Should I break up with him?
Q. I really need people's advice on this. I am 21 and have been with my bf for 3 years, we have broken up before twice both times because i wanted to. My bf is loving, caring, always puts me first, but is quiet and doesnt socialise much unless its with ...
A. 6 August 2008: Cool, glad it worked out and I hope he sees it's the right thing too. It might take him a bit but I am sure he will realise.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I trust him after finding mesages on his phone?
Q. I think I might be going mad - I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, he went out on Friday night with his best friend which I was fine about but that's not the problem. he told me that he mate had his phone and that's why he never rang me unitl ...
A. 21 July 2008: If you want to live on in ignorance and are fine with him cheating as long as you don't find out, then why are you here asking for advice?
Get on with life in a bubble and avoid the issue for as long as you can.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I meet this girl for sex? She thinks I'm 16 but I'm not!
Q. ok im 14 and im dating or was dating a 16 yr old girl. we been talking over the internet. when we finally meet i took her to the movies. i like her she like me. we start kissing. it was dark because we where in a theater. she took of her bra and i ...
A. 21 July 2008: Well first off, lying about your age is NOT GOOD! There are laws of consent and you are underage. Do you really think she would be happy playing around with you if she knew she was breaking the law? Tell her your real age.
I also think that i... (read in full...)
Should I trust him after finding mesages on his phone?
Q. I think I might be going mad - I think my boyfriend is cheating on me, he went out on Friday night with his best friend which I was fine about but that's not the problem. he told me that he mate had his phone and that's why he never rang me unitl ...
A. 21 July 2008: Well if his mate had his phone then it could be for him.
However, if the first thing he says to you when he gets home is "I didn't cheat." then of course you are going to be paranoid. Why would he tell you that unless you didn't trust him in the f... (read in full...)
I want to be a teen dad, but how do I tll my parents?
Q. How can I tell my parents that me and my partner are trying for baby and will get a flat when the baby is born? My dad is quite old fasioned, he will probably go mad what should I do, Im excited if my partner gets pregnant because I love her lots ...
A. 21 July 2008: "Dad, I know I'm not married and I don't have a good job and I haven't done any travelling or got a career or been to uni or done anything with my life, but I'm choosing to ruin it and limit myself for the next 20 years by having a baby. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my hormones getting in the way of finding a great girl?
Q. I am a teenage guy, sixteen years old now, and I want to find the right girl for me in the future. I find that hormones really get in the way of finding who I truly like for personality and who I like just because of sex. Can I find true love, or is ...
A. 21 July 2008: So you want to know if love truly exists?
There is a whole branch of psychology devoted to this, there is also a whole branch of literature and music devoted to it.
Go and read any great love story or even just watch the sex and the city dvd... (read in full...)
How do I escape this violent relationship?
Q. my husband is an alcoholic and is very abusive towards me both when he is drinking and when he is not. He is a control freak who will not let me do anything or go anywhere, and if i do there is always a hugh fight that lasts for days..he is always ...
A. 21 July 2008: I'm not in Canada so I can't recommend any charities but they are out there. There is always a way out. Do some research on Google and you will be able to find something in your local area.
The one thing I would suggest is talk to his dad. Jus... (read in full...)
I've dumped him a few times because he's making me feel insecure but he keeps begging to come back!
Q. I've had an on and off again relationship with a co-worker for over a year now. Initially he was a bit over the top over how attractive I was, smart,etc. Then a few months later he was making comments, like 'if you were a ten you'd be used to people ...
A. 21 July 2008: Dump him, he's not going to change. He's had his chance and obviously has not respect for you or your feelings. It sounds like he has very little respect for women in general.
Don't have more surgery. Its expensive, dangerous and not needed. ... (read in full...)
He told me to "play with him" during cuddling, what did he mean?
Q. If your boyfriend says to you when your kissing and cuddling with him play with me what does it mean?...
A. 21 July 2008: I think he wants you to give him a hand job.
Since you are not close enough to him to be able to ask him what he means, and he is such a little boy that he's too embarrassed to explain, I think you should have a good think about whether you are ... (read in full...)
I am having teenage disagreements with my BF, so I wonder if he loves me...
