Is this an unspoken break up? My boyfriend asks me to give him time to get over our fight of 8 weeks ago...
Q. It's been almost 8 weeks since my boyfriend and I had a fight (lots of little things building up to him getting "upset" and no longer being even remotely affectionate.. kind of an unspoken breakup). He's behaved like a good friend ever since then.. ...
A. 18 July 2008: I would just carry on ignoring him. Don't return his calls or if you have to see him / speak to him then just be civil and polite.
Give another week or so if he is busy and then wait for him to ask you why you have disappeared. Tell him you want... (read in full...)
How can I make my brother's girlfriend show herself in her true colour?
Q. My brother has a girlfriend who I can't stand because she calls me names (like, tramp,slut and many more) and makes of fun my friends. I did nothing to her cause by bro would kill me if found mistreat her but give her the right to treat me like ...
A. 18 July 2008: Rise above her.
If she is horrible to you and gets a reaction then she can continue being miss innocent and getting away with it.
If you just blank her, walk out of the room, walk towards your brother in silence, close the door, pretend sh... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of redness and blemishes???
Q. How can I get rid of redness and blemishes??? I've looked and tried almost everything!! Anything you guys reccomend might help me alot!!!! PLEASE HELP!...
A. 18 July 2008: Do you mean spots?
Use a deep cleanser but remember to moisturise afterwards or your skin will make lots more oils to protect itself.
You can take evening primrose oil, star oil and vitamin E which helps the skin.
Have a healthy diet a... (read in full...)
How do I get my colleague to admit his feelings? He was in it for the sex but now that I don't talk to him it seems he is bothered???
Q. A guy I work with and I have been seeing each other for a few months. We have had sex a couple of times. He is from Mexico and is embarrassed that he doesn't speak much English. My Spanish is passible so it doesn't bother me. He talks to everyone ...
A. 18 July 2008: Why cant you just ask him why he doesn't speak to you in work? From what he has said to your friend he obviously does like you.
Talk to him about why he doesn't show his feelings.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why am I crying over spilled milk???
Q. Why am I crying over spilled milk??? Its been several months since my ex broke up with me, and I'm finally reaching a point where I know what she did to me was wrong, and that if she asked to get back with me, i think i could stay strong and not g...
A. 18 July 2008: It's hard to get over an Ex, so you have to not give yourself time to think about it.
Find something else to focus your thoughts on. Get a new hobby or look for a better job, get an evening class or go out with your mates more. Make a giant to... (read in full...)
What can I do to make her stay? I don't want to lose her.
Q. hey thanks for you time im just looking for any advice, i dont really have much to turn to...my situation is as follows.. i met Brandi before i can remember, we have been together since childhood and were always childhood sweethearts. about 2 1/2 ...
A. 18 July 2008: If she has fallen out of love with you then there is really nothing you can do about it.
But if she has any feelings left then just work out what attracted her to you and push that. If she loved your nights out together then take her out, if she l... (read in full...)
Can long distance love and an age gap work?
Q. What is your opinion or experience of this relationship lasting? My friend works internationally and travels the world but his family and friends are in the UK. During his marriage break-up he is 'consoled' by a woman with whom he worked who is 15...
A. 18 July 2008: I don't think you can truly know what 2 people have when they are alone together. If he is feeling a connection then you have to respect that.
If you have feelings for him then it is very easy to imagine that he is doing the wrong thing because ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the butterflies in my stomach, does it mean we're not meant for each other?
Q. I have a very important question. When me and my bf kiss I don't feel butterflys or weak in the knees or things like they say in books and such. Does that mean were not meant for each other? He feels it but I don't. My bf thinks I don't feel it ...
A. 18 July 2008: Have a really hard think about exactly what you feel for him. You love him but are you IN love with him. You care deeply about him but is it more like he's just a really close friend or a brother?
Movies are made far more romantic that real lif... (read in full...)
Trying to stop smoking, having a hard time, can anyone share their experiences with trying to quit smoking cigarettes, how do I motivate myself?
