My 40 y-o bf wants me to move in with him, I'm 16 and scared my mum will cut me off if I do
Q. I've fallen in love with a 40 year old man. He's everything to me and makes me happier than i ever been. I'm only 16, so there is a 24 year age gap. My mum hates him and is making life at home hell. All i want to do is move out, to live with this ...
A. 1 June 2008: You mum is handling this very badly, but I am sure you can understand why she is over-reacting this much.
Just try and talk to her and reassure her that you aren't going to run off with him, that you are not having sex, and that you want to show ... (read in full...)
Why do people think we are stupid little girls if we fancy a teacher?
Q. i may sound VERY naive right know but i have to ask this question,why do so many of you call us stupid little girls for liking(loving) our teachers?? we cant chose who we love you know our heart does.what if we really do have feelings for them.and...
A. 1 June 2008: I don't think you are stupid little girls for liking them, but I always advise girls (and boys) who ask for help on this subject to back off and not to tell the teacher or make a move or anything.
I would ask you to go and look at a question... (read in full...)
I'm just wondering if boyfriends still remain boyfriends after boot camp?
Q. Ok so my on and off boyfriend for two years just left for basic training for the national guard. Our relationship has been quite rocky these past years. We broke up a few months before he left, but got back together a month before he had to leave. ...
A. 1 June 2008: Absence can do one of 2 things - it can make you realise you are completely in love and can't look at another guy, or it can make you realise that after 2 weeks apart you are not missing them as much as just missing having a boyfriend and you start ... (read in full...)
Worried about my late-ish period
Q. Hi, I'm worried about my period. I started my period age 12 years 11 months, and I'm 15 years 6 months old now. 2 weeks ago I had very brief sex (about 5 minutes, it was our first time) with my boyfriend of 6 months, we used a condom and neither ...
A. 1 June 2008: As long as you used the condom properly and used it before having any sex then you are pretty safe from being pregnant.
Your body is probably just reacting to losing your virginity, plus the fact you are stressed about it so that can delay th... (read in full...)
I don't like her back!!!
Q. Hi, I'm 15. I've been single for almost 2 years now. My hearts always out to beautiful girls I cant have. But this one girl likes me. She's crazy for me. But I dont like her back. I don't consider her to be my type nor beautiful. I f...
A. 1 June 2008: It's fine to feel good about yourself when someone finds you attractive, you'd be odd if you didn't.
As for what to do about the girl, DO NOT give into temptation and go out with her just to feel good about yourself. That would be lying to her, ... (read in full...)
Should I try and steal this girl from her long distance boyfriend?
Q. I am studying abroad right now and realized I like a girl here. The thing is this girl has a boyfriend. She has been dating him for about 7 months or so, but he moved to another part of the country about 4 months ago. She talks to him a lot, and I ...
A. 1 June 2008: If I was in her position and you came and told me you wanted me to leave my boyfriend and go out with you instead, then I would politely tell you that I have a boyfriend, and that I can't be friends with you any more if that is how you feel.
Pleas... (read in full...)
I sent a love letter to my teacher. What would he/she do?
Q. This question is specifically for teachers to answer, but if anyone else wants to have their say then that would also be appreciated. If a pupil gave an innocent love letter to you (by innocent, I mean that she made it clear she is aware of the ...
A. 1 June 2008: I'm not a teacher but I answer millions of "I fancy my teacher, do I tell him?" questions on here.
I always tell them not to tell the teacher or make a move because as soon as they do, he / she will have to report it.
Teachers have to go strai... (read in full...)
Is he likely to call?
Q. Hello, I have a dating dliema and would really appreciate your advice or thoughts! Late last year this guy I know asked me out for a drink, and as Ive always secretly fancied him a little bit, I was happy to go. We had a great time but he tol...
A. 28 May 2008: I think Tisha is right. Text him something nice, but none committal. Tell him you heard a great joke that you can't wait to tell him, or that you've found a new bar / restaurant you would love to try when he's free.
He'll know you are interest... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my bf is meeting girls on the internet?
Q. i have been told my boyfriend is meeting girls off the internet. how do i find out if this is true?...
A. 28 May 2008: Ask him. You don't need to hire a private detective just yet.
Ask him why there are rumours about it and ask him to reassure you by showing you his email inbox, or not going out without you for a while.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What should I do to keep my relationship fresh and get his attention more?
