Depressed, unable to find a good relationship, how do I interact more and enjoy myself?
Q. hi, im a 37 year old single female, im having trouble finding a man to settle down with, ive suffered from depression for nearly 20 years, and im wondering if that is my problem, ive been to see therapists and tried hypnosis, but nothing works, i ...
A. 8 July 2008: Well you just need to get over your fears and get out there! Join a writers group, a choir, a sports team, a political party, anything you see, and meet new people.
You've just got to kick yourself up the bum and tell yourself that you HAVE to ... (read in full...)
Is there a significant difference in relationships, when you are in love?
Q. Ok this might seem like a stupid question to anyone that is reading but how do people say a comment like "I've never felt this way about anyone before" meaning strong feelings in a relationship, when they have been in love before? I have been in...
A. 8 July 2008: Well most people believe in the concept of "true love" - which is the one person that you'll want to be with. Kind of an "I've found The ONE / my soul mate" thing.
It could be said that since you've got over and moved on from so many of these pe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always ogles younger girls!
Q. Hi everyone! I have an ongoing issue, and I have sadly reached a conclusion. But I need input. My boyfriend is 12 yrs younger than me. I am 53 and he is 41. We have been living together for 2 yrs. The issue is that he ogles younger girls when...
A. 8 July 2008: I think you are doing the right thing. I think you know deep down he is not being honest with you.
Kick him out and find a man who resepcts you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Clash of views on flirting and inuendos with friends who have partners.
Q. Hi. One of my best friends has a problem with flirting. She even flirts with me although I have a GF and she has a BF. I think she does it because she has low self esteem and because of some troubles she’s had in the past. I believe she al...
A. 8 July 2008: I love flirting, I flirt with my husbands friend and flirt with my husband. It's fun because we all know it means nothing and is just a joke. Everyone knows that in the end, my husband is the only one I have eyes for.
Your girl friend is touchy a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sexually abusing me....
Q. my boyfriend wants to have sex with me.we already had twice this month.whenever he gets a chance,he starts fingering me.last night,he just pulled open my top and started sucking my breasts.he wanted my naked photos which i gave him.i never refused ...
A. 8 July 2008: If he will not stop when you tell him to then he is abusing you.
If he refuses to use protection then he does not care about you, your health, or any baby that he makes.
Please get away from this man now before he forces himself on you s... (read in full...)
I had sex and bled - have I lost my virginity?
Q. when i was 16 i had sex with a boy using condom i bleed that time , after two year again i did sex this time again i bleed, now i want to know that i am virgin or not...
A. 8 July 2008: If you had sex then you are no longer a virgin.
Using a condom is the right thing to do though, so well done on that.
It is common for some women to bleed the first couple of times they have sex, so don't worry.
Keep using condoms and be saf... (read in full...)
I'm having problems with my boyfriend and ended up cheating on him
Q. im seventeen. my boyfriend has been having mood swings toward me , and he takes his anger for his family out on me, not only do i feel distant from him but i feel he is not the same person i fell in love with a year ago. we haven't had sex in two ...
A. 8 July 2008: This relationship is over. I think it was over in your mind before you cheated.
Tell him that you don't love him any more, tell him that you can't put up with his behaviour any more. Tell him the break up is your fault too though and that you chea... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I keep arguing about his ex, need help!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend now for 9 months and we have had a series of aarguments, all about the same thing, HIS EX. They were together on and off for 5 years and i feel completely beneath her. At the beggining of our relationship her ...
A. 8 July 2008: He's obviously not over her, since he keeps taking her side and letting her get away with things. If could be that he feels guilty or sorry for her. But he should be on your side at the end of the day.
Tell him that wehn he's ready to give up ... (read in full...)
New relationship and wondering if it wil work out
Q. I have been dating a man for approximately 3 months, although it feels like so much longer. We spend every day together, every night together; we do everything together. He's quickly become not only someone that I am deeply in love with, but also my ...
A. 8 July 2008: Wow, well you are acting like a married couple when most people are still dating.
If you are spending every second together and he's just come out of a long term thing then it's no wonder he's freaking out.
He needs some space to figure out wh... (read in full...)
Where do I go, to learn about a woman's anatomy, and how to please a woman sexually?
Q. Hi I am 16 yrs old and I have never had sex or done anything more than making out with girls, even though I have had a few sort of longterm girlfriends (7.5 months the longest... its long for my age I think). I'm not abstinent so to speak but the ...
A. 8 July 2008: Why didn't you have sex eduacation at school?
See if there are any family planning or educational places near by who can show you diagrams and explain the fact of life to you.
If your parents stopped you from getting sex ed then go and ask ... (read in full...)
I Won't Give Up on an Older Guy, Even Though He's Engaged
Q. the man i love recently (as in a few days back) got engaged to his girlfriend of about 3 years. i can't explain it how intensely i feel this, but i KNOW we are meant to be together. i feel it strongly enough to CONFIDENTLY say that we are MEANT to...