Q. I gave up smoking about 2 months ago. 9 weeks to be precise. I have probably smoked 20 cigarettes this week alone though! I only had 2 the whole time previous to that. I am using patches and am on stage 2. I really should be going down to stage 3 ...
A. 18 July 2008: Call the NHS line, they have a million tips and local support groups. They sound touchy feely but really it's just like slimming world for blokes where you go down and vitch about how much you want a ciggy.
Their number is 0800 022 4 332
G... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going to be away for three months, we can only talk for ten minutes a week, has anyone else been in this position, I want to talk to him so badly?
Q. My boyfriend has been sent to MCTC in Colchester for 3 months. Th elast time I saw him as last Thursday when he went to court he was then taken that day. He is allowed one 10 min call a week and one visit per week - I ma finding it so hard as I ...
A. 18 July 2008: It will fly past, it's only 12 weeks.
Write him letters and keep yourself busy.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Questions for women about thrush...
Q. Questions for women 1)Is thrush a common problem among women? 2)Do most women have this problem at least once in their life time? 3)How can you keep a check at preventing it? 4)Can this have an effect on your sex life?...
A. 18 July 2008: 1. Yes
2. Probably
3. Don't have unprotected sex and don't use strange soaps down there.
4. Hell Yes. a) it's unpleasant b) it's sexually transmitable
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Does he love money more than he loves me?
Q. I've been with this man for two and a half years. He is 18 years older than me. We get on well and the relationship is going from strength to strength. He always says he loves me and I love him too. I have just got my divorce settled. I have got ...
A. 18 July 2008: Well he is only your boyfriend, he's not in anyway obliged to support you. This is 2008, girls can't just expect their man to cough up for them.
You could ask him for a loan or sell him a quarter of your flat or something so you don't have to ... (read in full...)
I just found out my new boyfriend smokes so should I confront him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 weeks. We both really like each other and things are great. The only problem is that I just found out he smokes and I find it one of the most disgusting things ever. I would talk to him about it but I don't ...
A. 18 July 2008: Mu hubbie smoked when I met him.
Blegh the smell made me want to retch.
I told him I would never tell him not to smoke, or demand that he quit... but that if he smoked a cigarette then there was no way I was going to kiss him till after he br... (read in full...)
My period has come earlier than expected after losing my virginity in the weekend, is this normal?
Q. I lost my virginity at the weekend and now my period has come around 10 days early, is this normal? ...
A. 18 July 2008: I'm starting to think it really is normal.
I don't think there have been any studies into it and its not the kind of thing you really talk about so it's not widely known...
But having said that you are about the 10th person I've seen on her... (read in full...)
My Virgin Bride was not a Virgin. How do I cope?
Q. Hi, like many other guys I have a problem with my wifes past. I met her 25 years ago, she was 17 and I was 19. we hit it off right from the start and fell in love. we now have 2 kids aged 10 and 12. Every thing was fine until I asked her...
A. 17 July 2008: I have to agree with everyone. Yes it has been a shock to find out that she had sex before you but that was a QUARTER OF A CENTURY AGO!!
She didn't lie to trick you into marriage to steal your money, she didn't get herself pregnant so you HAD to m... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a drunk violent woman...
Q. My wife and I have been married for a little over 13 years. We have one child together (Daughter 13), and her son (16) whom I have raised as my own since he was 5. Thats another story. I knew she drank when we met, so did I. We were young, I was in ...
A. 17 July 2008: If you were a woman then we would be telling you to kick your husband out and change the locks for the sake of the kids.
It's only because you are a man that you feel you have to be the one to leave.
The kids are going to be safer and better... (read in full...)
My dad won't let me see my sister. How can I convince him to.
Q. im 16. i have problems with my dad. my sister has moved out from home with her boyfriend, she's 19. my dad dont like her boyfriend, so he dosn't want me near him. my dad wont let me out of my house to see my sister. i want to see my sister...
A. 17 July 2008: Hi
I think Star has the right idea. Ask your dad if you can see your sister in public and that the boyfriend will have no contact with you.
