Is my girlfriend messing me around?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend says she can't be with me at the moment because she isn't 'feeling herself'. She said she needs time alone. We have been together for two months, I think she is seeing her ex boyfriend. She said that she wants some time al...
A. 23 May 2008: Well if you are choosing her over being single then you can't complain about her any more.
You have your option to leave and find some one better and you are choosing to stay and be messed about.
The fact that you have such low self esteem that... (read in full...)
Do you think he didnt reply to my invite because he doesn't like me like that?
Q. Theres this guy who I thought liked me alot. But now I'm not so sure. We both have a college class together, thats how I know him, and he has been helping me with alot of my work (he offered!!!). He is always making excuses to talk to me and see me, ...
A. 23 May 2008: It was hardly "putting yourself out there" unless he was to understand you were asking the other 7 out on a date as well. Guys generally don't do subtlety. You need to be clear.
Once you've heard his excuse for not coming / emailing you back the... (read in full...)
Do you think he didnt reply to my invite because he doesn't like me like that?
Q. Theres this guy who I thought liked me alot. But now I'm not so sure. We both have a college class together, thats how I know him, and he has been helping me with alot of my work (he offered!!!). He is always making excuses to talk to me and see me, ...
A. 23 May 2008: Ah, I was underestimating the number of people who you sent it to and how close they were. I get invites from my friends which I don't reply to because it's usually on the other side of the country (I move a lot) or on a day I am working.
Well ... (read in full...)
How can I know if this guy is interested and if he's gay or bisexual?
Q. I met this guy at my old workplace who I REALLY like. I can't stop thinking about him. The only problem is that I don't know if he's gay or bisexual, or even if he's interested in me. I've summed up what's been happening below: We first met wh...
A. 23 May 2008: Well does he know you are gay? If he does and he's still getting this close to you it means he's either an Incredibly secure straight guy, or bi or gay. You could ask him if he had a girlfriend - that one tends to work.
Let him know you are gay,... (read in full...)
I have this teacher. I am 17, & he just turned 29..........
Q. I have this teacher. I am 17, and he just turned 29. Anyway, the attention I began to receive were, in my opinion, just regular expressions of favoritism but then my friends are telling me otherwise. I will list them in order. He picks me too fre...
A. 23 May 2008: Maybe he is interested in you. It's not unknown and I'm not going to pretend that all teachers are 100% professional and infallible.
However, if you care about him then you'll back off a bit, because it's going to get noticed that you are spending... (read in full...)
Has he really got issues, or am I just trying to believe he has?
Q. My ex broke up with me a week ago. During the relationship he was controlling, extremely jealous and insecure... but I still don't know if he's normally like that or if it's actually because I made him that way. He's a bit mean with his family wheh ...
A. 23 May 2008: Have you actually read this through? He's a violent bully, treated you like crap, then hasn't told his family because he doesn't want to burden them with finding out how horrible YOU are?
And you're asking if this is your fault???!!!
NO!!!!!... (read in full...)
She dumped me because the timing is bad??
Q. Well i went out with this girl for four dates which went awsome. She kept saying how much she fancied me and liked me for two years, she works in my local gym.We arranged to go out again the following weekend and i asked her the next day when i seen ...
A. 23 May 2008: Who knows what she's up to? It could be a game, it could be that she dumped you and then realised it was a mistake. It could be that she's under pressure to get a man and is telling people she likes you so they won't set her up with people.
Why n... (read in full...)
Do you think he didnt reply to my invite because he doesn't like me like that?
Q. Theres this guy who I thought liked me alot. But now I'm not so sure. We both have a college class together, thats how I know him, and he has been helping me with alot of my work (he offered!!!). He is always making excuses to talk to me and see me, ...
A. 23 May 2008: You are reading a lot into this. You are friends, and you sent a group email out to all your friends asking them to come along, and he didn't make it. How many other people didn't reply and didn't come? It's not a personal rejection. It's just that ... (read in full...)
I've got her number (I think!)... Where do I go from here?
Q. Last night while out with a couple of friends, I met a girl. I remember we seemed to get on quite well. I don't really remember what we were talking about, but we must have got on okay, because I eventually asked for her number. As far as I know she ...