Q. I have been a relationship for 6 months: 2 months of staying close and 3 months being far away. We have a long distance relationship because I have to work in another country for 6 months. I have 3 more months to work and then I'll be back. Norm...
A. 28 May 2008: I think you've done all you can do.
The fact that you can still talk for a couple of hours each night on the phone says to me all is not lost.
It may just be that your boyfriend is a bit useless. Does his mum do a lot for him? It could be he's... (read in full...)
I can't seem to put the past behind me and I'm scared that if I do I'll be back to square one. I need help but don't know where to turn!
Q. I'm avoiding relationships and I admit I need help. (Well at least I said it). I'm 30 now and really want to be in a loving relationship, marriage, kids the works but I feel I'm past the point of no return. I can't bring myself to go through mo...
A. 28 May 2008: Flipping heck. Well the first thing you should do is write this all down in a novel and then give yourself a happy ending. You may still be single in real life but you'll make a million from it.
To be honest I can see exactly why you have trust is... (read in full...)
What do I do about Ms. X? Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. Help, anyone, please? Before my bf and I got together, he was wooing his friend, MS. X. She told me that he’s dumping him and he don’t want him. I know she’s still hung up on him coz she flirts with him in front of me. It’s not like Ms. X and I ar...
A. 28 May 2008: Hmm, there are 2 schools of thought in this.
At the moment, all three of you are single, so you two girls both have a shot at getting him.
You could either:
Fight for him. All's fair in love and war. Flirt, be sexy, make him see what he's m... (read in full...)
He is older and says he loves me-should I believe him?
Q. I've known this guy for about a year and for the past few months he's been telling me that he has fallen in love with me. At first I didn't believe him because in our past he lied to me about something big so it was hard for me to trust him. I am ...
A. 28 May 2008: Well most people do the whole falling in love thing after they've gone out for a while so it's going to be pretty high pressure if you get into a relationship with him.
Why not just tell him you want to go out with him, but still don't trust hi... (read in full...)
Do you think I should give him some space for a while, then ask if he wants to patch things up?
Q. My ex-bf and I had been together for almost a year. I want commitment, he doesn't want commitment....thus we did the classic girl nags at guy for commitment/guy is unhappy and withdraws ...vicious cycle. Eventually he got really stressed at work...
A. 28 May 2008: Well it's a gamble but it might work....
Man psychology is a tricky one. If you learn to play it right though, it can work out great. Why not write him a letter explaining all this? You'll get to say everything you want to in depth, and yet he w... (read in full...)
She won't talk about sex and I'm extremely unhappy and thinking about ending the relationship.
Q. Okay so I'm almost 18 and my girlfriend is 15 we have about a 2 year 9 month age difference and we have been going out for about 10 month now. Now on to the question I feel that I'm a very sexual person and I know she's a little younger then me and ...
A. 28 May 2008: Have you thought that she might be yelling at you about this because she's terrified about it and yelling is the best way to make you back off?
Now first of all I'm going to put my disclaimer in here - she's 15 which in under the age of consent ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend to help me lose my virginity?
Q. I'll be turning 32 in a few days. I am still a virgin in just about every imaginable sense (I've never even french-kissed). This is something I am supremely self-conscious about. I also have an anxiety problem which tends to leave me more fearful ...
A. 26 May 2008: If you are not interested in relationships but just want sex then I suggest finding a nice local prostitute and trying again. Find a woman who works for herself as she is more likely to form a connections with you and be nice about it rather than ... (read in full...)
How do I pleasure him?
Q. i feel like im not pleasuring "him" so..other than the regular on top and hittin it from the back positions. what else can i do to make "him" more interested? what gets guys excited? and how do i keep then excited?...
A. 26 May 2008: Since you are only 13 -15 I'm not going to give you sex advice since it's probably illegal.
If he's not excited by being with you then it's nothing you are doing wrong, he's just not into it.
Get some respect for yourself and don't give yours... (read in full...)
He keeps saying that he masturbates over me in the Internet... can I take him seriously?
