I've been dating this guy a week and he wants to get serious...but I've never had a serious relationship before!! Help!
Q. Basically, I've been dating this guy for like a week now, He wants to get serious but I've never had a relationship before, so I'm scared of going wrong. We get on really well and I really like his company. But my worry is that if I get into a ...
A. 27 June 2008: Wow, you need to relax about this.
By being serious, it just means he actually cares about you. It doesn't mean he's expecting you to be his little housewife and spend every second with him.
Relationships are flexible and changing and dif... (read in full...)
I know he can make it all better by telling me he wants to be with me.
Q. I met this great guy 2 years ago in a "club" not a good start i know! Got on great that night (he told me he'd just come out of a marriage) and we exchanged numbers. he texted me the next day to say he thought i was really nice but he wasnt ready ...
A. 26 June 2008: Oh dear, so he thinks you are his happy little sex-friend and you are in love with him.
I think if he wanted to be with you then he would have done something about it by now and certainly wouldn't have been seeing other people.
Don't wait fo... (read in full...)
Since I've started seeing this other guy, my ex has been back, asking me out again....
Q. im hoping some people can offer some advice. my ex broke up with me 5months ago after 6years, he met someone new a few wks later. i was devastated but he didnt want to know. i then met a guy for drinks, he heard and since then has been back ...
A. 26 June 2008: Well if you want to get back together then start talking to him about it. If you don't want to get back together then don't answer your phone.
He could have realised that he's been an idiot and should never have let you go - of he could just be ... (read in full...)
He is tearing my heart in half......
Q. My ex calls me every night before he goes to bed. He talks to me like nothing has changed and it hurts me because I know he is talking to someone else. I'm going out to see him and want to tell him that we should work it out and get back together. ...
A. 26 June 2008: Talk to him as soon as you can or this will just carry on, and on. Why not talk to him about it tonight if he's going to ring you anyway.
Ask him if he sees you getting back together any time?
If he says no then ask him why he keeps phoning an... (read in full...)
Surely if he were so in love with me he'd make that 2 hour drive?
Q. met a guy in March, he lives far away bout 2 hour drive. Well he is my friends cousin. We started dating and he came to see me a few weekends and became very serious very soon. He said he wanted to marry me, knew he felt that way and started ...
A. 26 June 2008: 2 hour drives are VERY hard work if you are tired. Especially depending on the type of roads and the time of year.
Do you know how many people die or kill or maim because they are falling asleep due to a long monotonous drive on a Friday night af... (read in full...)
Is it normal for him to want more than one woman?
Q. My boyfriend and I met and fell in love very quickly and knew we could spend our lives together. He told me early that he didn't think he could only see one woman naked for the rest of his life and would like to have prostitutes give him hand jobs ...
A. 26 June 2008: Wow, what an honest man!
He's been up front with you and you have to respect that.
But I, like you, couldn't STAND the thought, let alone having to watch my man with another girl. I'd say no offence but no, and split up with him.
He's mad... (read in full...)
Why is he pushing me away?
Q. my partner and i had a full satisfying relationship for 4 yrs until i had my gaul bladder removed 7 mths ago and he has not come anywhere near me since we dont hold hands we dont hug we barely talk anymore we used to share the same bed like to ...
A. 26 June 2008: So he's splitting up with you without actually telling you?
You need to find out where you stand. Are you in a relationship or just friends?
Moving out and getting yourself in an independant state might be the best option for you at the momen... (read in full...)
I'm not that clingy so why do I always miss him?
Q. hey ive been with my bf for almost 2 yrs now and recently when i see him and then dont for a day or two i miss him soo much. For example this week i saw him sunday monday and tuesday then didnt hear from him on wed coz he went out clubbing with his...
A. 26 June 2008: Yeah, you seem to be a little over obsessive with him.
I'm an army wife and will not see my husband again till september, so I think getting stressed over 1 day is a bit over the top.
Why do you feel that you can't be without him? Do you cons... (read in full...)
I have a problem with my eyes, can someone help please?
Q. Yesterday my eyes were good. However, when I woke up the next morning my right eyelid was not the same as my left eyelid. Usually both of my eyes have double eyelids. Now my right eye is just a mono eyelid. Why is that? Will I get my double e...
A. 25 June 2008: Having one droopy lid can be a sign that you've had a mini-stroke. They can happen at any age.
Go and see a doctor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We've not had sex in 2 months, should I leave him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs, and we have not had sex in 2 months, should i leave?...
A. 25 June 2008: Well since you are obviously only with him for the sex then yes, leave him.
If you care about him or even love him then perhaps you should be asking yourself
a) why have we stopped having sex?
b) why am I so ready to cut and run?
Good Luc... (read in full...)
Is it an orgasm I'm experiencing or not?
