I did not get the same gratification with him as when I masturbate alone, why?
Q. I've always masturbated using a chair and it never fails to give me pleasure. However recently I got close to a guy and we got intimate. He masturbated me with his hand it felt good. Then I tried rubbing myself up and down his leg but I didn't get ...
A. 15 April 2008: If its the first few times you've been with this guy then of course you aren't going to be totally relaxed like you are when you are alone.
It felt good so concentrate on that. Don't expect to cum, just enjoy it without any pressure and then you... (read in full...)
Super awkward guy crisis...what should I do?
Q. I have this majour guy crisis right now. i really like this guy, and i guess he likes me back. And i went on a band trip with him a few days ago and he finally asked me out, which is great. Then the day after he broke up with me.But he told me not ...
A. 15 April 2008: This guy has you wrapped round his finger.
He's keeping you on as a semi-girlfriend incase the girl he really likes turns him down.
Are you really happy being his second choice? His Plan B?
He is being SO disrespectful to you and... (read in full...)
In love with my closest friend, standing by her or leaving her side are both hurtful, so how to cope?
Q. alright well my sad story/question goes a little somthign like this. im 18(male) and have been in love with my closest firend(female) for 4 years now(she knows)it's also how long i've known her roughly, so i know it's not a crush, i thought my ...
A. 15 April 2008: Sit her down and tell her that you need to give your friendship a bit of a break.
She may not realise how cruel she is being to you because she cares about you. But she'll see you as a gay best friend, who will tell her she's pretty and go shopp... (read in full...)
My sisters boyfriends are nasty? Is there anything I can do?
Q. hi, my sisters boyfriends are not nice to say the least. Basicly, my older sister, she is married has two children and married to this guy who basicly treats her terribly, she may as well be a single mom as she is the only one who takes care of the ...
A. 15 April 2008: They are going out with idiots, it's not you.
You can talk to them, ask them why they put up with it, you can tell them they can do better. Tell them you were upset by remarks their husbands made during your marriage troubles. But they may just... (read in full...)
I am so devastated that my husband has been looking at porn
Q. I am so devastated that my husband has been looking at porn...I have read all the advice I can find and realise that there are many different opinions on it...but for me its a non negotiable issue. Sadly I had been very cear with my usband about ...
A. 15 April 2008: Damn right you should be angry with him. I know some women wouldn't mind, and I know some men wouldn't think it was a big deal, but I agree with you - it's a betrayal.
However, I do not think it is a huge one, and it's totally not worth splittin... (read in full...)
How can I approach him so I can get to know him better, become his friend, etc?
Q. Hello guys! I'm new around here! So, I was wondering if you could give me some tips about something...Well, there's this guy at college...He's cute and he seems really nice, but he's older... I don't know him very well, how can I approach him so I ...
A. 14 April 2008: Find out what he's into and develop a new interest in it.
Get your friend to keep an eye out for him and find out about any clubs or teams he's on, where he drinks, if he goes to see a band.
It's not real stalking it's research.
Onc... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get over her but I can't!
Q. There is this girl that i like but she has a boyfriend so i'm trying to get over her. i tell myself i will but then i see her and i forget all that. how do i do it? ...
A. 14 April 2008: Keep doing what you are doing. It's really hard right now but it will get easier every time you see her.
She's a teen like you so she's hardly married to this lad. She might break up with him next week.
Keep your distance and see what happens... (read in full...)
I am getting tired of waiting for him to see that I am there for him, to notice that I have let him absorb my identity and my everything! It's confusing, what can I do?
Q. I've been in this relationship for past three years and it been wonderful but at the same time it has given me so much of sorrow that i feel like killing myself at times. I love this guy. For me it was love at first sight and he openly admits th...
A. 14 April 2008: I'm sorry hun but you aren't listening to him.
He doesn't want marriage. He puts his work, and even PSP before you. He thinks his Ex is his perfect girl. He started going out with you just for sex. He lives far away. He's a drug addict. He refus... (read in full...)
We share a sexual relationship and I want to compromise in pleasing him in ways I don't feel comfortable. Should I talk to him about this?
