How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...
A. 16 July 2008: I think he has problems in the relationship and again I would advise you to really work on getting those fixed before bringing a child into it.
I very much doubt it is something you are doing that makes him not enjoy sex. Perhaps he has issues a... (read in full...)
Help. I've shown nude pics of my girlfriend to a friend.
Q. help. ive shown nude pics of my girlfriend to a friend. we are no longer going out. but i feel really devestated showing nude pics of my girl friend to a friend. i feel as if i gave up my love away to someone else. help....
A. 16 July 2008: Yeah, well you disrespected your girl and now you feel bad.
The fact you feel remorse is a good thing and it might teach you not to go round showing your mates private things again.
Learn from this, that is all we can do in life.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Could my ex be over me in 3 to 4 days?
Q. Ok I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years 7 weeks ago. She was a bit younger than me and wanted to explore life. Last week she wrote me two emails asking for me back how all she thinks of is me, all she wants is me and how much she deeply loves...
A. 16 July 2008: OK, firstly you have no excuse for hacking into her emails. That is bad. Don't do it again.
Of course she hasn't gotten over you in 3 days! She's doing this because you rejected her. She's doing it to prove to herself that she could get another ... (read in full...)
I don't understand my husband's uncaring attitude.
Q. My husband is not understanding and have no patience for our kids. I have told him many times that I feel very lonely. He always thinks about himself first and waits for me to fix and correct everything. i very tried of taking care of him and he ...
A. 16 July 2008: Well tell him if he doesn't change you are leaving.
If he doesn't change then leave.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I get him down the aisle?
Q. My fiance and I have been together going on five years. We both have had nasty relationships in the past. We have been engaged now three years. Now that our lives are going into the right direction, how can I get him to the alter? He loves me ...
A. 16 July 2008: Well as far as he's concerned, he's committed to you, so as a woman surely that's all you want?
If he is obviously useless at this kind of thing then just don't ask him. Just do it.
But bridal magazines and when he next sits down with you ju... (read in full...)
Love in cyberspace....and in realspace?
Q. Firstly I'm a bisexual male. I've met another man online who I'm in love with. I live in Europe, he lives in America. We will be able to see each other next year. He loves me too, but he also has a boyfriend, also an online thing. They're go...
A. 16 July 2008: You don't really know anything about this guy. He could be anyone. You've built him up in your head and he could very well turn out to be different.
Even if he is completely genuine and exactly as you think... he's 3 timing you!
There is abso... (read in full...)
My girl's broken up with me for the 3rd time after I told her a lie..
Q. I just broke up with my girlfriend after about 8 months, but we had been good friends for the longest time. This hasnt been the first time its happend, its actually been the third. The first two times we got back together within a week of the break ...
A. 16 July 2008: Just ask her to get back with you.
You say you "guess her reasoning" for breaking up with you. If you don't know then you either haven't listened of haven't asked.
Either way you clearly didn't explain and talk to her about it.
Go and ta... (read in full...)
Girls just don't seem to like me...
Q. ok first time asking something like this, but I dont know where else to go (not paying for a shrink lol). Im 23 now, and basically it seems like no matter what i've done my whole life women just arent interested in me in the slightest bit, a...
A. 16 July 2008: You say you aren't good at small talk due to being shy but are happy to shout at people an tell them exactly what you think of them to their face?
This is just a guess since I haven't met you but you may be coming across as arrogant if you are ... (read in full...)
Could I be happy with two different girls?
Q. is it possible for me to happy with 2 different girls? without them knowing. i dont want to lose the girl im with now. and the girl in my past is someone close to me and i dont want to lose her either....
A. 15 July 2008: You can be perfectly happy going round and hurting people. You could also go round and stab 2 girls and be perfectly happy.
However, a normal human being wouldn't do that because it is wrong and causes pain and suffering for no reason.
Go and ... (read in full...)
Period / pregnancy bleeding drama...
Q. My last period strated on the 23rd of june. I haded unprotected sex with my boyfriend on july 3rd and 4th. Then on july 8th i started bleeding light pink and then light red. So i don't know what it could be. What do you think it is?...
A. 15 July 2008: Could be anything.
See a doctor.
Since you are having unprotected sex it could be a disease or pregnancy.
Don't do it again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She ended the relationship because we started to argue and make each other unhappy, any views?
Q. Me and my girlfriend were together for a year and a half. About 7 weeks ago she ended the relaionship because over about 5 months we started to argue and make each other unhappy. She wasnt been herself anymore and felt like she was a bad pers...
A. 15 July 2008: I still think you should give her space for a while. She's probably got a lot of bad feeling towards you and rightly so. If she loves you and sees you putting the effort in then she'll get back with you in her own time. If you've damaged the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has driven me to depression. What do I do now?
