu...
A. 7 August 2012: No he cant be there when you need him most. He is not able. He is selfish. He is an addict that has not been able to resolve his addiction through rehab or otherwise. What makes you think he can possibly care and provide for you and a baby when he ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't my boyfriend divorced his ex wife yet?
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship of about four months with a wonderful guy, and it's probably the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. We hardly have cause to fight, we don't live in each others' pockets or see too little of each other and we ...
A. 7 August 2012: Well i hate to give advice because im not sure about the legalities in other countries. I would keep in mind though, if they arent divorced its not his ex wife. Its his wife. So just take caution, maybe you should talk about it over dinner? Maybe ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex still have such power over me?
Q. Dear Cupid, i cut contact with my ex 5 months ago. He was my first seious relationship and he hurt me very badly. Iv bein doin great since i finally cut contact lost weight made new friends, bein happy for the first time n a long time. But i saw ...
A. 6 August 2012: Well its simple. Its easy to cut contact and you dont see him, and when you dont see him the feelings fade with time. But when you see him your feelings get stirred up. You forget why you broke up and long to be with him again even though in reality ... (read in full...)
Will oral sex have prepared me for regular sex?
Q. Basically, im a 19 year old virgin and a guy. I guess in my younger teen years I had low confidence and never got round to getting a serious girlfriend or having sex. Now that im 19 I feel like im missing out and I really, really want to start ha...
A. 6 August 2012: Well how long ago was that? I dont think oral sex would prepare you entirely. Then sensations, for women are quite different and my bf said its different for a man too. If you do find a nice partner or gf, im sure she would understand if you finish ... (read in full...)
Husband will only have sex if we use sex toys
Q. My husband will only have sex using sex toys. He then asks me to masturbate him to relieve him. The problem is I feel like this is unnatural. I mean as a woman, I have to use my imagination and fantasize in order to respond, which means I'm not ...
A. 6 August 2012: Yes, is this new? Or has it always been this way? It sounds like talking to him doesnt help, maybe because he has low self esteem? Im not sure. I think there is more going on, emotional issues with him, or maybe he is used to his hand and cant cum ... (read in full...)
My friend said it was okay to date a guy she also liked but then went to all our other friends and complained! what do I do?
Q. Me and my friend like the same guy. They have been friends for a little while and she has liked him but he never liked her. I recently started hanging out with this girl because of mutual friends and now she is always with me an my "best friends". ...
A. 6 August 2012: You can either choose your friends or your bf. Its simple as that. You also dont know what she actually told your friends, so she could have made it out to be worse than it is. Keep in mind that a true friend would probably come to you before making ... (read in full...)
Am I setting myself up for hurt if I date him? I feel like I'm not good enough for him
Q. Back story: I met this guy last week. We were walking alone in the same direction so we decided to walk together. We had a pretty in-depth conversation. I wouldn't say we hit it off necessarily but we got along pretty well. When we got to where we ...
A. 6 August 2012: I would get to know him more before you decide to date or considerate. Why are you putting yourself down so much? If you both genuinely like or have interest in each other, then whose to say it wouldnt work out based only on status? Sure you may not ... (read in full...)
How did you pick you wedding bands?
Q. Hi! This is a very shallow question but here it is. So, I'm getting married soon. Fiancé and I are going to pick up wedding bands this weekend. We both agreed we like them platinum, but I think I'd rather have it gold, you know, real yellow gold ...
A. 31 July 2012: Im not married yet im engaged, but my fiancee said he wants to do it again because we didnt have a lot of money at the time. Anyways i think you should get what you like. It doesnt have to match as long as it is a symbol for your love. My fh likes ... (read in full...)
I didn't sign on to this marriage for me to be this unhappy and alone!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 26 years, married for 18 years. We did things kinda backwards, had kids, bought a house and then got married. The baby is getting ready to go to college this fall and I have been struggling with what to do ...
A. 30 July 2012: Actually you did sign on to it, remember for better or worse? Well this is worse. Do you two ever go out on date nights? How is your sex life? Why dont you go with him do one of his hobbies then go out for a romantic night. Or plan date nights. ... (read in full...)
