My long distance boyfriend recently stopped contacting me on Fridays
Q. Hi. I'm in a long distance relationship. I've noticed that for the past 3 Fridays my boyfriend doesn't contact me at all. He contacts me every other day of the week but nothing on Fridays. Even if it's late at night after a long day or if he was ...
A. 8 August 2020: Have you tried being the one to initiate contact? Why don't you contact HIM on Friday, when he doesn't contact you, and just see what happens. If he works all week, perhaps he just wants to "crash and burn" on a Friday night. As someone who works ... (read in full...)
How do I work with a woman who is difficult and has an unwilling attitude?
Q. Hello, This question is not related to love. I’d like to ask your opinion about how to deal with a female co-worker while working from home. I manage HR and Admin. She is the Admin Assistant at one of our offices located in another State. She is r...
A. 7 August 2020: As someone who's been around in the retail and office environment for more years than I want to remember, I have found from experience that the best way to get people "on side" is to befriend them. Be extra nice to them. Go that extra mile for them. ... (read in full...)
Girl I Dated Months Ago Is Gossiping And Trying To Start Nasty Rumours About Me
Q. Well, semi ex gf. We dated and she kept insisting she wanted a relationship though I wasn't sure because she was really flaky and kept cancelling and rescheduling on me, provoking me by telling me how much of a handful she was, insulting me and ...
A. 6 August 2020: Your real friends will know you well enough to know this woman is just trying to smear your reputation. Most of her friends will also probably know she is trouble and will ignore what she says. Just because her friend was listening to her doesn't ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend still have a thing for this woman he was obsessed with?
Q. Hey guys, I had previously post about this topic I am about to discuss further the only difference is that it’s basically a new update, of something I recently found out. So this is the link to my old post, read it so you can remember http://...
A. 6 August 2020: Hm, sounds like YOU are the one who is obsessed here, much more so than your boyfriend.
From personal experience, I know I have sometimes come across things on my computer which I had completely forgotten about because it's been in folders/... (read in full...)
How do I handle these fears without sounding like I’m trying to force his hand?
Q. I have just turned 35 and I’m starting to worry that my time is running out to get married and have children. I’ve been in a relationship for 18 months now with the best guy and we are talking about moving in together within the next few months, but ...
A. 6 August 2020: You've only been together 18 months. I would advise chilling and not pushing it yet. Enjoy getting to know each other better for at least another 6-12 months. By all means plan ahead, but don't make your focus on having a family the soul goal, to ... (read in full...)
My lover and I have wild sex but now I see he's talking to his girlfriend again and wants her back!
Q. So I've been hooking up with a guy for the past 6 months. We get together to have sex. I'm pretty crazy so the sex is wild. He's been enjoying it just as much as I have. He was with his girlfriend at the time and had a 7 year relationship, which I ...
A. 5 August 2020: Because there is more to a real relationship with a future than "wild sex". There needs to be trust, companionship, respect and love for starters. You can't spend all your time in bed.
Also, some men believe women who engage in "wild sex" are... (read in full...)
Why does a wife blame a mistress for his affair, and let her husband off the hook?
Q. I would like to know WHY it is that the wife vilifies the mistress when she finds out her husband cheated on her with the mistress for years? Why does she BLOCK the mistress on social media while taking her husband back and working on the marriage? ...
A. 4 August 2020: Because the wife's main relationship is with the husband, not with the "friend" with whom he has cheated. The husband and wife have history and financial ties, also possibly children. They made vows to each other which included "for better, for ... (read in full...)
I didn't disclose everything that happened and now its too late to tell my boyfriend
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend broke up with me and we were not together for a month (second time spitting up). I thought this was it for good this time. I slept with someone else during this time as did he ... both telling each other. Yet i did also kiss ...
A. 3 August 2020: A relationship of less than a month has already seen two break-ups and you are putting so much thought into it? Why? Neither of you sounds like you are willing to invest any real effort in this relationship. You both rushed off and slept with other ... (read in full...)
