He doesn't want me as part of his social life!
Q. Hi. I dont know what to do with my relationship. I've been living with my partner for 7 months now and he wont involve me in his personal live. He says its because he has always been private but I want our relationship to be more open. He doesnt ...
A. 5 July 2008: Well it sounds like he either wants a housewife, or a dirty little secret for a girlfriend.
If he wants to lead a separate life from you then tell him he can be separate completely. Kick him out.
Normal couples share things and share friends. H... (read in full...)
How do I find a girl to marry?
Q. I am having hard time to find a girl for marriage. As of now i am not able find a girl whom i can get marrige. I really dont know how to contact with girls. I am working in a company and most of the time i spend in my company and at home. As i am in ...
A. 5 July 2008: Many big cities have professional companies that look to set you up with someone. I'm not talking about dating agencies but specialist marriage companies. They will ask about what kind of girl you want and find someone with the same views on life ... (read in full...)
How do I win him back? He says there is no chance.
Q. Alright..my ex and I have been broken up for 1yr and 2 months now..our breakup ended badly..we continued to talk afterwards but that got pretty ugly and stopped talking..anywho..we just started talking this April (which was my doing..it had been 7 ...
A. 5 July 2008: You still want him back and he may be confused about how he feels but at the moment he is just keeping you running in circles around him by giving you crumbs of affection and then telling you it won't happen.
My advice is to forget him. Move on.... (read in full...)
I saw my 44 yearold mother having sex - surely she is too old?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she had a divorce after long married life of 28years.She was shattered and had lived a lonely life all alone for a year in her small parental town. When I got setelled with good job in a bigger town she came to live with me in ...
A. 5 July 2008: I'm sorry to break this to you but 44 is not old. Why can't she have a relationship with this man? They may get married and she may be very happy with him for the rest of her life.
I know it is not nice to think of your parents having sex but she ... (read in full...)
I don't do anything any more and think it's my boyfriend's fault.
Q. im confused i've been with my boyfriend for about two years and i feel ive missed out having fun. im 21 and lately my friends are going on girlie holidays, weekends away, parties, drinks in bars midweek and here i am sitting in my boyfriends house ...
A. 5 July 2008: What would happen if you said "my friends are going on holiday and have invited me so I'm off to Corfu for a week?"
If the answer is that he'd have a huge hissy fit then he's not worth being with. But you haven't said that. You've said that you... (read in full...)
I caught new wife having sex for money!
Q. This is true. Ive been married since February and Ive recently caught my new wife of 24 (im 39) cheating. The problem is she was cheating with a previous "client" for money. She used to be a dancer at a strip club. She claims there was no ...
A. 5 July 2008: The advice below is all good so I will just add to it.
You say she hasn't spent any of the money that you gave her. That speaks volumes to me. She is used to being independent and earning her own money from men in her own way. You however were dif... (read in full...)
I'm going to be married and miss having a crush on a guy!
Q. I'm sorry this is so long.. but I wanted to get in as much details as possible and PLEASE read it I really want some input. Okay I'm feeling so confused and worried. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years, and best friends with him...
A. 5 July 2008: I do know what you mean as I am married and will never fancy another man again. But the difference between you and I is that I did fancy my husband. Even though I knew he liked me first, I still had the nervous "will he like my hair if I put it up ... (read in full...)
Where can I find a decent man? I've tried all the suggestions!
Q. When I read various problems from other people and have one myself similar-I always smile when people say dump him get out there and find a man who really loves you. I dont think there are many men who want love or a steady woman or girl friend. ...
A. 4 July 2008: The most reliable way I have found is simply to expand your circle of friends. There is no set way to do this so its much easier to tell people to go and try evening classes etc first.
Make new friends, meet new people, then meet their friends,... (read in full...)
Got with my best mate, split up, and now it's just a mess.
Q. well things between me and a guy friend of mine went totally out of hand and our friendship was ruined..he tried talkin to me,calling me but i ignored him and then he stopped calling me thinking that i dont want to be with him anymore and decided ...
A. 4 July 2008: Well if she was just telling him the truth then what is the harm?
Your main problem is that you are not acting straight to him or to yourself. Figure out if you like him or not and let him know one way or the other.
At the moment this situ... (read in full...)
I'm having a breakdown due to my possessiveness over this guy! I hate myself...
Q. hi, im not sure if this is about a relationship or not but im havig a bit of a breakdown i think the guy im seeing who i love very very much is always out and abotu i seehim when i can etc and normally it doesnt bother me the last two days i havnt...
A. 4 July 2008: I think the fact he is stringing you along has driven you to dispair. You are now so desperate for any crumb of attention you get from him that you'll take his crap the rest of the time.
Try and think clearly, is this love or is it more like an ... (read in full...)