What's he on about? Wedding called off, he's moving out, but doesn't want to split !?
Q. Okay...so I'm feeling heartbroken and I don't know where to go from here? My fiance and I have been together for 4 years and we were supposed to be getting married this September. We've lived together for the last 3 years and we bought a new hom...
A. 28 July 2012: Abella and cerberous are right. My bf and i rent a house, its not where we would love to be even though its a nice place, but we are making progress together. Theres no reason the place you live would split you up unless there were other factors ... (read in full...)
Questioning My sexuallity for Years? How can I Know? If I have never been with a girl?
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl. From My Childhood even until now I have really only had a couple male friends and even. Now it's pretty safe to say I don't have any (that are close to me anyway) I remember having crushes on only guys until I was 13 and h...
A. 28 July 2012: Typically if you are attracted to guys now and then but more attracted to girls, you are still bisexual, but i wouldnt classify your sexuality because you dont know. Just be honest if you start a relationship. Say you are interested in women even ... (read in full...)
My feelings for him are strong. His actions indicate he doesn't care. What should I do?
Q. I know i need to split up with my boyfriend, he is constantly out with his friends even though he has no job. We have a child together and when he is out im stuck in the house myself with no one to speak to, it has gotten so bad that it has driv...
A. 28 July 2012: I would suggest counselling. Even if you have medi cal you can go to the county behavior and mental health centers. You have to be strong. If you cant go out with friends cant they come over to your house? Or you to theirs? Maybe have them accompany ... (read in full...)
Now that I'm getting my life back on track, I'm afraid of losing him!
Q. We love each other but are now having problems making it work. I first met my boyfriend in my early teens, i was friends and used to help out his younger sister. We became closer at uni then started a relationship nearly 2 years ago, i had been ...
A. 26 July 2012: Lauren hit the nail on the head. Talk to him, try to make more of an effort to see him if he feels you arent ie invite him to play tennis, maybe ask your friends to do a double date, call him on your lunch break. Hes used to being there for you and ... (read in full...)
Girls who like girls. what are the main attributes that attract you to girls?
Q. Girlies question time...........! Based on personal experiences, have you always had an idea you were a lesbian? I mean I have always known, I didn't go through a teenage curious stage I just took mine with the flow. I just wondered whether you'...
A. 26 July 2012: I had no idea the term pansexual even existed! But after looking it up i have to say im more pan sexual than bi sexual. Learn something new everyday lol. ... (read in full...)
How do you bring up mental illness in a delicate way?
Q. I always thought something was off with my BF until recently when I found out for sure there's something very off. I found tiny, secret cameras hidden in small holes all over our apartment, my mail was opened by him, and I think he records my ...
A. 26 July 2012: Mental illness especially that in schizophrenia can vary greatly. I have known two or three sufferers of this illness. One very mild one more severe, and never were they paranoid to the point of hiding cameras, ect. This doesnot sound like the beha... (read in full...)
I can't afford to pay every time we go out. What's the best way to let her know?
Q. Hi. So I asked someone out and we had dinner and I payed, which I was happy to do. I've asked her out again for a coffee and she said yes. The thing is I just can't afford to pay for her every time we go out. I don't know if she'll be expecting me ...
A. 26 July 2012: Well if you are able to pay for her this time, i would because you asked her out. But next time you want to go out ask her if you could split lunch. You could also do things like cook at eachothers houses. Nothing totally elaborate, but it would be ... (read in full...)
Is it too much fir me to want my wife to wear a little make-up?
Q. I really need advice.I have been maried for 18 years.my question is we have one dissagrement I would really like it if my wife would wear a little mascara, eye shadow and lipstick.Not everyday just like three or four times a year.l love her she is ...
A. 26 July 2012: Well you cant make her wear it if she rly doesnt want to. I dont think you are being unreasonable, why dont you suggest once a year for your birthday she wears make up for you, that can be your gift and you can go out to dinner or do something. Have ... (read in full...)
