I'm so worried he doesn't really love me now. Is it me?
Q. i am generally a very pesemistic person and ive been with my boyfriend now for a 19 months and i love him to pieces. he has watched me go through a really depressed anti social stage, hes always stayed around when i push him away when im stressed ...
A. 1 May 2008: He asked you if it was ok and you said yes?
The guy is not psychic. You could easily have said "well not really, you never spend time with me any more. Go out if you want to but I want more time with you."
Tell him how you feel, don't expe... (read in full...)
He is unappreciative and seems to call only when he needs me - why do I feel I can be so easily swayed by him?
Q. Ughhh ok I am so frustrated... it honestly is an emotional roller coaster with this guy.. I talked about him earlier and I honestly thought it would be over with him- what with him not calling and all- so last night I get a call from him saying he's ...
A. 29 April 2008: Because you are an idiot!
What did you expect to happen? This guy rings you because he knows you are too soft and will come running to him.
Don't.
You've been foolish and you've paid the price. Learn from this and don't do it again. If he... (read in full...)
Was he cheating in the photo?
Q. Just seen a photo on bebo of my boyfriend on a nite out with his friends. In the photo he has a girl (his friends friend - to him a stranger) wrapped around his neck - both her arms locked around the back of his neck and his arm around the back of ...
A. 29 April 2008: Woo lets take a photo, everyone squeeze in close and smile!!!
Click.
There are loads of photos of me with my arms around my friends, mostly for balance because we are squeezed in around a sofa or a table. I don't think anything of hugging my ma... (read in full...)
I'm so worried he doesn't really love me now. Is it me?
Q. i am generally a very pesemistic person and ive been with my boyfriend now for a 19 months and i love him to pieces. he has watched me go through a really depressed anti social stage, hes always stayed around when i push him away when im stressed ...
A. 29 April 2008: Could it be that when you were going through your down stage he was there for you so much, that now you are happy and in uni and sorted out he feels he can relax and see his friends?
Leave him to it and don't worry about him. Besides you are at u... (read in full...)
My friends have turned against me for apparently no reason! I've no one to turn to, any advice?
Q. I feel so alone. Most of my friends left school and didnt stay on at college. The ones that have, have suddenly turned against me for no reason at all.I have no-one to turn to. ...
A. 29 April 2008: You give so little information that it's not easy to advise you.
Could you not speak to any of them and find out why everyone seems to have suddenly changed?
Does your college have any clubs or groups you could join? That is always a good wa... (read in full...)
Should I ask him how things are going with his new girlfriend? I've heard they've not been getting along well...
Q. Hi, my ex has been dating this other girl for a few months now, but recently they have been arguing a lot and last week he told one of my best friends that he didnt know what to do or how to feel, he said he didnt want to speak to me because he ...
A. 29 April 2008: Don't speak to him.
If they are having problems, and his Ex turns up it could make them break up, BUT he could blame you for the break up and it would mean he has 2 Ex's with huge amounts of bad feeling and he may decide it's not worth the hass... (read in full...)
I'm so confused, I've been surpressing my feelings for my co-worker, but since we kissed, my feelings are back!
Q. I work with the most gorgeous man I have ever known, and I don't just meant physically. He is is just a wonderful person. I get butterflies when he talks to me and when we sit down to lunch together we always just click with eachother. We're good ...
A. 29 April 2008: Tell him that although the kiss shouldn't have happened you really wanted it to.
But then tell him you can't see him while he has a girlfriend because it is not fair on her. Tell him you really think you could be great together but that he has t... (read in full...)
Is it possible for her to disconnect from our relationship without her cheating on me?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 7 years and together since highschool for a total of being exclusive to each other for 13 years. We have two gorgeous children, my little girl is 3 and my precious son just turned 1. 7 months or so after my son ...
A. 29 April 2008: No she is not cheating, you jumped to that conclusion because she said she was unhappy.
Is it that you wanted to blame someone?
There is no evidence that she has cheated. She gave you all her passwords without you even asking. Her email to a m... (read in full...)
The teahcer says I will fail my medic school exam..and I'm scared he's right!
