I have fallen for my best friend! She's now engaged so I need advice!
Q. Hi. As the title states, i've really fallen in love with my best friend but she is engaged and i have no idea what i should do next! A little information.... I have known this girl for just under 2 years now. She's only a year older then me....
A. 17 April 2008: You aren't thinking about it from his point of view at all. How would you feel if you were going to marry someone, spend the rest of your life with them, and then they got close to someone else. This other guy refused to meet you and was constantly ... (read in full...)
We fell so hard for each other but now he avoids me! He doesn't want to get "emotional".
Q. We met through mutual friends and one day we were at dinner in dining hall and him and i were bred so we decided to go get high together and hang out in his car. So he was really into me for 4 weeks (1 week before spring break, 2 weeks of break ...
A. 17 April 2008: Ok, you have really not been open or honest with this guy. So if you want him you need to start showing him some of that maturity you claim to have.
Why can't you ask him if he wants to hang out with you? You are constantly playing games with him... (read in full...)
What to do to stimulate squirting?
Q. So not every female can squirt, but what if you feel like you have the ability to what do you do to stimulate it?...
A. 17 April 2008: Have a play on your own, try different ways of holding your self open to play.
I don't squirt at all so I would have no idea how to make it happen, sorry.
Type it into google, it happens a lot in porn so there may be tips on sex sites.
Go... (read in full...)
My self esteem sucks any way to get it back up
Q. hi i need all the help i can get my boyfriend tells me that im beautiful and very attractive and he cant ever take his eyes off of me but ive seen pictures of his exs and some of them are like pornstar hot and he tells me that im beautiful but ...
A. 17 April 2008: He might have stopped saying it because he felt there was no point, because you won't believe him.
You have been bullied in the past but so have lots of us. You can't let your past dictate your life or we would all still be in nappies. You have... (read in full...)
My last pregnancy test resulted positive, how accurate are they? I'm starting to panick.
Q. Hey, im just panicking a little bit, i took a home pregnancy test yesterday and it came back positive, but my partners been away with work since the end of january, and id taken a test not long after he left and they both came back negative. My ...
A. 17 April 2008: Head to the doctor. You need to find out as soon as possible what is going on so you know what options you have.
Explain what you have done so far and he will be able to test you and let you know for definite. If you are not pregnant then talk to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lives with his ex, I feel like an outsider but am afraid to discuss it with him!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and love him very much. However, I am finding things difficult as he still lives with his ex and I feel a bit like an outsider in his life. He recently said that he is happy living with his ex. ...
A. 17 April 2008: You are going to have to do something, even if it means you risk losing him. At the moment he has the best of both worlds, and unless you tell him you aren't happy, he's going to carry on as he is.
Why not ask him if he would like to stay at yours... (read in full...)
I’m starting to feel like I was born to be treated inappropriately.
Q. I am battling to come to terms with the fact that a man who left me is now engaged to be married late this year. I still want him and I thought and prayed that he comes back to me. He hasn’t and now I feel that even though I prayed God decided to ...
A. 17 April 2008: You are lucky. You met guys who showed themselves to be idiots and beneath you before you got married and before there were kids involved.
You need to figure out what your dream in life is. As far as I can see there is nothing keeping you in your ... (read in full...)
Please help me with my insecurities. I think they derive from witnessing infidelity in my family.
Q. hi, sorry if this is long! when i was young my mum got cheated on by my dad and how it was done was very sneeky that now has made me feel inscure.my current bf is lovely, but has lied to me about other aspects of our relationship and i find i...
A. 17 April 2008: You know why you are doing this. You know it isn't for real reasons.
Have you talked to your Bf about it and told him why you are being so paranoid? You need to explain it and apologise to him.
This could end up driving him away. How would ... (read in full...)
The thought of sleeping with someone else when I've only ever slept with my ex really scares me... besides I don't want to be used just for sex!
