Two guys, only in love with one but can't get rid of the other, what shall I do?
Q. Ok this is rather complicated and i am really stuck with it... Ive met a guy (boy 1) nd he is really sweet he asked me out and i said yes. But, there is another guy hu loves me(boy 2), i like him but not in that way and he tld me tht the only thing ...
A. 5 October 2009: You're aware that his friend is probably lying to you?
His friend is probably actually him trying to hurt you for hurting him.
Call his parents and see what the truth is. And if it does turn out to be lies, then tell them what he's been threat... (read in full...)
Is there any way to notice if you've had sex? Do you walk differently?
Q. my boyfriend and I are starting to have sex. last time, we were having sex and when i took his thing out of mine their was white stuff all over, an I think it might be his cum, but I cum alot and it might be mine, but he said it was not him because ...
A. 2 July 2008: 1. Yes they can tell. It's called an orgasm. However they do let out tiny bits of sperm before they have orgasms. That's why you should always use a condom.
1b. If you did not use a condom and you had sex then yes you may be pregnant.
2. It d... (read in full...)
He broke up with me in an email- should I send him a letter to express how I feel?
Q. My partner broke up with me by email on Monday. I had no idea it was coming and I'm still in shock - heartbroken. Although only 5 months - this is 5 months out of my life which I value. His email told me that some relationships last and some do...
A. 2 July 2008: He dumped you by EMAIL!?!?!?
What a sad pathetic little boy. You are far better off without any man who doesn't even have the guts to talk to you face to face.
You should email back and tell him how you feel, and how you thought he was a bet... (read in full...)
How do you women feel about older men?
Q. How do you women feel about older men? Do you usually date younger or men older than you are?...
A. 2 July 2008: I like slightly older men as a rule, but I have never been into the whole "father figure" thing.
I'd have nothing against having a fling with older man (now that I'm in my mid 20's) as long as he looked gorgeous and didn't act like a middle a... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her, but her family won't accept our relationship!
Q. okay, this is a tough one. i'm really falling for this girl. we've known each other almost a year now. i've had a thing for her for as long as i can remember, then a little over two months ago, she told me she returned my feelings. until this point, ...
A. 2 July 2008: I think Purple has the right idea.
I think that rather than fighting and fighting with her whole family, you should just back off. Bide your time, wait a year and then BAM, there is nothing they can do.
This probably is more about her sexual... (read in full...)
He says he's not interested in sex, but he masturbates all the time!
Q. Hi,Im back with my ex boyfriend a 4months now,we used to have great sex before but this time hes not interested in sex,he masturbates at least twice a day.he says the problem isnt me but if not what is?? he drinks most nights but that was never a ...
A. 2 July 2008: Well I think this depends on why you go back together.
From what you say it wasn't a romantic lust driven reunion where you decided you couldn't live without each other. If it was then I don't think you'd be having this problem.
If it was mor... (read in full...)
I am in a situation where I'm married but can't picture spending the rest of my life with him. How do I get out?
Q. i am in a situation where i married a guy but we have not had the ceremony yet. we got married so he could apply for housing (he is in active army) so i could go live with him overseas after our ceremony.. we are supposed to have the wedding in ...
A. 2 July 2008: This is exactly the reason why the army has such an incredibly high divorce rate.
If he wasn't posted overseas and was just working in the local shop, you wouldn't have thought about getting married. You're doing it mainly for financial and prac... (read in full...)
She doesn't seem to care about my feelings, what do I do?
Q. I have recently broken up with my girlfriend (6 weeks ago) we often fought about things that other people put in her head and everytime we had a awesome weekend or night out she seemed to start a fight or go in a different direction. in may we ...
A. 2 July 2008: I can't say who is to blame for it but this girl has stopped caring about you.
It sounds like she is using the age old tactic of being horrible to you so you'll break up with her. That way she doesn't have to feel guilty about dumping you.
... (read in full...)
I want to settle down and have a family, but I also want to enjoy my youth - What do I do?