Q. i have went out with this boy and we have broke up and now we are back together.He say he loves me and that he had never been with anyone that respects him like me,he had told me that he never wants to be away from me,so there is one thing i really ...
A. 21 July 2008: The fact that he's acting like an over sexed baboon makes me think he's too young to know what a real relationship is.
He wanted to fight a boy just because he didn't like him? And then he tells you how to act?
He's an immature idiot. No one sh... (read in full...)
I told him I want to have sex with him, so isn't the ball in his court now??
Q. I told this guy at work 5 weeks ago that I want to have sex with him. He seemed very receptive at that time, but nothing's happened yet! I went away on vacation for 3 weeks and just returned to work last week. I've been ignoring and avoiding him, ...
A. 21 July 2008: Well since you've made it clear that you only want to be a casual shag and not a girlfriend then he's not exactly going to treat you like a princess is he? Perhaps he's not looking for a one night stand and isn't as easy about having sex with ... (read in full...)
Sick of feeling belittled, any tips for gaining enough independence to at least put the family issues to rest?
Q. I've never had too much interest in friends at any point in my life, or guys, and have only had one person I'd term as a close friend and two boyfriends. Long story short, the friend is disappearing for long periods of time (think in terms of months ...
A. 21 July 2008: Well all you need is enough cash for a deposit and a contract for a job. Apply for jobs far and wide, in towns, in areas where you can rent fairly near by. When you get the job tell them you need a couple of weeks to move house, and start huntin... (read in full...)
I feel like he takes me for granted! Help!
Q. I'm extremely confused about my relationship. I have been with him for over 3 years now. I feel like he takes me for granted every six months or so. We have a row and then things better for a while but then the cycle continues. My boyfriend is a ...
A. 21 July 2008: Well it's up to you hun!
He's not going to change. You have learned that he keeps sliding back to how he was.
You can either stay with him and put up with it, or you can leave and find someone better.
It depends on how much you love him. C... (read in full...)
Am I being totally ridiculous to think I even stand a chance of having a future with him?
Q. I was really great friends with this guy i work with and then his wife had a miscarriage. 2 months later he text me while we were out to tell me he had feelings for me, that he loved me. I told him I thought he was just having a bad time right n...
A. 21 July 2008: Well you need to give him space to sort his head out. He's never going to leave her while he has you on the side.
Tell him that you are in love with him but don't want contact with him again until he is ready to commit to you and has left his wife... (read in full...)
My mum says I can't stay at my boyfriend's house - but all I want to do is hold him.
Q. A posted another about my mum finding out about me losing my virgintiy well now she has left on holiday with my sister and she told me am not allowed him to stay over which i can understand but all a really want to do is just fall asleep beside him ...
A. 21 July 2008: Unfortunately you just have to put up with the fact you can't be with him.
I know being in the same bed is lovely but sometimes it just can't happen.
I think, given your past history with your mum and this boy, it would be a good idea just t... (read in full...)
Drunken Texting has got me into trouble. How can I fix it?
Q. I need advice. I found out this guy I thought liked me has been using me by talking to another girl at work and so at a party, she got really drunk and we took a friends phone and she texted him a message in which she called him a 'pig' after fi...
A. 21 July 2008: Well just stop caring. Who cares if he blames you? He got called a Pig... big deal. He is a pig. If he makes a fuss about it then tell him to go and report you to his mummy.
It was a text sent my a friend when drunk.
He's only making a fuss ab... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 22 but acts childishly; he hasn't changed though he said he would...
Q. I have been with my guy for nearly a year,hes 22 but acts like a child and it really annoys me. For example he'll make stupid nosies,and do stupid voices all the time,hell start clapping really loudly for no reason what so ever and he does immature ...
A. 18 July 2008: He might just be a bit mad. Many people are mad. It doesn't have to be diagnosed and given a special name. It's just that he has a mad personality.
You could take him to the doctors and get him drugged and then you might like him more as he'll be... (read in full...)
Not even a birthday present from my boyfriend. What am I worth to him?
Q. It was my birthday last weekend. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. He's a very sweet guy, but not very good when it comes to suprises for me, or buying gifts ahead of time. I was over at his parent's house the day before my birthday ...