Q. Ok I really need some help please guys...I recently came out of a 3 1/2 year relationship, which ended 6 months ago. Since then, I've been feeling really down and found it hard to go out and talk to guys. I've been slowly feeling better, keeping ...
A. 17 April 2008: If this guy wanted to use you, he wouldn't still be here and calling you his girlfriend. He would have realised that first night he wasn't getting any sex and moved on.
Everyone has different morals. So only you can decide what is alright for you.... (read in full...)
My brotherly love for her has turned into romantic love, but she is married. What do I do?
Q. hi, i had met this lady abt 7 yrs ago through a online chatroom..since then we have been havin this brother n sister relationship. i jus realise recently that i may had fallen in love with her. i m 22 n she is 38 n married for 15 yr..what should i...
A. 17 April 2008: Cut your friendship. Leave her marriage alone. She is taken, end of story.
Explain you have fallen for her and need to do this and if you get over her or if she ever splits up with her husband, you can get back in touch.
In the mean time get ou... (read in full...)
Need help he never rang back
Q. Hi I need advice what to do, been seeing a lovely guy for around 8months, never really argued, treated eachother equally, he rings me all the time, he works away and just got back home and rang me, everything was fine, and he said he had a lot to do ...
A. 17 April 2008: You should ring him. This was a misunderstanding of some kind so he obviously feels hurt by something that's not real. However, in his mind at the moment it's your fault.
Ring him and ask to talk about it, tell him you don't understand what you... (read in full...)
Does anyone know if any bookstores or online sells books on fantasies, etc.???
Q. Hi!!! I have a question and it may seem a little wierd, but here it is: I was wondering if they sell books that have like fantasies, outfits and sexual positions. Does anyone know??? If so, would you please tell me where to get those??? Thanks much. ...
A. 17 April 2008: Type in sexual fantasy into amazon / google, you'll get a million suggestions and a lot of stuff online for free.
Nearly all book stores have some kind of section devoted to sex, check out the websites of any large bookshops near you.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
I'm sick of playing games so what do I do?
Q. Well this guy I like we were sort of seeing each other for around six months then I found out he had a girlfriend and was really hurt by this because I had developed very strong feelings for him but he split up with her for me I forgave him after a ...
A. 17 April 2008: I know your feelings are strong for him but he is treating you like a doormat and walking all over you.
If he cared about you, he wouldn't treat you this way.
He might say he wants you back but then he might drop you again.
He's a liar and... (read in full...)
Should I move to California to be with my boyfriend?
Q. okayy. my boyfriend and i have been together fer almost 3 months. ive known him for like 8 months altogether because he dated my best friend. we have a great relationship, im about to turn 14 and he just turned 15. the only things wrong with our ...
A. 17 April 2008: Even if you move, you'll be long distance with him and hardly see him.
This relationship is hardly perfect and you aren't planning on marrying him. Besides, you've said you'd prefer to be with a girl anyway so you can't be in love with him, or ... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian for having a crush on my teacher?
Q. Hi i really need help! i no a lot of people have problems about a "crush" on their teacher. but i can PROMISE you this is more but the thing is i have never considered myself to be a lesbian but this teacher is the same sex. i cant stop thinking a...
A. 17 April 2008: It's perfectly normal to have these feelings. Especially towards an older cool girl or teacher.
Everyone goes through periods of change during their teens as their hormones change levels.
Don't assume you are going to be a lesbian. You may... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble masturbating! What is this white stuff?
Q. hi, im 15 years old and im having trouble masterbating. when its time for me to cum i only get a white liquid. anyone got any advice???...
A. 17 April 2008: What are you expecting to come out? Sperm looks like a white liquid so that's probably what you are seeing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting - or is he completely oblivious? I feel I can't trust him when he tells me of his plans.
Q. My boyfriend began riding motorcyles last year. He is planning a continental-wide ride later this year that will last 2 months. He's 30 and sees this as his 'HS graduation trip' his 'college study-abroad' - he did neither. I'm very supportive of ...