Does he deserve to be forgiven?
Q. Dear advisors, this is my situation. me and my ex bf were perfectly happy together and i loved him very much and i felt that he did too. at that point we had been going out for one year. he is 26 and i am 21 years old. and at that time we both went ...
A. 26 July 2012: First, have you slept with him since? You wont test positive for hiv until you have had it at least three to six months, but it can take up to a year just for a test to be positve. Its not something you can detect right away. The answer is no he ... (read in full...)
Girls who like girls. what are the main attributes that attract you to girls?
Q. Girlies question time...........! Based on personal experiences, have you always had an idea you were a lesbian? I mean I have always known, I didn't go through a teenage curious stage I just took mine with the flow. I just wondered whether you'...
A. 26 July 2012: Well! Im not lesbian im bisexual. I knew i was attracted to girls at about ten. Because i had urges, but i considered myself bisexual when i slept with a woman and throughly enjoyed it. I like it so much i dont care whether she does anything to me ... (read in full...)
Would it be bad of me if I went away with my friend and told my girlfriend it was a work convention?
Q. I took her away to Florida in June and we are booked to go back next summer. She is going away with her family for a week in August and i was invited but i cannot get the time off work. I was thinking about going away for a week in September with...
A. 25 July 2012: I love cerberus, he tells it like it is! I agree with him and the other aunts/uncles. If she has trust issues why add to them? And if shes pregnant that would not be the time to take a vacation. Cant you go for a day trip with your dude? I havent ... (read in full...)
We broke up. How long will it take him to relent and text me back? He thinks I don't trust him any more
Q. A month ago, my boy friend and I broke up beacuse of a fight we had. Got back as friends and were coming back into our relationship and two weeks ago I went to his place for a movie. I was lying on his chest him cuddling me and everythi...
A. 25 July 2012: Im not trying to be rude, but are you really 22-25? Things got misconstrued for sure, but you probably should have clarified the misunderstanding and talked to him, not his friend. I dont think either of you are mature enough for a relationship if ... (read in full...)
I've known him for years My female friend likes him too. He asked me out. How do we tell my female friend without her getting mad at both of us?
Q. My friend and I both like the same guy. he has known me since the 2nd grade but he has only known her for a couple months. He and I have been talking for a long time and he has liked me for years now and i really like him too. he asked me out...
A. 25 July 2012: I was in a similar situation and my friend was really upset. It was a downer because she couldnt be happy for me. Just went on for weeks about how shes never good enough to be a gf. I felt horrible. But you just have to do it and if you are good ... (read in full...)
I am upset that I am being criticized for my parenting!
Q. My daughter is about to be a year old next week and does not walk nor try to. She just crawls and she goes to the furniture and stands up on it. She was born 2 months premature and her doctor always said that some things she might do a little bit ...
A. 25 July 2012: How rude! My first didnt walk till 13 months. Once he figured out walking was faster within two days he was running. My second didnt walk till he was 14 months he has hip displaysia and has worn a harness 24/7 until he was 8 months. Hes 14 months ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing? He cheated, and he asked me to tell him when I do forgive him?
Q. I found out today that my boyfriend of two years has been skyping another girl, calling her 'sexy', 'love', 'cutie', all things that he calls me, telling her she's 20 times hotter than me, that he'll think of her when he's in bed with me, etc. ...
A. 25 July 2012: Only you know if you feel you have made the right decision, but im glad you stood up for yourself. It sounds to me though, that hes only sorry he got caught and if you said he has had suspicious txts on his phone then he probably has done it before. ... (read in full...)
Could Dylan be the one?
Q. Lately I’ve been thinking about this guy, Dylan. We’d gone out on two dates back in February. It’d ended as quickly as it begun. He’d made it so easy for me to lose interest with all his talk about superheroes and comic books. I didn’t want to date ...