He may have very valid reasons not to like this guy, so tell him that you want your sister to be abl... (read in full...)
Tricked into a bigamous marriage?
Q. I began talking to an Indian girl last year that I met on an internet site. After months of emails and phone calls we decided to get engaged. I'm seperated with my divorce going through the courts and I made her aware of this from the very ...
A. 17 July 2008: Well she has got the most to lose here. Her marriage isn't valid and she's lied to you.
If you have no intention of leaving her then you have nothing to worry about. Besides, even if she did kill herself and her family went to the police / embass... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him realize I need more space?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for about 2 months. He is really sweet but he is moving too fast for me. I told him a couple of times that I want to take the relationship slow. He does not understand, he calls me like 5 times a day and leaves so ...
A. 17 July 2008: Practigal is right. This would drive me mad too. I need Emily Time on a regular basis.
I think you should tell him you are missing calls because he is leaving too many voicemails, and stop replying to them. When he stalks you to check "everyth... (read in full...)
Love triangle: He says he still loves me but his girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. Im in a bit of a pickle. Im with another guy and have been for a few weeks, hes great n really nice, but recently my ex has come on the scene, he was my first ever real boyfriend,we were engaged, i love him to bits and i always will as he was my ...
A. 17 July 2008: Yeah, where do you think babies come from?
He seemed to be very happy with her and love her enough to have sex with her.
I find it very very strange that this guy is in love with you till you want committment and engagement, then goes off to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's parents don't want us to go out, how do I approach them?
Q. help my boyfriends parents told him yesturday that we could go out but today he rang me up and told me that they have decided we cant any more i dont no why but me and him are really upset over this they rule his life. They told him that they di...
A. 17 July 2008: Well just tell them you won't go out. You'll just be friends. Even if they only let you hang out together at his house and supervised, then you'll still get to see him.
I's not like you are going to do anything more than kissing anyway at your age... (read in full...)
I embraced Christianity, but I still have the urge to be a swinger. Can anyone help me?
Q. Wow this is scary, but I just thought it would be easier then going to a counselor or something. Before I gave my heart to Christ, my very beautiful and yes sexy wife and I played around with the thoughts of swinging. After we be came Christian we ...
A. 17 July 2008: Well if you follow the teachings of Christ.... he was basically a giant hippy and I think he'd be ok with it. I mean he used his powers as the son of God to get people drunk at a wedding!!
If you follow the old testament and believe in all the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied about his grades to get into college. Now he has to prove the grades, so do you think I could edit mine to put his name on them?
Q. My boyfriend lied about his grades on his college application form as he knew he would not get in without them. He had his interview today and they have agreed to let him in aslong as he proves what grades he got.. The grades he used are pretty ...
A. 17 July 2008: Not going to happen.
They see hundreds of exam certificates and will spot a fake one instantly. The exam boards use special watermarked paper and special printers. You can't fake that.
Once they figure out what you 2 have done you'll get a bla... (read in full...)
My mum says my relationship won't last. Why is she so against it?
Q. yeah i know its only 11 months, not THAT long really but i love him! right, ill explain... i met this guy a year ago on sunday and we got talkin and stuff, he ended up asking me out on the 3rd august, which was the best day of my life! but my mum ...
A. 17 July 2008: This is toughy because you have obviously tried all the things I would usually recommend.
She is being protective over you because of his age, that's clear enough but after 11 months together and meeting him etc etc etc you think she would be... (read in full...)
He hasn't asked me anything about my life and my family, but he talks about his. Is that weird?
Q. I am 36 yrs old and I am going through a divorce after 18 yrs. Met a new guy and went on a date. Date went great and he has called every day since. I am concerned, he talks about his life and family etc. but has not asked me anything about mine. ...
A. 16 July 2008: Hmm, well he could just be nervous so he is telling you his life story. Or he could be a self obsessed lunatic. That's the fun thing about dating: You Never Know!!
