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writes:Me and boyfriend finished at christmas after he met someone else, we were together for 11 years he moved in with her straight away. I have received 12 texts since last Tuesday, firstly saying why did I not say hello when I saw him at football, then it went on then sat saying he didnt go to football because it was cancelled due to weather. He text me yesterday saying he will give me another 1000 towards the holiday money I lost at christmas as we were due to go away, he gave a 1000 in Jan and I said give me the other 1000 end of Feb. He also keeps mentioning in his texts about me and my new job, it would be all right if it was now and again but it's all the time, unsure why he is so concered I got the job which he knows and start in April.I do love him so much and it seems he lets go given though he told me to move on. Do you think he wants to meet as he wants to get back or does he want to just be friends but if it is just frends don't you think he been a bit "over the top"? He's still with her, can you imagine if she found out he text me this many times?
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (10 February 2009):
 I had the same thing with my ex, tells me she still has feelings for her ex and they get back together and talks to me as if everything is fine and dandy between us.
I think she was just using me as a backup guy, if it didn't work out again between her and the ex, she could just pickup where she left off. Things seem to be going well for them, and guess what? I don't get anymore texts from her.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 February 2009):
I think he's feeling very guilty that he abandoned you and hurt you... and even if he met someone else he's not going to stop caring all together. He wants to be friends so so he's being ultra friendly to try and make you forgive him faster. This will help to stop him feeling guilty.
There may also be the possibility that due to him being a little bit older, he's now used to his routines and the way you do things... so she may be completely different and not putting up with any of his annoying habits and chasing him around. This will make him regret leaving you a bit which brings on more guilt.
I think you have to get tough on him a bit. Tell him that the reason you didn't say hello to him was because HE LEFT YOU FOR ANOTHER WOMAN and you weren't in a chatty mood.
Tell him to contact you about the holiday or practical things but apart from that you want him out of your life for a while. Tell him you are still very hurt and he's just messing you about with texts all the time when you don't want to see him or hear from him.
This sounds harsh, but it will give you time to get over him, and IF he is regretting his actions and wants you back then it will make him miss you more and he can make a decision to what he actually wants.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, juli3ann +, writes (10 February 2009):
My ex was the same and at the end of the day its true that although they may not want you they dont want you to forget about them (hence the text all the time) and will hate it when you also get a new boyfriend.
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