Q. I am a 21-year old female. I haven't exactly made the best choices in my life, but I am by no means a disadvantaged person. My problem is this; at such a young age, I see a lot of my friends, siblings, and cousins my age getting married and having ...
A. 2 July 2008: It's strange that all your friends are marrying and having babies young, so that's what you feel you should be doing.
Most of my friends didn't want babies till they were 30 either, so don't worry, you are not strange or anything, you just obv... (read in full...)
I nearly lost my dad last week! Can anyone help me sort through all this?
Q. i dont know how to explain all this without it getting confusing, but ill try my best. when i was growing up, my mum and my half sister/dads daughter never really got on , and anytime there was an argument, my dad would cut me out and ignore m...
A. 2 July 2008: You saved his life, he still doesn't care.
No matter how much you keep trying, he's never going to be the dad you want.
I'd just cut your losses and move on. Write him a letter explaining it all and tell him you just can't carry on like th... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend's dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own?
Q. How do I get my boyfriends dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own? I've been going out with my boyfrind for 18 months, and moved in with him and his dad 7 months ago. My boyfriend and his dad have...
A. 30 June 2008: What about if you got a place of your own? That way your boyfriend could come and stay over and you would have the pace you want.
And I bet after a few months he would be there more than he is at home. So it's just a matter of putting his name on ... (read in full...)
My brother and his girlfriend had a baby. I want one so much...
Q. ok my brother and his girl just had a baby and i love her dearly and i want one but you see im only 13 and they live far away so i dont get to see her that much and i really want one what should i do ...
A. 30 June 2008: Aww I bet it looks adorable and you can hold it and feel it breathing next to you... a little life.
Now imaging it screaming none stop for 4 hours at 3 am and how useless you feel as a mother because you can't get it to settle.
You have ki... (read in full...)
How can I tell her about the armpit hair without hurting her feelings?
Q. I've noticed my girlfriend has started growing armpit hair. I find it a real turn off and she never used to have it.How can i tell her to get rid of it without hurting her feelings?...
A. 29 June 2008: Offer to buy her a day of beauty treatments?
Or:
Ask her if she thinks you should shave / wax your chest / tummy / anywhere else hair. Say you are not sure whether to bother because you are comfortable with her and she is obviously comfy ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my husband has had sex with another woman?
Q. how do i know if my husband has had sex with another woman...
A. 29 June 2008: Ask him!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I talk about this sensitive issue with my boyfriend without him feeling like I'm insulting or looking down upon his parents?
Q. My boyfriend's parents are in deep financial trouble. They are about to lose their house because they cannot pay their mortgage and I think they are spending frivolously. They have a practically brand new car that belongs to his mom that just sits ...
A. 29 June 2008: You have give them enough rope to hang themselves, unfortunately.
When the bailiffs come and take the boat and the laptops and TVs and car, then perhaps he will see that their way is not the best way.
As for yourself. Just tell him that you nev... (read in full...)
Please help! Should I go into a lower grade at school, or put up without my fave teacher?
Q. sorry this is long but i do need help! i am coming to the end of year 9. i have loved this year it has been an amazing time. when i go into year 10 i will have new teachers and be moved into new sets. im going to be having the same teachers...
A. 29 June 2008: You should go for the higher set.
What would you rather do, give her the pleasure of your company.... or make her proud by achieving the best you can?
She cares about you and what she wants is to see you do really really well and think "Yeah,... (read in full...)
Is he not lucky to have me also??
Q. Hi all, I have a wonderful boyfriend who i have been with for 3 years now and my family and friends adore him as do i.However whats started to annoy me is that everyone (his family and friends and my family)keep telling me how lucky i am to ha...
A. 29 June 2008: I think you may be reading a little too much into it.
But at the same time it might not hurt to make a little come back to let people know you are getting sick of it.
Next time a family member / friend says how lucky you are just reply in a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this guy I like him even though he doesn't feel the same?
