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writes: He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him at his place because he's going away for a month and we wanted to see each other before he left. We've always been pretty flirty around each other but nothing has happened since our FWB thing ended because he has a girlfriend now who lives near him. He lives hours away from me. He came down last week to visit. He was staying at his dad's house and invited me over to watch a movie. Nothing happened but he did keep cuddling me. Yesterday we were talking on Facebook and he started taking about how soft my skin was and that he feels like I don't want him near me. I said I did but only as a friend because he has a girlfriend and I'm dating someone now, which he already knows. He wants to see me again and go for a drink or to the movies. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said stay in and watch a movie at his and that he'd have more time for me this time.I'm just confused about why he can't just act like a friend. He said he was sorry if he made me uncomfortable but he knows i'm dating someone now. He asked me about the guy i'm dating and i told him i didn't want to talk about him.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (2 February 2012):
 Because he cares more about his libido then the girls he has sex with/dates.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Because a lot of men cannot be faithful. They are also super insecure and cannot bear to be on their own. He wants to get into your pants because it gives him an ego boost to know another girl is into him and he can call her up and have sex at the drop of a hat. Its locker room stuff, bragging and manipulation. Belive it or not but it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! His wanting sex from you has nothing to do with any emotional feelings...it's just about sex and what he can get away with.
A lot of men begin this behaviour at a very early age and many of them remain like it for the rest of their lives. That is why, if you look at this site, the overwhelming complaint and problem on here is that a man has cheated on a woman. You only have to watch Jeremy Kyle to see the same thing and the reason it is so prevalent is because THAT IS WHAT A LARGE NUMBER OF MEN DO.
You need to forget him. He doesn't want you or love you...he just wants a notch on the bedpost and unfortunately you are one of his victims.
The biggest mistake women make is believing that sex = love...in a mans eyes if he only wants that from you and not anything else, it's just a booty call and he will drop you soon after.
Avoiding men like this, ones that do not want to date you properly and actively show, through actions, that they love you, will save you from a lot of heartache, pain and confusion.
If women stopped having casual sex with men who don't care about them, men would have to start behaving better and not become sex pests.
Not all men are like this, the ones who pursue you, date you, treat you well, are there for you, love you and want to marry you are the keepers...anything else...FORGET THEM!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question*to
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, i kind of get that he wants o get in my pants. I just wondered why he'd still want to do that seeing as he's been with his girlfriend for nearly 2 years.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 February 2012):
I'm guessing he is hoping to get a little "dip in the honeypot" with you on the side.
Honestly, I would make it clear what you want/don't want from him and no more cuddling.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 February 2012):
Ask him if he'd like to go on a double date. Him with his girlfriend and you with your boyfriend...because that's what friends do.
If he says he wants you on his own or he doesnt want his girlfriend to meet you then he definitely has you in his sights to have sex with again.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Guys who have girlfriends pursue other girls for the same reason that a dog who has a perfectly good car standing stationary in their driveway will still run after a car that passes down their street....
It's the thrill of the chase, not the pursuit of the goal that keeps both men and dogs on the run!!!!.....
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (1 February 2012):
 It definitely sounds as if he likes you.
It actually sounds like he likes you more than his girlfriend but lots of factors keep you apart. You need to stop it before one of you gets hurt. I think you have some sort of feelings for him but are such a nice person you wont admit it because you wouldn't hurt your boyfriend.
put him in his place. I wonder if he'd want to keep coming round if he knew it wouldn't amount to anything. I think he wants something more and when you put him right he wont be interested and he'll show his true colours
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2012):
 He thinks he can get into bed with you.
it's very very hard to go BACK to being friends after you've had sex with someone
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