Q. Hi, I am a girl and I am 21, I have only had an orgasm once and it was when I first met my current boyfriend and he was eating me out, I had had a few drinks so don't remember. Anyway, I can't seem to have an orgasm, not even when he touches me or ...
A. 25 June 2008: I think the fact you were drunk when it happened might mean that you can't mentally "let go" when you are sober.
Many women have exactly the same problem as you do. It's not your fault, you are just wanting it to happen so you can't relax about it... (read in full...)
A friend and I were discussing how long it can take a committed relationship to start
Q. In my experience (I've had 5 serious girlfriends and I'm 29 yrs old), if a guy approaches a girl, asks her out, she agrees and they start seeing each other, within 1-2 months either a committed relationship starts or they decide to be friends. How ...
A. 25 June 2008: Unfortunately there are no rules, you just have to chill out and take it as it comes.
If you want commitment offer her a ring - anything before that is just a verbal agreement.
I've been seeing guys for months and never been serious with the... (read in full...)
He has informed me that his birthday is also National Sex Day!
Q. I am a 15 year old girl, and my boyfriend is turning 16 in August. By August we will have been dating 5 months. I am a virgin, he has told me that he isn't. His parents are going away the week of his birthday, and he has also informed me that his ...
A. 25 June 2008: Buy him a big box in which he will find some KY jelly and some tissues.
Tell him you'll leave him to it and will call him in the morning.
What an idiot.
Tell him up front that you are not going to have sex until you are ready and you are no... (read in full...)
My wedding wasn't how I wanted it, and I can't stop thinking about it!
Q. Dear Readers, I just got married and I feel very depressed that my wedding turned out to be very different than i excpected. I had a contract with a famous designer in Kuwait and she totally screwed up, its my fault i didnt check with the design....
A. 25 June 2008: No one's wedding is perfect. My reception was nothing like the way I wanted it. And it still upsets me a little bit a year on - but here's the thing. It only upsets me when I start thinking about it.
You say this is the only wedding you'll h... (read in full...)
Would girls date a guy that looks way younger than his age?
Q. I'm almost 24, and I've never been in a relationship, nor have I ever been approached by women. Part of this is because I've never tried flirting with girls due to my inability to keep conversations going, but I believe the big reason is because I ...
A. 25 June 2008: Yep everyone else is right - the fact that you look younger is no a problem, the fact that you act younger is.
You say you can't keep a converstaion going... well you need to work on that. Ask lots of questions keep talking, you'll find it easie... (read in full...)
I've got a crush on a girl, what should I do?
Q. well what do i do if i've got a crush on this girl and if i've seen her undress and she caught me and i want to do her while she sleeping....
A. 25 June 2008: I suspect this is a fake question.
If you do what you want then you will be a rapist and will go to prison for a long time and probably get raped yourself.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do girls frequently come to this site for advice?
Q. why did you come up with this webiste? if you dont want to answer this but do girls come to you for advice alot? because i have questions of my own i need answered!...
A. 25 June 2008: Um did you even look at the main site page?
There are literally thousands of questions from girls. In fact if you do a bit of digging you will find your question has already been asked before and been answered.
Most of the questions that I... (read in full...)
I'm almost 21 and a virgin. I need advice
Q. I'm almost 21 years old and have not had sex yet. my longest relationship was about 3 months back in high school when i was 16. i really dont know what the hell i'm doing. i'm not gay lets get that out of the way. I just feel sometimes too ne...
A. 25 June 2008: You've got a lot of advice on how the treat the ladies and how to wait for the right one and how you are perfectly normal already. So I will just add a bit on....
You say you are smoking pot and in my experience, people who do that really don'... (read in full...)
He's a sloppy kisser - how do I get over the problem without hurting his feelings?
Q. I have a huge problem. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 8 months now and I don't enjoy kissing him, I'm always first to break the kiss after a matter of seconds and this is due to the fact that whenever he kisses me it's wet, sloppy and ...
A. 24 June 2008: Hmmmmm this is a really tough one.
I think you best bet is to use positive re-enforcement (from dog training haha.)
When ever he does something right - tell him how nice it is and how he's the best ever. When he does something wrong, just pull... (read in full...)
Will taking anti-biotics reduce your chances of becoming fertile?
Q. Im so sorry for bothering all you wonderful people. This is what i should have included in my previous question posted a few hours back. I just want you guys to confirm the reality to this: will taking anti-biotics reduce your chances of becoming ...
A. 24 June 2008: There is a little leaflet in the packet of every set of pills and it lists all the side effects and things like that.
Anti-biotics are pretty simple things. They go in, kill germs and do stuff with your immune system. You're not going to be on th... (read in full...)
Why can't there just be enough guys for every girl to have a partner?