Q. I really, really like this guy I met a year ago in a meeting. He then had to move away, but I manage to contact him by email. Since then, we've being in touch by email and have become friends, sharing thoughts, updating on stuff happening around ...
A. 29 June 2008: Well to be honest I wouldn't tell him.
What would it achieve? Nothing.
You'd both feel embarrassed and the chances are he would stop contacting you as much because he wouldn't want to lead you on.
Keep it to yourself and work on being friend... (read in full...)
Ladies: Tell me how you would react to this?
Q. Ladies..if I saw you for first time and bumped into you and said "can I just say something, your eyes are so pretty" and walked off? How would you react and what would you think? [Moderator note: major spelling and grammar corrections, next tim...
A. 29 June 2008: I'd be flattered, and feel happy for the rest of the day.
If I saw you again I might avoid you just in case you really were a nutter, or wanted to go out with me or something. But if it just happened and I never saw you again it would be really n... (read in full...)
I need techniques to make my boyfriend cum?
Q. My b/f says ive never made him cum.i need some techiniques....
A. 29 June 2008: There is insufficient information here.
For example, have you tried:
masturbation, oral sex, or having sex with him.
Those three usually work.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my drinking, lying boyfriend using me?
Q. Hi, i'm with my boyfriend 2 years. He is very jelous and controlling. He doesn't let me go to the pub with my girlfriend, he ask all the time where i was what i do, callind all the time to check. he likes drink and argue with me to have excuse to go ...
A. 29 June 2008: Well sweetie you say all these bad things about him but you are choosing to stay and put up with it.
If you don't like it then get out of the relationship. He's never going to change while you are with him because why should he? He can drink an... (read in full...)
My partner is controlling and lies to me. Should I leave?
Q. I need help, I found out my partner was arranging to meet by text someone they met online for real for coffee, it was all hugs and kisses texts, and they said lets meet coffee, then I found out and said what is it going to be me or that coffee, they ...
A. 29 June 2008: Well it's up to you.
If you don't like it and think your friends were right about him then leave him. Why did you think they were wrong or "just saying it"?
If you love him too much to leave, then stay with him and put up with the situation. H... (read in full...)
What is classed as a physical relationship?
Q. Does hugging tight, sitting on your boyfriend's lap , keeping your head on his shoulders, sleeping on his lap etc mean that the relationship is physical? Is this sex? if my boyfriend does all of this then does he love me or is it just lust?...
A. 29 June 2008: You are very young and no one has taught you the facts of life yet. I suggest you check out this website that will explain it....
http://www.tht.org.uk/informationresources/sexandsexuality/
Or do a google search to find out more.
Sex is ... (read in full...)
What should I do - she doesn't like roller coasters, should we break up?
Q. I've been going out with my GF for a year a a few months, i think she's great and we have alot in common.I found out recently that she doesn't like roller coasters (although she has only been on one). The problem is i absolutely love roller c...
A. 29 June 2008: Hahahahaha, seriously?
There is jsut a bit more to do in Florida than roller coasters. Why can't she hold your bag while you rollercoast and then you can hold her bag while she swims with dolphins / whatever.
To be honest though, if you a... (read in full...)
How do you request a new partner to go for a check up before actual intercourse?
Q. Hi all, I have a few questions regarding preparation for sex: 1). Do all of you here request your partner to go for checkup prior to the actual intercourse, if he/she is a new partner? Or do you rely on trust? What can you do if your partner ...
A. 28 June 2008: Ok in order:
1. Always use condoms with a new partner to protect against STI's. But when you are getting long term in a relationship you should be comfortable enough to suggest you both go and get checked out at a clinic.
2. There are other ... (read in full...)
This thread is Rated "Arrhhh"
Q. As of late i find my posts.. vanishing or not even being posted. Apparently some of the mods/admins around here thinks its ok for a man to want to sleep with his sister. Instead of telling people what they need to hear, it seems as if they would...
A. 28 June 2008: I do let most of Dr V's stuff through, especially when it's witty. But I have rejected a couple that I think have been just a tad too harsh to the question poster.