Q. Do you think that I should stay with my boyfriend even though I have found out how insensitive he is towards my feelings? 3 Years ago I had an abortion, which he knew about to my ex. We are now trying for a child and since we are going on ...
A. 15 July 2008: Your doctor would not have put you on the pill if he thought you were pregnant.
However your boyfriend has absolutely NO EXCUSE for saying such horrible horrible things to you.
Stay on the pill, he is not ready to be a good dad. Tell him ho... (read in full...)
How do I fix my scruffy husband?
Q. My husband's choice of clothing has got scruffier and scruffier and I find it embarrassing being out and about with him. As well as that, he doesn't change with the seasons any more as he used to, but wears long sleeved shirt, trousers, thick socks, ...
A. 15 July 2008: A wise woman (well it was "my big fat greek wedding" actually) once said that the man is the head of the family but the woman is the neck. The neck can twist the head any way she wants to.
Don't tell him he's scruffy and should smarten up. Just... (read in full...)
I'm looking after my younger sisters and brother while my mum is ill, and I need some tips.
Q. this is nothing to do with relationships or anything but i need a bit of advice, my mum has been ill for the past few weeks, she has been in and out of hospital and is unable to do much. this means i have been looking after my younger sisters and ...
A. 15 July 2008: Wow, first off you are great for doing this and taking it on so well.
Your mum may be ill but I am sure she would like to still be involved so why not ask her for advice?
I think the answer to all your problems is in the local library. There a... (read in full...)
She ended the relationship because we started to argue and make each other unhappy, any views?
Q. Me and my girlfriend were together for a year and a half. About 7 weeks ago she ended the relaionship because over about 5 months we started to argue and make each other unhappy. She wasnt been herself anymore and felt like she was a bad pers...
A. 15 July 2008: Well if she is going off to uni and you are going to be in a long distance relationship you are going to have your work cut out for you.
I really don't think you are going to have time to build the trust and love needed to have a successf... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to make it work? How can I make him come back?
Q. Hello ... A Male and Female have feelings for each other. Been going out for 3 months intensly. They break up due to uncertanty and trust issues regarding past events that sent the relationship into turmoil. Text from other females found on...
A. 15 July 2008: Hello Female!
He obviously doesn't have feelings that are that strong or he wouldn't have cheated in the first place. He probably cares about you and likes you but feels guilty for hurting you. He probably knows there is a good chance he would hu... (read in full...)
Spotting before period - a precursor to pregnancy?
Q. Now, some of you may have seen my answers to many questions before, but I'm more of a relationship-advice type person, I know nothing about anatomy, nor the biology of a human being. My girlfriend and I had sex [she was lightly spotting, which ...
A. 15 July 2008: If you are having unprotected sex then she may be pregnant. If you were using condoms or she is on the pill then you are probably ok.
Periods are funny things and if you are in there shaking things about then it may have loosened a lot of the peri... (read in full...)
Am I just being needy or is he being unfair?
Q. Am I being too needy or is he being unfair? I have been dating a sweet boy for three months. (We known each other for three years, and dated for six months the first year...I don’t know just felt like telling you that.) Well the second month he got...
A. 15 July 2008: Well night shifts can be hard but they are not impossible and the money is usually pretty good. With the economy the way it is, good jobs are hard to find so well done to him.
If he is splitting his time equally between his friends and you then... (read in full...)
Is he just being extremely nice?
Q. Almost 2 years ago, I met this military guy in a delivery of some radios to his base. He was my contact but I had the chance to talk with him twice bfore he left. I didn't knew I like him until our second meeting where he fascinated me. He was ...
A. 15 July 2008: Meet up with him when he gets back, see what happens!!
The worst that can happen is that you find that he doesn't like you, or you don't like him.
Take a chance!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...
A. 15 July 2008: Well then if it's your problem and you know you want a baby and you know you are hurting him then take a deep breath and just tell him.
Either that or suggest that "since you don't like having sex with me" you should go and buy one of those ga... (read in full...)
Gut-wrenching attraction to another man - what do I do?
Q. I have been married for a year and have a 3 yr old son to my husband, I cant say that I have loved him since we have had our son, he is dificult, lazy and agressive and totally dependent on me, like a child. I work very hard in a very high pressured ...
A. 15 July 2008: Well you need to tell your hubby to shape up or ship out.
You married him, you committed to him and you vowed to try and work through the bad patches. You can't just throw that away or your promises are always going to be meaningless.
Talk to... (read in full...)
She has a problem with commiting to a relationship, because she is afraid she might cheat on me, she is not into public displays of affection, as I want her to be, how do I get her to commit and be more outgoing?
Q. hey every one....ok, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 5 months now, partially off and on cuz we r both really busy people. she has had a bit of a troubled past, with boy friends cheating on her, and about being bi for a year... yes ...
A. 15 July 2008: Well, she has told you the answer to this already!
Give her some space, don't be too boyfriend-ish to her, just carry on having a laugh and making out.