A. 17 April 2008: This comes from your fear of him on a motorbike.
So although he hasn't been as thoughtful as he should do, I think the best way to get round this problem, is to take the blame.
Apologise for being so scared about it all. Explain that you... (read in full...)
I feel I am doing all the relationship work, how do I get him to be more participative? Am I unreasonable to expect more consideration?
Q. Hey guys id love your help on this matter! I have been seeing a guy for two months now and we are not going out yet. Things are going great between us, we really get on and i feel we have a spark except for the fact that i feel i am making more of ...
A. 16 April 2008: He's working long hours, he's stressed and you are sending texts basically saying "my friends think I should dump you."
Is it a wonder he's not acting like a perfect gentleman?
Why don't you go and visit him and talk to him about everything... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about watching a sex video of an ex boyfriend, is that considered cheating and should I tell my current partner?
Q. I have been in a great relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, but I got into it right after I broke up with my ex of 8 months. My ex and I made a sex video that I had on my computer, and during the first few months of my new ...
A. 16 April 2008: What you did with your ex is no business of your current boyfriend.
If you want to tell him it's probably just because you are feeling guilty and want to feel better. All it will do in reality is hurt your boyfriend.
You were a bit naughty by... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets upset is a man calls me but then again I react in the same manner when he contacts the ex. Any guidance?
Q. How can I get over that my boyfriend of a year still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend from time to time? and he gets all upset if a man says or tries to call me to see how i am doing so I am confused about how to react to him. He reacts the ...
A. 16 April 2008: Talk to him and say you don't think it's fair. He can't have it both ways.
Either you both have no contact with ex's or you both deal with the fact you can have friends of the opposite sex.
I think it's a bit sad that you are both telling eac... (read in full...)
Is mood swings one of the side effects of weed and does it create addiction?
Q. Dose anybody know the side effects of smoking weed. I was dating this guy and he was so moody and I think it had something to do with him smoking weed all the time. He would even leave our dates to go smoke it and get up in the middle of the night ...
A. 16 April 2008: There is some debate on whether cannabis is chemically addictive.
However, you can be mentally addicted to it. In the same way you can be addicted to chocolate, or sex but more extreme.
Weed can cause mood swings, paranoia, memory loss, and... (read in full...)
After I ejaculate all I want to do is sleep. Is this a normal reaction?
Q. Kudos to whoever had smth to say abt my previous problem. Though sm people really gave me the hair drier, it turned out to be the perfect advice from a true friend. But i do have this other problem. Is it normal that i should feel so exhausted ever...
A. 16 April 2008: You'd have to get a man to advise you on this....
But I think it is common for men to want to sleep. All I will say is to make sure you don't just fall asleep and ignore your girlfriend after sex.
Give her cuddles and closeness so she feels lov... (read in full...)
His first affair was only 2 years into the marriage, now a person claims to be his extramarital child after 27 years, how much am I still to endure and why do I still love him?
Q. Someone please tell me why I can't seem to get my husband to Love me like he used to ? .... We have been married 32 years,since I was 14 years old and we have 3 beautiful children. My husband started having affairs after we were married 2 years....
A. 16 April 2008: Do you not think your 15 year old sees how your husband treats you? Do you want him to go off thinking that is how marriage should be?
Tell your husband you want out. There is nothing left for you as things are. Talk to your 15 yearold and your... (read in full...)
If we are to be friends, I must fall out of love with her NOW!
Q. How can I fall out of love with my ex. We've been apart for over a year now, and yet my heart still sinks anytime I so much as see a picture of her. She still wants for us to be friends, but even though we can only communicate through MSN, I still ...
A. 16 April 2008: She is always going to want to be friends, girls always do. But that will just tear you apart if you still love her.
Tell her that you need to cut contact for a month so you can get some space and get over her.
No MSN, no texts, no nothin... (read in full...)