A. 23 May 2008: Well you sound like you were pretty drunk so she may well have given you a fake number to get rid of you. Girls are really not impressed by guys who are that out of it that they can't even remember you clearly the next day. You might want to cut ... (read in full...)
I'm feel like I am living in a lie because I want to be with some one else
Q. I am very troubled. Everyday I pretend to be happy, I feel like I am living a lie. I've been with this man for 5 years and we have 2 kids together. I was 16 when I had my first child and 19 when I had my second. We only knew e/o for 3 months and ...
A. 23 May 2008: Are you really content to let your kids grow up thinking it's normal for a man to treat a woman that way, because he makes a good wage?
Leave and get a job, or start a business from home. There are plenty of single mums in the world who manage j... (read in full...)
How can I get closure from my Ex
Q. Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago. It's been hard for me. I still love him, have feelings for him, and I think about him constantly. I'm o.k. when I don't see him. We attend the same church. He stares at me constantly. He's 47 years old and just ...
A. 22 May 2008: When he's staring at you, stare back with a disgusted look and mouth "What!?" in an angry way. Or point him out to other people so they see it too. Then after church ask him why he's staring at you. He can't deny it when you've caught him out.
... (read in full...)
When I ask my parents for things they either yell at me or get angry at me
Q. I am afraid to ask my parents for things and sometimes even a question. When I ask my parents for things they either yell at me or get angry at me. I don't know why. I ask them very nicely, and they just yell at me. Most of the time i'm afraid to ...
A. 22 May 2008: I don't think your parents love is dependant on clear skin, although it's clear you have very low self confidence about this so maybe you should go and get some advice about that.
The best way to clear your skin is with a good diet, drink lots of ... (read in full...)
I know the obvious thing is to go to the GP or get a pregnancy test, but I'd like some advice first please.
Q. Am I pregnant? I know the obvious thing is to go to the GP or get a test, but I'd like some advice first. I'm too young to have a kid I personally believe, and I missed my period last month (it should be due again in a couple of days). The docto...
A. 22 May 2008: Well you need to get checked out asap, as if you decided not to keep the baby, it's best to do it really early on.
Blood tests are the most accurate way of telling if you are pregnant as your body starts releasing all kinds of new chemical... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend messing me around?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend says she can't be with me at the moment because she isn't 'feeling herself'. She said she needs time alone. We have been together for two months, I think she is seeing her ex boyfriend. She said that she wants some time al...
A. 22 May 2008: Well you can ring her up and ask if she is seeing other people while on this break.
Tell her you are willing to wait for her if she really is just needing some time to herself.
I can believe her story though. When you are in an intense relation... (read in full...)
He uses a wedding ring... is he married?
Q. Started seeing a guy lately and whilst we have been flirting with each other I have noticed he has a wedding ring. I asked him if he was married, and he said he was separated - why then would still wear a ring?...
A. 21 May 2008: Either habit, or because he doesn't want to be single yet, or because he's lying to you.
Ask him why he's still wearing it, but no matter what he says, don't get too close to him yet. This guy is still married, he will have a lot of baggage ... (read in full...)
We have an age gap. Will it work?
Q. Hi I am 23 and i am living with a man who is 46. we have been living together 3 1/2 months. He and i share similar opinions, leisure time preferences, ideas, jokes, hobbies etc, even though unlike the usual "older man younger woman" scenario ...
A. 21 May 2008: Yes, it will work.
I don't see what your problem is?
If you love each other then there is no problem!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why do I have these feelings? Will I ever have them with my boyfriend or any other man?
Q. Hi there i'm in a bit of a mess, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Okay I will start from the beginning... There's this guy at work, and i slept with him (my boss) and yes he's married, and yes i have a boyfriend. So please, I know it was ba...
A. 21 May 2008: Things that are wrong, secret, forbidden, and dramatic are far more exiting. It's the adrenaline rush.
Is this the most exciting thing in your life at the moment?
Look for drama elsewhere. Go on a last minute holiday, find a new career, star... (read in full...)
Please help me ask this girl out!