How do I show I like him over MSN and a webcam?
Q. ok I met a guy on Myspace and now we are having conersations over webcam :D I'm starting to have feelings for him . How can I show him he means alot to me over webcam and IM???...
A. 4 July 2008: Smile, flirt, tell him.
Chatting someone up is an art and you just have to try it and learn.
Flutter your eyes at him, and do all the classic body language.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I met a man on holiday recently but he says he wants to keep it "platonic". Could he like me?
Q. I met a man of about aged 55ish fairly recently on holiday. He stood by a couple he met in the hotel also next to me and he said "I wish I was better looking and didnt look like I do" (I liked him) and realised that comment was for my benefit ...
A. 4 July 2008: He wanted you to start talking to him and tell him he was good looking. He was probably using pity to get you to hang around him for a while and acting vulnerable would get you to lower your guard.
Luckily you saw through it and told him to sling... (read in full...)
I had a terrible, vivid dream about my boyfriend and his ex! Could it mean something?
Q. Hi there, Well last night i had this terrible dream, about my boyfriend going back to poland to see his ex-gf. And i followed him. And we met up and his ex-gf was pissed that i came, and so on. But we ended up staying at her house. I had my own room...
A. 4 July 2008: It probably means you a bit scared of being rejected. It could also mean that you ate too much cheese before bed time. Or that you watched a TV show with a cheating story line and your brain didn't like the idea of it.
Tell our boyfriend about it... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend says there are rumours my new guy has HIV. Is he lying? If not, what are the risks for me?
Q. I just met this boy, his name is Derrick. Even though, I don't know him as well as I'd like to. He has really seem to grow on me and I think that someday our relationship could go a step further. Well at least, I'd like to hope so. A previous boy...
A. 4 July 2008: It depends on you but I would either
a) be straight and tell him that people are spreading rumours about him having HIV. Tell him you can both go and get tested together so you have in on paper.
b) mention casually that you are thinking of goin... (read in full...)
I dumped him after a row. But how could he just let me go after telling me he loved me so much?
Q. Hi I just recently finished with my boyfriend after nearly a year cos we kept arguing and I didn't trust him. I had to go through his emails and kept checking his phone. The reason for this was because he lied to me about living with someone ...
A. 4 July 2008: He's doing exactly what he does everytime. Things with you have stopped being perfect so he's run away from it. He's probably looking for his next little fling.
The guy is an idot who cannot be trusted. You've done the right thing and now you have... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my love life, what should I do?
Q. hi!!!!! lifez becoming hard to me and i really need some advice to my problem wel in brief i was in luv with a guy for 2 years and everything was going on wel until 1day i came to know that my boyfriend is a big flirt;he dated many ;i c...
A. 4 July 2008: Neither is giving you what you want so don't be with either of them. You obviously fell into a relationship with the second guy purely because you were hurt by the first.
Be single and get stronger. You will meet a nice guy eventually but only if ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I have cancer
Q. Im really scared that I have cancer when I go to the toilet for a number 2 there is blood there it is bright red and it can be quite alot. Also there is mucus there too quite a bit of it and when I need to pass wind there is always mucus that comes ...
A. 4 July 2008: To be honest if it's that bad then you shouldn't be waiting till Monday.
Ring NHS Direct now and they may tell you to get to A and E or be able to get your doc to see you sooner.
Their number is 0845 4647 - I know it looks too short but it doe... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm too obsessed with him? He admitted I call him annoyingly often. How can I change that?
Q. Hi there! I've just got this thing that when i love someone i tend to call them toooooo much, my boyfriend just admited to me yesterday that it annoys him, me calling him like that. we've been together for 3 months now and i just feel like hearing ...
A. 3 July 2008: Agree with him that you'll only call him once and day and arrange a time. Then you know you are not allowed to ring him till that time.
After that you just have to build up your will power and self control. Your behaviour will drive him away so ... (read in full...)
What can I take for PMT?
Q. Anyone suffer from pmt or pmd? For 3 weeks of the month i am as happy as anything, laugh at things, and am so proud of and love my life. One week of the month i feel like dying. My mood is so negative and i could go to bed and stay there til my ...
A. 3 July 2008: Get yourself down to the doctor.
I don't want to offend you but you are getting to the time of life when the change is a possibility.... if not then you could definitely try going on the pill.
I used to be on one that stopped my headaches and... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family, now treat me like I'm a witch, help?
Q. Hey all, Can any tell me why my boyfriends mum and younger sister dislike me so much? me and my wonderful boyfriend have been seeing each other seriously for nealy a year now and at first his mum and sister got laong great with me they would inclu...