Q. I got a problem thats bothering me but I really don't want it to. I've been with someone for quite a while now but it's not a full on relationship more casual sex. Anyways he takes control in sex, which I prefer but now he wants me to instead, prob...
A. 14 April 2008: If it's just casual sex then why bother? It's not worth getting upset over, and it's definitely not worth doing something you don't like.
Do you think he would compromise himself to please you?
If you are sex friends and want to try more thi... (read in full...)
My ex passed me an STD, I'm not sure whether it is recommendable now to have a baby with my current partner.
Q. i had a std with my ex boyfriend and now i dont know if i can have a baby with my new boyfriend can u help me please. from sarah [Moderator's note: Please tell us the name of the disease, and note the aunts can only give you a relative answer befo...
A. 14 April 2008: Go to your GP. Since he treated you, he will know what this thing was and if it will affect your fertility.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I be with him? We have a loooonnngggg history here...
Q. I have been in a loving relationship with a wonderful man for just over 20 months now. We were friends before we became romantically involved, and although we've had our ups and downs, everything has generally been ok.. or so I've been naive enough ...
A. 14 April 2008: This is a relationship that is so complicated and wrapped up in tiny tiny details of who did what.
It shouldn't be this complicated, and I don't think either of you are going to get on with things when there is all this previous anger and resentme... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel for her... before she leaves?
Q. Right... I have a problem...i am not sure about it... Okay this Student Teacher from my school... She is new and she came about 2 months ago.. i'm having a crush on her ....and daydream about her mostly in school and i do stalk her mostly at l...
A. 13 April 2008: Don't tell her whatever you do. There are SO MANY rules about kids and teachers in the UK. If you tell her, she has to report it and someone has to talk to you about it to see if she abused her position in anyway or she could be a paedophile.
... (read in full...)
If he accepts to go together to the cinema, does he implicitly accept to be my BF???...
Q. I was wondering...If you ask a guy out to the movies and he's 13,will he then(once he's said yes) accept you as a gf. Because i could pluck up the courage to try it,but he might not think of me as his gf and simply GET ANOTHER GF. Are guys rea...
A. 13 April 2008: If you ask him to the cinema for the first time then he will be agreeing to go to the cinema.
However, he would have to be pretty stupid to realise it's not a date.
See what happens on the date, and if it all goes well then at the end of the d... (read in full...)
Planning to tell him I like him so that he understands why I am avoiding him... my teacher...
Q. well I like my teacher a lot and im deciding whether I should tell him or not. I'm thinking telling him is the only way I'm going to stop liking him because its going to get rid of all the what if's going on in my head and I know it might make ...
A. 13 April 2008: You realise that if you tell him, you won't just be telling him.
There are so so many rules about this. He will tell the head of department, who will tell the principal. They will then pull you out for a "chat" about how it can never happen a... (read in full...)
Our relation is purely sexual and... in secrecy. I love him and don't want us to hide any longer, what to tell him?
Q. I like this guy right, but whenever he want to hang out it's when nobody is around or just to have sex and let it be confidential. I want our relationship to be out in the open, and I feel like he is hiding me from his friends. But, i reallly LOVE ...
A. 13 April 2008: He's using you for sex.
If he wanted you to be his real girlfriend then he would treat you like a real girlfriend.
Go up to him when he's with his friends and kiss him. See what he does.
If he doesn't act like he wants you to kiss him th... (read in full...)
Do sweatpants (thick ones) prevent pregnancy?
Q. If the guy had thick sweat pants on and underwear and i had nothing can i still get pregnant?...
A. 13 April 2008: If sperm went anywhere near your virgina then you could get pregnant.
Get the morning after pill if you are unsure.
Go on the pill if you think there is a risk this might happen again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My friend is going to ask the boy I like to go out with me, I'm so nervous about this situation!
Q. Hey !! I need some advice . My very good close friend is going to ask the guy I like to go out with me and I'm totally nervous and scared .... he's showed signs that he liked me but I'm still not sure .... she thinks that he does but ...IDK .... ...
A. 13 April 2008: It's a risk that you might feel like an idiot and get laughed at if he says no. Or you might go out with him and it will be great.