See him again and see if he relaxes and allows you to talk a bit more.
You jus... (read in full...)
Is it over.....forever?
Q. hi everyone so i dont know what to do about this me and my boyfriend got into a fight last nite and he started to pack his things we were talking while he was packinghis things and he put all of his stuff outside and we went for a walk and he told ...
A. 16 July 2008: Well everything is big and emotional for you right now and you both need time to calm down. Give it a few days so you both get things straight in your head and then talk to him.
A lot depends on what issues you have and what you were fighting... (read in full...)
After three weeks of marriage, my 25 year old husband obsesses about his pension and isn't interested in me.
Q. I'm 24, and my new husband's 25. We've been married for 3 weeks now and are set to go on honeymoon soon. Since we got married he's lost all interest in sex - when I initiate it he is more interested in surfing the Internet to look up pension plans...
A. 16 July 2008: Maybe he's just in shock as suddenly being a "Husband" rather than your bloke.
Remind him that just because you are married it doesn't mean you want to sit in front of the TV embroidering and knitting. You want to do things as before.
I think... (read in full...)
The constant male attention she receives is causing me some self-confidence issues...
Q. Hello everybody, I have a beautiful girlfriend who I love very much...however the constant male attention she receives is causing me some self-confidence issues. I'm not exactly the worlds best looking bloke, so how do I deal with better lookin...
A. 16 July 2008: She could obviously waltz off and have any man she likes, but SHE CHOSE YOU!!!!!
You are the one man in her world. I understand why you could feel insecure but when ever some guy checks her out just give her a kiss. How close are you when you go o... (read in full...)
Did he get angry because he didn't have sex with her and felt he had wasted his time?
Q. My daughter has just asked me advice but living in a different age cant help her really - so can you please? She has just returned from a holiday with a friend of hers. She met a young man who wanted sex but she held back which is very admirabl...
A. 16 July 2008: What an idiot he was. She was absolutely right not to have slept with him. He's proved that by being so obnoxious.
He probably annoyed because he's spent all this money on going all holiday and she had the audacity not to act like the slut tha... (read in full...)
How can I be strong enough to break up with him when he cries?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend but I'm not sure how. He's controlling and quite smothering, and I don't want to break up in person. I have tried before and he cries uncontrollably and begs me to give him more chances etc, and I find it ve...
A. 16 July 2008: Awww, emotional blackmail. How nice of him.
If you don't feel strong enough to break free from his manipulative crying then don't do the nice "sitting him down and explaining that things have to end" method of breaking up.
Next time he does... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is the only thing in my life - how do I cope when he goes to college
Q. My boyfriend found out today that he has been accepted into college to do a chef's course which I should be really proud of but I'm not.. I feel like when he goes to do this I will never see him and he might find someone else in his class or at ...
A. 16 July 2008: If he is being controlling and not letting you have a life then don't be in this relationship. It is not normal.
A guy who really loved you would want you to be happy and that means having a job, friends, dreams, and fun nights out.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is the only thing in my life - how do I cope when he goes to college
Q. My boyfriend found out today that he has been accepted into college to do a chef's course which I should be really proud of but I'm not.. I feel like when he goes to do this I will never see him and he might find someone else in his class or at ...
A. 16 July 2008: You can't keep him locked up your basement forever. He has to go out and do his own thing and being a chef can earn big money. Why don't you go and do a business course? That way you could open a restaurant together.
I think you have answered... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is insatiable!! How do I cope?
Q. how many times realisticly can i have sex in one night.my girlfriends need for penatrive sex is insatiable.is 3 times nearly everynight sufficient?please let me know honestly....
A. 16 July 2008: Everyone is different, so you should just have sex as many times as You want to.
Why not give lots of foreplay and make her orgasm a few times before sex, it might wear her out a bit faster.
You could also buy her a vibrator and use that dur... (read in full...)
How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...
A. 16 July 2008: I think he has problems in the relationship and again I would advise you to really work on getting those fixed before bringing a child into it.