A. 3 July 2008: I would go straight up to them and ask them if you have offended them or done something wrong.
Just tell them you can tell they have a problem with you and you want to sort it out.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Financially dependent on her, using her for sex, hating myself, what do I do?
Q. Wow, so I am in a really bad situation. It really sucks, and I feel like SUCH an asshole for not doing anything about it. Basically, I am in a relationship that I dont want to be in. I dont like her, I for sure dont love her, and I only am with her ...
A. 3 July 2008: So what you are saying is that you are an evil horrible man. What do you expect us to say?
You know you are acting badly and you are choosing to continue. You could stop any time you liked.
Either shape up and change your life, or just go... (read in full...)
Caught in a possible bigamous marital situation, I am desperate for help?
Q. My question is quite long so here goes. I had a marriage ceremony in the Caribbean in 1988.I did not believe the marriage to be recognized in the UK and so married my current husband in 1993. My current husband wants to divorce me and has proven my ...
A. 3 July 2008: I really don't think they would send you to prison. Even if a jury believed that you did it on purpose, the prisons are too full! You'd get community service and conditional discharge at the very most. To be honest though, unless you are standing to ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me with both my siblings!
Q. I ahve been married 27 years but since the day I got married my husband cheated. I always knew but naturally lied to, but things have just come out. I have a twin he put his tongue on her while she slept and she woke up and freaked and told him ...
A. 3 July 2008: I would leave if I were you.
He sexually assaulted your sister, and then preyed on your teenage brother. You have to know that is not normal behaviour.
If you don't have kids then go tonight. If you have kids then either kick him out or take ... (read in full...)
We used durex condoms, is there any chance of my being pregnant?
Q. last night i had protected sex with someone who already has kids, could i be pregnant, the condom didn't break or anything, i'm not on birth control, we used durex condoms, is there a chance of me being pregnant???...
A. 3 July 2008: There is always a chance of getting pregnant when you have sex. But if you used a condom properly then the chances are only 1% or less.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm 13, and have 7 inch penis...is this normal?
Q. im 13 and i have a 7 inch penis is that normal...
A. 3 July 2008: Yes, you are slightly above average for your age. But you are average overall.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I cheated whilst on holiday for the first time on my bf of 5 years!!
Q. Im away for holiday and I cheated on my bf here.I was absolutely drunk I couldnt even remember what I did!The guy just used me.I know that we didnt have sex but we did other stuff.Ive been with my bf for nearly 5 years.He's my first guy!I feel sooo ...
A. 3 July 2008: Keep it to yourself.
This guy took advantage of you. Although
a) you shouldn't have been so drunk
b) why weren't your friends looking out for you?
If you tell him then you will feel better about it, but it will break his heart, and then you ... (read in full...)
Anyone know the percentage of women who masturbate in India??
Q. precentage of women masturbation in india?...
A. 3 July 2008: I don't think and survey have been done. You could stand in the street and ask?
Since most people do at some point in their life, then I would say it's safe to assume that most women in India do or have done.
Why do you want to know?
Good Lu... (read in full...)
My ''bestfriend'' turned out to be a total backstabbing bitch, but why do I feel awful for not wanting to be her friend anymore?
Q. I have been bestfriends with this girl 'Jenna' for about 4 years now. We used to be really close. Lately, Jenna has been totally weird. She started acting really slutty in school, and wearing all this black makeup, totally out of the normal. And ...
A. 2 July 2008: For someone to change and go into a cycle of self-destruction like that there has to be a reason.
I think something bad may be happening to your friend, and all this strange behaviour is part of that. When you are in a situation and you don't fe... (read in full...)
My ex went back to his ex when she pretended she was pregnant. Should I contact him now?
Q. Should I contact my ex after 4 months? We only dated for two months but we had a really good relationship, with so much chemisty and both wanted the same things in life. However, his ex (whom he has children with) pretended to be pregnant (when she ...
A. 2 July 2008: I'd leave things as they are if I were you.
If you or your friends bump into him or his friends then get the message passed on that you still hope he's ok and don't harbour bad feelings, but I wouldn't make direct contact.
He's made his choice ... (read in full...)
How can I persuade my friends to accept my relationship with my former teacher?
Q. Ok, so I have just finished school (I mean A levels - I'm 18), and I have got into a sexual relationship with my ex teacher since finishing school (we were really friendly for years whilst I was at school). He's 36, and a really great guy. I get...
A. 2 July 2008: They are giving you their opinions and you have to accept that they are being honest because they care.
They all see this man as a father figure so to them it is as though you are going out with one of their dads.
However, you are 18, you are ... (read in full...)
How do I get over an "emotional abuser"?
Q. How do I get over an emotional abuser? I love him deeply, but he always found flaws in me... He was very loving and respectful most of the time. But when he''d get mad and make me cry, he'd get even angrier. It's true I made mistakes, but st...