If she's frightened of feeling suffocated, then you need to be chilled out and understandin... (read in full...)
Slept with a few girls but too scared to go to the clinic for a check?
Q. I've slept with a few girls, but too scared to go to clinic what should i do?...
A. 15 July 2008: Be a man and get some balls and just do it.
If you are too much of a scared little boy to go and get a check up then you really aren't old enough to be having sex.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Can I get into trouble over something I haven't consciously done? I'm scared of my ex's threats!
Q. i have a scary problem, me and my ex have been good friends since we split up, or so i thought,im well known for falling asleep in the middle of a conversation/disscusion/even an argument after a few drinks, what happened tonight i havent a clue, ...
A. 15 July 2008: It's unlikely that the police would do you for assault, as there is so little evidence that you hit him in a non-accidental way. There is far more evidence that he committed criminal damage.
Ring the police and get a crime number so you can clai... (read in full...)
How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...
A. 15 July 2008: If you are planning to stay with this guy for the rest of time by linking yourself to him through a child.... do you not think it's a good idea that you should feel loved and attractive? Should he not be willing to face up to problems rather than ... (read in full...)
My friend asked my to go on a 12 week trip. My husband can cope. Should I go? Will the kids be OK without me?
Q. Hi, i am just looking for some opinions on the following. I am married, age 30, 2 kids ages 4 and 5. My friend who has travelled alot has asked me if i would like to go on a 12 week round the world trip in march. My kids will be 5 and 6 then and ...
A. 9 July 2008: I do not have kids so I know nothing about the trauma of leaving them. But I do see a lot of the advice given to the guys and girls in the army when they go away and leave their kid of 6 months.
12 weeks is not forever. If you were a man and talk... (read in full...)
Really like my ex teacher a lot, afraid I'll jeopardize his career, if I act on my feelings, any suggestions?
Q. Hi, I am a 19 year-old woman who has a little bit of a predicament on her hands. I'm in love with a former teacher. He's like twice my age or more but I can't stop thinking about him! I have never encountered this problem in all my years and wish I ...
A. 9 July 2008: I think that if he was a paedophile and was grooming you for sex, and then waited till you were 19 to actually go out with you, he'd be a pretty rubbish paedophile haha.
You are a 19 year old woman, if you start dating him now then no one can accu... (read in full...)
Married for a year and I don't understand why I am so miserable.
Q. I am 22 years old and been married a year. My husband is a great man, the type or man that i am beyond lucky to have. i don't understand why im miserable then. I moved away from my home town, and met this man 6 months after i moved. i do love him...
A. 9 July 2008: I married young and am having exactly the same problem as I'm stuck on an army base in the middle of no where with a bunch of other wives who only care about kids and babies.
You have said yourself that the only thing stopping you going out and ... (read in full...)
Should I let him see our son?
Q. im 22 years old and i have a 2 year old son with a 27 year old guy. a few days after i found out i was pregnant i left the father cuz he got really bad in to drugs and a month before that i gave him a chance to get clean and he wouldnt and i didnt ...
A. 9 July 2008: Wow, you've done the tough mum thing and you've done well! having read your follow up to this I think you've done everything you could and more. You've given him chance after chance and he's not made any effort.
To be honest I think this guy is s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gone to the other side of the world. How do I cope?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend has gone to the other side of the world for a few months and I'm falling apart without him, it's like I have this longing for him. We don't have much contact, He is in the jungle and if he can get to the main island once a week I ...
A. 9 July 2008: Of course he misses you. He's hurting just as badly as you. Why do you think he's trekked through a jungle to spend vast amounts of time and money talking to you for 30 seconds.
The thing is that he's got lots of stuff going on to distract... (read in full...)
I know I ought to settle down. Can anyone give me some advice to set me straight?
Q. I am fifteen years old. I've had sex multiple times with four different guys, and I had unprotected sex with three of them. Let's just say, if I were to get pregnant right now, I wouldn't really know which four of them it would be. I failed my cu...
A. 9 July 2008: You are just looking for someone to blame for this. It doesn't matter if some guy used you and didn't call you back. That's what happens when you sleep with men too soon. You have done far worse to other people.
You've quit weed, now you need to ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but he has a really bad temper. What can I do about it?
Q. I've been married for 7 years. Everything is wonderful till I oppose any of my husband's views. He has a terrible temper problem that he doesn't acknowledge. He gets really angry if I say anything that he thinks is not right. Whenever we fight ...
A. 9 July 2008: You can't change him from inside this relationship. He will never change because he knows he can win arguments with you be shouting or being violent.
You need to either leave or report him to police for assaulting you. It is only then that he ... (read in full...)
He controls everything I do, but I love him!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 3.5yrs, and we've had our ups and downs. but recently, all we do is just fight.. just about stupid things. like if i dont pick up my phone right away, he'll think i would be cheating on him. and i guess he does hav...