Someone please tell me what's happening with my relationship?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating off and on. i broke up with him 3 times in the past because i didnt understand my feelings. this time around our relationship started out fine but then when his dad told him that are ages were a problem things ...
A. 16 April 2008: Sit down and find out how he feels. He's probably a bit worried you are going to split up with him again so you need to be really honest with him so he knows where he stands.
Talk to him about everything in a calm way and really listen to him.
... (read in full...)
Lose of sex drive
Q. Hi, I have quite a sensative question to ask regarding loss of sex drive. I've known my husband for 7 years and have been married for 4. Unfortunatley through most of those 4 years I have had little to no sex drive. A lot of this was down to stre...
A. 16 April 2008: Are you on the pill? Different pills can either boost or kill off your sex drive.
As you say you have been depressed, I would say this is probably the main cause of this.
You seem to see sex as something you should be doing for your husband. Wh... (read in full...)
My partner of 4 years is very controlling about everything even down to what we eat!
Q. My partner of 4 years is very controlling about everything even down to what we eat. We recently split for a couple of weeks when i found out he'd looked at porn on the internet. We got back together after talks, because I'd seen what he'd looked at ...
A. 16 April 2008: This is not a happy relationship. Is it really worth fighting and going through all this niggling stress and constant scrutiny?
Would you not be happier in a place of your own with all the freedom you want?
I'd have a good think about what... (read in full...)
I re-used a condom 3 wks later. Am I Pregnant?
Q. hey... so ... here is my problem... me and my boyfriend had sex with a re-used condom about two weeks ago. the condom we re-used was first used about three weeks before we used it the second time.. does the sperm die off or what? he cleaned it out ...
A. 16 April 2008: It's a bit soon to take a pregnancy test, it may not work after only 2 weeks.
What you can do is use this scare to make sure THIS NEVER HAPPENS AGAIN!!
Get yourself on the pill and get some new condoms.
Another thing is that your bf might ha... (read in full...)
So confused about my relationship...any advice?
Q. Hello, I am a sophmore in high school and I'm really confused about what I want right now. I've liked this girl in my grade since December. She's so great, she's nice, sensitive, pretty and she treats me right. I told her how I felt and she said she ...
A. 16 April 2008: If you love her then you you'll wait for her.
But why aren't you having lots of fun with her as a friend? There is nothing to stop you hanging out with her, seeing films. etc.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Any ideas what he could mean by these texts?
Q. I'm a bit confused... a friend of a friend was texting me the other night asking me to go he pub. I couldn't because i was in work early the next morning. I told him and he was trying for ages to persuade me to go.. although i never..so he continued ...
A. 15 April 2008: He was in a pub so don't take anything he says too seriously.
The real problem here is the fact you have such incredible low self esteem!
Get some confidence in yourself!!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me 6 days a week and 1 day with another woman!!
Q. I already know the answer here ....just would like some positive words to help get through this... I have been with my boyfriend(X now) for 6 1/2 years...been through the ups and downs, i'm his best friend, I gave him my all - sexually, taken ...
A. 15 April 2008: Tell him fine and send him off to her. Don't be there when he gets back.
You are in your prime and as you said, you know what you have to do. You are not a doormat, you a strong intelligent woman.
Let him deal with the shock and hurt when he... (read in full...)
I've had a very thin yellowish discharge afres ex, could it be an infection?
Q. I had sex for the first time a week ago and ever since i've had a very thin yellowish discharge that smells bad. Do you think i have an infection? Or could it be something else? it only started after having sex....
A. 15 April 2008: If you used a condom then you should be ok. If you didn't then it could be an infection.... Or it could be his sperm coming out again. It doesn't get eaten up there, it swims as far as it can and then it dies and slides back out. And it smells.
... (read in full...)
My sister's marrying her BF next year and the family are very uncomfortable with this - he has a record!!
Q. Hi, I have a problem, I live with my girlfriend and my family and I'm worried about my sister - she's 18 and her boyfriend is 34. I already think this is a bit wrong but the thing is he's just got out of prison after being there for three months. ...
