I'm hurt thinking my ex preferred my best mate...
Q. i'm a bit confused, i split with my ex 3 months ago now and found out recently she likes 1 of my best mates. Before we started dating she had been dating a different best mate for a week or two but changed her mind and asked me out. I found out whil...
A. 7 April 2008: Tell your mate she wasn't worth it anyway and go out on the pull together.
Cut contact with this girl as even though she might still feel like a mate, all she does is cause you trouble.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Will only one emergency contraceptive pill have the right effect, as I've lost the second one?!
Q. I am 15 I have a urgent question about the emergency contraceptive pill. 3 nights ago I had unprotected sex and I don't think the guy came/ ejaculated. Just to be safe the next morning approx. 8 hours later I bought an emergency contraceptive ...
A. 7 April 2008: You should have gone straight back to the doctor and got another pill.
I am not a doctor so I can't say one way or the other if you are safe or not. You sound like you have a good chance of not being pregnant... but then life sucks so who know... (read in full...)
We broke up, but we can't seem to let go of eachother, what should we do?
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me three weeks ago but we still talk on the phone almost everyday. Recently, we've admited to eachother that we still have strong feelings for eachother and that we miss eachother a lot. We have...
A. 7 April 2008: I can't really answer this because you don't tell me why you broke up.
If those things are magically fixed then get back together. If not talk through and make sure it will be different this time. If you can't fix those things then you are eith... (read in full...)
I'm trying to lose weight, it's getting to me, I'm beginning to self-harm. Please help me.
Q. Hey Aunts and Uncles, I could really do with your help here! I've been trying for about 2 months now to lose weight. This is going to sound silly, but I feel like my abdomen (i think it is) sticks out too much, and everyone else seems to have such a ...
A. 7 April 2008: If you are self harming then you are depressed and so obviously you are not going to see yourself in a good way.
You say your stomach sticks out - everyones' stomach sticks out because their spine curves in and pushes it out. Stand up straight... (read in full...)
He wants me to have sex with as many men as I can....in one night!!!
Q. Hi Im 17 and gay i met this guy and i really like him the only problem is he wants me to have sex with as many men as i can in 1 night and predictivly the rest of my life, as it turns him on. I really like him so i want to do this and i...
A. 7 April 2008: If you are happy working as his personal porn star and letting him see you as purely a slutty sex object then that is fine. Use protection obviously. And where are you going to find all these men from? Just pick them up in bars? Do you know how ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I could do to get boys to like me?
Q. i can't get a boyfriend my problem is that no lads what so ever are interested in me and i'm feeling left out all of my friends have boyfriends and i have no one and always feel like the goosberry when we go out i think it's because i'm on the ...
A. 7 April 2008: You've had 3 boyfriends! That must tell you something you are doing is right!
I didn't have my first boyfriend till I was 14 and then my next one till I was 17.
Boys of your age are all idiots anyway.
The other answers are right too - ... (read in full...)
He slept with another girl now I don't know where I stand!
Q. me and this lad have been planning to get together for a few months now. we talked about it face to face and text about it a lot. but three days ago he slept with another girl (who already has a boyfriend!) and this made me see him in a different ...
A. 6 April 2008: There are two sides to this....
On the one hand - he had commited to you. He liked you and you liked him. So for him to go off with someone for sex, that should make you ask if you want to be with him.
On the other hand - you were only planni... (read in full...)
If we spend too much time together he grates on my nerves!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 3 months. I am really falling for him, but I find if we spend too much time together, he really grates on my nerves. Do you think this is normal, or is it a sign that it's not going to work out long term? Sorry i...
A. 6 April 2008: I would say that if you can't spend large amounts of time together then yes there is going to be a problem.
However, there is nothing wrong with having a relationship for a little while without it being a prospective marriage. Have some fun when... (read in full...)
I think he sees me more as a friend.
Q. i met a guy when i split with my ex. i didnt fancy him to start with but when i did fall for him it was too late he had met someone else so moved on and met someone else too. a year went on and on the same day my bf and his gf left us (not for each ...