A. 9 July 2008: Yep Diovan is right. You need to get out. This guy has manipulated you so much that he's your whole world. You feel like you love him in the same way that hostages in the jungles of Congo fall in love with their captors.
You're his slave, and his ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm not good looking enough to meet girls, help please!
Q. the worst part of this all is my friends tell me if they had my looks and body they would be able to get ten times more girls when we go to the clubs, sadly i disagree. I feel i am the ugliest of all my friends and it pisses me of when they say...
A. 9 July 2008: I'm sure lots of people will say nice and sympathetic things so I'm not going to bother.
For god's sake have you heard yourself?
"I just stand being anti-social and looking like I want to kill myself and I don't know why girls don't like that.... (read in full...)
I put in so much effort, and I feel like he doesn't appreciate me.
Q. Hello everyone, Im hoping that someone out there can offer some advice.. I've been with my boy for over three years and I am utterly in love with him, however he doesn't seem to appreciate me or acknowledge anything I do, he insists that he does....
A. 9 July 2008: Well it says you are 16 to 17, so I am guessing he is too.
Perhaps, as a teenage boy, he is just overwhelmed by the distance you go to with these things. Or perhaps he has been spoiled by his parents so he's just used to this amount of perfecti... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop his bold comments towards my "attractive" friend - without sounding jealous?
Q. My boyfriend tells me that my best friend is super hot all the time.We have been dating for over a year and he always treats me good. He tells me I am hot too. While on a dinner date alone with him we talked about the night we all met the first ...
A. 8 July 2008: Next time he says anything about her being hot, snap at him that he should go out with her instead then. Let him know you are hurt by his comments.
As for your friend, she might be fishing for compliments because she knows your guy is "safe" a... (read in full...)
I can't bare the pain of deflouring, what to do? I'm only 14...
Q. I am only 14 nearly 15. i have been fingered a few times. the other day me n my boyfriend tried to have sex but i think im to tight. it really really hurts when he puts it half way in and i cant bare the pain i was nearly in tears.and i had to push ...
A. 8 July 2008: You should wait until you are more experienced at doing other sexual stuff before you even think about losing your virginity.
It's you've only been fingered "a few times" then it is far too soon to be thinking about full sex. Do everythi... (read in full...)
I'm feeling broody. Very broody. And I don't want to feel broody! Help!
Q. I'm 23, single, never been in a relationship, and suddenly feeling very, very broody. I've never shown any interest in babies before, and in fact gone out of my way to avoid them whenever possible... Anything I can do to dispell this broodines...
A. 8 July 2008: I doubt very much that you have zero chances of having one unless you've had both ovaries chopped out recently - and since this is probably hormonal, I'm guessing you haven't.
Well you can either ride this out and hope these feelings go away... ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told his family I cheated on him, when it was the opposite, now they treat me badly, help?
Q. SORRY ITS SO LONG BUT PLEASE READ! im really confused about whether its a good idea to stay woth my boyfriend, we were together for 2 and a hlaf years and then 1 night i was out with my friends when one of my boyfriends friends came up to me showi...
A. 8 July 2008: Well tell him he needs to tell his family the truth.
You can't have them thinking badly of you. What if your relationship gets serious?
Tell him to get it sorted and tell them the truth now or you will.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I am small chested, and concerned with my image, any advice for me?
Q. Well this is going to sound akward, but anyways, we were on a school trip a while ago and everyone was wearing vest tops and obvoiusly you could see the shape of there breasts and stuff - okay so that sounded totally strange! but I dont have much of ...
A. 8 July 2008: Don't worry about it, you are just not finished growing yet.
You can buy a padded bra, use the age old solution of shoving tissues down your top, and you can also put a tiny bit of blusher down the middle of your breasts which suggests more dep... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he is seriously interested, or just being a nice guy?
Q. I have recently started working in a place, where there are 100s of colleagues, but I am attracted to one particular person, who is very popular. We work near each other and are on friendly terms. However, I do not know if he is attracted to me, ...
A. 8 July 2008: Well why don't you be a bit more flirty and see what happens?
I think this is a situation where you just need to wait and see. He may like you but not want to date a work collegue.
Just do what you are doing and things will work themselves ... (read in full...)
Depressed, unable to find a good relationship, how do I interact more and enjoy myself?
Q. hi, im a 37 year old single female, im having trouble finding a man to settle down with, ive suffered from depression for nearly 20 years, and im wondering if that is my problem, ive been to see therapists and tried hypnosis, but nothing works, i ...
A. 8 July 2008: Well you just need to get over your fears and get out there! Join a writers group, a choir, a sports team, a political party, anything you see, and meet new people.
You've just got to kick yourself up the bum and tell yourself that you HAVE to ... (read in full...)
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