A. 2 July 2008: He told you he's going back to his Ex because, guess what...
He's an abuser!! He wanted to hurt you and make you come running back in tears to tell him that he was right and you were wrong.
He's an idiot and he just proved it to you.
"I lo... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 2 July 2008: Woo! x... (read in full...)
I can't stand the thought of kissing my husband. Have I got some sort of disorder?
Q. My favorite past time was simply kissing my soon to be husband. We have been married for over a year now and I simply cant even stand the thought of him kissing me. I love him and we have a great relationship. Is this a disorder, what is my problem?...
A. 2 July 2008: I don't think it's a disorder. Not wanting to kiss a man has probably never been seen as a medical problem.
However, there is obviously something that's changed.
How do you feel? Do you still do romantic things together? Does he still brush h... (read in full...)
Why do they just stop talking to me suddenly?
Q. I´m very tired of female friends that stop talking to me from one moment to the next. it´s very rude and inconsiderate. It keeps happening to me. I just don´t understand. I´m very sure that it wasn´t from saying or doing anything that could possibly ...
A. 2 July 2008: Why don't you ask them?
The fact you are a bit clueless about their time of the month says to me that you might not understand women very well and may have offended them without realising it.
There is nothing wrong with picking up the phone and... (read in full...)
How much should I spend on my girlfriend's birthday present?
Q. Hi, I need advice about how much money I should be spending on my girlfriend's birthday present considering we've only been going out a few months. For her birthday she suggested that I could take her on a weekend break to Center Parcs, a...
A. 2 July 2008: You spend as much as you like. If you have several hundred pounds spare then buy her a diamond ring. If you have a tenner then buy her something small but thoughtful.
Do you really want to do what her Ex used to do anyway? He is her Ex for a re... (read in full...)
Is he just after a UK passport?
Q. i went to turkey a few weeks ago with my family. my sister who is 14 gave her msn addy to a bar man. when we got back he asked to marry her in a few years time. when she tries to explain she doesnt want to (by saying your too old for me, we hardly ...
A. 2 July 2008: He could be after a passport, or he could just like teenaged girls.
How many other girls does he see over the summer in his bar? Probably thousands. How many of them does he look sad at on MSN? Probably a few dozen.
She's only 14 so he must be... (read in full...)
I'm confused! My husband needed a "break" and now we are having the best sex ever!
Q. Two months ago my husband told me that he wanted a "break" , no rules, we are seperated anything goes!! He moved out. Now we are getting along with each other way better and we are having the best sex ever but he leaves right after we are done. I ...
A. 2 July 2008: Lexilou has got it perfectly. There are no more pressures on you so the sex is like it was when you first got together, only with experience, so better.
However, if you are still in love with him and he is just enjoying the sex then you are goin... (read in full...)
How do I get over an "emotional abuser"?
Q. How do I get over an emotional abuser? I love him deeply, but he always found flaws in me... He was very loving and respectful most of the time. But when he''d get mad and make me cry, he'd get even angrier. It's true I made mistakes, but st...
A. 2 July 2008: Yes you made mistakes.... but even if you had been the perfect most wonderful girl he would have made you feel like this anyway.
So he emails to tell you he cares about you and is a strong man, then as soon as you call him an abuser he runs off... (read in full...)
I have no idea what I'm feeling so I really need help!
Q. Alrighty, I'd rather give help then ask for it. I'm usually not very open. But at htis point i don't have a clue what to do or what I'm feeling.I've known this guy literally from kindergarden. We went to the same school for about 4 years. Then i ...
A. 2 July 2008: Right, I'm just going to take a look inside your brain....
Um, no one can tell you how you feel. But at your age your feelings are all over the place anyway.
Go and see him and see what happens!!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My husband won't french kiss me, why?
Q. My husband will not french kiss me at all. He did when we were dating we have been married 5 years I can count on one hand the times he has kiss me. It is usually just a peck on the lips or cheek. Even during sex he doesnt kiss me at all. He has ...
A. 2 July 2008: It sounds like this guy really doesn't like you any more. Ask him if he's still in love with you. You need to sort this out, because you can't go on living with a man who won't even kiss you. Kissing is the best bit!!
Would you consider walking ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to notice if you've had sex? Do you walk differently?
Q. my boyfriend and I are starting to have sex. last time, we were having sex and when i took his thing out of mine their was white stuff all over, an I think it might be his cum, but I cum alot and it might be mine, but he said it was not him because ...
A. 2 July 2008: 1. Yes they can tell. It's called an orgasm. However they do let out tiny bits of sperm before they have orgasms. That's why you should always use a condom.
1b. If you did not use a condom and you had sex then yes you may be pregnant.
2. It d... (read in full...)
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