Q. Hi DearCupid! Derz This Lad Hu Used 2 Tease Me Alot And Was Really Nasty, But Now He's Being All Flirty With Me! And Keeps Saying That He Masturbates Over Me [On Msn] But I Just Can't Take Him Seriously! How Can I Find Out If He's Just Taking The ...
A. 26 May 2008: Does it really matter if he really likes you or not?
The guy used to be really horrible and now tells you he's being a pervert over MSN to you?
He does not sound like boyfriend material to me and you should stay away. Find a boy that respect... (read in full...)
Should I take a chance with my online dater and really meet for the first time?
Q. i have met this kind and loving man over the internet he gave me his phone number and we have been talking on the phone for several weeks. I love him but i am not all that sure becuz its only been a couple of WEEKS.He is the sweetest guy i have ever ...
A. 26 May 2008: Online dating is like any other kind of dating. There are lots of people who do it safely and happily but there are some psychos out there too.
There is plenty of advice about meeting people from the internet for the first time online. But the ... (read in full...)
He's too attached to his ex, should I break up with him over it?
Q. Hi, Just need some advice on what to do. I've had been in a long distance relationship for about four years. The problem is that my bf had never stopped talking with his ex nor had he talk her that he is in a relationship with me. They are not ...
A. 26 May 2008: Moving in is a huge step and I wouldn't do it while you have this little trust.
It sounds like yes, he isn't over his ex and you might want to break up with him if he is not prepared to move on from her.
I've got nothing against people b... (read in full...)
He's my first boyfriend and I'm not sure what to do, any advice?
Q. I asked for advice before, the question was: ''I made him give me advice about dating a boy, without knowing I referred to him. Now that he knows, I'm not sure what to do next.'' Well, he's my first boyfriend, and I'm not his first. He kno...
A. 26 May 2008: There aren't set rules on these kinds of things hun, everyone is different. If I saw my boyfriend on the bus I would go and say hi, and if he was with his mates I might go and sit with mine, but if he was alone or wanted me to sit with him then I ... (read in full...)
After 15 years she said she didn't know if she loved me as a mate or as a lover. Do I give up?
Q. i have been with my girl 15 year and it was ok then one day she got up out of bed and said she did knot no if she loved me as a mate or a lover . well for some time we just got on.then one day i gave her a kiss but did not get any thing back for her ...
A. 26 May 2008: This is quite confusingly written, but from what I can tell she's just asked for a couple of weeks on her own to sort her head out.
I think you should respect that and tell her she has 2 weeks to make her mind up. She might realise she misses y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a 45 year old female friend that he helped record erotic videos in the past. I cannot think of her without feeling repulsed and slightly threatened!
Q. Basically, my boyfriend has a 45 year old female friend. A lot has come out about her recently - namely that she is married with three kids, and she is seeing people behind her husband's back. She's obviously unhappily married. Not just that,...
A. 25 May 2008: It's awful thinking about your boyfriend having sex with their Ex's. I feel sick thinking about my husband and his Ex's now. So for there to be video evidence must make it lots worse. Especially as it's someone you know.
However.... All our part... (read in full...)
I'm embarassed to talk to my mum about my period and so I hide all evidence...
Q. Hi, ive just started my period, im 15 and a late starter so i darnt turn to my friends for advice, i dont have a clue what to say to my mum because my periods are like browny black and i dont wanna emabarass myself. my mum bought me a load of pads ...
A. 25 May 2008: Woo! Congratulations on becoming a woman!
You don't have to tell your mum if you don't want to. It's not like you have to stand up and announce it at dinner. She probably assumes you have started already.
Just wrap the pads in loo roll and put... (read in full...)
We are planning a child in a year from now. Safe sex for the moment?
Q. I m asking in general that having sex using condoms daily with wife is safe or not. Or are there any paricular days in a week when we can have sex.If later on she gets pregnant will there be any problem because we are planning for a child after one ...
A. 25 May 2008: Always use condoms, and if you are unsure tell your wife to see a doctor for the contraceptive pill. By using them together the chances of her becoming pregnant are tiny.
It's great that you are planning a child so you can give it the very bes... (read in full...)
Why do you all have to bow down to the oppressors-why cant you do what you really want?
Q. i have spent the last two hours reading various responses to the questions on this site and i noticed that in general there is a trend toward condemnation of people who dare to have a different take on sex than what the morality police deem ...