A. 18 July 2008: Well if you are upset about it then tell him. Don't let him get away with it or he won't realise he's done nothing wrong.
I mean you can't expect diamonds and pearls but he could at least have got you something. It's the fact he put no thought ... (read in full...)
My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped in front of me on two occasions. Do I tell her mother?
Q. My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped naked in front of me on two occassions and i am confused as to tell her mother or not....
A. 18 July 2008: You really should have stopped her from getting naked or left the room when it happened.
If she did it in a sexual way then you need to tell her mother as you have a problem and you don't want it to escelate to a stage where it may look like you... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents that I am gay?
Q. I am a 15 year old gay who has no idea when or how to tell my parents I'm gay. When should I tell them and how. All of my close friends know so I have something to fall back on if they don't take it well. Thanks to anyone who has any ideas....
A. 18 July 2008: Do you need to tell them so soon?
I am not saying that you are not gay or that you don't know your own mind. But what I will say is that there is nothing wrong with letting them build up a suspicion for a while before you confirm it to them.
... (read in full...)
What did I do or where did I go wrong? This man has me VERY confused.
Q. I recently met a man on holiday. We became friends and had some good fun but no sex although he kept giving out clear remarks thats what he wanted. He gave me his home address and e mail, and we emailed a few times. He came to the city where I...
A. 18 July 2008: You are the third person to ask this question. It's always the same.
1. Meet him on holiday and he wants sex
2. Come home and email
3. He doesn't want a relationship when he realises there is no easy sex.
You asked me to spell it out so I wil... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my depressed exgirlfriend really wants me back?
Q. Hi I'll keep it short. My ex girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me 3 months ago. She was suffering with depression and she couldn't handle a relationship with me anymore. She told me she still cares deeply for me but she feels too selfis...
A. 18 July 2008: She had depression. This makes you very selfish and can destroy the people around you.
She split up with you and I think she did the right thing.
Now she seems to be over it so it might be that she is ready for a relationship again. It would ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend, my new life and the ex ... HELP !!
Q. Hi since 5 monthes that im with my aktuell boyfriend my ex relationship was a disaster we wanted to married we were together 3 years and he cheat me ... And its was very dificult for me to accept my new boyfriend we meat each other on vacations on ...
A. 18 July 2008: He does not sound like he is good to you. You are very alone in the country with your family and friends so far away.
Perhaps you should move back to your home country for a short while.
If he is on drugs and leaving you alone while he drinks ... (read in full...)
I worry about shaving my pubic area... how can my friends do it?
Q. Basically, 1. I am 16 and a 32D. All my friends are sizes 30F or 32F etc. I am scared i don't get any bigger because i haven't changed in a year. I am really worried. 2. Recently my friends have been speaking about shaving their pubic hair and o...
A. 18 July 2008: 1. D cup is WAY big enough, if your friends are an F cup then they may want to consider losing weight.
2. You just have to do it really carefully, or do as a lot of us do and tweeze / wax around the front (so you can wear a swimming costume ... (read in full...)
After 5 years is this going anywhere? Am I more than a friend to this guy, or am I being used?
Q. This is going to be kinda long, but its very important and I will not include details I think are unimportant. My basic question is, am I more than a friend to this guy, or am I just being used. Okay heres the details. Okay I met Damien* 5 ye...
A. 18 July 2008: Bloody hell you two are useless.
You both keep going off and having other boyfriends and girlfriends so neither of you know where you stand.
Someone has to make the first move and I think it has to be you since you are going to go mad first.
... (read in full...)
Is it possible to suffer morning sickness so early and is it possible to concieve 2 days before the period is due?
Q. I didnt see my partner for 6 weeks and then slept with her 2 days before her period was due and then 5 days later she said she was being sick in the mornings and thought she was pregnant.she says she done a test 9 days after the suppossed conception ...
A. 18 July 2008: Yep, a woman is at her most fertile just before her period as that is when the lining in her womb is at it's most full.
If you had unprotected sex with her (because the condom split) then she could be pregnant. The withdrawal method is not full... (read in full...)