Q. I would really love to find a boyfriend, but I'm so frustrated. If a guy is desirable, handsome, smart sweet and knows how to listen... those guys are always taken, or they're gay. It seems counterintuitive that someone like that would be single ...
A. 24 June 2008: I know it feels like that but there are lovely guys out there. You just have to keep looking.
It's always darkest before the dawn and all that.
Plus the fact remember that guys are going to act more macho when they are single so you'll be ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity before going to Uni?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and will be going to university in September. I'm still a virgin, although nearly lost my virginity with a boyfriend last year. He was also a virgin and was too nervous, so it was impossible. I'm really worried about the rumours about ...
A. 24 June 2008: Yeah a lot of people get drunk and have sex in the first week - and let me tell you what happens then.
Go and hang out in front of the doctors surgery the second morning and watch literally dozens of terrified girls turn up for the morning ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to stop taking birth control pills for just a month.!?
Q. Hello.! I was wondering if it's practical to stop taking birth pills for just a month seeing as my boyfriend is going on vacation that long (this Thursday 26th he's leaving) and I don't see my need to take it because, I obviously won't have sex. ...
A. 24 June 2008: It took me about 3 months for my body to adjust to being on the pill, and in that time I had messed up periods and headaches etc. It's the same coming off at the other end.
Why put your body through a hormonal rollercoaster if you don't have to?... (read in full...)
Is he going to cheat and will it stop??
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and i have been on and off for about six years. Last March we decided we really loved eachother and were trying to make it work this time. He grew up where his mom had a different man about everynight and had a very ruff ...
A. 23 June 2008: Tell him you don't want him to see her. If he respects your fears over his cheating then he should understand.
You have to give him a break sometimes though, you should never accuse him unless you really think / have got proof that he has cheated.... (read in full...)
We had dry sex and I'm on my period...is there any chance I could be pregnant?? I'm really worried...
Q. ok...im very afraid... me and my boyfriend had drysex(humping) while i was having my 3rd day of period and we were on our piyamas(my piyamas are really thin). is there any possible way of me getting pregnant? even though I'm on my period?...
A. 23 June 2008: The chances of his sperm getting through 2 sets of jammies and your pants are remote.
There is also no egg for it to go as you are on your period - plus even if there was an egg there is no womb-lining for it to attach to because that's what a p... (read in full...)
I've got feelings for my girlfriend's friend....more so than for my gf!!
Q. How can i find out how my girlfriend's friend truly likes me without her telling my girlfriend?? I think she has a thing for me but keeps her mouth shut because of my current status with her friend....
A. 23 June 2008: Not going to happen mate.
Even if you do it the right way and split up with your girl, leave it a while, and then approach the friend.... the likelihood is that she won't want to date her best mate's ex.
If you think this is a crush then get ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex
Q. I have been single for 4 months, I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 and a half years together. About a month ago I started seeing someone else, we aren't together and i have no intention of getting with him because I still love my ex. I do like ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well if you love your Ex and want to give it another go then you could always do that. But make sure you have a set of ground rules first so you know to get out if it's not going to work.
Figure out between you why it failed last time: eg, he w... (read in full...)
If everything is going apparently fine in the relationship, why would a boy ignore the person for a week and counting?
Q. The psychology of men.. I swear that its impossible to understand? Thats why i need all you lovely agony uncles out there to please tell me your opinions on the following, and explain the what's, how's and the why's! Ok well here we go! Firs...
A. 23 June 2008: Well if you want to do a study into the general stuff then I suggest that you just read what's already been done by real psychologists and break it down into an article.
People have been studying this subject for years and there are hundreds... (read in full...)
I need a way to find closure...help!!
Q. My ex bf was controlling and sexually abusive to me. Then one day he dumped me out of the blue and moved on so quickly, like as if I never meant anything to him. I never got to tell him what I thought of him, I never got to actually stand up for m...
A. 23 June 2008: Do you honestly think he'll care how you feel? He never cared about you or your feelings or he wouldn't have treated you so badly... it'll just be like a double glazing sales call to him, annoying and soon forgotten.
As I said, put it all in a let... (read in full...)
I don't understand what he wants....help!!
Q. I made out with a friend of mine and now I don't know where we stand. To give a clear picture, I am a 29-year-old woman who mostly has male friends. I always prefer men's company and my four best friends are all men. I am actually going on holiday ...
A. 23 June 2008: To be honest the potential for this to get extremely messy and mess up not only your friendship but the entire group's, is pretty high.
I think for the sake of harmony and your sanity you should just act like it never happened and move on. If h... (read in full...)
Her behaviour has really changed...and I can't take it!
Q. I am in love with a girl from the past 7 years....a year ago she herself proposed to me and we entered into a relationship...it went on well but we had some major misunderstandings between us...she then took up a reason and said lets break up and ...
A. 23 June 2008: What's NC?
It doesn't really matter because this girl has made her self clear with her actions:
She Does Not Want To Be With You.