A. 15 April 2008: I do feel you are right to worry. They don't lock you up unless you have committed a crime, and chatting to girls and being nice to them is not a crime.
If he's on the computer, tell him "aren't you banned from doing that?" If he snaps at you, sna... (read in full...)
Do you think this can work, has anyone experienced this? He says he thinks he can't be faithful...
Q. he said he realy wants to be with me but feels that he will cheat on me within the next few years if we stay together. do you think this is just a excuse? i asked him when we first got together if he was ready for a relationship and he said y...
A. 15 April 2008: Wow, you've found the worlds most self aware man.
It's been really good of him to tell you straight that he's not a one-woman-man.
You aren't deeply in love with him and you can stay friends. I wouldn't carry on sleeping with him, as if you h... (read in full...)
Can my sister be pregnant?
Q. Hi i have a 15 year old sister and she had sex for the first time on march 4 2008 and today is april 15 2008 she has not gotten a period but she says her period was irregular but then regular so my question is can she be pregnant?????...
A. 15 April 2008: If she did not use contraception then yes she could be pregnant.
See a doctor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to orgasm?
Q. Whats the best way to make my GF orgasm ive got her close but shes never actully orgasmed please help?...
A. 15 April 2008: Stop trying.
She is lying there thinking "Oh god, if I don't do it he's going to feel awful." She can see how hard you are trying and will be picking up on your stress.
And that, is not sexy. If she's not feeling relaxed and sexy, it won't h... (read in full...)
How do shy/non flirty guys show they like a girl???
Q. How do shy/non flirty guys show they like a girl??? I like this guy and hes one of those guys who doesnt flirt with any girls. So I dont know how to tell if he likes me or not... ...
A. 15 April 2008: I think Uncle Phill has got it right.
Ask him if he thinks you are pretty. If he says yes and seems enthusiastic about it, ask him if he would ever ask you out.
You can pretend you just want some guy advice if you like.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Met him online and we've spoken to meet in person. Problems are his age and long distance.
Q. I'm 25 and gay, and I met a guy online, who I really connected with. The problems are, he's 18, and lives halfway across the country. We've spoken of meeting, and I think it's mutual that we both want to. I'm still apprehensive, due to his age, but ...
A. 15 April 2008: Well the odds are against you here.
But the odds are against you winning the lottery and people still do.
Long distance is really really hard. Are you ready for that kind of commitment? Is he? If you are already having doubts and getting jeal... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by waiting?
Q. I have a huge problem. I have a big crush on my best friend's older brother. I'm 16 and he is 22. I have talked to him about it and he told me that he would wait for me to turn 18. Am i wasting my time waiting, or am i doing the right thing? I just...
A. 15 April 2008: Hell yeah, you are doing the right thing.
If you want this relationship to work long term then you are going to have to have both sets of parents onside.
Your Dad will not be happy with his 16 yearold daughter going out with a 22 yearold. But ... (read in full...)
How am I going to be happy again?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years a little over 6 weeks ago because we had been drifting apart and I had communicated to him what was happening. In the last six months of our relationship I told him that I was unhappy and I had been hearing ...
A. 15 April 2008: I broke up with the guy I thought I was going to marry in my late teens and I felt SO LOST. The world suddenly felt so big and scary. If I spoke to other guys it still felt like cheating and was really scary because dating at 20 is a LOT different ... (read in full...)
I did not get the same gratification with him as when I masturbate alone, why?
Q. I've always masturbated using a chair and it never fails to give me pleasure. However recently I got close to a guy and we got intimate. He masturbated me with his hand it felt good. Then I tried rubbing myself up and down his leg but I didn't get ...
A. 15 April 2008: If its the first few times you've been with this guy then of course you aren't going to be totally relaxed like you are when you are alone.
It felt good so concentrate on that. Don't expect to cum, just enjoy it without any pressure and then you... (read in full...)
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