My husband said he would slap me if I did that again
Q. Please advise My husband and I went for a hike yesterday with hope we would be able to socially distance. We wore our masks of course. As he was studying the trail map another man (masked) came and stood next to him also wanting to look at the m...
A. 3 August 2020: Do you not think you grossly overreacted and embarrassed your husband? You make it sound like you did absolutely nothing wrong, that all the wrong is on his side. You tried to physically manhandle your husband and you scared a complete stranger with ... (read in full...)
My wife's 50th birthday is coming up and I want a divorce
Q. My wife's 50th birthday is coming up and she wants something special to celebrate it. With the COVID-19 restrictions and all that entails that would prove to be tough anyway, but the reality is that I want a divorce. We have been fighting like ...
A. 1 August 2020: You sound exhausted. Have you actually sat her down and asked her why she is behaving the way she is? (I ask because you don't mention having done this in your post.) She sounds just as unhappy (and frustrated?) as you are. What changed a few months ... (read in full...)
How do I end a lifelong friendship?
Q. How do I break of a life-long “friendship”? You know how they say that you do not choose your family? In my case it works just as well for a friend. Well, let’s call her Anne, is definitely not someone I would have chosen as my friend as an adu...
A. 1 August 2020: How do you end a lifelong friendship? By asking yourself what is most important in your life and then insisting on it. Is keeping your friend happy more important to you than your own peace of mind? Whichever decision you make, it will come with a ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me to lose her virginity. Am I making a big deal out of it?
Q. My girlfriend and I got engaged in February this year(2020), we had been together officially since June 23, 2017. She is a flawless woman with a wonderful soul to match. I came to know her in December, 2016 on a church outing, and I was taken by her ...
A. 31 July 2020: I feel you placed her on such a high narrow pedestal that it was only a matter of time before she stumbled and fell off it. She is not "flawless". She is a human being like the rest of us and, as human beings, we occasionally make bad decisions. To ... (read in full...)
He got a text from someone on a gay site do I bring it up? Or just ghost him?
Q. So I went on a date today having chatted to this guy for over a year. He had told me he’d meet up several times but he was very busy so it kept being put off. I was really surprised when at the weekend he asked “ so ok when we doing drinks?” Anyway ...
A. 29 July 2020: The time to have walked away was months ago, when he kept putting off meeting up. NOBODY is busy for a year. Nobody. He had other things (people) on the go, hence not being bothered about meeting up with you. He's obviously at a loose end, so he has ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my b/f went to see his sister who tested positive for covid. Is it wrong of me to feel upset?
Q. My fiancé went around his sister who has tested positive for covid. It makes me upset that he went around her te help her when she was having an anxiety attack I’ve never had one so I don’t personally know how they are but the fact that he went in ...
A. 29 July 2020: I think the only selfish one here is you actually. If you think panic/anxiety attacks are just a form of attention seeking, you need to educate yourself on mental health. If you or someone you care about ever has one, you will find out just how ... (read in full...)
I don't whether to fight for it or to move on from this relationship
Q. Hello everyone, my ex-gf of 10 years have recently just broken up with me. To be exact she broke up with me July 15th. i will try to make this long story as short as i can. Everything started when she moved down to Oklahoma with her parents in ...
A. 28 July 2020: Oh dear. I hear this time and time again. I've even been part of this story on more than one occasion. Let me tell you one of MY stories so you understand better where your girlfriend is coming from.
I dated a guy for some 12 months who was goin... (read in full...)
Do I expose a cheater?
Q. As i write this down i realise how stupid it all sounds and how much of a massive idiot i’ve been. Just over a year ago i went to a 20 year school reunion, i don’t live in the town anymore but i have a lot of friends there and my parents sti...
A. 28 July 2020: His wife already knows what she married. What she chooses to do with that information is up to her. Remember, she has much more to lose than you so her decisions may be different based on years of marriage to him and the fact they have children ... (read in full...)