A. 6 April 2008: You have both just got out of relationships...
Are you sure this is the best time to be starting something that could be very serious? If you do this now it could be a brilliant rebound with lots of angry sex but you could lose the friendsh... (read in full...)
I am a straight female very attracted to my bisexual male friend- could this be love?
Q. I am currently a straight female very attracted to my bisexual male friend. Although I really feel bad awhile back when he was testing the waters by replying awhile back that I only go for straight people. I had not realized he has been attracted ...
A. 6 April 2008: He likes you, you like him.
There is no problem here.
Go out for a few drinks and see what happens!
It sounds like you two could be amazing. Congratulations on finding him!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Can I ever be be forgiven for cheating?
Q. ive been with this man for 3 and a half years.. people say were a perfect couple but they didnt know that it's only because of me , that our relationship last. because everytime we fight, its always me who needs to make the first move.. i felt that ...
A. 6 April 2008: You cheated for a reason, because your boyfriend was making you cry and feel worthless. He sounds like an idiot. Telling you that he was the only one who would love you like that, was a mean and horrible thing to do.
But you know what - if his i... (read in full...)
I'm scared of showing my naked body to my soon to be husband, what do I do?
Q. I'm getting married in a few months and im a virgin and so is the man im going to marry but i heard so may people say that the best thing to wear on your weading night is nothing at all. but im so shy and super scared. i dont know how to just spring ...
A. 6 April 2008: That is so romantic that you are waiting for your wedding night to give yourself to him!!
But it is a huge amount of pressure to put on yourself to say you are going to have sex on a certain date when you have not done anything sexual before t... (read in full...)
I really don't know whether this relationship is worth saving as I think my wife is being very selfish.
Q. Dear Cupid, I met my Thai wife in Thailand 4yrs ago we have now been married 3yrs this is my second marriage. I have given my wife most of the things she's wanted financially but I am finding this to be a strain on our resources. My wife understa...
A. 6 April 2008: I really really don't want to jump to the conclusion that she's a younger woman who married a man for his money. But you make her sound a lot like that.
If she has had bouts of depression then she needs to see someone about it as depressi... (read in full...)
I want to do more things with him but when I say to him he says I'm trying to control his life.
Q. Hiya everyone, I really need some help. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, he's 19 and I'm 17. We have split up twice since we've been together both of those times were through his decision. The first time-because I went into ...
A. 6 April 2008: A clear case of the Pot calling the Kettle Black. I think he is the one with a confidence disorder.
How DARE he leave you at his house while he goes off motorcross riding? That is so INCREDIBLY disrespectful. He wants you to just sit in the hous... (read in full...)
Should I give up on the Ozzy dream and give my husband another chance - try harder to make a go of it in the UK?
Q. I'm really desperate for advice - sorry this is a long story. A couple of years ago I separated from my husband (of 12 years marriage - total 18 year relationship). Our relationship had deteriorated to such an extent that we had not had sex ...
A. 6 April 2008: I think you know what you want to do but everyone is telling you not to.
Go to Oz on holiday, find out what kind of jobs you could do there. Find out about visas as they are quite strict about only having useful people moving in permanen... (read in full...)
Will we leave tell-tale signs in the hotel sheets?
Q. me and my girlfriend are ready to start having sex but we don't have any privacy . we've decided to go to a hotel next w/end so we can start to know our bodies and learn what to do. I'll wear a condom but we're wondering if there'll be any mess...
A. 6 April 2008: Firstly, don't worry about hotel staff. You will never see them, or if you see them in the corridor, you'll never see them again after that. Do you honestly think that 2 people in their late teens / early 20s staying in a hotel and GASP having sex ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome embarrassmentof having text sex with him?
Q. there is a boy im really good mates with and we text each other all the time. the other day we were texting each other being flirty n we virtually had text sex. im now embarrassed by what went on. im seeing him at sometime this week and wont be able ...
A. 6 April 2008: It depends what it meant to you. Does the text sex mean you want to start going out with him? Or was it just a fun flirty thing?
If you want him to become more than a friend then be confident when you see him. He obviously thinks you are sexy to ... (read in full...)
I don't know where I stand and it's driving me nuts!