A. 8 July 2008: Well apart from killing his girlfriend and keeping the guy prisoner in a remote cabin in the mountains, there is nothing you can do.
I think you need to focus on getting on with your own life. If you two really are DESTINED to be together then may... (read in full...)
What can I do to keep everyone happy?
Q. I split from my ex partner 7 years ago after she had an affair.We have three children 12,11 and 9.i have now been married to a wonderful caring woman for the last 2 years(5years in total) she has an 11 year old daughter with no contact with her ...
A. 7 July 2008: Meet your 9 yearold out and during the day only. Go out into town with him or to the park. This will keep your wife happy and also let your 9 yearold regain your trust.
Tell him you were very hurt by his allegation to the police and that he upset... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but I still crave the attention of men, is something wrong with me?
Q. I crave attention from men. Im engaged to an amazing guy, we've been dating for 3 years, and I love him. I don't have low self-esteem, trust me it's not that, I just love for guys to flirt with me. Is something wrong with me? I've never cheated on a ...
A. 7 July 2008: Well a lot of people find their love fades after 3 years. So you could just be coming to the end of your relationship.
However, why don't you flirt with your boyfriend? Does he not flirt with you? If you are stuck in a "friendly companio... (read in full...)
He's a nice guy but he talks too much!
Q. i met this guy a few months ago,he looked really attractive fortunately he seemed to have a crush on me. we got to flirt about, exchanged numbers and we r in touch. i thought i would fall out with him if he ever asked me out which he did but the ...
A. 7 July 2008: There is no polite way to tell someone to shut up.
You either have to be brave and tell him he talks to much, or let him go and hope he will one day learn that girls don't like being talked at none stop.
Just ask him a question about y... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex, as such, am I still a virgin?
Q. I'm a virgin, and my boyfriend was fingering me. it started to hurt eventually, but i ignored it. After we finished fooling around, i was bleeding. He pointed it out to me. Did he break my Hymen?? Or is it something else? If my Hymen is broken,...
A. 7 July 2008: Yes you are still a virgin.
Most women break their hymens when they are little girls through climbing trees, riding a bike / horse, doing gym or anything.
The other possibility is that he scratched you inside and that is why it bled. Next time,... (read in full...)
I don't know who to ask out.
Q. well im having a problem with choosing who i want to ask out and i was wondering what your thoughts were. There is GIRL 1 who liked me for a long time but she was kinda flirty so i decided to go out with my ex gf until we broke up a few months ago...
A. 7 July 2008: You are asking a girl to go out with you, not buying a car!! If you have no strong feelings towards any of them then stay single. You can't play with their hearts just because you've picked them as the safest option.
If you loved any of them the... (read in full...)
Christmas present dilemma...
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/christmas-present-dilemma-bought-her-a-present-last.html Hiya people, go on the above link. (It's just a recap of my last post) Anyway the thing is... I've taken aboard everything that has been said, and i feel qui...
A. 7 July 2008: It says you are 16 to 17.
So you should be able to buy a present without your mum going mad.
But on the other hand you should be capable of handling wrapping paper. I mean for gods sake, you're old enough to join the army, surely you can u... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to ask him where did he came from aside from what he told me?
Q. My bf phone called me just tonight at 9:00 p.m then we had a very good chat then after he told me that he had to do his personal cleaning stuff before going to bed and had to call me back, then after 10minutes he called again and he's asking my ...
A. 7 July 2008: If you can't even trust him to walk to the shop on his own then you have serious problems.
Why should he have to ask your permission to go out anyway?
If there is no other evidence that he is cheating then you really need to look at why you ... (read in full...)
How to discover if he really is homosexual before I become more emotionally attached to him and this relationship?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a few months now. We were introduced through friends and hit it off right away - I'm absolutely crazy about him and he treats me like a princess. But when I introduced him to my family and some of my other close ...
A. 7 July 2008: Ask him.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I make the next two weeks go faster when the one I love is on holidays?
Q. my boyfriend has gone on holiday for two weeks. this is the longest we have een without each other. how can i make the next two weeks go really fast without the one i love?...
A. 7 July 2008: Oh for gods sake it's 14 days. If he was in the army you wouldn't see him for 6 months at a time.
Go out get pissed, do the washing, spring clean, read a book, watch TV.
Buy the entire Lost and 24 box sets and watch them none stop.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
WHY was he so keen to have sex on holiday if one week later he said he did not want a relationship??
Q. Just returned from holiday recently, had some fun nothing romantic although he wanted sex I held back. We met up after the holiday once which was jsut a week later and he told me he didnt want a relationship. WHY was he so keen to have sex on holid...