A. 25 July 2012: Well first off wanting to jump each others bones, is purely lust. Peter sounds more like a infatuation. Like you want him now, but you may not if you were with him because you would see his flaws. You dont know them all and they could be somethi... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 25 July 2012: There is far more than just experience, sex is so much more than that. I was like you and lost my virginity because despite being pressured into it, i also wanted to become experienced. I was also never brought up to believe sex was special ... (read in full...)
How do I choose between two loves?
Q. I just broke with my boyfriend of over 3 years about a month ago. He was very afarid of commitment and took me for granted.He would always put me down saying I wasen't skinny enough or I didn't waer enough make up...he is also very wealthy and his ...
A. 25 July 2012: I have to agree with denise. It's too soon. I hate being alone too, but i can honestly say i entered my current relationship too quickly and its taken us 3 years for both of us to become emotionally ready to give each other all of ourselves. W... (read in full...)
Still being judged for an affair 12 years later
Q. 12 yrs ago I had an affair with a married man which resulted in his divorcing his wife and leaving their 3 teenage children. A yr later he and I married and have been happily married ever since. His ex wife continues to call me an adulterer and has ...
A. 28 May 2012: In all honesty there is not much you can do, except take it day by day.Ultimately only the children can choose to forgive you or not. You and their father made a decision years ago that forever changed their lives. Their mother feels robbed of her ... (read in full...)
Who should say sorry first?
Q. I just fought with my bf 2 hours ago. The reason is that, we had a huge pregnancy scare last week. I don't want this kind of fear again so I told him tonite I will show him how a woman's cycle works..this is just to explain to him when I am safe and ...
A. 28 May 2012: It does not matter who says sorry first. If you know you were wrong by saying things out of anger than you appologize, dont worry if he does or not. It was a misunderstanding on his part and you were angry. What i dont understand is why you are ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I apologized for making him angry
Q. I've been seeing a guy for a month or two. He was texting me some weird poetry. All I said was I hope you aren't faking it/ getting it from a book. As he's never said these things face to face to me. Then he cracked it and said its over. I ...
A. 28 May 2012: Yes i am curious too what kind of wierd poetry? You probably bruised his ego a bit. You will find that men when sharing something deep or meaningful and you crack a joke, can get extremely offended, i find at times my bf can be more sensitive than i ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stalks me by using fake FB accounts and it's getting creepy
Q. We've been together since 3 months. The first week we were dating I caught him writing to me from a fake Facebook profile (my friend noticed the profile's page on his Iphone). It was just a smalltalk so I asummed this is normal and wrote some stuff ...
A. 27 May 2012: Honestly if it were me it would scare me i mean going through lengths like that... After only 3mos... And you dont know much about his past. Hes acting like there is something wrong with him. Do you want to be with someone that lies? Especially with ... (read in full...)
Is my jealousy valid over this girl?
Q. I think my boyfriend may like his female friend (FF) He's known her about 6-12 months before me, but never really saw her face to face, until he went to school. He met her in school about 1 month, before meeting me. Here's what he's done: ...
A. 23 May 2012: I do agree that all your points are valid, and if it were me i would be concerned. What concerns me most is what he said to her about when hes around her he feels like she should be his girlfriend. I worry that you will get hurt in the end. Breaking ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance to be back with him or not?
Q. I was with my ex for 2 years and some months. I broke it off in october because I didn't want to be with someone who did drugs and drank, although, he was a really good student and was becoming a border patrol to support both of us while I'm a ...
A. 16 May 2012: Well i would say instead of talking to your friends talk with him about it instead. But i must ask why you would want to go back to someone that drinks and does drugs despite the fact he wants to support you? I mean maybe if he cleaned up his act ... (read in full...)
I'm sure I have many faults in this too, but it seems that I'm the only one who's making an effort to make this marriage work
Q. I'm having trouble with my marriage... My husband has been down in the dumps lately. He's not happy and neither am I. I don't exactly know where the problem lies, but there are a few issues with his job that seem the most likely. See, his job tak...
A. 16 May 2012: That is a difficult situation. But i wonder if he would give me a different side to it. But i agree that it could stem from his job. In all honesty i think you should get a part time job 3days a week at most nothing too strenuous... But that way he ... (read in full...)