You have to accept this and move on from it. You can't keep texting and contacting her, you can't ju... (read in full...)
I need a way to find closure...help!!
Q. My ex bf was controlling and sexually abusive to me. Then one day he dumped me out of the blue and moved on so quickly, like as if I never meant anything to him. I never got to tell him what I thought of him, I never got to actually stand up for m...
A. 23 June 2008: I agree with Susan 100%. It won't be like in the films where he realises what an idiot he is and is mortified by your witty put downs. He'll just shout over you and end up making everything your fault again.
If you really need to be abusive ... (read in full...)
Help I'm confused and worrying about this guy....all advice really appreciated!
Q. hi im a girl who lives in a conservative country... okay, there's this foreigner ive been going out with and we are so hot when we're together.he says he respects my being a virgin and he just wants to be with me even without penetration.but i just ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well you don't need to be in a place with a bed to go out together.
Have you thought about maybe going to places like, the cinema, restaurants, cafes? walks in the park. These are all places that many couples go to and have a nice time.
It's ca... (read in full...)
If everything is going apparently fine in the relationship, why would a boy ignore the person for a week and counting?
Q. The psychology of men.. I swear that its impossible to understand? Thats why i need all you lovely agony uncles out there to please tell me your opinions on the following, and explain the what's, how's and the why's! Ok well here we go! Firs...
A. 23 June 2008: I'm not a man but I notice this is still un answered so I thought I'd give it a go.
Men are not a breed. They are all different. They all want different things.
Think of your girl mates. I bet you couldn't answer any of these questions in a s... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he likes me??
Q. ok so i went to this 15 [[ quience]] with my family and i saw my cuz adrian and thier is this weird situation between me and him cuz he use to like me and i did to but then i found out he was my cousin so stopped cuz it was wrong but evertime i see ...
A. 23 June 2008: Eh? So are you asking if he likes you? You seem to think he does. You are probably right from what you say. But then we are only hearing it from your view point and as you say, you have already decided he does.
I don't understand your problem.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him after he punched a wall during an argument?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months he is very passionate and lovey dovey. I like it I'm that way too. But one night he was over and we got into an arguement about him going to a party without me. I told him if he goes without me ...
A. 23 June 2008: You say you like the fact that he's passionate... this is just part of that. He feels emotions strongly whether it's in the bedroom in a positive way or in a negative way at walls.
You can't have it only one way. All men have anger in them. So... (read in full...)
Does he like me and how do I get rid of him?
Q. ok i enjoy going out clubbing but guys always flirt and try to pick me up and i have a bf of almost 2 years. i was very dunk 1 night and met a really nice guy who i explained that i had a bf but he just kept me company while my friends were dancing. ...
A. 23 June 2008: He might just want to be friends, or he might be hoping he can win you away from your man.
I would go for lunch with him but don't let him get too close and watch your body language. Talk about your boyfriend and how lucky you are to have found a ... (read in full...)
We split after 4½ years. Is there a chance we could get back together?
Q. My girl friend and I split after 4 half yrs because she says that we just can't live together anymore, because there are issues that need to be fixed. She wants to stay friends and adds that once we both fix our issues we can see what happens, she ...
A. 23 June 2008: Well, she's said that if you sort out the issues then you can see what happens - she can't be much clearer than that.
Make sure you know what the issues are and then work on them. Give her a ring and ask, for either one at a time or all at once.... (read in full...)
My BF is a Christian and wants to abstain from penetrative sex...
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years, a christian and a deacon at our church, decided to abstain from sex about 4 years ago (within our relationship), but believes that oral sex is perfectly ok because there's no penetration. what do you think?...
A. 22 June 2008: Well it's not up to me, it's up to you and him.
If you think that's hypocritical then don't be with him, if you think its fine then go for it.
Does this mean you will never ever have sex? What if you got married? Does he want to marry one day... (read in full...)
Will there be someone for me?
Q. Will there be someone for me? I'm 27, have a successful career and am smarter than most peers my age. I've dated a couple of times but things did not work out. As I read the questions on this site...seems like there's a lot of bad guys out there - ...
A. 22 June 2008: The reason you are seeing so many bad guy stories on here is that girls with decent guys generally don't come to problem page websites. They are busy out in the real world spending time with their man.
"Dear Cupid, I have no problems with my man, ... (read in full...)
My married lover won't leave her husband....
Q. Hi, I am in a love with a married woman. I know that she loves me too. She stays with her husband. Both stay together. They had some problems in their relationship in which I came in between and we started loving each other. I know her very well. ...
A. 21 June 2008: So she cares more about her reputation than about you... that says a lot to me.
Move on and get over her. She's never going to leave her husband for you, he's never going to leave her.
Find a woman who will love you back.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
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