How can I learn how to orgasm? Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I have read the other questions related to this on the website but I am still slightly confused. Does a woman have to learn how to orgasm? I am 17 and have never experienced an orgasm, and I'm worried there is something wrong. Other girls I sp...
A. 19 April 2008: I think I'm going to have to break it to you that your friends are lying or exaggerating.
Very few women orgasm during actual sex.
I had the same problem with my first boyfriend. The thing is that every time we started doing something I woul... (read in full...)
Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a bad or good thing?
Q. Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a good or a bad thing? Sure you don't feel like it so why shouldn't you say no? But is that the sort of way you'd like your partner to treat you when you're the one wanting it? Personally if ...
A. 19 April 2008: That is good to know. Using the old testament as an argument gave me the wrong impression.
If she is refusing to even speak about it then you may have a problem.
Sit her down when you are calm and relaxed and tell her you need to know what is ... (read in full...)
Please help me help my sister!
Q. Heya. My sister, Steph (16) met a guy on the net last may, and she is obsessed with him and wants to meet him! Im really worried that he will turn out to be someone other than what he is saying he is! Please help me help my sister!!!!!!!!!!!!! ...
A. 19 April 2008: London is very far away and if she gets in trouble so far from home she could have a real problem.
I think you need to talk to her about her plans and try and convince her it's stupid to go alone.
If she can't take someone with her then she jus... (read in full...)
How much is too much for a blowjob to be given in one night?
Q. How much is too much for a blowjob to be given in one night? I gave the guy I was seeing 3 times in 1 night because I caved in to his demand. He was moaning and I was turned on although I don't really enjoy putting his penis in my mouth. But I ...
A. 19 April 2008: As long as you are happy then nothing is too much.
Why not give a blow job as part of foreplay. That way you get brownie points for doing it, and when you get bored or your jaw aches you can move on to sex.
Win Win.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do you think I've hurt his feelings by backing off from the relationship?
Q. I recently told the guy I've been dating for 2 months that I wanted to stop seeing him for the time being. We got really intimate(but no intercourse) on the last date. Frankly he wanted more but I was not ready so we only masturbated each other. Do ...
A. 19 April 2008: You told him you wanted to stop seeing him, so of course he is going to think that is because of something he did or because you don't like him. He's going to be hurt.
You asked for space and he's giving you space.
It's up to you to get back ... (read in full...)
Do I stay or do I go?
Q. recently i met a lad who is afew months younger than me i am 18 and he is 17 wel he turns 18 this week we met in a pub i gave him my number and we arranged to meet up we met up and i really liked him we started goin out and then he finished with me ...
A. 19 April 2008: I believe you have to be selfish and do the thing that is best for you.
This guy has said he's not interested in taking this relationship seriously and now he's annoyed at you and his friends aren't going to like you that much.
Go to Spain w... (read in full...)
Please help me help my sister!
Q. Heya. My sister, Steph (16) met a guy on the net last may, and she is obsessed with him and wants to meet him! Im really worried that he will turn out to be someone other than what he is saying he is! Please help me help my sister!!!!!!!!!!!!! ...
A. 19 April 2008: Meeting someone off the net is fine as long as you follow rules.
1. Meet in a public place in a shopping centre.
2. She should take you or some other friends with you, even they stand back and watch from a distance.
3. She shouldn't go any... (read in full...)
I'm stuck having feelings for 2 very different guys with different feelings for both...Do I go for mental or physical attraction?
Q. I'm stuck having feelings for 2 very different guys with different feelings for both... I was with my ex boyfriend for a year, lived together, the relationship was more based around me being attracted to his personality than looks, and we ha...
A. 19 April 2008: I had an amazing mental connection with my first boyfriend, but not much of a physical one so I know exactly where you are coming from.
When we split up I thought I'd never find that connection again.
But my advice to you is this. You can ha... (read in full...)
He's moody and blunt, does this mean he's not serious about me?