Q. Dear Cupid, Basically, I met this girl (she's a friend of an aquaintance), we really clicked, got on really well, and eventually ended up kissing... we said goodnight etc, and were texting each other when we got in and she ended up saying that "...
A. 6 April 2008: It's simple to find out. Phone her!
Ask her if she wants to come out and see a film or get some dinner together.
Have you thought that she might be sitting by her phone waiting for you to get back in touch? Girls don't often do the chasing.
... (read in full...)
He's convinced I am going to cheat on him!
Q. I'm 17 and my bf is 20 and we have been together about 10 months i love him to pieces and he loves me too (sorry if this ends up being long winded) hes convinced i am going to cheat on him hes my first long term bf and i have no history of cheat...
A. 6 April 2008: Well the good news is that you are right. You should be able to go out with whoever you want.
But you could do more to reassure him as he obviously has big issues about this. Why doesn't he come out with you and get to know your friends? Sitting ... (read in full...)
I know what I did is bad. but am I wrong for thinking this is something she should be able to get over?
Q. i have been dating a woman for 1.5 years. in the beginning of our relationship i was not the perfect guy (sometimes running around with friends seemed more important.) we got past all that shortly after she made me aware that she would not tolerate ...
A. 6 April 2008: She can be insecure, she can need reassurance, but she can't keep you inside where she can see you 24 hours a day.
Breaking up with you because you were home late is very extreme.
If you want to make it work with her then you need to talk to ... (read in full...)
How should he tell his mum he has a girlfriend?
Q. 17 year old guy meets 17 year old girl etc. they take it slow at the start and then after seeing each other for a month, make it formal and go into a relationship. this is the first relationship the guy has been in, how does he tell his mum he has a ...
A. 6 April 2008: Ah sorry I thought this question was from your girlfriend... the third person threw me.
Hope it makes sense.
x... (read in full...)
How should he tell his mum he has a girlfriend?
Q. 17 year old guy meets 17 year old girl etc. they take it slow at the start and then after seeing each other for a month, make it formal and go into a relationship. this is the first relationship the guy has been in, how does he tell his mum he has a ...
A. 6 April 2008: Oh flippin heck. This question reminds me how glad I am that I don't live at home any more. I had the exact same awkwardness with my parents over this kind of thing.
The way I would suggest is to just be at his house as his "friend" and do lots ... (read in full...)
Why is he looking at my pics online when we've been apart 3 years?
Q. I was speaking to my ex-ex boyfriend yesterday and he said he found a picture of me online. Was taken with some people I met while travelling last year and I didn't know it was there. I didn't even know how to look it up and he told me what I needed ...
A. 6 April 2008: Perhaps something reminded him of you. Perhaps he realised you were amazing and he regretted losing you and did a quick search to see what you were up to. Perhaps he realised he was amazing and wondered if you regretted losing him so he could feel ... (read in full...)
Can relationships work with people who hardly have much in common or who are totally different.
Q. hey I'm new to all this relationship thing cuz it's never bothered me that I'm single or anything and so have never had a proper boyfriend unless you count one I had when I was little lol. But I'm kinda friends with this lad in my class, we aren't ...
A. 6 April 2008: Hi,
The answer is yes. People can be hugely into different things and still have a great relationship as long as they have something they are into together.
What are you into? Is there anything he might like to try for the first time? Are ... (read in full...)
Met him on a marriage site, now he wants to marry me but I've never met him.
Q. hello I am a woman 29 years of age. I met this man on a marriage site we live in 2 different countries we chatted, sent pictures, talk on the phone, I talked to his family. And we found that we have many things in common the problem is that ...
A. 6 April 2008: Sending someone else to meet him is a good plan.... you have no idea if this man is who he says he is or if he has a dark side.
Marriage is a HUGE step for anyone to take.
You and this man could be really good friends at the moment but you m... (read in full...)
My BF has been visiting sex chat rooms... should I be alarmed?
Q. Hi every one. Today i was on my boyfriend of two years computer. When i wen to type a website in the address box a list of previous websites came up. There was a single chat room one and one like face party but you meet people on there for sex. I ...
A. 2 April 2008: He says he hacks into people's internet accounts on sex chat rooms? Sorry but that sounds like utter rubbish to me.
