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writes:Dear cupid, I thank you for your enormous help that you've been rendering to us, I hope that you'll also see to my problem. I have a boyfriend whom I love so much and he loves me too, but my problem now is that I'm 5 years older than him. So I'm so ashamed of myself befriending such a young boy and sometimes I ask myself why we ever came across each other. Although, we both know that we can't get married but we've decided to be best of friends until I'm married. Please, I'm troubled as I love this guy. please I want you to advise me. Should I quit the relationship or go on with him until I'm married?. I would be very greatful for your help. Thank you and God bless you. [Mod Note: Poster is 29 years old] Reply to this Question
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reader, chevyman12  +, writes (5 February 2012):
5yrs difference in age ain't much cause if you want to be with him don't let it worry you
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Carry on with him for the rest of your life. What's 5 years in the big picture? When you are old and gray on your deathbed, looking back, will you not regret not marrying this man who you love?
Stick to him if he is worth your love, regardless of his age. 5 years difference isn't worth throwing an amazing love away.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Why can't you be together? this makes no sense. You are of legal legitimate age. There's no reason this can't work. do not worry about other people! the age difference is nothing. I was 16 when my boyfriend and i got together and he was 20. it's 3 years on and we've proved everyone wrong and stayed together. there will always be people that judge you. Follow your heart and do what's best for you. Be happy. Stop wanting to please others. you will never be able to please everyone.x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Dear OP,
Let’s recap this problem:
You love your boyfriend
He loves you
The problem AS YOU SEE IT is that you are 5 years older than he is?
So that if you are 29 he’s 24.
Why are you ASHAMED of this?
WHY can’t you get married? Is there a LAW or RELIGIOUS reason for this or is it just that YOU think being with a younger man is WRONG?
When I was 29 my fiancé was 16. Not that I knew him then or would have dated him then but once you are an adult age is just a number…. If you are in love with him and he is in love with you and you want to get married why can’t you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): Your 29, if hes 5 years younger then he is 24.
I met my husband, who is now 27, a month after he turned 22. I am 14 years older than him, that makes me 41.
I love him, with every ounce of my being. I make him happy and he makes me deleriously happy. He is by far the best thing that ever happened to me, he has a good job, respects me, takes care of me, he is kind and he is thoughtful. Hes also drop dead gorgeous.
Why in the world would I give that up because Im older ? Why would anyone ?
Now, in all fairness the age difference freaked me out at first, honestly though, it never bothered him. I had the issue, it was my insecurity, and I had to learn to overcome it, which I did.
Age is only a number, and a relationship isnt about a number ( unless 1 person is underage ). Quit fixating on 5 years and enjoy your time, however long it may last with this man.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 February 2012):
 A 5 year difference is huge if you are 10 and he is 5, or 15 and 10, or 20 and 15, but 29 and 24...not so much.
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