Q. hi, ok me an my bf have been daten for 4 months now it been great ive been so happy but l8y he has been so moody an very blunt towards me, i thought it was because im always there so thought i would go home for a few nights but then he spits it... ...
A. 18 April 2008: Leave him alone for a few days. Tell him if he needs to talk then he has your number.
He might come back and apologise, he might be having a personal problem.
However he might just be being a jerk and not come back. In which case just tell h... (read in full...)
I want him to find a girl already so he won't like her and come back! How long should I wait?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. Recently, he decided that he needed to break up with me to date other people. I'm sad that this has to happen but I do agree that he needs to go out there and date (as much as it would hurt ...
A. 18 April 2008: Don't wait for him. How dare he tell you that he wants to go off and have some fun, but will come back to you if he can't find anything better?
Move on yourself. Stop spending so much time with him so you can get distance and let your feelings... (read in full...)
How not to appeal to their interests and have them see me as a mere friend?
Q. I don't consider myself to be all that attractive, but obviously some people are attracted to me. How do i not appeal to men. I'm the kind of person who get's along better with males than females and I assosciate in a crowd that is heavily male ...
A. 18 April 2008: Guys will always try it on with you if you are a cool girl. I spend all day on here trying to convince little teenage girls not to starve / cut themselves because it's personality and confidence that is the most attractive thing of all.
Why n... (read in full...)
Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a bad or good thing?
Q. Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a good or a bad thing? Sure you don't feel like it so why shouldn't you say no? But is that the sort of way you'd like your partner to treat you when you're the one wanting it? Personally if ...
A. 18 April 2008: If she doesn't want to have sex then she shouldn't have to.
If you don't want sex then you shouldn't have to. The whole thing of HAVING to satisfy your husband is old fashioned and wrong.
I got married because I wanted to spend my life with one... (read in full...)
He says he hasn't cheated on me or met with anyone. what do you think?
Q. What should I do. I have been married for 14 Years. We dated two years before we got married.Well last year my husband started acting weird. It all started when we switched cell phone companies. He started playing games on his phone. Then he decides ...
A. 18 April 2008: Tell him to move out.
If he is innocent then he will do anything you say to get back with you. If he is guilty then he will go and not come back, and good riddance.
Do you think it is good for your kids to watch their parents act this way to ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, he is cheating , he is denying the baby and I am stressed out of my mind.
Q. I am 24 and 5 months pregnant,i have dated my boyfriend for 5 years.on our 3rd year together he accused me of sleeping with his friend, he would not listen and he did not believe me when i told him that we did not have sex. then last year he accused ...
A. 18 April 2008: Kick him out. Put a bolt on the door so he cannot get back in.
Then call one of your friends and tell them what has happened. You cannot hide behind pride and there is no shame on you. It is his problem.
Ignore him for now and get your friends... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have relationship with my aunts ex husband?
Q. is it wrong to start an extra marital relationship with my aunts ex husband? is he still legally classed as my uncle?...
A. 18 April 2008: Legally he is nothing to you.
However, it will cause major problems within your family. It will hurt your aunty.
Is this guy really worth that?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I can't erect when with my girlfriend please help!
Q. so this just started like 2 weeks ago. now i never had a problem getting rock hard before and i can get hard to beat off but just not when we wana have sex. i dont know why or whats wrong. if i watch porn it goes right up and everythings ok but with ...
A. 18 April 2008: I don't think you should look at porn when you have girlfriend unless she knows about it and is comfortable with it.
I don't think at 16-17 you need to see a doctor.
I think it's more likely that you love her a lot and therefore get ne... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant by injecting sperm?
Q. I am just wondering the possibilities of getting pregnant by putting sperm in yourself around your ovulation... My girlfriend and I want a baby.. we are trying to take the cheap way my brother is donating the sperm.....