Q. i am in med school and today was my oral exam where i had to do some practical stuff in front of the respective teacher and then answer questions..i kinda screwed up in my oral exam and practical although i worked really really hard.i left out the ...
A. 29 April 2008: He didn't tell you that you ARE going to fail, he told you that if you repeat that performance and leave out the basics again that you will fail.
He told you to give you a kick up the arse.
Hit the books, make a list of everything basic... (read in full...)
Should I get back with him or better to forget about him because he is going to the army?
Q. how do i kno if my ex-boyfriend still likes me?? well my exboyfriend is 17 and im 14, he broke up with me 3 weeks ago, and we went out for about 3 weeks. the reason why he broke up with me was because he is going to the army. but i still have ...
A. 29 April 2008: Being an army girlfriend is the hardest thing in the world. Trust me on this I'm an army wife.
When they first join up they get sent off for basic training which is basically getting beaten down and built up again for 12 weeks. He'll be a changed ... (read in full...)
Difference between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits and what do you think of the whole thing?
Q. My friends and I were talking and she said she had "a friend with benefits". I said "So you have a fuck buddy?" And she said, they were different things? Cant someone explain the difference to me between a fuck buddy and a friend with benefits ...
A. 29 April 2008: Eh? As far as I knew they were the same. There are no dictionary definitions on this kind of thing so you'll need to ask her what she is on about.
I prefer the term friends with benefits to be honest as it doesn't contain swearing.
As to w... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel jealous that this one girl keeps calling my bf or he keeps calling her?
Q. we've been dating for just about 7 months now and well...I can't help but feel jealous that this one girl keeps calling my bf or he keeps calling her. He knows that I don't like him hanging out with her and talking to her. I've talked to him many...
A. 29 April 2008: You've made it pretty clear that him seeing this girl upsets you. He's carried on seeing her and that to me says he doesn't care about your feelings.
The whole "you're prettier than her" thing is so stupid I could slap him. He has a close connecti... (read in full...)
Worried he may have taken my answer as an inexorable NO! I'm willing to compromise, but how to do it without leading him on too far?
Q. i'm not very experienced when it comes to boys, i told my boyfriend that i'm not ready for sex and he respects that. But by saying this, i think he may of taken it as though i don't want to do anything at all, which i do. i'm off back to his this ...
A. 28 April 2008: You are in control of this, and he will be respectful of that if he cares about you.
Next time you are alone and you are kissing simply put his hands n your bum or on your chest. You can always move it again if it wanders anywhere too far.
... (read in full...)
I was agitated at the fact that he told me to fructify my opportunity abroad without him! I wouldn't have ever considered leaving him anyway! What do you think?
Q. I am in a HUGE dilema. I'll try to keep this as short as possible... I have been with my boyfriend 3 years. We initally had a rocky relationship, but now everything is perfect, and i've never stopped loving him. Everything is great. I rece...
A. 28 April 2008: You are obviously a bright intelligent young woman so you should be able to work out that Belfast and Newcastle are not on opposite sides of the world.
Plenty of couples take time apart for the sake of their careers.
Your degree won't be ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me jealous? Does he like me? I'm really confused!
Q. I really like a guy in my year at college we are both 18. im not sure if he feels the same i am getting mixed signals, one time he defended me from someone who was about to hurt me and then says "if he had touched you i would have punched him!" then ...
A. 28 April 2008: It sounds like he's a nice guy and well worth having as a friend.
As to whether he likes you, why wait for him to make a move?
Ask him out to see a film with you. It doesn't have to be a date but could end up very romantic if you let it.
S... (read in full...)
Why would he get mad over something so stupid?
Q. ok, so i used to talk to this guy and we just recently. stopped talking. Might i add that i did not do anything wrong, he stopped talkin 2 me two be with someone else and then he called me back..but i felt like i was being used so i told him that i ...
A. 28 April 2008: Because he's stupid.
There are obviously a lot of feelings here on both sides. Just leave him to his stupid life and move on to someone grown up.
Telling someone they are childish and then storming off and not talking to them is something yo... (read in full...)