But that is the risk you take when you ask someone out. That's why I let guys ask me out not the other way round.
... (read in full...)
So confused over the only lad I've ever loved. Does he have feelings for me or hate me like the rest of them?
Q. hey ok i'm not even sure what i'm asking here but to give you the full picture i'm affriad this will be quite long even thought i will try to keep it brief. Right theres a guy in my class who i seriously like. Although we didn't speak loads we used ...
A. 13 April 2008: Flippin' eck that's complicated.
My advice is to leave it and see what happens. Like you said, you have to be with these people for the next year and it will make your life easier if you are single and independent.
What if you go out with him ... (read in full...)
It used to be guys crushing on me, now I am struck dumb with first ever crush of my own!
Q. well i am a really confused teen...ever since high school i have been dtaing like the hottest guys ever,everyone used to try and make up converations with me,want to hang out with me..if i ever liked a guy i used to get him in know time..this is the ...
A. 13 April 2008: Go and talk to him.
Simple as that.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I really regret cheating but I regret not telling my boyfriend even more
Q. Hi, This is a really long story but please bear with me! If i am being honest i do not know why i am writting here other than i suppose to get it off my chest. The story is i have been with my boyfriend for over 2 half years and i really do love him...
A. 13 April 2008: There are 2 reasons to tell him
1. to have an "honest relationship"
2. To make yourself feel less guilty.
Lets face it - number 1 is just something you are making up to justify number 2.
Don't tell your boyfriend you messed around with someo... (read in full...)
Tired? Sickness? Cold? Stomach Pains? Any suggestions.........?
Q. Hello my lovelies. =] This isn't really a relationship question, but just wanted a few ideas as I really despise going to the doctors. Over the last few weeks, I've been feeling very tired like to the point of only being able to stand for abo...
A. 13 April 2008: Without asking a doctor you won't find out what is wrong.
Look after yourself for a bit. Eat a big breakfast and take a multi-vitamin with iron. Make sure you eat lots of fruit and veg and get some decent sleep.
If it hasn't stopped in a wee... (read in full...)
Pregnant with my husband's child, but still in love with the ex... what should I do?
Q. Well I have a 2 yr old son with my ex fiance, we never really broke up he got deported to mexico and i had no way of getting hold of him for like 6 months. I became friends with this guy, I wasn't attracted to him but we just kept hanging out since ...
A. 13 April 2008: You have just used your husband. There is no denying it. You have now married him and you are having unprotected sex with him so you are stuck there for now.
Make the most of it with your husband. This Mexican guy needs to start paying for his ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel he doesn't respect me because he ignores me to talk to his friends!
Q. i met a guy through common friends and we got together 2 weeks ago.we don't know each other very well,but i have fun when i am with him.problem is that he is sometimes very nice with me and sometimes i feel he doesn't respect me because he ignores ...
A. 13 April 2008: Don't cheat on him. But why are you letting him get away with being disrespectful?
If he is just a useless boy then he may not realise he is ignoring you, some of them just don't know what they are doing when it comes to being a boyfriend. But you ... (read in full...)
How to keep my skin smooth and healthy without ingrown hairs? (I wax)
Q. Hello I wax My body and want to make sure I can keep my skin smooth and healthy without ingrown stubble what can I buy for my skin to help keep healthy and to make my hair easier to bare when it grows out again need less echy's?...
A. 13 April 2008: If you are waxing then it is going to itch as it comes back as itching is the natural way your body has of making you break the skin so the new hairs can get out.
What you need to do is buy some body exfoliator, which will get rid of any dead ski... (read in full...)
Dating guys but attracted to girls. Am I bisexual?
Q. I'm 20 going 21 this december. I've been dating Guys all this while.. but I find myself always attracted to girls. i tends to be shy when am with guys, but i'll become touchy with the girls. am i a bisexual, lesbian or something? ...
A. 13 April 2008: Only you can know if you actually fancy girls, or whether you just feel far far more comfortable with them.
When you go out with guys, is it because you want them, or just because you like them as a friend and they asked you?
One thing t... (read in full...)
