How do I break the ice about talking to my ex without appearing obsessive?
Q. My gf broke things off two months ago. I still love her and I want her back. I want to talk to her, but the problem is it seems like there is this force field between us. Im not sure if she's desperately trying to avoid me or if im just being a ...
A. 23 April 2008: She may be confused about her feelings for you and genuinely want space or she may just have said that because it's nicer than saying GO AWAY!!
Whatever is in her head, it doesn't really matter. What matters is that you need back off.
You nee... (read in full...)
He wants to date other girls and to continue to date me as well. Is he really interested in me?
Q. i dated a guy twice two weeks ago. when he called me for our third date, i reminded him that i was not comfortable dating a man who was dating other women at the same time, he didn't say anything at all at that time but later on the same day of our ...
A. 23 April 2008: This guy likes dating, he's having fun and seeing girls and having a great time. So are the girls he sees because he's told them straight up that he just wants to date and have fun.
You are looking for one guy to be with and have commitme... (read in full...)
My obsession with my looks is controlling my entire life and has done for over a year now!
Q. I have some serious issues, which my parents say are in my head but I cant seem to get rid of them. I do not like the way I look anymore, it never use to bother me but for over a year now it really gets me down. Sometimes I think I look good, but ...
A. 23 April 2008: You know you are being over critical. You know it is a problem that you are creating.
If you know this then the best thing to do is just give your self a kick up the arse and tell yourself you are being stupid.
There are so many bigger prob... (read in full...)
Are wet sheets normal when having sex or do I really have a problem?
Q. Hi. i know this may sound really stupid but for the last few days when im been having sex the bed sheets are wet after or when we are still doing it. ive not mentiond it to my bf but im really worried as it looks like ive wet myself a little, ive ...
A. 23 April 2008: I think if you had wet your self you would know about it. It's perfectly normal to leave a damp patch.
Put down a towel if you are worried about it as then it won't stain your sheets.
Good Luck!! xx
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Once we came close to having sex, he backed off . Does he have a commitment phobia?
Q. I am wondering if my ex bf had "commitment phobia". He broke up with me saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Yet one of the first things he said to me when meeting me was "I really want to be in a relationship. I am so over random hooks ups, ...
A. 23 April 2008: It could be a commitment phobe. It could be that he's an idiot. It could be that he just has problems.
To be honest it doesn't matter.
Stop worrying about what your Ex's problems are and move on to a decent guy. You can't change him and i... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and he's never ONCE treated me badly, unlike my ex'es. Why don't I love him?
Q. I have this AMAZING friend. He has truly proved himself to me that he is amazing. I mean most guys wouldn't bother being 'friends' with me if they knew they had no chance with me, but this guy, he doesn't care, he just likes me for me and really ...
A. 23 April 2008: Because he is your friend. You just don't feel like that about some people.
You have to have that passion and attraction in a relationship to take it to the next level and since you don't have that then you can't get into a relation... (read in full...)
He said to text him as he was interested in me but he's never replied. What is going on?
Q. me and my family have our own static caravan in wales.. we go p really frequently.. every weekend when we can.. and during school holidays we are like always there. as we are there quite a lot me and my younger sister have become pretty good friends ...
A. 23 April 2008: It could be that he has no credit. It could be that he's being shy. It could be that he's an idiot. It could be that you have the wrong number. It could be that he lost his phone.
The best thing to do is just to ring him. Ask him calmly why he a... (read in full...)
Was he repulsed? Or was he just trying to hide something?
Q. Hey okie so I have a male friend, we had a fling over two years ago (though we never had sex he wanted to go all the way but I kinda stopped things) Anyway we never dated he didn't go out with me because of my self-conciousness and paranoia, but ...
A. 23 April 2008: The reason he turned over in his sleep may have been that he was hot, may have been that his leg had gone to sleep, or maybe just that he wanted to turn over.
People move in their sleep.
The fact you are looking so far into this says more a... (read in full...)