A. 18 April 2008: Turkey basters do work.
I must admit the way you wrote it, it did sound like you were the one trying to get pregnant with your brother, but I read your follow up below so I'm glad that is cleared up haha.
I disagree STRONGLY with Madflash an... (read in full...)
What should I do?? Desperate for advice.
Q. I am 16 and a sophomore in High School. I am absolutley madly in love with my World Studies teacher. He's married and has two kids. I think he is about 38. At the beginning of the year I didn't really have feelings for him. Then, I started to ...
A. 18 April 2008: I think Awesome is right.
He has probably noticed / found out about your crush.
If he doesn't handle this right he could get sacked or lose his marriage. It could ruin his life.
If he's choosing to ignore and avoid you then it's his choice... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to meet girls or go up to girls in normal places ie clubs, bars, etc for a threesome
Q. I need advice on how to meet girls or go up to girls in normal places ie clubs, bars, etc for a threesome?? I know there are books written giving guides or opener lines to use, tips, strategies etc. But wondering if anyone has any suggestions or ...
A. 18 April 2008: I know you don't want to use dating sites....
But why not advertise on somewhere like Gumtree.com.
You will find it really hard/impossible to find someone in a pub / club who's up for no strings Bi-sexual fun who you both fancy enough to do it.... (read in full...)
I need advice on tonghts date with my friend
Q. I am really nervous bout tonight. I have a friend comming over for a nice dinner and a move.this is a big thing, because she lives bout an hour from me. At first i didnt think anything bout it, just two friends having dinner and a movie. I joked on ...
A. 18 April 2008: Just act like you normally do. Be her friend and get to know her more.
If there is chemistry between you then you will be able to tell, you will flirt and it will all be good.
Just relax and be yourself.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could he be trying to split us by telling my bf that I kissed him?
Q. Sorry this is going to be long and complicated but i really need some advice. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we are very happy together, i love him so much. The problem is his friend kissed me recently, i pulled back straight aw...
A. 18 April 2008: Tell your boyfriend this guy tried to kiss you. I assume he knows this guy was being weird with you at the start of your relationship.
Tell him exactly what happened from the start and tell him you don't want this guy to be in your life any more... (read in full...)
His ex saying bad things about me while I was away broke us up, now she is back with him again, what do I do?
Q. I was dating this guy for 9 months, i went on holiday over the christmas period and his exgirlfrind kept calling him and telling him i was seing someone else, i found out she was calling him so i kept asking him questions i became paranoid, we broke ...
A. 18 April 2008: Get over him and move on.
The fact he couldn't even stay faithful while you were on holiday tells me that you were out of sight and out of mind.
That is not real love, that's just convenience.
He's shown that he is not worthy of you. You a... (read in full...)
He's giving me mixed messages-Should I leave him alone or am I overreacting?
Q. I met this really nice guy at a company party 2 1/2 months ago. We got along very good, and things seemed nice. We went on our first date to a nice restaurant, and after went back to his apartment and ended up having sex. Since then, we have been ...
A. 18 April 2008: Set up a date on a day you know you are both free, as soon as possible.
This is his last chance, but don't tell him that.
If he makes an excuse not to come then tell him that's fine and then cut contact. Move on and find a new guy.
Don't ha... (read in full...)
How do I avoid having sex with him?
Q. Please help. So I'm going to this guy I'm dating's house today for lunch. The thing is 2 weeks ago we hung out at his place and we had sex. We used to date about 2 years ago and we stopped talking and now we met up again (about 2 months ago). I ...
A. 18 April 2008: Meet him, have a great time, and if he makes a move then tell him straight.
Tell him because of your history you want to take things slowly. If he's fine that is a good sign, if he's strange with you then ask yourself what he's after.
Don't a... (read in full...)
Why do some married men think it is ok to watch porn?
Q. Why do some married men think it is ok to watch porn? I dont see how that is respecting their vow to forsake all others and cherish their wives...Im not religious but believe in commitment in marriage. If I share my body with a man I fee that is a ...