Q. i have knowen this girl since 2005 we was good m8s in may-2007 i think she liked me and i like her but was to shy to ask her out then i left my school in the summer holidays(august). and saw her stil but not as much but as time whent on i saw less ...
A. 21 May 2008: You say you want to ask her out but not sound like you are on a date? Hang on that makes no sense. That's will tell her you like her as a friend but nothing more.
Ask her out on a date, don't play long winded games.
You go up to her, get her ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me different ways for a girl to masturbate?
Q. Can anyone give me diffrent ways for a girl to masturbate.... nothing I do is doing anything for me ..... ...
A. 21 May 2008: You can't just rub around down there and expect fire works. You have to be really mentally in the mood.
Think about sexy things and then when you are really buzzing, have a play and see what happens.
It could be that you are just not turned ... (read in full...)
I want to make this work, I'm ready for the commitment, but he's seems to be backing away! PS His mother is living with him now.
Q. Me and my military boyfriend have been together for a year. I am ready to move in together and to get engaged and make a commitment in our relationship. I have a 2 year old little girl and he has a 4 year old son both from previous marriages. He ...
A. 21 May 2008: Well he doesn't want you to leave him, but every time you take him back, he gets the message he can carry on as he is.
Tell him you want to talk about your problems or you really are leaving him for good. There could be deeper issues here... ... (read in full...)
When is what appears to be "something" actually "nothing"??? Am I in denial, blinded by love?
Q. Found this text from a chat log on my PC: "Hi Sexy Man!!!!!!!!!!! Are we still on for Memorial Day weekend?" At first I thought it was my daughter to her new boyfriend (since she shares my PC) and so I asked her if he was coming down for that we...
A. 21 May 2008: I'm married and I'll call male friends "Hey Gorgeous!" just in a jokey way. They know it's jokey, I know it's jokey, my husband knows it's jokey because I did it when we first met him to everyone. He understands it's just a phrase.
The fact she... (read in full...)
Falling out of love with my boyfriend! Should I try again or let it go?
Q. I feel like I'm falling out of love with my boyfriend. We've been in a long distance relationship since Oct, and its been fine up until now since we get to see each other almost every other weekend and talk/text all the time. Then he got re...
A. 21 May 2008: It's easy to drift apart if you are long distance.
Only you know how you feel. But from what you have said here if sounds like your love has faded, and suddenly you are finding fault with him so you have an excuse to break up.
Talk to him, ... (read in full...)
How can I move on from my ex?
Q. im so confused about my feelings at the moment. my ex broke up with me about a year and a half ago. she meant so so much to me and i was affected so much. she broke up with me when i was in year 10 and since then ive had dreams about her an...
A. 21 May 2008: No arguing in a relationship is not Unhealthy. It sounds like you spend a lot of time trying to work out what went wrong.
If you go out with someone in School or at work then you run the risk of having to see them every day after you break up... (read in full...)
I don't want to waste my time chasing after something that'll never be! Help!
Q. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 22. I really like him but the problem is that i am not sure he is faithful! I have been told that he has another gf who is alot like me back at his home and i am very insecure about this.We have been together for six ...
A. 21 May 2008: Well other than hiring someone to follow him round there is not a lot you can do.
Tell him that you need to talk about this if you are to stay together.
Talk to his family about it and his past. Talk to your family and ask them how he can prove... (read in full...)
Do you reckon he is just being friendly-or does there seem to be more to it
Q. I am so confused by his actions i don't know what is goig on, so really could do with some advice. Me and my ex were friends before we started seeing eachother, then we got together and everything was great. But he then ended it, he didn't give me ...
A. 21 May 2008: He's the one who ended it so he has no bad feelings towards you, and probably wants to be friends. He may just be putting loads of effort into being nice to you because he knows he has hurt you.
However, being really close friends will not help... (read in full...)
The woman I am dating is a very private person
Q. I Have a woman I care deeply for. She is very big on keeping private stuff private and avoiding pda. She also has had horrible past relationships. We had been dating for about 4 months. She told me early Sat morning before we went to bed, that ...