Is it me with the problem, or is it her not taking our relationship seriously?
Q. I'll try to cut this down to as small as i can. I have a girlfriend of 4 and a half months. Shes 15, same as me, and she is bisexual. She has hooked up with 4 different girls before in the past two years. One of them though meant a lot to her, and ...
A. 22 April 2008: To be honest, I think you have every right to be jealous.
This girl has got off with other people. Boy or girl, that is still cheating.
She wants an open relationship (where you both go off with other people for fun) but she didn't talk to y... (read in full...)
Ahe claims sport contributed to the hymen being broken, could it be true?
Q. hi something thats always bugging me ..i wonder if you can help me.... i have been married for sometime/before my marriage my wife use to play badminton quite alot....and crease her legs together to masterbate..... on our first intercourse i noted ...
A. 22 April 2008: Yep, unless she was a Victorian lady who spent her youth doing embroidery and stroking kittens that hymen will be well gone.
Badminton, climbing trees, cycling, tampons, masturbation, they can all damage the tiny tiny layer of skin that form the... (read in full...)
How do I get him to forgive me and be with me before it's too late?
Q. my now ex boyfriend and I have dated for two and a half years and I thought with my joining a band (although it isnt workin out now) and attending college and working, that I wouldnt have time to be the best girlfriend I could be for him so we went ...
A. 21 April 2008: So you dumped him and didn't really explain why, other than I'm not good enough.
Do you think he believed or understood that? No, he will have been really really hurt by it.
He might be trying to hurt you back by saying he's moved on.
Te... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't know me..and he wont leave me alone
Q. i dont know how to tell my mother my life.its like im living 2 lifes and she doesnt know half of me or any of me.my bestfriend knows more about me then my own mother does..i feel like me and he dont keep in touch and that im not important to her ...
A. 21 April 2008: Not all mothers are perfect. That's why it's important to have friends and not just boyfriends.
Report your ex to the police. They can help you get a restraining order on him so he can't follow you round and will leave you alone or get locked u... (read in full...)
I'm invited to my (recent) ex's birthday party, what should I buy her?
Q. Hey guys, probably a unique question on here... Me and my gf of 13months recently split up, we are still in the process of getting stuff back from each others houses (we live with parents, we are only 18 and 17) she wants us to be good friends wh...
A. 21 April 2008: Bottle of wine or some beer, plus chocolate. It's a party!
That way, you have got her something apt, but not got her anything too special that she's going to feel guilty about and think you are still pining after her.
If things are still awkwar... (read in full...)
Crazed and confused!
Q. I recently started dating a guy that I had been friends with for about 8 months. Once we started acknowledging that we had feelings for each other, things moved ridiculously fast. A week ago, we went out on a date and every time he touched me, I ...
A. 21 April 2008: He's not going to get upset if you phrase it right.
It is perfectly fair not to want a huge physical side to things if you want this to be a serious relationship.
Tell him you really want this to go right and so you want to take things slow... (read in full...)
Should I just end it with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4months now and it feels lke all we are doing is fucking, my man aint one of them boys that use girls for sex but its like his not showing me the affection i desire no more, and recently told me his worried the ...
A. 21 April 2008: Why are you asking us for permission?
You know it's not going anywhere, you know you aren't happy with where it is, he's pretty much told you he's only in it for the short term.
Sit him down and tell him it's not working. I doubt he'll be s... (read in full...)
Help, lack of intimacy with my husband is driving me toward another man!
Q. I am 36 years old and my husband is 38. We have two children. One is 12 and one is 5. For the past 3 years my husband has lost all interest in having any type of intimacy at all. Including even words of endearment. i complain and then he puts a ...
A. 21 April 2008: Don't start an affair. You don't know what his situation is and he doesn't know yours. "My wife doesn't understand me like you do." is the oldest line in the book.
You want the best of both worlds here, a stable husband and dad at home, and an e... (read in full...)
Do you think his approach to me has changed since the last email?