Wife and I fight about chores! She says I don't do enough, but I do the same or more!
Q. My wife and I constantly fight about household chores. She says she is "Tired of doing everything!" My response to her is to point about all the things that I do. In our division of chores, she cooks, I do the dishes, I change the cat litter, w...
A. 26 July 2020: It sounds to me like you have two choices: either put up with things the way they are, frustrating as they are, or grow a backbone and stand up to her with a view to getting to the bottom of the real issue here. I mean, what on earth is she doing ... (read in full...)
Why is he mad that I moved on?? When he did not want me.
Q. My ex fiancé left me for someone else two years ago. He always said he wanted to be friends. Recently, him and I connected over Facebook and began a friendship for the past three months. He was nice at first but when I told him out I had a boy...
A. 26 July 2020: Because you were his fallback, his "plan B" and now he no longer has one. He is annoyed that you did not just sit and wait for him.
Good on you for moving on. Trust your gut instinct and don't go back to something which didn't work before, ... (read in full...)
Is my husband and his ex still an item?
Q. Hello and thanks in advance. So I'm married now for 3 years. Just before we were married he had two girlfriends I had no idea but found out two years into our marriage. He acted like it wasn't a big deal. To me it certainly was. I felt bet...
A. 26 July 2020: Well, this is not going to go away, regardless of how much he blusters.
In your shoes I would accept the friend request without telling him and see what the woman has to say. However, if you are going to do this, you need to know what you are ... (read in full...)
I just feel like I'm not as important to him as his drinking buddies and alcohol nights out
Q. My boyfriend is rude to me when he is drunk. Last night he came home at 3am and lay down on the bed fully clothed, lying across my arm and woke me up. I asked him to please move over and he got angry and had a go at me. I had to be up early to go to ...
A. 26 July 2020: Would being alone be worse than the situation in which you find yourself now? Think about it. Being alone does not necessarily mean being lonely. These are two very different things. Why are you so scared of being alone?
You state he is your bes... (read in full...)
My husband shuts me out and thinks his behavior is ok
Q. My husband and I come from two totally different backgrounds. I came from an upbringing of great morals and values, whilst my husband's family has none. Maybe I was blinded by love that I didn't notice. We used to communicate pretty well before we ...
A. 26 July 2020: Just to add: this is another of those posts where I would love to hear your husband's side of the story. ... (read in full...)
My husband shuts me out and thinks his behavior is ok
Q. My husband and I come from two totally different backgrounds. I came from an upbringing of great morals and values, whilst my husband's family has none. Maybe I was blinded by love that I didn't notice. We used to communicate pretty well before we ...
A. 26 July 2020: Being someone who copes with stress and upset in much the same way as your husband - by isolating myself in my metaphorical "cave" until I get through it - I think you two need to acknowledge and appreciate that everyone is different and everyone ... (read in full...)
I know I need to end things and kick my boyfriend out but I don't do it
Q. Hi all, I'm just looking for some relationship advice. I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years. We're both 32. Here is just some background info - 2 and a half years ago, my wonderful grandparents moved into a bungalow as ...
A. 22 July 2020: First of all, my deepest condolences on the loss of your lovely grandfather. If you want to summon up strength to deal with this situation, perhaps you can hold in your mind how sad your grandfather will be feeling, looking down and seeing you being ... (read in full...)
My husband admitted his affair, said it's over but why is he still contacting his mistress?
Q. My husband just admitted to a long term affair. His mistress put a post on Facebook telling everyone about the affair because they had a spat. So my husband decided hearing it from him would be best. I am devastated by this. And I'm struggling to ...
A. 21 July 2020: He's still in contact with her because he is a cheat and a liar, because he believes he can get away with it and because he does not have enough respect for you or your relationship to stay away from his mistress. I am a firm believer in not ... (read in full...)