A boy interferes in my private affairs and has approached me inappropriately. What can I do to avoid him?
Q. Hi, I'm a 14 year old female living in the UK, I go to secondary school and a few months ago we asked the teachers whether were allowed to have some sort of prom, the teachers agreed after some discussions. The prom was like for raising money for ...
A. 13 April 2008: If he won't leave you alone then threaten to tell a teacher on him. Tom will back you up that this guy is practically stalking you.
The fact that he grabbed you and tried to touch you is technically assault.
Talk to Tom and your friends abo... (read in full...)
Involved in a relation with a teenager; when I realised it was wrong, he blackmailed to carry on with our relation!
Q. After my marriage failed i was in a bad place emotionally and ended up allowing an affair to start with someone 15yrs younger than me and only 15 himself. When ppl started finding out about it realisation hit me and it felt wrong and i knew i had ...
A. 13 April 2008: It's great that you have decided not to teach your girls that this is normal. You can escape and get a better life.
The easiest way to get this scumbag out of your life is to report him to the police. Then while he is out, change the locks on... (read in full...)
I gave in to his request (oral sex) but he did not return the favour. Am I right to be upset?
Q. I recently gave my 1st blowjob to a guy I was dating. He wanted it so much and so I gave in. Although personally I felt the act demeaning, I didn't mind doing it as I was attracted to this guy so much. However when I asked him if he would return ...
A. 13 April 2008: What a selfish pig.
Keep asking him for oral and refuse till he has returned the favour. If he doesn't give as much as he takes then move on and find a decent guy.
As for the not liking blow jobs and feeling a bit demeaned, don't worry abou... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this resentment and move on, and why is it that a man needs more that just a devoted wife to boost his ego??
Q. told my husband his incessant flirting with a coworker (all 3 of us work together) was going to stop, he admitted he crossed some lines because flirting makes him feel better about himself. word got to her that she needed to stop, and she admitted ...
A. 13 April 2008: You chased her off and she admitted she was wrong and apologised. You won.
Two thing you can do though....
1. Spice things up with your husband, wear pretty lipstick when you go into work, brush past him in a sexy way.
I'm guessing that he is ... (read in full...)
The guy my partner had a fling with will also be at the ball, I fear this will ruin the enjoyment for me!
Q. In a few weeks theres a ball that I may be going to. However, I am worried aboout going and am having second thoughts. I am meant to be going with my GF bt i have a feeling that this guy she sort of had a fling with is going to be there. I dont know...
A. 13 April 2008: When you say "had a fling with" do you mean she cheated on you, or do you mean he's just a bit of an Ex from before she was with you?
If she cheated on you, then it's no wonder you are uptight, you are clearly having trust issues. Talk to her abou... (read in full...)
How do I know if my crush likes the nickname I call him?
Q. It's nothing offensive on the contrary it should be flattering, but he never has said if he likes it or not when I call him like that, so Idk if continue calling him that name. I do it cuz I like him, but if he doesn't like it I can stop it and c...
A. 13 April 2008: Just keep calling him it every now and then when you are alone. If he knows you won't use it in front of his mates and likes it, then will respond warmly and call you something too maybe.
I call my army husband all kinds of sweet names when we ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a low sex drive because of an accident. What can I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about six months and he's had an accident a few years ago and is on constant medication - loads of it and he says it affects his sex drive it always has done since we got together and I know it's not his fault but we ...
A. 13 April 2008: Medications and things can really affect your sex drive and you don't even realise. Mine started out huge, then I went on the pill and went off the idea, then I changed pills and now I want my husband all the time. (and yes he turns me down too ... (read in full...)
I'm worried we will drift apart before we get serious! Any suggestions?
Q. Well here goes: I've been dating, what i consider to be an amazing woman, granted I'm 29 she's 23 but the level of maturity is the same so age was never a problem with us. We've been together for just over 3 months, and we've hit a huge snag. The ...
A. 13 April 2008: Talk about everything! Talk about trees and films and books and squirrels. Go out and start a class together so you can discuss your paintings or german or whatever.
If you have to struggle and research things to talk about her with then it is a ... (read in full...)