Why would my ex keep in contact with me if he lives with another woman, and did I do right in telling him to stay away?
Q. Hi Dear Cupid, please could you help me with my problem. Any advice would be gladly appreciated. After 18years me and my partner have broken up. He has been living with another woman for the last two years, but he has been in regular contact ...
A. 18 July 2008: Well he probably misses you. 18 years of friendship is going to be hard to lose overnight even if there are no other feelings of love involved.
However, he has to respect his new girlfriend and if he keeps getting in touch with you even though h... (read in full...)
Split up with my long term boyfriend, have I done the right thing or do I just find it hard to adjust to the change?
Q. Hi I split up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago after many years together because the fun in our relationship has gone (for me anyway) and i cant see myself being happy with him in the the long run like i did once before. He collected al...
A. 18 July 2008: Well of course you are going to miss him. If you were that close to a brother or sister and they moved out then you would cry and miss them too. It doesn't mean you want to share a room with them forever.
If he was your first serious relation... (read in full...)
Why can't I bring myself to ask girls out?
Q. Well, ever since i was young (around 8-11) my parents told me to never have a girlfriend or they will kill me :/, my parents USED to abuse me physically and mentally. Anyway, i took this in mind, vowing myself to never go out with a girl. But whe...
A. 18 July 2008: Lots of people's parents tell them not to leave their rooms at night or a monster will come. So they get scared of the dark. Once they get older they discover that there are no monsters, and wander about at night as they please.
This is exactly ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. I really need people's advice on this. I am 21 and have been with my bf for 3 years, we have broken up before twice both times because i wanted to. My bf is loving, caring, always puts me first, but is quiet and doesnt socialise much unless its with ...
A. 18 July 2008: He may be a wonderful quiet guy, and yes you were lucky to have found him, but between the ages of 19 and 21 you've grown and changed.
It may just be time for you to move on.
There could be some quiet girl who would love him completely and w... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be addicted to Asian men in porn - what should I do?
Q. I'm 28, and my husband's 32. In the past few weeks his lack of sex drive is killing our relationship. He'd also been spending excessive time on the computer. I only found out why after he'd left the computer screen on - he'd been looking at Asian...
A. 18 July 2008: People who are curious about the other sex will often use porn to have a bit of a look around to find out what turns them on. It doesn't mean he'd ever do anything with them in real life... just that he's curious.
However, having said that, it... (read in full...)
Why do I behave this way - ruining other people's relationships?
Q. Hey guys, Before I say what I'm going to say, I would really appreciate it if harsh comments were not written here, I really would just appreciate advice and such, rather than things that I do not wish to hear as I probably already expect i...
A. 18 July 2008: Hmm, I think this is more about the way girls have treated you in the past. You enjoy feeling power over them.
If it was about male attention and the feeling you could "have any man" then you would do it to your friends too.
However you a... (read in full...)
Can going to the gym ONCE on a serious work out make ANY visible difference?
Q. Exactly what the title says really, my friend has a free pass for the gym and told me to go with her to give it a try, I am allowed to stay as long as I want for the day at the gym, and I know this is a stupid question but I just wanted to double...
A. 18 July 2008: Your muscles will get pumped up so you might notice a toning affect for a few hours afterwards. They'd get all stretched out in the right places and would fill up with blood.
But once they calmed down to normal size again then you would be exact... (read in full...)
Any good food for losing weight, that you could recommend?
Q. So i've recently decided that its time to loose a few pounds, meaning like 30 or so. I'm not obese, but i do have a little extra fat around my stomach and thighs... I've been working out like running and doing ab things, but do any of you know like ...
A. 18 July 2008: Eat things like porridge and high fibre stuff. It will fill you up and keep you going through the day without you wanting to snack. Oats also absorb fat on their way through your guts so can lower cholesterol.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
The new boss transferred some of my jobs to my colleagues, I'm disappointed, should I leave the company after 10 years?
Q. I have been working in this company for more than 10 years as an admin assistant. For the past few years, everything was fine, busy but happy working everyday,unfortunately ever since my ex-managers were traveled back to headquater, new manger c...
A. 18 July 2008: Perhaps he came in, saw the amount of work you were doing for a low wage and took some things off your hands because you are being treated unfairly.