Some girls think it is fine for their bloke to go and look at porn or use chat rooms. Personally I think it's almost as bad as c... (read in full...)
He never pleases me in bed when I ask to be pleased, should I surrender to his phantasy, a threesome, because I love him?....
Q. My boyfriend really wants a threesome with another girl, hes always said before me and him got together about how its his fantasy and i do want to give it to him because i love him and want to give him what he wants. But im too scared to, i worry ...
A. 2 April 2008: Hi,
WHAT EVER YOU DO, DO NOT AGREE TO ANY SEXUAL ACT YOU AREN'T 100 PERCENT INTO.
You will feel dirty and used and it will stay with you for a long long time.
Your bloke is really really selfish in bed. He wants things but he is not pre... (read in full...)
I'm hurt thinking my ex preferred my best mate...
Q. i'm a bit confused, i split with my ex 3 months ago now and found out recently she likes 1 of my best mates. Before we started dating she had been dating a different best mate for a week or two but changed her mind and asked me out. I found out whil...
A. 2 April 2008: You've answered your own question.
Forget about her and move on. She obviously gets off on playing games. Some girls love the feeling of having blokes fighting over them. They love the attention and the jealousy and drama. She sounds a bit mess... (read in full...)
She tries to bring me back in... but keeps me at arms length. Why is she doing this?
Q. My ex and I have been split up since November. When she broke up with me she said she didn't want to lose me completely. So we've been in limited contact via text messages pretty much ever since. There's been times when I've really missed he...
A. 2 April 2008: She's being a typical girl. She wants you to move on. She wants you to be happy. She also wants you to be her friend.
I did the same thing to my first long term boyfriend when we broke up. I just didn't realise I was giving him false hope.
... (read in full...)
He is addicted to the internet and I I feel like I can't get any attention?
Q. hi, I am so depressed at the moment, heres the story. I know its a bit boring but bare with me.. I've been going out with my partner for 2.5 years and we have been living together for about 6 months now. We've alway been a fiery couple but deep ...
A. 2 April 2008: Party poker, or any type of little game like that can be very addictive.
But if you roll over now then you will have basically told him that it's fine for him to carry on.
You need to stop nagging and shouting at him though as you have already... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't want to spend time alone with me...is he even into me at all??
Q. My fiance and i live seperately. i live with my parents with an intime of 10-which is normal in our country. My fiance spends time with me every day ... about two hours on weekdays and half a day every alternate weekend.at the beginning of our rela...
A. 12 March 2008: This guy seems to want to have everything in life, a good job, a loving wife, 2.4 kids. Nothing wrong with that but he seems to just picked you as a suitable mother to his children and got you to agree to marry him. Job Done.
If he doesn't ... (read in full...)
He reeled me back in, I've lost my best friend and family and now I don't want our child growing up around this??
Q. I've been with my partner for 5 years; we met in a chat room online. We were both married at the time he was seeing lots of other women didnt realise how much until now 24 in the first year we were together and i was one of them. I divorced...
A. 12 March 2008: Your family and friends will not have abandoned you.
Next time he goes to work, pack up and get out. Go home to your family. Tell them you realise you have made a mistake.
This man has problems and do you really want your children growing... (read in full...)
Any tips for my mum in dealing with my little brothers immature gf??
Q. Hi aunts, My mom has a bit of a problem with my little brother's girlfriend. She is 16 but a very imature 16 and when she's out she keeps flushing sanitary towels down the toilet resulting in it getting blocked and the pipes blocked also. She wa...
A. 12 March 2008: Birdynumnums has got the right idea.
Put a note up on the wall in the loo.
"Who ever flushed the sanitary pads down the loo owes us 50 quid in plumer's fees as they blocked the pipes up. They go IN THE BIN!!"
Good Luck x... (read in full...)
How do I let go of the past??
Q. I have been on this site before, as I have been going through a traumatic time in personal life. It was all to do with a relationship that i came out of which has affected severly I split up with this girl last year, and i have been finding it very ...
A. 12 March 2008: My method is Kick up the Arse therapy.
You are an actor so this will be easy. You have convinced yourself that you are in this terrible state caused by deep seated emotional trauma.