Should I let my mate's daughter to come to our wedding? I know she will cause trouble
Q. Hi there.. please give me your opinion.. so me and my partner have been together 2 yrs and due to get married in October we have a child each who lives with us (his childrens mother past away) he also has 3 other older children that were took in to ...
A. 21 July 2020: I know you are being selective about who is involved with the planning, but this child (you don't give her age) sounds like she is acting up because she is feeling left out. Is there really no way you can get her involved with "helping" to plan the ... (read in full...)
I feel I ruined a friendship due to my behaviour
Q. I met a guy online dating over a year ago he said he wasnt ready for a relationship. He had been single for a couple of month and realised he was just trying to fill a gap left by his ex.He was only on the site for a month but deleted his account ...
A. 20 July 2020: I suspect you want a lot more from him than friendship. He shouldn't have been on a dating site if he knew he wasn't ready to date. You were not on there looking for friends; you were looking for dates and, with any luck, a relationship.
It's ... (read in full...)
Would it be a good idea to give this relationship another chance, or am I just the rebound girl?
Q. I dated a guy for 1 year. During that time, we never had sex because I was unsure about his intentions, even though he told me that he loved me, so I do realize that some of this is my problem! Towards the end of our year, he began showing interest ...
A. 19 July 2020: What he is saying is "I found someone I thought was better than you. Things didn't work out, so now I am going back to my Plan B, because you are better than nothing". You deserve to be someone's No 1, not their fallback, their safety net, their ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to women?
Q. Hello, I was hoping to get some advice on how to talk to girls. I'm a 28 year old man, unfortunately I've been single all my life. This is probably due to the fact that I have Aspergers. Although it's only 'mild' Aspergers, I've always struggled...
A. 18 July 2020: It seems you are trying to go from a standstill to 100mph in one leap. Little wonder you've scared yourself rigid.
How about starting small and building up gradually. Instead of only being interested in talking to the "pretty" girls, try to speak... (read in full...)
How can I live my life the way I want and still have my parents happy about me, and not keep lying to them all the time?
Q. HI guys, I'm a 22 year old girl. I come from a conservative household, and my parents are very very protective of me. My parents grew up in a conservative house. So they don't believe in dating, no boys allowed, no girl can have guy friends... ...
A. 17 July 2020: The simple answer is, you can't have everything you want. You want to change your parents, to have them be "happy" about your life choices when they are totally different to what they would want for you.
You have two choices: makes your parents ... (read in full...)
How do I stop talking so much?
Q. I talk to much. It is a habit I always had. Any advice on how to break this habit?...
A. 17 July 2020: You are quite the opposite in your writing, ha ha. A bit more information would have been good. Do you mean you talk over people instead of listening to them? Do you mean you tell people more than you intended? Do you mean you talk about yourself ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend in over a month I'm worried
Q. Hi my boyfriend when out of the country last March due to his dad being in COVID-19 we agree to email each other while he is away the recent email I received from him is May 26 which he told he will let me know first when he is coming back and then ...
A. 15 July 2020: I am puzzled why, in this day and age, you would not be in contact via other means of communication. Who in a relationship communicates by email, let alone ONLY email? Why would you not text or phone him?
My gut feeling would be your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Being married but having relationships with others. Has anyone done this? How does it affect your marriage?
Q. Hello, I am a 42 married woman who has started to embark on a sexual journey with my husband. We have an open marriage and tell each other everything. We recently agreed that we both wanted to fulfill our sexual bucket list. His is that he wants...
A. 15 July 2020: With the greatest respect, I think you are on the wrong site for this sort of advice. People on this site tend to believe in the sanctity of marriage and in fidelity. Why can't you and your husband play out your fantasies together?
There are plen... (read in full...)
He's 8 years younger than me and his grandmother told me to tell him to go away
Q. hello my name is Ashley and I really need your help. I am 29 years old with 2 kids and single mom. I met a guy two weeks ago and he is 21. I met him when I went to drop off my kids so his grama can watch them for me and she is the manager to the ...