I think you need to ask him why he took the work away from you. He might have just wanted to make ... (read in full...)
"Should I stay with someone who is finacially disabled for the word love"?
Q. we've dating for 2 yrs now my problem is that he is having a poor backround family and works for a non paying company,I'm 26 yrs and i wish get married to someone who is going to be able to do something like buying a house but if i am going to marry ...
A. 18 July 2008: Well you can marry for love and be completely happy in a cardboard box. Or you can marry for financial security and always wonder.
As a team you will be capable of great things. I am sure you could work out a way for him to get a better job.
... (read in full...)
Could it all be stress because I'm scared to get pregnant?
Q. Ok for a week now i've been having all the signs of starting my period like breaking out more than usual and i've been really emotional. But i've not started yet and it seems like i'm really late. My boyfriend and i always use a condom and hes never ...
A. 18 July 2008: This happened to me once.
Go to a friends house, put on a DVD and have a laugh about something completely different. Forget all about it for a few hours.
If that doesn't work then get a pregnancy test just to be sure. You probably aren't ... (read in full...)
I was wondering if I should end it and never look back this time because he cannot keep a promise...
Q. I've been dating this guy now for exactly 2 months. And he's really great, offers to help me out no matter what kind of trouble I get into. But when we make plans for him to come and see me he never shows up. When I call him the night before to m...
A. 18 July 2008: If he's treating you like this 2 months in then what is he going to be like when the honneymoon period is over.
You say you have already split up twice, and you are 2 hours from each other.
I really don't think this is meant to be hun. Perhaps ... (read in full...)
Do you believe in fate? Will I end up with my ex boyriend if it was supposed to be?
Q. Ive split up with my boyriend of 8 years (a few days ago), we have been together since i was 15, but for the last year or so i have been very unhappy with the way he is and am constantley trying to change him. I love him very much but deep down i ...
A. 18 July 2008: This sounds exactly like me and my ex boyfriend. We had been together so long and I thought we were always meant to be together, even though deep down I wished he was better in some ways.
When we split up I felt so lost but so free at the same tim... (read in full...)
Should I move on? Or should I wait for him to be ready for a relationship?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago and I am still having the hardest time getting over him. I have gone further with him that any other guy, but we haven't had sex. I don't know if it is because of this or if I am in love with him. I only ...
A. 18 July 2008: You may have fallen for him hard and fast and it may have scared him. He could have fallen in love with you and that could have scared him.
I'd let him know that you don't want to lose him and think this could be the start of something brillian... (read in full...)
Does my friend's husband have a real emotional attachment to me? Or was it just a bit of physical attraction?
Q. I have a friend ,whom I know since last 4-5 yrs,me n his wife r really gud friend actually all of us (me n my hubby he and his wife)are really close friends .But 2 months back I was alone with him for beer ,then he lost his control once but some how ...
A. 18 July 2008: If you are meeting up just to hug then you are having an emotional affair with him.
You need to either leave your husband and him leave his wife so you can be together... or you need to stop seeing each other.
This is going to break hearts eit... (read in full...)
Can I get your opinion... how long do you date him before you sleep with him?
Q. Single Adults... After you have started dating someone, when do you think that sex begins to be expected? First week? First month? When? For men, since you are usually the ones most concerned about this topic, what are your personal ex...
A. 18 July 2008: First date and even huge week is a huge no no. The guy will think you are too easy and you'll never hear from him again.
I think I did it with my hubbie for the first time after 3 weeks together but we did some other stuff before that. We might ha... (read in full...)
Is this an unspoken break up? My boyfriend asks me to give him time to get over our fight of 8 weeks ago...
Q. It's been almost 8 weeks since my boyfriend and I had a fight (lots of little things building up to him getting "upset" and no longer being even remotely affectionate.. kind of an unspoken breakup). He's behaved like a good friend ever since then.. ...
A. 18 July 2008: I would just carry on ignoring him. Don't return his calls or if you have to see him / speak to him then just be civil and polite.
Give another week or so if he is busy and then wait for him to ask you why you have disappeared. Tell him you want... (read in full...)
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