A. 25 May 2008: Well for what it's worth I tell people to do what makes themselves happy as long as they don't hurt other people. What you did was fine because you had an amazingly understanding husband.
Personally while my hubbie is in Iraq I will not be sleep... (read in full...)
What can I do to get rid of facial hair?
Q. Hi, I have an unsightly problem because I have a female moustache. I bleach the hairs so they are less visible. But if i didn't bleach they'd be a dark colour. What can I do to get rid of the hairs? Laser hair removal has its dangers, and it sounds ...
A. 25 May 2008: I'd keep bleaching and stick with that. If you wax then you can get ingrown hairs if you are not careful which won't look nice.
Plus, waxing will not make the hair just give up and stop growing. I agree that you should talk to a beauty person a... (read in full...)
How do I start to explore my Bi side?
Q. well ive been going out with my boyfriend for a few weeks now, before that we were just sleeping with each other for about 5 months. i think ive always had this attraction to girls. but since being with him i have kissed to girls and enjoyed both. ...
A. 25 May 2008: Well if you are enjoying being attracted to and kissing women then there is a good chance that you are bi-sexual. That's kind of obvious. However, since you are still in your teens it may not mean that you will feel this way for ever and ever.
... (read in full...)
How do I make a date just the two of us?
Q. me and my bf have been going out roughly 2 months now and we get on really well and enjoy each others company alot but recently it just seems that i'm the one that is havin to arrange when to meet and we ususally end up meetin with his friends or ...
A. 25 May 2008: "Lets do something nice this weekend, something romantic, something just the 2 of us."
That's all there is to it. Say it in a fun enthusiastic way. He should want to do things with just you. If he doesn't then you might want to ask yourself... (read in full...)
He's blackmailing her saying that if she doesn't sleep with him etc then he will post her pics on the internet!
Q. my friend got together with this boy about two years ago and he was lovely and they got along really well, they must have been together about six months, ad they were a very good six months, and he randomly started talking to her on msn about a ...
A. 25 May 2008: This says you are from the UK. If so then blackmail of this kind is illegal and she should threaten to tell the police on him. Tell her to archive all the conversations she's had with him as evidence.
Threatening him with the law should scare hi... (read in full...)
I'm scared my unreliable boyfriend will break up with me again.
Q. My boyfriend of 9 months, is extremly unreliable. he was supposed to cme to my house after school one day but we fell out becoz he didnt come. We ended up splitting up becoz he said all we do is argue and he's un happy and he cant see it going an...
A. 23 May 2008: Well we can't really advise you either way.
You can either gamble and stay with him and keep having sex and hope for the best, or split up and protect yourself from getting hurt.
To be honest at your age I would split up with him and stay saf... (read in full...)
How do I get him to kiss me more???
Q. ok... my boyfriend and i have been going out for 6 months and we used to kiss during school but now school's out we don't get to anymore... and once he kissed me and pinned me against the wall and he kissed me once and kept doin it and i pushed him ...
A. 23 May 2008: Kiss him?
If not then ask why he doesn't kiss you any more. It could be that he feels you are more of a friend than a girlfriend.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has Asperger's Syndrome, and now I think I might have it as well. How do I talk with him about this?
Q. My boyfriend (let's say J) has Asperger's, and recently, I've been starting to question myself, as a lot of our similarities lie within his AS traits. It's easy to talk to him about most things as he seems to be able to relate to them. For examp...
A. 23 May 2008: Ok, firstly internet tests are not a sign of anything. For example, I'm 68 percent gay, yet married to a nice man.
It is very unlikely you have aspergers as it is a very severe disability and it would have been noticed when you were a child.
... (read in full...)
Is four and a half inches normal?
Q. hi im 12 and in realy concernd about my size down stairs.is 4 and a half inchs normal? please help....
A. 23 May 2008: At 12 you are still a boy so yes, 4 and half probably is normal. (I haven't seen many 12 yearolds naked so I can't make any promises.)
In a few years you will grow several inches in all directions.
Stop stressing and enjoy life.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
She's expecting our child, and left me, I want to be involved with my new baby, but how can I cope?
Q. Can any body give me some advice on how to cope and manage only seeing my baby 1 day a week. My ex girlfriend has left me and is expecting our first baby. Basically i have been left out of everything, the ultrasound, midwife you name it i have not ...