We don't seem to have much in common....will it still work?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with my bf. Lately, I have been feeling that maybe we are just not there yet. I have always dreamt of having a perfect relationship where he would propose to me, get marry, have childrens, etc. I always wanted ...
A. 13 April 2008: So,
1. you never see him
2. You have nothing in common
3. he doesn't want the commitment that you want
4. he doesn't love you as much as you want
and yet you are moving in with him?!?!?!?!?!!
WHAT???
Why on earth would you do that? You... (read in full...)
She's betrayed me several times, so how do I move on?
Q. ok my ex and I met each other and went out about 2 years ago october. it was a long distance relationship. she lvied about 100 miles away. we went out for about 4 months then we broke up. then shortly after got back together. and did that a couple ...
A. 13 April 2008: Ask your friend if she cheated? You don't seem sure, even though you hang out with the guy and go round his house.
100 miles is a long way so you won't see her very much. Are you sure you haven't made her into this perfect person in your head? Is... (read in full...)
My father will forbid me from seeing my boyfriend, should I break up with him?
Q. I have a boyfriend...we've been together for 1 month, last week i asked my father whether i could have boyfriend or not, he told me that it was my decision. I'm 15 and my b/f is 17. The problem is that now my dad told me that he had been said tha...
A. 13 April 2008: Get your boyfriend round for dinner so your dad can meet him and see he is a good guy.
Make sure he dresses smart and is really respectful to your dad. Point out all his good features to your dad? Is he doing well in school? Does he have any inte... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gives me "advice" and it seems controlling, so how do I set a boundary with this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating a man for nearly a year now and our sex life is great. I feel love for him and he for me, but this is now feeling strained for me. He constantly feels the need to tell me what to do, how to do it when to do it, how I'm ...
A. 13 April 2008: You've told him to stop and if he doesn't then you have to think about whether he is worth it.
Every time he starts telling you what to do - tell him off. He may not even realise he's doing it. It could just be a habit he has because he's trying t... (read in full...)
Girls only! I have bumps on my vagina, are they supposed to be there?
Q. what are the tiny bumps on the inside of the lips on your vagina? are they suppose to be there? should i see a doctor? they are viry tiny, and plenty of them on the inside not the ouside. what are they? how did i get them?...
A. 13 April 2008: If they are just bumps, then they are probably pores or something. If they are itchy or sore or bleeding then you should maybe see your doctor.
We aren't doctors on here so we can't tell you definitely but I wouldn't worry too much.
You are... (read in full...)
I'm developing feelings for a gorgeous guy at work! Is this okay?
Q. A while ago, I met an amazing guy through work. It started off as just a business relationship but we ended up becoming quite good friends and I began to really fancy him. He made me laugh constantly, we had so much in common in terms of interests ...
A. 12 April 2008: There is a real risk you could be his rebound girl.
Go out with him by all means but keep it light, and take things really slowly. Make sure you have been going out a good few weeks before you sleep with him. Make sure it's you he's after and not ... (read in full...)
14 and a virgin, I feel lonely and inadequate because all my friends have already had sex!
Q. I'm 14 and from Hampshire, England. all my friends have had sex. i feel lonley because i'm still a virgin. they arn't saying i MUST pop the cherry but i don't fit in anymore eg. i'm not invited to party. i've always been a bit awkward around p...
A. 12 April 2008: Taking Laxatives to slim is BULIMIA! Do not continue with this, please!
Tell yourself that boys don't like girls who are sick, and if you don't stop doing this you will get really ill and sick looking.
Just because you are waiting for the ... (read in full...)
Do you think his nervous habits when paying me compliments are signs that he's just lying?
Q. I would like to ask for the opinions of the aunts and uncles here about a man I am becoming very fond of who works in my neighborhood. We work in totally different places but met a few months back and have become quite friendly. I feel a strong ...
A. 12 April 2008: Why would he say you were pretty and lie about it? Why not just keep you as a friend?
I think it is more likely he is just nervous.
You say he's a policeman? So he's a big, rough, tough, alpha male. Men like that have no problem dealing ... (read in full...)
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