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writes:I don't consider myself to be all that attractive, but obviously some people are attracted to me. How do i not appeal to men. I'm the kind of person who get's along better with males than females and I assosciate in a crowd that is heavily male populated. I find myself chatting about music and movies with men and if it's at a club they'll start trying to hook up with me on the dance floor or they'll email me or message me saying if you didn't have a boyfriend....blah blah blah. regardless of having a boyfriend i just wnat to be friends with these men and nothing else. I don't think i'm giving off any mixed signals.How do i not appeal to their interests and have them just see me as a friend only? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Somebody once said to me that there's no such thing between a man and a woman as pure friendship as usually one or the other wants it to be something else. I think there's a lot in that.
Having said that, I have friends of the opposite sex who are just friends. It's important to be clear that's what it is and nothing else. Quite a lot of men hear what they want to hear and not what a woman is saying. Maybe they see your friendliness as a come-on. Just be clear to them and if they can't cope then it is their problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Thanks. And yes to anybody out there, quit fussing over your looks. like I said I don't think I'm that attractive but i find men finding me attractive. it's about your personality, relax have fun and be yourself. be passionate about who you are and what you do. There's nothing more boring than being with someone who has no personality - i've been there with a man that i was really handsome - but i was always bored to tears cos he couldn't hold a conversation about anything interesting.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 April 2008):
Guys will always try it on with you if you are a cool girl. I spend all day on here trying to convince little teenage girls not to starve / cut themselves because it's personality and confidence that is the most attractive thing of all.
Why not take your boyfriend out with you? The it's clear you are taken and you can chat to whoever you want to and make friends.
I will always bring up my husband in conversation early on if I am talking to a guy I don't know. Then he knows I am only talking to him because I like talking to him, not because I like him.
Other than that, just be careful not to flirt, not to look at him in a flirty way, and make sure your body language isn't giving anything away.
Your boyfriend sounds very trusting, he sounds like a good guy.
Good Luck!! xx
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