Could I just be turned off from my wife?
Q. Hello there. I need some opinion about my really disturbing problem. I have a ED , a few years ago. I went to the doctors, checked everything ,more than once, and Im perfectly healthy. So it does not make sense. But I never think of sex, not with ...
A. 23 April 2012: It could be a change in your hormones, even a healthy man can get ed. You said that you dont think of sex with anyone. I would believe that you were turned off by your wife if you at least had sexual fantasies with other people... But you dont, so i ... (read in full...)
Can abusive men change?
Q. Can abusive men change.. I split from my ex who I know was abusive several months ago, unfortunately I.still have to have contact.as we had children. He has never openly admitted to being abusive.and had blamed me, he had apparently never been ...
A. 23 April 2012: To answer your question if abuisive men can change, the answer is that they can however it takes everything in them to control their rage, often years of counselling, changing their habits and view points. But typically a majority of them say theyve ... (read in full...)
Should I not be selfish and try to be more accomodating or should I tell him feel manipulated and used?
Q. Dating has reached the relationship stage and I'm learning a few things about this guy. He was really nice and fun initially and I get along well with his 14 year old son who lives with him. It just seems to me lately he has such a sense of entit...
A. 23 April 2012: Asking for a ride occassionally is one thing, especially if helps pay for gas... Free loading is definitly another. I would talk to him about it first and express your concerns and feelings. Some people can have this tendancy to take over, they dont ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy who admits to being taken still ask me for naughty pictures and videos?
Q. Why, oh why would anyone who admits to being taken still ask for naughty pictures and videos? I have a male friend who I've known for a year. We met through a mutual friend; and so every time we see each other, we're in a group. Over time this g...
A. 17 April 2012: Because he lacks morale values and well hes an ass to put it simply. No one should do that if they are in a relationship. Also if you do those kinds of things with a man whom you are not committed to he will likely see you as easy and milk you for ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and feeling very alone, to make things worse after I went to my first check-up alone I found flirty texts to another woman! Am I being extra clingy because I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend has a lot of responsibilities. Parents etc. He works hard too. We found out I am pregnant but he doesn't seem to pay any attention to me anyway. When I asked him to spend more time with me after work, he recently questioned me if I ...
A. 17 April 2012: You may hear this a lot and i dont mean to preach, however do you know how many times ive heard its not the right time to have a baby and that they arent ready? Then when the baby is actually there, they realize it was the perfect time? But if you ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my sexless marriage?
Q. Alright, since my last question turned into a "what are you doing?" response page...I'll add more to my question. My wife and I have two sets of twins (11 yo girls, 7 yo boys) and we nearly have a sexless mariagge. She and I met when I was ...
A. 17 April 2012: Okay so i have a few questions for you... Are you just wondering how to cope? Or would you like to try to intiate sex and for your wife to be into it? If you are looking to try to persuade your wife to have sex with you then i would suggest that you ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and feeling very alone, to make things worse after I went to my first check-up alone I found flirty texts to another woman! Am I being extra clingy because I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend has a lot of responsibilities. Parents etc. He works hard too. We found out I am pregnant but he doesn't seem to pay any attention to me anyway. When I asked him to spend more time with me after work, he recently questioned me if I ...
A. 17 April 2012: Youll have to excuse me for posting twice my phone only lets me write so many characters per post and i have more advice. Lastly get the date for your next appointment and invite him tell him you know hes busy but it would mean a lot to you if he ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and feeling very alone, to make things worse after I went to my first check-up alone I found flirty texts to another woman! Am I being extra clingy because I'm pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend has a lot of responsibilities. Parents etc. He works hard too. We found out I am pregnant but he doesn't seem to pay any attention to me anyway. When I asked him to spend more time with me after work, he recently questioned me if I ...
A. 17 April 2012: Its true that pregnancy can make you terribly irrational and things that normally you wouldnt give a second thought to suddenly get under your skin. Its possible you could have twisted his words when he said he needed to go to the gym. But i think ... (read in full...)
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