Yes some people deserve the harsh truth to be delivered on a sharp stick - but some... (read in full...)
What shall I say to him, if anything? Shall I flirt? What shall I do?
Q. I did ask about what i should do about a lad that i like. Anyway, a few weeks ago i went to his 18th with my family (he is the coach of my brothers football team). I made him a birthday card, his one was extra special, lol. After about five miu...
A. 28 June 2008: Just flirt with him and see what happens.
He may like you, he may not.
You can either hope he asks you out or take a risk and ask if he wants to meet up over summer.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I snub someone?
Q. Help. I need advice on how to Snub somebody, and when it's appropriate. Examples like how long to do it, what kindof situations, etc. Please help as soon as possible. I would greatly appreciate it!! 3...
A. 28 June 2008: Eh? What on earth do you want to know how to ignore someone for asap?
If you want to be horrible and immature to someone then you just do it, ignore them.
It's not hard.
If you want to be a nice person and act like an adult then you don't ... (read in full...)
I am suppose to be going on a date tonight, but I don't feel the want to go? I don't know why
Q. I met a guy 2 weeks ago at my local pub. We've kept in touch by txt. I am suppose to be going out tonight with him. He is 30, 7 years younger than me. We have nothing in common, he likes to drink frequently, used to do drugs, and doesn't have any ...
A. 28 June 2008: I think Uncle sneaker has the right idea.
But I have 2 things for you to consider....
1. Why did you agree to it in the first place?
2. Why can't you not drink if you went out?
If you have a problem saying No then you must have some pret... (read in full...)
Very worried about his health! My BF's always only eaten junk food.
Q. I love my boyfriend of nearly 3 years dearly, but i am becoming very worried about his health. Since ive known him, he has always only eaten junk food. Even before we met, he had always eaten junk food and nothing else- he is 27 now- and im worre...
A. 28 June 2008: Wow, he sounds about 12.
Why not leave some print outs around his bedroom for him to find and look at.
Rotting feet with gangrene in them are always good for a start. Diabetes can cause that to happen. Or some lovely scervy skin rashes that... (read in full...)
I had a comtraceptive implant in March and now I'm torn between being safe and dirty or unsafe and clean
Q. First a little background info. I had the contraceptive implant back in March and the doctor did say that it would take about three months for my periods to sort themselves out. In the first couple of weeks my period was constant then stopped but ...
A. 28 June 2008: Yep I'm having exactly the same problem as you with the pill I am on.
Get yourself down to the family planning clinic and they can take out the implant and put you on the pill instead. Each type of pill is different so will affect you in differen... (read in full...)
I have taken the pill for more than 2 years without the suggested interruptions, could this cause infertility?
Q. I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. He is 8 years older than me, and I do want to be with him forever. Since we have seen each other, I went on the Mini Pill- Cerazette, and we have always had sex without a condom. We are ...
A. 28 June 2008: Cerrazette is one of the most common types of pill and they would not give it out if there was any chance it would cause infertility.
I was at the family planning clinic last week and they said the implant is pretty much the same stuff at cerrazet... (read in full...)
Two guys, only in love with one but can't get rid of the other, what shall I do?
Q. Ok this is rather complicated and i am really stuck with it... Ive met a guy (boy 1) nd he is really sweet he asked me out and i said yes. But, there is another guy hu loves me(boy 2), i like him but not in that way and he tld me tht the only thing ...
A. 28 June 2008: Well don't dump boy 2. Just start dropping things into the conversation so he knows it is never going to happen.
Thinks like "You're such a nice guy. I don't know why you don't have a girlfriend. What do you think of Sally?" Only obviousl... (read in full...)
Help! I have IBS and want to keep my new boyfriend happy?
Q. Hi, I've recently got a new boyfriend we've been together about a month and I've recently found out I've got IBS, and it's really bad. I think my boyfriend's getting annoyed as a lot of the time we make plans and I end up being too ill to go. Or h...