A. 7 July 2008: Oh come on you are old enough to know the answer to this....
He was after sex in the sun, a holiday bonk, a 2 week fling.
You were right to hold back because even if you'd slept with him every day and talked about marriange, he'd still be te... (read in full...)
I want to get my nose pierced. Could anyone advise me where to go?
Q. hi eveyone ,i know this site is about relationships but i was wondering if i could ask a question about nose piercings.im 15 and i want to get my nose pierced,i live in thornton heath and i was wondering whether anyone knows a good nose piercing ...
A. 7 July 2008: Go up to someone who you see with a peircing and ask them.
Cost varies. The cheapest place in town is usually not somewhere you want to go.
Since you are 15 you'll have to take your mum along anyway so ask her to ask around as well.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
I'm a gentleman, but I can't seem to get a girlfriend, what am I doing wrong?
Q. im 17 and have never had a girlfriend or a date in my life and its always bugged me why i cant. im a nice guy, never get mad easily, respecting and id like to think gentlemanly i was raised oldschool you could say, hold door open etc. and i was a...
A. 7 July 2008: Well how many girls have you asked out?
How many new girls have you met in the last week?
Get out and meet as many new people as you can. Then take the chance and ask a girl out on a date.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend pay me any attention?
Q. Okay so I’m dating my ex boyfriend again. He broke up with me last time cause apparently i was being to “bitchy”. Anyways he had dated for about 3-4 months and we broke up. Ever since the break up i couldn’t take my mind off him. We took a break ...
A. 7 July 2008: Well he's only a little boy. He's probably more interested in playing video games / football than committing to a serious relationship.
I don't think he's ready to give you what you want from a relationship.
Either put up with it as it is, or ... (read in full...)
Should I go back to school right away or take my time?
Q. This is not about my relationship, so I don't know if you can help with this, but I am trying to figure out if I should go back to school now, or wait. I just moved to a new city almost a year ago, and I have found a stable job and living situation ...
A. 7 July 2008: Well that depends on you and your personality.
Could you see yourself waiting till you are 24 and then thinking "ah well if I wait another year then I can save money and support myself" then at 26 thinking "well if I wait another year then I c... (read in full...)
What does my ex mean when he says to keep our relationship friendly?
Q. What does my ex mean? I cut off all communication with my ex seven months ago by changing my phone number and telling me to never contact me again. He still emails me once in a while but I have never responded. I broke up with him because he was ...
A. 7 July 2008: Wow, you are still HUGELY touchy over this man so what ever advice you get, don't meet him. You are not ready and are not strong enough not to over analyse everything he says and does.
What he meant was that he would just be friendly and just wan... (read in full...)
Want to show her love, and get her to respond, ...long distance, arranged marriage situation, please help?
Q. It’s a arrange marriage, I love her but she don’t. She speaks to me but don’t have feelings, it’s been 3 months we speaking on phone. How to invoke feelings in her heart? 1. I never had girlfriend 2. Don’t know how to show my true love to her 3. ...
A. 6 July 2008: Write her letters, send her emails, post her little gifts.
You need to just work on getting to know her. Getting to know her likes and dislikes, what is her favourite flower? What is her favourite perfume? Once you know then make sure you have a b... (read in full...)
My husband belittles me and puts me down, I liove him, but want him to change his attitude and actions, any suggestions?
Q. My husband and I have been married for about 6 years. There is no more romance he barely spends anytime Quality time with our kids, he treats me like total crap always belittling me and putting me down. Mean while I support him and all that he does. ...
A. 6 July 2008: Ah deployment. It can do strange strange things to a man's mind.
Sit him down and tell him you are unhappy. Tell him that if he doesn't sort out and talk about what is bothering him then you won't be here when he gets home.
Perhaps he's ... (read in full...)
He enjoyed the lap dance last time, but doesn't seem to want one again. How can I get his approval?
Q. a few months ago i gave my bf a striptease and a lapdance because i had an urge to do so. He told me i couldnt pull it off but i did and he was so hot for me afterwards that he couldnt keep his hands off me. Well i asked him after if he would like ...
A. 6 July 2008: Men see women in different ways. To a lot of them you are either and angel, or a whore. That's why they lose all respect if you sleep with them too early on etc etc etc.
If your boyfriend sees you as an angel, as girl who he loves and thinks i... (read in full...)
How can I leave this guy? He does nothing to help out!
Q. How do I leave my boyfriend of 5 years and two living together. He refuses to work more than two days a week and plays video or is on the computer from the moment he wakes up until he goes to sleep. When I tell him a man must work he tells me I am ...
A. 6 July 2008: Well you've made up your mind and you are packed and ready. I don't understand what you want us to say?
I don't think it's fair after 5 years to dump him by note, but if you think you are incapable of talking to him calmly then it will have to ... (read in full...)