A. 18 April 2008: It depends on the man and the women. Some men think it is ok, some women don't care as they know men see women in different ways.
Personally I would be gutted if my husband looked at porn, but if you know someone well enough to marry them surely y... (read in full...)
Her parents beat her to stop her seeing me. How do I get her back?
Q. hey all, first of all m very impressed abt dis awsome site , in which we can share our feelings to others, that a hope of mine that u may help me , come 2 the point i had a gf and al things going well wid both of us , one day she said me tht "her...
A. 17 April 2008: Forced marriage and beating your kids is illegal in the UK.
Tell her to ring 999.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What can I do or say without offending my mother in law, so that she stops mentioning my BF's ex??
Q. Hello well i need help i live with my boyfriend of 5 years and we have a 2 year old well my mother in law always brings up my boyfriends ex girlfriend i ask myself why????? well the thing is she asks me questions about her like if i were to know for...
A. 17 April 2008: Whenever she brings up the ex, just say "that's nice" and don't say anything else. Then change the subject.
She'll soon get the hint.
Just to give you a hint as to why she could be like this... if this ex was your boyfriend's first real girlf... (read in full...)
I see my teacher as a regular man with feelings so I don't idealize him. Should I wait to tell him my feelings?
Q. hey i know this is the usual because many girls post this but im 17 and in 11th grade in love with my History teacher (30).... this all started 31/2 years ago....in 9th i would just see him teach lessons in his room....and i thought about nothing ...
A. 17 April 2008: It might ruin his career if he started seeing a student.
Would you employ a teacher who might come on to the kids?
Wait till you have left school, then email him about your feelings.
If you really love him you can wait a year or two. If i... (read in full...)
Love Triangle! Am I living in a fantasy?
Q. The backdrop is....8 years ago I was in a relationship with a woman (I'm a woman) we were togther for about three years and then she dumped me to get married to a man. Now, fast forward...this love of my life looked me up about four months ago, now ...
A. 17 April 2008: Yes she treats you like she loves you because it's fun. But she has told you there is no future here.
The fact you want more will mean that you will get hurt more the longer you let it happen.
Cut it off now for your own sake. Do you really th... (read in full...)
Feeling very unconfortable about an incident with my Mom
Q. Hi I am a virgin in my early twenties.My problem is I am obsessed about a past incident. That was the time when there was whitewashing going in our house.The whole furniture was accomodated in one room with family sleeping in that roomonl...
A. 17 April 2008: Your mum wiped your bum, changed your nappies and bathed you. She probably still sees you as her little boy so her hugging you is nothing.
The fact your bits touched her when she was asleep is nothing.
Forget it and get some new things in yo... (read in full...)
How do I get my self confidence back after what he said to me?
Q. i have been dating this guy for 6 months and he had a girlfriend and never told me about her in the first 3 months in our relationship.We carried on after I've found out that he made the girl pregnant. he was very much jealous of me talking to other ...
A. 17 April 2008: What an idiot.
Yes you were a bit stupid for not walking out on him the moment that you realised he had a girlfriend, or the moment when he became possessive and weird.
But you have learned not to do it again.
Hold your head up high. This ... (read in full...)
I am getting sore. Any suggestions?
Q. I've been masturbating about once a day lately. I didn't use to do it so frequently. Now I'm getting a bit sore down there and my arms are aching as if I've just finished a session at the gym. I can't control. Any advice?...
A. 17 April 2008: Hmm, not sure, maybe it's the way you are holding your arms. If it's an awkward position your muscles could get sore.
Why not stop for a while and see if it gets better.
I wouldn't worry too much.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My heart is broken into little bits and he wont take responsibility
Q. I apologize that this is very long, i feel i need to explain the events, please if you could, just give me some insight: Our 1 year anniversary would have been next week. I met him, and fell for him right away, he always told me he always knew w...