A. 15 July 2020: Send this child back to his grandma. He is far too immature to get involved with a mother of 2 children. His grandma knows him better than you do. She is trying to protect you. ... (read in full...)
Dating a straight guy who regrets it
Q. So I’ve been sort of seeing this guy and his straight well bi but in denial And everytime we get in the deep at the end he says it’s wrong and it shouldn’t happen. His single but had loads of girlfriends. We have great chemistry and both just wa...
A. 15 July 2020: Depends how badly you want to get hurt, I guess. When someone says things like "it shouldn't happen" and "it's wrong", then you need to listen and consider the implications. It is not up to you to decide for him whether he is in denial or not. ... (read in full...)
My partner's parents live 5 minutes from us. They promised to be there for us but they never are
Q. Hey y'all. I dont know how im to put this without sounding like a hag. When i met my fiancé i had 2 kids in tow. We had one of our own a few years later. During the pregnancy his mom was pretty supportive she reassured me that she would be a ...
A. 15 July 2020: All families are different and it sounds like you are closer to your family than your husband is to his. Also it is not unusual for mothers to help daughters out more than sons, as they usually accept/expect the female in the relationship to get ... (read in full...)
My heart is breaking, time for me to move on?
Q. I need help to move on from a past love interest. I have known a man who is 48 years old for 6 years from my walking group. I am in my 30s, I'm shy but am still able to interact with him. He is also reserved but popular with people in the group the ...
A. 15 July 2020: Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear. Each time you post you say the same things, get the same advice and still fail to move on.
Saying "I still hold on because I don’t think I could ever deal with not seeing him ever again" is the relationship/ marriage... (read in full...)
We had a disagreement and now he's not texting me
Q. Hi I have a very new thing going on for 2 weeks to early to call it a relationship we had a little disagreement over something silly just over a week ago now he’s gone very strange on me not texting me hardly only if I have text him which has only ...
A. 13 July 2020: A question for you: is this how you want to live life? Do you want to spend your time apologizing after every little disagreement, walking on eggshells so as not to upset your boyfriend?
From experience I have learned that, when someone tells yo... (read in full...)
Is it normal to spend every minute of every day together?
Q. Hello. I hope all is well. I’ve been dating this guy I met at school for five months and this is my first real relationship. I just have a question since I don’t have much relationship / dating / experience. Is it normal to spend every minute of ...
A. 13 July 2020: If your relationship isn't making you happy, then what is the point in being in it?
I dislike the word "normal" because use of this word makes it sound like other ways of behaving a wrong in some way, whereas everyone is different. People "... (read in full...)
I told him I would leave if I caught him doing drugs. Its happened again but I don't want to confront him
Q. When I first met this guy, I knew he did hardcore drugs, but he just up and gave it up for me. We've been together almost 7 years now, and yesterday was the 3rd time he accidentally left a syringe laying around in his stuff, I was not going through ...
A. 11 July 2020: You now know he loves the drugs more than he loves you. There is absolutely no point in giving him ultimatums if you are not going to carry them out. You may as well just say "carry on using the drugs because, although I don't like it, I will just ... (read in full...)
I am bigger than my partner and being on top is uncomfortable for me. Any suggestions?
Q. So I am physically the bigger bodied one in the relationship, I weigh a lot more than he does, and when it comes to having sex, me being on top is out of the question for me, I have got on top in the past but I am just completely uncomfortable, for ...
A. 11 July 2020: How about using a chair?... (read in full...)
I don't have friends and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere
Q. I didn't know where to go to ask this question. I go onto many forum sites but no one answers correctly, I needed some advice and wisdom from the lovely users on here who have consistently helped me with my relationship problems xox I'm not sure i...
A. 11 July 2020: I am sorry you are feeling like this.
The phrase which jumped out at me from your post was "I go onto many forum sites but no one answers correctly". This sounds like you are looking for a specific answer, like you have already decided what the... (read in full...)
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