A. 19 May 2008: Write her a letter with all this in. You won't be pressuring her for an instant decision, but you'll be telling her that you love her and want to get things right from now on.
Ask her what she needs you to change to make the relationship perfect ... (read in full...)
What do I do about my bullying husband?
Q. my husband is a bully. ive been married just two years and things are horrible at home. everytime we have a few words he flies off the handle and then starts calling my family. he never takes me out but when weve had an arguement he goes out to our ...
A. 19 May 2008: Well you can either stay and put up with it, or leave.
There is a chance that he might go to marriage counselling etc and change but do you honestly think he wants to?
I would get out of there if I was you. The shock may make him realise what... (read in full...)
Would pregancy via a second cousin risk a deformed child?
Q. I need to know if I fall pregnant by my second cousin would the baby be ok or could the baby have health problems...
A. 19 May 2008: Could go either way. It depends on your family history and your DNA.
Go and talk to your doctor. He may be able to recommended tests to do to check.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My ex got violent
Q. I posted this yesterday and had no replies so thought i would try again.. Me and my ex had a row the other night, and he grabbed me and pinned me up against a cupboard. I fought him off, and got him out the house. My children and his child were in ...
A. 19 May 2008: He feels guilty about what he did and is trying to talk himself out of it. The police won't believe that it wasn't his fault so he's going to try and talk to someone else.
He's trying to cause trouble because he's an idiot, a manipulator, and a vi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex anymore and she doesn't want to talk about it, how do I solve this issue with her?
Q. I am a 28 year old man who has been in a relationship with another 28 year old woman for 18 months living together for 1 year. Our relationship is pretty good except for the lack of sex. We both love each other very much. At first she wanted it al...
A. 18 May 2008: Do you know what's really sexy? Your man nagging and nagging for sex. No that's a lie.
Do you ever just kiss her? Like really kiss her? Do you ever tell her she's gorgeous? Or do you only do those things because you are after sex?
You say you f... (read in full...)
I was wondering if first time sex would hurt for a virgin in her early twenties who regularily masturbates?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if first time sex would hurt for a virgin in her early twenties who is used to masturbating. Does that mean she won't experience any pain ? Thanks....
A. 18 May 2008: There is no way of telling as it is different for everyone. A lot depends on how relaxed and turned on you are.
The chances are it won't really hurt. The hymen is probably long gone due to sports, cycling, and everyday stuff. If you know your bod... (read in full...)
How to tell the people I babysit for how I feel?
Q. I babysit for a little boy for really nice people. I love the kid, and my family has known this family for years. My sisters babysat him from when he was a baby until he was 3 or 4 years old. The problem is his parents always call me last minute, ...
A. 18 May 2008: I'm a freelancer so I know it can be hard to ask for more money / better conditions when you know they might just stop using your services.
The thing is though that people will pay you the cheapest rate and treat you the worst they can get away... (read in full...)
Should I suck up my feelings and let her tramp on me for a little while?
Q. Alright, this one is going to be a long on, but I need all the help I can get fast, before I make another mistake. Me and Jamie have been in a relationship for about 4 1/2 years. To start, we started in highschool, and had a few confrontations w...
A. 18 May 2008: Wow you've really messed this up. Constant going on breaks through your relationship so you could go out with other women says to me you aren't really in love with this girl, she's just always been there as a Plan B. Even now when you've split up ... (read in full...)
Do you think there is a possibility that we might get back together?
Q. What should I do?My 7 year relationship ended 3 weeks ago. I am 24 years old and he's 27 years old. We argued because I said he only wants to be with his friends and told him he didn't care about me. He says he loves me and cares about me but he ...
A. 18 May 2008: So he does want to marry you but wants to sleep around and see if his feelings are genuinely true love first.
How nice of him.
In my opinion he might be just seeing his friend let loose on the dating scene and be jealous... But actually dum... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into these signs? I am too shy to ask him out
Q. There is this guy in my college class and I think he may like me. Not 100% sure. The thing is, we have been in the same class for about 4 months now and he hasnt asked me out or anything. I dont know if thats cause hes shy, if hes taking his time ...
A. 18 May 2008: You don't have to go all the way and ask him out - you could just ask something else to try and see what his intentions are.