I very much doubt it is something you are doing that makes him not enjoy sex. Perhaps he has issues a... (read in full...)
I don't want to break up with my long-distance boyfriend. Please help me.
Q. i love my bf sooo much,n he said he also love me..but we live 2 other country.he is from uk n me from usa...we r in love from 4months.we met on net.we never meet personaly.i want to meet with him but he dont want to.n now a days he is going far away ...
A. 16 July 2008: Well there is not a lot you can do I'm afraid. If someone wants to break up with you then you just have to take it. Especially if you can't even talk to them face to face.
All I can advise is to get out of the house and try not to think about hi... (read in full...)
I want my turkish boyfriend here in the UK. How do we go about it?
Q. i have a turkish boyfriend and we both want to be together here in the uk.How do we go about getting him here.The only problem is i`m still married is there any way he can come here untill i get my divorce.We have tried looking at options but i`m so ...
A. 16 July 2008: When you say "get him here" do you mean physically get him over to say with you? If so he has to go to the airport and get on a plane.
If you mean, get him a permanent life long British Citizenship, then I suggest he goes to the British Consul i... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay?? help.!
Q. Well, we have just been together for a few months and he is the greatest guy I have ever met. He is sweet, lovely, takes care of himself, no smoking, appreciates what I do to him, but I've always felt something's not right. 1. i met him when I w...
A. 16 July 2008: Well it sounds like he might be a little confused or maybe he's just paranoid about it if he's anti-gay people anyway.
As for the anal thing, it might just be his fetish.
There is nothing here that makes me think he's gay. Late night video gami... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend stay with me after everything I've put him through? And how can I tell him how much I love him?
Q. hi my names rachel. 2 years ago i was diagnosed with on set psycosis this means i have voices in my head that tell me all different things,this year i stabbed myself and iv also hurt my boyfriend...i just want some to tell me why he stays with me...
A. 16 July 2008: He's putting up with it because he knows it's not you doing these things, it's the illness.
It's like if you had a cold, a good boyfriend wouldn't leave you because he was sick of you being full of snot, because he knows it's just germs that are... (read in full...)
I don't like being around my stepchildren or their half-siblings. My wife and I fight about them a lot. What do I do?
Q. been married over 4 yrs been with my wife over 5 yrs we have a 3yr old daughter but she has 3 teenage sons who got on with me fine till they reach certain age then thy have no respect for me or their mum as she has always let them see their dad who ...
A. 16 July 2008: No matter what he did to your wife, he is still their dad. The fact you have come in to their lives and made it clear you don't like their dad is making them have to pick a side. Him or You.
Try to stay calm and don't react because that is what ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed by my girlfriend!. What should I do?
Q. I met my first girlfriend last year. We started dating a few days after we met, which was at a "Relay for Life" event. We dated for around 9 months, with some breakups and other rough spots in between. 2 months later after the breakup I find out...
A. 16 July 2008: You don't have to forgive her. You could cut contact with her if you want.
This was a horrible thing for her to do.
If it is within 3 days of it happening get her to take the morning after pill.
If she is moving away then you might have... (read in full...)
Help. I've shown nude pics of my girlfriend to a friend.
Q. help. ive shown nude pics of my girlfriend to a friend. we are no longer going out. but i feel really devestated showing nude pics of my girl friend to a friend. i feel as if i gave up my love away to someone else. help....
A. 16 July 2008: Yeah, well you disrespected your girl and now you feel bad.
The fact you feel remorse is a good thing and it might teach you not to go round showing your mates private things again.
Learn from this, that is all we can do in life.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...
A. 15 July 2008: Well then if it's your problem and you know you want a baby and you know you are hurting him then take a deep breath and just tell him.
Either that or suggest that "since you don't like having sex with me" you should go and buy one of those ga... (read in full...)
How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...
A. 15 July 2008: If you are planning to stay with this guy for the rest of time by linking yourself to him through a child.... do you not think it's a good idea that you should feel loved and attractive? Should he not be willing to face up to problems rather than ... (read in full...)
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