From now on:
1. You are allowed to be pathetic and hug pill... (read in full...)
Is there a chance of a serious committed relationship in our future??
Q. I have been enjoying my time with my new guy and now insecurities are slowly coming up here and there with me. We do work together and have been warned heavily by our employer last year to not get involved or face consequences. I am going to a int...
A. 12 March 2008: Right you have all these questions about his crazy man brain and here you are asking a bunch of starngers on the internet about them.
Next time you are round there and you are relaxed and chatting tell him you need to talk about this. ASK HIM what... (read in full...)
Married, and I fancy this other guy, I moved away but cant shake that feeling,help!
Q. I have a problem...a couple really. Firstly, I am married to this really lovely, steady guy. He loves me, we have kids. We get along well, and he is truly my best friend. We have a lousy sex life, but that's not really anyone's fault - more that ...
A. 12 March 2008: You have said yourself, you hardly see this fantasy man, and have invented this perfect vision in your head. He's not real. Your marriage however, does need help. Have you thought that your husband may be as bored and flustrated as you are? As... (read in full...)
Ever since my girlfriend's night out she's been receiving text messages from another guy.
Q. My girlfriend (age 34) went out to a nightclub with her girlfriend the other night. Since she returned she has not stopped receiving text messages. I finally did the unthinkable and pinched her cellphone and took a look. Sure enough, there is...
A. 12 March 2008: How long have you been together? When was the last time you told her you wanted to hear her voice or sent her romantic texts? Having a guy chasing her might be a huge self esteem boost. Rather than blowing up at her, make her see that no other gu... (read in full...)
My soon to be in laws want a traditional hindu wedding, we dont, what can I do?
Q. I am about to be married. My fiance' is East Indian, I am white. He was born here in America, so he has a lot of the same beliefs that I do and agrees with me on how things should go. His parents, however, are from India and expect him and me to do ...
A. 12 March 2008: I agree with the people above that you could have both ceremonies. A friend of mine was under lots of pressure to have a very traditional Christian wedding from his mother. "It won't be a proper wedding if you don't have fruit cake!! It's traditio... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to have sex with me?
Q. I am concerned about my sexual relationship with my boyfriend of over 2 years. For about the past year my boyfriend hardly ever in the mood to have sex with me and we only have sex when I initiate it and it makes me feel incredibly unattractive. I ...
A. 12 March 2008: Men are odd things. It could be any number of reasons. Perhaps he's stopped seeing you as his sexy girl and now sees you as a Mummy. I assume it was good to start with in the bedroom? If it was, then remind him what a hot young thing you are...... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend's younger brother!
Q. I have had the same best friend for 10 years, and she is one of 8 kids. Her youngest brother (of 6 years) and I have always been really close friends. Finally last summer we were drunk one night and ended up together. It happened a few times after ...
A. 12 March 2008: You've hooked up with him a few times, even though you knew he had a girlfriend and now you are in love with him? I would say love is a really strong word to use here. I feel you may have put him on a pedestal because you can't have him. Is he reall... (read in full...)
I need to lose the pounds quickly!
Q. hi, How much weight will I lose by Easter Sunday if I do one hour on the treadmill a day at 6km per hour, and eat one apple everyday and nothing else. I'm 5 ft 3 and 9 and a half stone, so I really want to shed the pounds. Also, what would be the ...
A. 12 March 2008: There is no way of telling you exactly how much weight you will lose.
Do you need to lose weight at all or just tone up a bit?
Find out:
http://www.eatwell.gov.uk/healthydiet/healthyweight/
One thing that will happen if you go on an extr... (read in full...)
Making myself sick to lose weight, will it work?
Q. I'm 15 and I weigh 11 stone. I look at myself as fat, but I know I'm not that fat but for my age I am over weight. Ii stopped eating for 4 days once and I lost half a stone. As soon as I ate again I put on half a stone again but recently I've bee...
A. 12 March 2008: Yes, you will lose lots of weight, then you won't be able to stop, and you will end in hospital, sectioned under the mental health act. A large man will hold you down and they will force a tube down your throat to force feed you with and keep you ... (read in full...)
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