Q. This guy with whom I've been in touch with for more than a year now, I always been the one emailing him and he always replying right away. We've become friends, he's a GI so mainly busy. Recenty got deployed and before he left, I wrote him wishing ...
A. 21 April 2008: You can't pin all your hopes on a long distance GI who hardly emails you. There must be someone in your own area who you have a chance to meet in real life?
I don't think the phrase "How are things down there?" means he's back. If he got deployed... (read in full...)
Caught wearing my clothes and now due in court, what will happen to him?
Q. my partner dressed up in my clothes one night and went outside for a cigarette. he has since been done with public indecency with intent of fear and alarm. this was simply not true. and is due in court in a couple of months. he went out a bit ...
A. 21 April 2008: You are from the UK so I know the law is pretty ok with people dressing up as a woman.
What did your duty solicitor say when he was at the station?
Get yourself a solicitor and you should be ok. They are not going to put him in prison as the... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to duplicate a key?
Q. I want to give my boyfriend the keys of my partment but the problem is, the door to get inside of the building, that key is a magnet one. So when I went to the office and ask for another one they said no, I can only have. Is anyone has any idea what ...
A. 21 April 2008: Ask why they will not allow your boyfriend to have a duplicate.
It may be against the rules of your tenancy agreement so check your paper work.
Follow the rules until you are prepared to move in together. You will need a reference for yo... (read in full...)
Could I have lost my virginity and got pregnant?
Q. i'm a 27 year old lady and had sex for the first time with my boyfriend. i did not feel much pain and did not bleed and my vagina didnt expand that much. could i have lost my virginity or not. also i started taking the pill the 5 hours after se...
A. 21 April 2008: If he put his penis inside you then you are no longer a virgin.
Most pills protect you as soon as you start taking them but you left it pretty fine. Plus you are supposed to start taking it at a specific time sometimes.
You will probably be... (read in full...)
He treats me so good, but I don't know if we really belong together.
Q. I'm twenty years old and have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. We met while working with eachother and still do to this day. I have never been with a guy that treats me so good. He gives me everything i want and more the thing is im not ...
A. 20 April 2008: You can't stay with a guy just because he's nice and gives you nice things. If you don't love him then there is another girl out there who will fall head over heels with him and you are stopping him from finding that girl.
You took the risk of ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to bring him back to me?
Q. so here is how my story goes.. about 7 months ago i met the love of my life whilst i was in a relationship. i broke the relationship off immediately and starting seeing my new guy. however after 3 weeks or so i dont know what happned and before i ...
A. 20 April 2008: Yes there is a chance but you have to be really strong.
If you let him come to you for sex behind his girlfriends back then he is just going to have the best of both worlds and keep you both dangling.
Next time you see him, tell the sex was... (read in full...)
What should I do? Can she even get pregnant from pre-ejaculate fludis from one sexual experience?
Q. I don't know if this really falls under the "love and relationship" category, but here goes: I was spending some time with a girl. We had sex once. Now, I am unable to use a condom. Everytime it goes on, I go down. I've tried different sizes,...
A. 20 April 2008: Yep there is a good chance it could be you if you had unprotected sex with her.
You should never have done it without a condom. If you couldn't have sex you should have done other things instead.
Track her down and talk to her. It could be that... (read in full...)
Is it possible to request a nurse rather than the doctor at my surgery for contraception advice?
Q. hi, I was just wondering if anyone can help me. I have decided that I need to go on the pill for contraception but I can't get to the family planning session in my area due to work commitsments. Is it possible just to make an appointment with a n...
A. 20 April 2008: Most GPs surgerys have nurses who can prescribe the pill. Ring up and chat to the receptionist about it.
She's not going to want to waste the doctors time if it's just a case of "I want to go on the pill." "Ok, lets check your blood pressure... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a Married Man-how do I approach the subject of hin getting divorced?
Q. He's separated goin on 6 yrs and suffers from depression Ive been by him since we've met. How do I talk to him about divorce? I call a reader sometimes he's been right! He told me I would met my soul mate in 3 mths. The moment I saw him I was ...