Husband watches porn, no matter how I dress or what I do sexually I cannot receive his attention!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 5 years this summer, but together for 7 and we have 3 and one on the way. He wont quit looking at the porn and he has even saved pics of these women on his side and added them as an avatar on a game he plays. ...
A. 28 April 2008: This guy tells you openly that he does not care how you feel.
So you can either stay with him and be a doormat, or you can leave. There is no way to magically make him a caring wonderful guy.
Go to your doctor and get help about your feeli... (read in full...)
This girl keeps contacting my husband! How can I get it to stop?
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 6 years and this year i found out that he had been talking to a girl for about 6 months. He says nothing hapened and so does she, but now she wont stop calling him and i am scared that as soon as i let my ...
A. 28 April 2008: You talk to him and ask him to cut contact with this girl.
Once he agrees then you leave him to it and trust him.
You can't wade in and stop them speaking. You are his wife not his prison guard.
I would stop trying to treat the symptom (hi... (read in full...)
Can casual sex end up as the real thing?
Q. Has anyone had a FWB relationship which has ended up as the real thing?...
A. 28 April 2008: In my opinion no.
And when one person in a sex-friends relationship suddenly starts having feelings they usually get very hurt.
Break it off now and then if it is meant to be you can start again and date.
Good Luck!! xx
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My fiancee wants me to forgive him and accept his baby with another girl!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we are engaged and he is with me everyday, never spent a night away apart from 3 times in the whole 2 years to work. The last time he went away was January and I have just found out he got a girl pregnant. ...
A. 28 April 2008: The fact that you never spend any time appart says to me that you don't know if this relationship is real.
It's never been tested, you have no idea if you would cope well with problems in the long term.
The fact that it only took a few hours... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I didn't get pregnant with unprotected sex
Q. how come ive bin having unprotected sex and i havent fell pregnant. i havent bin tryin but it still worries me a bit that i havent...
A. 28 April 2008: You've been lucky. It could have been the wrong time of the month or it could have been with infirtile guys.
You sound very young so if you don't want a baby then get yourself on the pill or the implant.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My ex is now back with her ex and they may be getting married! What should I do?
Q. hi, my girlfriend broke up with some months back simply because she heard from people things we had together without confronting me to confirm if it was true or not (i got to know about this from her friend). now she's gone back to her ex, i heard ...
A. 28 April 2008: You need to move on.
Go out and flirt with new girls. Your feelings will fade in time.
It sounds as though she was desperate for an excuse to break up with you. She is a coward and has lost a great guy.
There will be other girls who will lov... (read in full...)
We are total opposites and I don't see a future for us, having many joint arrangements makes a possible separation more difficult and confusing!? Any advice?
Q. I have been with my g/f for 3 years and two months i am 24 and she is 21, recently things have been going down hill and we have been drifting apart, this has been happening for a while, i dont want to hurt her on one hand by bringing this up but ...
A. 28 April 2008: Joint bills can be sorted out very easily. I've been set up on join bills loads of times when I've been sharing a house.
Talk to her about it. Tell her you aren't happy. Chances are she is thinking the same thing.
If you break up in a friendly... (read in full...)
Perhaps he just thinks of me as a "pal," but to call me "doll face" and "beautiful" and hug me like that messes with my emotions!! Your view on this?
Q. Could someone give me an opinion on my "relationship-situation". At the end of Jan, I intimated to my flatmate that I liked him and it was essentially unreciprocal. Nevertheless, he has continued to confuse me by wrestling with me, teasing me, ...
A. 28 April 2008: You did your best and you can't wait for ever.
Move on and you'll forget your feelings eventually.
It's his loss.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I get more sex from my wife or get her to bring up kids without having to talk to her about it?
Q. Hi I've been married for nearly over 5 years and my marriage seems to be going downhill really fast. Its been nearly over a year since we had sex and she's alway putting it off with some excuse or another. The other thing that worries me is th...
A. 28 April 2008: If she refuses to talk then tell her you want a separation. Tell her you want to find a woman who loves you and wants kids before you get too old so can't hang around.
This will either scare her into talking to you or get her to admit that she... (read in full...)
His friends and family think I'm wonderful so why is he so hurtful?