We fooled around and now I need advice before I can get a pregnancy test
Q. Ok so here it goes. On june 19 me and my boyfriend were fooling around at his place, clothes on. Lol. And well he went to the restroom to "relieve" himself by masterbating. Well after he was done, he wiped his hands off quickly of his hmm how can ...
A. 6 July 2008: It could easily be bad PMT, or stress because you are so worried about being pregnant.
You don't need your mum to know you are getting a pregnancy test. You can buy one in a chemist and do the test in a public loo. Or go to a family planning... (read in full...)
Me and my cousin are flirting a lot. I want to have sex with her...
Q. okay i am 15 and my cousin is 14 and every time we're together i can't stop thinking about her and we always flirt every time we're together like at our family cottage me her and my sister slept in the top floor of our bunkhouse and me and her were ...
A. 6 July 2008: She's 13!! Sex is COMPLETELY off the menu. I don't care that you are only a year older or if you have done it before. If you cared about her then you wouldn't want her to have sex before she was ready / legal.
Making out is an option but think ab... (read in full...)
I want to change my life. I'm free! What can I do?
Q. I am aged 54 divorced with no children and would LOVE to change my life. I live in the Uk and want to get out and do other things. I dont seem to have much luck with finding dates or anyone in my life. Luckily I have no financial worrie...
A. 6 July 2008: Why not take a career break and go travelling?
http://www.worldwidehelpers.org/
This website is good if you want to find something good to do while you are off and about.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I feel drained all the time, but my mum won't take me to the doctor
Q. could there be a reason why im totally drained out? im only 16, all my friends are out partying and with friends, yeh i do go out but i just cant be arsed, up until like the middle of may i was really energetic. played rugby, swimming, badminton, ...
A. 6 July 2008: http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/
or call them on 0845 4647. The number is short but does work.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I think we're heading for breakup - is that the right thing to do?
Q. This is a bit complicated. I've been with my bf for a year now and am living with him but I am at the end of my tether. We both work full time, I pay two thirds of the bills and do ALL the house work as well as looking after his kid at weekends ...
A. 5 July 2008: They never ever change unless they have to. And until he gets home to realise his dog needs walking, the washing needs doing, and his kids hasn't been fed, he won't realise that he was treating you like his maid.
Leave him now. After a week he'... (read in full...)
I want astrology advice.
Q. I'm a Sagittarian girl, dating an Aquarian boy. I am a huge believer of astrology, Anyone out there wanna tell me what Aquarian men are like? And whether this is a good match or not? I would really appreciate your answers if you also believe in a...
A. 5 July 2008: Put the question in to google. Do some research. It's not hard. There are a million website out there that believe the whole universe revolves just to tell you if some guy will like you or not.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm too old for all the men out there!
Q. i keep reading that men prefer younger women and this is starting to panic me as we're all getting older and i haven't yet met the man of my dreams! I'm worried it'll get too late. At which age do women lose their appeal to men?...
A. 5 July 2008: You aren't even 30!! You're not in any way too old.
I'd say you are at the perfect age to find the man of your dreams. You've had your fun, you've got your career, you've lived the single life. The best part is, so have all the guys your age. The... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend and sex
Q. i am only 11 and i am single. wich im not happy about. also recently i have wanted sex loads. ihave been thinking that i will find a boyfriend, go to his house one day and he will ask me for sex with comdoms and i will say yes.... ..in my dreams...
A. 5 July 2008: It's perfectly normal to feel this way at your age. It's because puberty has hit you like a tonne of bricks and your hormones are going WILD!
However, the idea of sex and boyfriends are very very different from the real thing.
Everyone else... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with this guy?
Q. i have an issue i fell in love with this guy and or well at least i think i did and he wants to have sex but i havent had sex in years and im scared and i dont know waht to do about it. and he took one of my bffs virginty then lied about it so idk ...
A. 5 July 2008: If you are scared and think he maybe a lying scumbag then stay the hell away from this guy. You are having bad feelings for a reason. You know it's going to end badly.
Follow your instincts and tell him it's never going to happen.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Should I stay in this marriage?
Q. I have been married for six years and have a beautiful son who is four. My husband and I looked like we had it all. However, there were some things going on behind closed doors that I never allowed anyone to know including my family, friends and ...
A. 5 July 2008: You can't let him blackmail you into staying. Stay for now but start talking about what has really been going on. Tell your friends and family when he's been screaming. When he smashes things then walk out of the house and go to someone's place and ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me as part of his social life!
Q. Hi. I dont know what to do with my relationship. I've been living with my partner for 7 months now and he wont involve me in his personal live. He says its because he has always been private but I want our relationship to be more open. He doesnt ...
A. 5 July 2008: Well it sounds like he either wants a housewife, or a dirty little secret for a girlfriend.
If he wants to lead a separate life from you then tell him he can be separate completely. Kick him out.
Normal couples share things and share friends. H... (read in full...)
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