A. 20 April 2008: Ask him if he ever sees himself getting re-married.
If he says yes then tell him he should maybe think about looking into divorce so he's free.
If you can't ask him about this then you have to ask yourself if it really is love. Do you want to b... (read in full...)
I think I'm a lesbian! Should I contact this girl?
Q. Hello everyone!, Ummm well this is kinda hard to say because im not sure if im right. I think I'm a lesbian. I have a boyfriend and I love him and stuff but sometimes when I see girls I feel physically attracted to them and yesterday I think I ...
A. 19 April 2008: You can't contact this girl if you are in a relationship. That would be cheating.
Lots of people go through "curious" phases, but if you are with someone then you just have to put up with it and wait till you are single to act.
It might be s... (read in full...)
He suggested that my passiveness in intimacy makes him feel as though he forces me, I feel so stupid every time he brings this up!
Q. Hi, i have been seeing my boyfriend for about 6 months but i have always been quite shy about initiating sex and initiating kisses etc. i don't know why it makes me nervous, but it does. Recently my bf says he doesnt like having to initiate ...
A. 19 April 2008: I disagree with Fin, I think it's sweet that he's so worried about pressuring you.
If he was just nagging for more then it would be a different story, but he's not.
Don't get worried about your Ex's. They will think in a totally differen... (read in full...)
Any home treatment for Breast Enlargement (maybe a massage oil)?
Q. Any home treatment for Breast Enlargement or any oil available for breast massage reagarding the same ...
A. 19 April 2008: There are millions of cremes and oils out there. You could spend a fortune if you wanted.
None of them work.
The reason most women have big boobs is
a) they are fat
b) they have had implants
c) they are images altered by computer
Learn... (read in full...)
I would have sworn he was acting and looking at me like a man in love, not an ex boyfriend, was he only trying to let me down gently?
Q. Split with b/f of a year a month ago.He claims he doesnt love me anymore and would like to be friends.Anyway we met up last week for the first time and I got very upset,he was so affectionate towards me,stroking my hair,wiping away my tears and ...
A. 19 April 2008: He may not love you any more but he still cares about you. He's going to give you hugs etc if you are crying, rather than a manly handshake.
If you are starting to get over him, please make sure you are not just hoping he's going to want you back... (read in full...)
10 years and the love has faded. Should we give up or carry on the relationship without intimacy?
Q. I have been in my relationship for 10 years, we get on great and he is my best friend but after 10 years neither of us is sure if we want to get married (which people keep asking us). Also, we very rarely kiss (properly) or have sex, it has never ...
A. 19 April 2008: Well it's up to you. But the fact you are here asking a bunch of online strangers suggests you are thinking of getting out and just want reassurance.
Do you want to get married and have kids one day? Does he? Is this really all you want from lif... (read in full...)
Why am I afraid of living with my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend asked me to move in with me today, and my reaction was to freak out! what should I do now and should i move in with him? we've been together 3 years, and he has been a good bf, supporting me in whatever i do. We've lived in a stude...
A. 19 April 2008: I know 2 couples who have broken up after they moved in together after uni.
One pair lasted less than a week. Luckily there was another couple who were after the flat and they were able to move straight out again.
The other lasted a couple ... (read in full...)
Sexual harrassment by work colleague outside the work place, what can be done?
Q. I work for a call centre and recently they have taken temp staff on, some of which are male. I amongst others have been allocating to help train 2. They have been there only 7 days and on the first Friday we all went to local bar after work at 4p...
A. 19 April 2008: I would tell you to just ignore him, but in fact no.
He sexually assaulted you - his boss - and your company is still going to pay him money to turn up.
Tell your boss at work you want this man sacked.
If you just ignore him he will have ... (read in full...)
Have I wasted 5 1/2 years with this guy?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 1/2 years and we've lived together for 90% of that time. He is 30 and I am 26. He has a full-time job and I have started my own business in the last year. I like change and he is the exact opposite. I ...