How about "so how come you asked for my number but never called?"
Or you could ask his advice about some (imaginary)... (read in full...)
Tiredness is ruining my life, please help.
Q. Hello, My question is about being tired. I am 19 and for as long as i can remember i have been tired. And i dont just mean a little bit, i am ALWAYS tired and it seriously affects my life. Half the time i dont have the energy to go out with my f...
A. 17 May 2008: It sounds like you might have ME, or chronic fatigue syndrome. Here is a link about it, see if anything on here sounds familiar:
http://www.meassociation.org.uk/
Go back to your doctors and keep nagging them to figure out what is wrong. Sugges... (read in full...)
I hate it when he pushes my head when I'm doing oral-how do I get him to stop?
Q. a couple days ago i gave my boyfriend the first bj i have ever given. but he kept pushing my head down. and it's getting on my nerves. what can i do to get him to stop?...
A. 17 May 2008: Tell him to stop. You have to have rules about what you like and what you don't like.
I told my husband he should never push my head down because if he does, it's likely to make me vomit all over him.
He stopped after that.
Your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
How do I let my mum know I want to see a counsellor?
Q. I havn't really got much goin' for me right now and i havn't come on here for sympathy like a tragic teenager BLAHBLAHBLAA. I know every teenager seems to be "depressed" atm, so its hard to tell whether it's genuine or not, but i really feel as t...
A. 15 May 2008: Go and see your GP. You don't need your mum to go and talk to him. Ring up, make an appointment and go see him. You can tell your mum that you went to see him and tell him what he said. Or if he tells you something that you can keep to yourself, you ... (read in full...)
All I want to know is if YOU would want to be with someone like this?
Q. Ok, I am going to summarize everything and all I want to know is if YOU would want to be with someone like this. My GF before she met me: Slept with 18 people, involved in group sex, cheated, had an abortion, stripped for coke, lots of one nigh...
A. 14 May 2008: I've ready your update that you aren't bothered about what she is like now, only her past.
Personally though since you mentioned all the things she has done during your relationship I think it obviously bothers you and she has messed you about an... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is taller than me now, will I catch her up?
Q. I am 15 and 5'9.5".I have only grown 1/2" since last August. My girlfriend and I began dating when we were 13 and I was the same height I am now. She used to be around 5'6" when we started dating. She started growing and is now 6'2". She always ...
A. 14 May 2008: I'm so glad she loves her height. I was the tallest girl in school and hated it.
You may grow and you may not, there is no way to tell but as you are only 15 there is a good chance you still have a couple of inches left in you.
Don't worry a... (read in full...)
Tired of being hurt. What do you think?
Q. I'm only young, but have gotten turned over a couple of times already, what with girls cheating on me etc. I've kind of come up with this kind of theory there 'are no rules to life', other than avoid being the loser. For instance if you do the ch...
A. 14 May 2008: If you do the cheating you won't get cheated on - you'll just cause hurt and pain and make her want to go and cheat on the next nice guy she meets.
This is exactly the same as "I carry a knife for protection." It's stupid and only ends up with mor... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he likes me for my body ...what do I do?!?
Q. Ok so ive been dating my boyfriend for about almost a full 4 months and we kiss and stuff but to be honost he has almost no sexual interest. He will put his arms around me but he wont touch me or anything. I mean jsut last week we were at my house ...
A. 13 May 2008: Perhaps he just cares about you as a friend more than a girlfriend?
That doesn't mean you aren't attractive, it just means he has fallen into this comfy relationship and isn't bothered by the lack of spark.
Do you dress up to show yourself of... (read in full...)
Is masturbation murder?
Q. well as u all know ''sperm'' is pretty mutch something alive ,i mean it turns into a human if u have sexual intercourse with a woman ,well if people masturbate is it a sin ,as my freind said it ''mastubation is murder'' then he followed on ...
A. 13 May 2008: It's only murder in the same way that washing your hands with soap is murder.
Sperm is a single cell. Same as germs and viruses. You can't worry about killing tiny cells.
Other wise, every time a girl had a period it would be murder too as sh... (read in full...)
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