A. 17 April 2008: This is not going to work. Too much bad stuff had happened. You have to accept that.
Email him and say you realise this is not going to work so you are moving on. Tell him goodbye and leave it at that. No explanations, nothing he has to reply to... (read in full...)
My partner of 4 years has been cheating on me. Can we overcome this betrayal together?
Q. I need some advice, I have just recently found out that my partner of 4 years had been cheating on me, it wasn't an complete shock as I had suspected he was up to no good for a while now. The truth was a lot worse than I had ever expected, and now ...
A. 17 April 2008: Very few men change. And he won't change if you don't make him.
Kick him out and let him know this must never happen again. If you forgive him too easily then he will know he can do what he wants and you'll forgive him.
Find out why he did i... (read in full...)
How do I kiss my boyfriend without bumping teeth?
Q. HI :-) Sorry if i sound really stupid but i recently got my first boyfriend. I really want to kiss him properly but i'm really bad at it and keep bumping teeth! How do i do it right?? xx...
A. 17 April 2008: Push your lips forward so your teeth aren't at the front. Don't open your mouth so wide so you have control.
Many boys think it's all about eating your face off and it's not.
Keep practising!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Love Triangle! Am I living in a fantasy?
Q. The backdrop is....8 years ago I was in a relationship with a woman (I'm a woman) we were togther for about three years and then she dumped me to get married to a man. Now, fast forward...this love of my life looked me up about four months ago, now ...
A. 17 April 2008: She's got everything she wants and she has been open with you. She's going to marry her bf and doesn't want a relationship with you.
She's going to use you then drop you and you are going to be really hurt.
Cut contact with her and be strong. M... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to return the sexual favors?
Q. OK it has been like forever since i came here but i'm back. alrite i'll try n make this as short and uncomplicated as i can. I have ben dating "Katie" for about two mnts now, i am also a female we both are 15 yrs old. i love her very dearly,...
A. 17 April 2008: If you are her first girl then she may not know what to do?
Next time you are doing something to her, take her hand and put it on you, guide it to where you want it and leave her to explore.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I wake up thinking about my ex. What does this mean and what can I do about it?
Q. I keep waking up thinking of my ex girlfriend of about 6 months ago. We were together on and off for five and a half years. I think I'm still harbouring feelings for her. What could this mean and what can I do to address these thoughts of someone ...
A. 17 April 2008: It might mean nothing it might mean you want to get in touch with her and see if she wants to give it another go.
Only you can know how you feel.
Give her a ring and see how she is doing.
You might remember how much you liked her or you mig... (read in full...)
Her parents beat her to stop her seeing me. How do I get her back?
Q. hey all, first of all m very impressed abt dis awsome site , in which we can share our feelings to others, that a hope of mine that u may help me , come 2 the point i had a gf and al things going well wid both of us , one day she said me tht "her...
A. 17 April 2008: Is forced marriage illegal where she lives? Report it to the police.
If she is not prepared to run away to live with you then there is not a lot you can do.
Talk to your parents and get their advice.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Our first 'date' istoday! I need some advice fast!
Q. im seeing this girl today.. We are friends but i want us to be more then that.. And i think she wants to be more too!! We are seeing each other later today.. Our first official date.. Or not a date but we made arrangements to see eacg other.. At her ...
A. 17 April 2008: Be yourself. Talk to her about her and yourself, get to know what she likes and dislikes.
Really listen to her and get to know each other.
Don't pretend to be anything you are not.
Don't be scared it will all be ok.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my best friend! She's now engaged so I need advice!
Q. Hi. As the title states, i've really fallen in love with my best friend but she is engaged and i have no idea what i should do next! A little information.... I have known this girl for just under 2 years now. She's only a year older then me....
A. 17 April 2008: You aren't thinking about it from his point of view at all. How would you feel if you were going to marry someone, spend the rest of your life with them, and then they got close to someone else. This other guy refused to meet you and was constantly ... (read in full...)
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