Q. Advice please! My guy grew up in the town we live in. I did not - He and I have been together three years - He tells some I am his girlfriend he tells others we are just friends everyone thinks we are husband and wife! I am not even sure what we are ...
A. 28 April 2008: The man of your dreams could be out there and you might miss him because you are with this idiot.
Go back to your house and stop talking to him. See if he notices. If he does and comes to see you then tell him it's over.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I get the pill?
Q. Do you have to go to the doctors and get 'the pill' prescribed to you? or can you just walk into a drugstore and buy a pack?...
A. 28 April 2008: As you are not in the UK I am not 100% sure.
You probably do have to see a doctor though as there are many different types of the Pill and he has to check your blood pressure and that you don't have any other problems.
Eg. I get migraines so... (read in full...)
Would most guys jump at the chance to treat a woman as submissive? Am I just a wimp?
Q. I need some help.My girlfriend seems to like submission.I've asked her about it,she says she doesn't HAVE to have it to be satisfied.However,out of ex's the one that broke her heart was the one that liked to have her submit.On her myspace page,she ...
A. 24 April 2008: This is a fetish, and most guys would question fetishes, just like you.
You are so sweet for worrying about this and worrying about hurting her.
Everyone is different but I will give you my perspective on what could be in her head. I could be... (read in full...)
I'm headed for a nervous breakdown because I can't make a decision about my relationship! She has issues from her past.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 months. We both left or marriages for each other. We fell in love and thought we were perfect for each other - soulmates. She broke up with me 3 or 4 months later. She gave me several reasons such ...
A. 24 April 2008: You two need to sit down and talk. Talk about what you want long term in life and if you think this could be a forever thing.
But don't do anything like moving in, getting married, booking holidays or anything like that yet.
Live apart an... (read in full...)
How do I pull myself out of this black hole?
Q. I've always been such a strong and independant person. But the break up of a relationship in December seemed to start the beginning of a downward depression cycle. My ex boyfriend and I lived together, and I left the house we shared to move...
A. 24 April 2008: Anyone who comes out of an exam thinking they've done well has usually failed it.
You probably haven't done as badly as you think, and even if you didn't get the grade you needed, if you ring the university they may still let you in anyway. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love and I'm letting him play me! How do I get over him in style?
Q. im 17 and in love. I am letting him play me, with 3 other girls because when we are on our own i feel like im his only one. I put to the back of my mind that he is also seeing 3 other girls! I want to get over him but can't bare my life without ...
A. 24 April 2008: Dress incredibly sexy and then completely ignore him.
You know you are better than this little creep. He's just a little boy.
Don't let him get away with this. He's probably thinking he's God's Gift to women.
If he asks you why you're igno... (read in full...)
A girl keeps messaging my husband - should I be suspicious?
Q. Dear Cupids, my hubby was on facebook when a chat popped up from 1 of his friends saying 'can u chat?'. He quickly got rid of the message and acted like he didnt care. A few mins later his messenger rang as it was this girl again but he just ...
A. 24 April 2008: She might be a friend who he couldn't be bothered with. She could be a crazy stalker who he is trying to avoid.
Or he could be doing something naughty.
Next time something pops up just ask him who it is. Be friendly about it.
I ask my husban... (read in full...)
Is love just an economic match with lust thrown in? Does is all come down to a matter of games?
Q. Hey all, I am pretty confused lately. I won't say I am very experienced in the relationship field, just 2 in the past . I do admit I had my silly moments and made mistakes that aren't supposed to be made as stated by the 'experts' such as David De...
A. 24 April 2008: Lots of Experts will give you advice or email you reports - for just £5.99.
Everyone wants to know the "secrets" of finding love so of course people are going to try and make money off it.
All you need to know is this:
1. Everyone is differ... (read in full...)
We're back together but did her previous relation change her? Why the lack of sexual desire? Does she genuinly want to take slow steps?
Q. Ok, so My girlfriend and I dated for 2 years, we broke up for about a year and just started talking again...its been about 3 months. We have been doing the typical dating stuff, going out, to dinners, shopping etc. She dumped me to go out with some ...