A. 23 May 2008: You need to start separating your feelings for the baby from your feelings from her.
There is plenty of advice on this site on how to get over ex-girlfriends, so that should be your first task.
You need to talk to her though and explain that... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend messing me around?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend says she can't be with me at the moment because she isn't 'feeling herself'. She said she needs time alone. We have been together for two months, I think she is seeing her ex boyfriend. She said that she wants some time al...
A. 23 May 2008: Well if you are choosing her over being single then you can't complain about her any more.
You have your option to leave and find some one better and you are choosing to stay and be messed about.
The fact that you have such low self esteem that... (read in full...)
Is he lusting after bigger girls? Am I too thin for him?
Q. I'm 110lbs 5'6 and very thin!!! I'm not anorexic/bulimic just born this way. I don't look sickly either. I've been dating a guy for three 1/2 months. I just saw some of his porn (he doesn't know! Yes! I was wrong for looking) and its mostly of ...
A. 23 May 2008: Read every question here with a porn tag. One of the main things that keeps coming up is "I found my husband has porn - and the girls looked nothing like me!!"
As the other two answers rightly point out, porn and real life are completely separate... (read in full...)
I am somewhat confused because if there is a problem living together she might not want marriage or long term commitment?
Q. I have dated my girlfriend feor 11 years. I am 46 and she is 57. She has 3 adult children. Her 31 year old Daug currently lives with her with a 5 year old. She relocated from New York to Atlanta to help her Daug. I followed one year later and moved ...
A. 23 May 2008: Well if you want to marry this women, you should really be able to talk to her about your feelings. Talk to her about all this.
You both seem to want the same things but the fact she told you first has put all this doubt in your mind.
Have yo... (read in full...)
Do you think he didnt reply to my invite because he doesn't like me like that?
Q. Theres this guy who I thought liked me alot. But now I'm not so sure. We both have a college class together, thats how I know him, and he has been helping me with alot of my work (he offered!!!). He is always making excuses to talk to me and see me, ...
A. 23 May 2008: It was hardly "putting yourself out there" unless he was to understand you were asking the other 7 out on a date as well. Guys generally don't do subtlety. You need to be clear.
Once you've heard his excuse for not coming / emailing you back the... (read in full...)
Can a 21 year old virgin could still have an hymen even though she masturbates ?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if a 21 year old virgin could still have an hymen even though she masturbates ? I noticed that there was a membrane cut in half covering the entrance of my vagina, I don't see a hole...could it be an hymen ? and can a guy kn...
A. 23 May 2008: Unless your boyfriend is a deeply religious gynaecologist, he is not going to know or care whether your hymen is there or not.
You are a virgin, that's all that matters.
Besides, you say you masturbate.... Do you use tampons? Have you ever ri... (read in full...)
Do you think he didnt reply to my invite because he doesn't like me like that?
Q. Theres this guy who I thought liked me alot. But now I'm not so sure. We both have a college class together, thats how I know him, and he has been helping me with alot of my work (he offered!!!). He is always making excuses to talk to me and see me, ...
A. 23 May 2008: Ah, I was underestimating the number of people who you sent it to and how close they were. I get invites from my friends which I don't reply to because it's usually on the other side of the country (I move a lot) or on a day I am working.
Well ... (read in full...)
Do you think he didnt reply to my invite because he doesn't like me like that?
Q. Theres this guy who I thought liked me alot. But now I'm not so sure. We both have a college class together, thats how I know him, and he has been helping me with alot of my work (he offered!!!). He is always making excuses to talk to me and see me, ...
A. 23 May 2008: You are reading a lot into this. You are friends, and you sent a group email out to all your friends asking them to come along, and he didn't make it. How many other people didn't reply and didn't come? It's not a personal rejection. It's just that ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend messing me around?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend says she can't be with me at the moment because she isn't 'feeling herself'. She said she needs time alone. We have been together for two months, I think she is seeing her ex boyfriend. She said that she wants some time al...
A. 22 May 2008: Well you can ring her up and ask if she is seeing other people while on this break.
Tell her you are willing to wait for her if she really is just needing some time to herself.
I can believe her story though. When you are in an intense relation... (read in full...)
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