A. 19 April 2008: You've said you are with him because you are scared of not finding anyone better. But you are not going to find anything better while you are sat at home looking after this jerk.
Tell his friends to talk to him. Get them to tell him he's at risk ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or did my friend imagine it?
Q. hey everyone.. i have a problem.. there is this guy who comes to my place everyday to help my father and play with my kid brother..he's been coming for 6 whole months and i never noticed him.. one day a friend of mine came to my place when he wa...
A. 19 April 2008: Even if he does, he probably wants to keep his distance so it doesn't affect his job.
My friends used to tell me people liked me all the time when they didn't. It's just a teenage girl thing to do.
Don't take her too seriously and don't worry ... (read in full...)
I feel down all the time...
Q. Hi I'm 13 and need some help. I get REALLY REALLY REALLY angry at times over the stupidest of things but it's getting to the stage when I'm putting my self in danger and end up thinking dark things. I'm hardly ever happy any more and when I am I ...
A. 19 April 2008: Talk to a friend, a parent or a doctor.
You shouldn't feel this way. If you feel like you want to hurt yourself then get some help.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How frequent is pregnancy by using the withdrawal method?
Q. Who has actually gotten pregnant while using the pull-out method? I don't mean if he accidentally didn't pull out in time, I mean who has gotten pregnant just from pre-cum? I had a c-section 5 weeks ago and I haven't been bleeding for a few weeks ...
A. 19 April 2008: I agree with the above person. You don't need to actually meet someone who's got pregnant this way to know it happens. I've never met anyone who's got cholera from drinking dirty water but I still wouldn't do it.
Go to your doctor and get a contra... (read in full...)
It's hard to be friends because we weren't friends prior to dating, now he acts as if we never even had a relationship!
Q. I have been boyfriend trouble. me and my boyfriend of 4 months broke up. i am very hurt since this happened tuesday, I know that us being 14 and all you cant really say it was love but We honestly were in love. now its gone. He acts now as if ...
A. 19 April 2008: He's probably putting on a brave face.
Leave him to it, back off and get over him.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
It's hard to be friends because we weren't friends prior to dating, now he acts as if we never even had a relationship!
Q. I have been boyfriend trouble. me and my boyfriend of 4 months broke up. i am very hurt since this happened tuesday, I know that us being 14 and all you cant really say it was love but We honestly were in love. now its gone. He acts now as if ...
A. 19 April 2008: He's probably putting on a brave face.
Leave him to it, back off and get over him.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Now I like him but not allowed to see him
Q. Hey everyone, i had just recently wrote about a guy younger then me that i felt liked me..i had thought a lot about it and realized that if he asked me out i would say yes as i realized i do have feelings for him. last night was one of the nigh...
A. 19 April 2008: Where are your parents?
Why is your brother allowed to ground you?
If your feelings for this guy are real and if his feelings for you are real then he will wait for you for a little while.
Talk to your parents and aunt about your brother ... (read in full...)
My overseas player who never asked me for sex is playing games with me! What is his deal?
Q. i dnt knw where to start but i heard something about me thats soo not true..here..goes...i use to date a guy back in high school, he was a guy that every girl wanted and i was a girl that every guy wanted anyways we dated and while in high school. ...
A. 19 April 2008: That's an incredibly long story.
He's overseas and you've found out he's lied to you and about you.
So cut contact. It's not hard, you don't speak to him a lot anyway. Make some friends who aren't on the internet and go and have fun in life... (read in full...)
How can I learn how to orgasm? Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I have read the other questions related to this on the website but I am still slightly confused. Does a woman have to learn how to orgasm? I am 17 and have never experienced an orgasm, and I'm worried there is something wrong. Other girls I sp...
A. 19 April 2008: I think I'm going to have to break it to you that your friends are lying or exaggerating.
Very few women orgasm during actual sex.
I had the same problem with my first boyfriend. The thing is that every time we started doing something I woul... (read in full...)
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