A. 24 April 2008: Tell her you need to talk about it and ask her why she seems to have gone off sex.
Tell her you are happy to go slowly but need to understand her thoughts.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He wants short term, but I didn't realize the extent. Should I break up with him?
Q. he wants a "short term relationship" i guess i misheard him or don't understand the term. He might have to go back to his hometown soon. He is not sure yet. I have to leave for the summer, but he still thinks we should end it when my sophomor...
A. 24 April 2008: You know what you need to do.
Break up with him so you don't fall for him. You'll only get hurt if you leave it any longer.
He's not interested in affection or anything more than making out with no strings for a few weeks.
He may have pro... (read in full...)
Do you believe a married man when he tells you what a witch his wife is?
Q. To women who are having an affair with a married man. Do you believe your married man when he is telling you what an evil B*tch his wife is and how you are so much nicer and how much he loves you?...
A. 24 April 2008: Tell you will believe him completely when you've seen the divorce certificate.
If she was so evil why is he with her?
Tell him you'll wait for him for a while so he can leave her and get a place of his own. If you see no movement within ... (read in full...)
I feel so insecure, jealous, like she saved nothing for our relationship, sexually... because of her past!
Q. Is there a way to detach your feelings from sex because my woman's past makes me look at her in a bad, judgmental way I don't want to feel bad but I feel sick as I can't get thoughts of her with other guys out of my head, its making me desire sex ...
A. 24 April 2008: Does it really matter what she did with other guys? She is with you now. She has chosen YOU.
It's never nice to think of your partner with other people. So you have to just try not to.
If she hadn't done those things she would be a different p... (read in full...)
What is he trying to do, by flirting with both of us? We've even had an argument over him!
Q. im confused over who this lad likes: me or my mate. he texts me all the time n always tells me im funny n that he has a laugh with me, as well as this he tells me he finds me good looking with a nice body. however, when both me n my mate are around ...
A. 24 April 2008: Don't ever argue with a friend over a boy, it is never worth it.
He's probably just playing a game and flirting with both of you. He's probably not really interested in either of you.
He might just be a flirty guy. Either way just don't take ... (read in full...)
My problem is our exclusive sex life became unexistant since engaging in the "swinger" activities!
Q. hi i have been seeing my bf since last november stated fantastic he was all over me .then after 1 month nothing he never hardly touches me .we now go swinging and he does everything with the other women ,i have asked why not me but he wont ...
A. 24 April 2008: I agree with HLSkitten. He has you at home but gets to sleep around when ever he wants. Tell him you want him to be exclusive with you for a few months. Tell him you need him to talk about your problems. If he doesn't want to do those things ... (read in full...)
I feel my friend is trying to "steal" my other friends or just intermeddle, this is irritating to me, how do I tell her to leave us?
Q. I have a very good friend, Y.D. Last year, I was used by some other people, and I ended up friendless. This year, I was being nice to all of my classmates and ... well, she was suddenly my friend. I don't know how it happened, I was just being nice ...
A. 24 April 2008: Oh god, clingy friends are a nightmare!
Arrange to do things with N out of school so Y can't get in the way.
Y sounds very insecure. She's too scared to make her own friends so waits for you to do the work. When she tells you to hurry up then... (read in full...)
We argue because of his job and he becomes very abusive, I've nobody to talk to, please help!
Q. hi i am in a relationship and have been for two years + my partner has a work mobile phone and recieves calls on it from women that he has trained on a personal level he says that it should not be a problem but i see that it is ??? the oth...
A. 24 April 2008: This man is a violent controlling horrible excuse for a human being.
Do you want your children growing up thinking this is how a man should treat his wife?
Ring your family. I doubt they have deserted you, just probably given up on trying to ... (read in full...)
How do I break the ice about talking to my ex without appearing obsessive?
Q. My gf broke things off two months ago. I still love her and I want her back. I want to talk to her, but the problem is it seems like there is this force field between us. Im not sure if she's desperately trying to avoid me or if im just being a ...
A. 23 April 2008: She may be confused about her feelings for you and genuinely want space or she may just have said that because it's nicer than saying GO AWAY!!
Whatever is in her head, it doesn't really matter. What matters is that you need back off.
You nee... (read in full...)
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