A. 27 June 2008: Well the simple answer is to stop planning things in advance.
Most things in the world don't require you to book.
That way he can just give you a ring and see if you are up to doing anything - or if you are really well one night you can ri... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a father, I need your guidance.
Q. Need advice, I recieved an email from a girl I slept with about 6 weeks ago, saying she is now pregant, wants to keep the baby and wants nothing from me and is willing to cut off all commuication. I don't know what to do? I am not ready to be a fa...
A. 27 June 2008: It's better not to hide this from family and friends.
In 20 years do you really want him turning up on your doorstep and introducing himself to your wife and kids?
Be open now and face the music.
She says she wants nothing from you but I t... (read in full...)
How can transfer personal files from computer to laptop?
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question, but i would appreciate any answers. There are some files on my computer of which i need to transfer to my laptop (don't ask for the reason lol) but i'm not sure how to transfer them. I've considered email...
A. 27 June 2008: If both of them have access to internet then set up a hotmail account or a gmail account and email them to yourself.
I find storing files online in that way is the easiest way to get to them.
Your other options are good old floppy disks or ... (read in full...)
I need some cheating boyfriend advice about catching them in the act. Can anyone help??
Q. My Story: Ive been with this guy now for well over a year, I gave up everything for him to move interstate so he could be round his family and friends and Ive given my absolute all to the relationship. About 6 months ago I checked his email to find ...
A. 27 June 2008: If I were you I wouldn't bother trying to catch him in the act or anything like that.
I would just let him come home late from the pub after work to find a note saying you've gone and lots of empty wardrobe space.
You can say in the note abou... (read in full...)
My new online dating guy is ignoring me--what should I do now?
Q. I met this guy through an internet dating site, and we've seen each other 3 times... and had sex. I last saw him last week, and he said he didn't need to go on the site anymore, which I took to mean because he liked me. He said he'd call on ...
A. 27 June 2008: Well he might be very busy, I'm always forgetting to phone people. But I am not dating and I think I'd make more effort if I was.
Why don't you ring him?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Her 7 year old daughter asks for money from me! Is this normal?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles! i have known my friend for almost 8 years now and am godmother to her eldest daughter who is 7.Her daughter is very spoilt.My friend is quite soft with her -she tells her off but its not convincing. My godaughter when thr...
A. 27 June 2008: She's learned that Aunties and relatives giver her pocket money when they come round and if she asks for it then she usually gets it. The fact she's such a cheeky little monster about it down to her mum.
I always used to look forward to going to... (read in full...)
How can I leave this man?
Q. Im pregnant,and the father asked me to have an abortion. I considered this, but unable to go through with it. I have told him that I have chosen to follow throught with the pregnancy. He has stated that he would stay by me. But when I bring up the ...
A. 27 June 2008: Get out of this relationship, is he going to hold this over you forever, he he going to tell the kid that he never wanted it?
Relationships that are only there for the sake of the child never tend to work in the long run. He can be a father t... (read in full...)
I love my gf to pieces...but she's going away with her mates...and I'm worried that they will influence her actions!!
Q. I love my girlfriend to pieces and i know she loves me. I trust her so much but her mates are all man eaters and i know what they are like when it comes to men. She is going away with her mates and although she may not be the same as her mates, i ...
A. 27 June 2008: Going to her mum about the fact she might cheat is a bit odd in my view. Why didn't you talk to her about it? I'd be so annoyed if a man I was seeing went and spoke to my parents about something he was worried about in our relationship.
But i... (read in full...)
I've been dating this guy a week and he wants to get serious...but I've never had a serious relationship before!! Help!
Q. Basically, I've been dating this guy for like a week now, He wants to get serious but I've never had a relationship before, so I'm scared of going wrong. We get on really well and I really like his company. But my worry is that if I get into a ...
A. 27 June 2008: Wow, you need to relax about this.
By being serious, it just means he actually cares about you. It doesn't mean he's expecting you to be his little housewife and spend every second with him.
Relationships are flexible and changing and dif... (read in full...)
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