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writes:Hi I have a great boy mate who I also have a big crush on. We get along really great and tease and flirt constantly. One of his friends told me he fancied me and my boy mate has even hinted and confessed he does. I would love for him to ask me out but he hasn't. Im too shy to ask myself and dont have much confidence so please dont suggest that. It makes me worry there's something wrong with me. Why does he not ask me out when he says he likes me? Please help! Thankyou to everyone who tries to help me xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): thnks everyone for ur responses!!! they've helped my confidence and im going to use ur advice. means alot to me! thnks again!x
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reader, MissKate +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Hi
You shouldn't worry too much.
I'm sure he's just as shy and worried as you are!
Take it bit by bit and maybe ask him if he wants to go out one night for a pizza or something.
Just take your time and let him relax a little bit more,
and don't forget; there's never anything wrong with you asking him out!
Best of luck,
Kate x
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reader, Zim +, writes (29 December 2007):
 In many ways, if he sincerely admitted that he fancied you, then in effect he has already asked you out. It could simply be that he is as nervous as you are when asking someone out. You know it yourself that it isn't easy. Especially that you are both very good friends, he might not want to risk losing that yet he is still interested.
What I would suggest, is attempt to bring up the conversation topic again when it's just you two. You don't have to ask him out, don't worry about that, but sometimes shy guys need a one to one situation in order to say what they want to say, i.e. ask you out. If they are in a place where there are other people you both know, it can make it rather difficult.
Lastly, there is nothing wrong with you, never think that. You sound like a wonderful girl with potentially exciting prospects ahead!:-) I wish you all the best.
Let me know if there's anything else I can help you with.
ZIM
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (29 December 2007):
 He's probably scared of rejection, or maybe he misread you and thought you wouldn't be into it, so you should express some interest and be more assertive with your feelings toward him. As for your shyness and low confidence, people who don't try to get what they want often don't get what they want. It's better to try and put yourself out there than to expect or hope others will do it for you. Good luck.
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reader, James91 +, writes (29 December 2007):
He might be just as nervous about asking as you are... If thats the case then he was able to hint that he did like you because it was in a light-hearted way, so it didn't feel like he was telling you as much.
He may also be worried that by asking you out, it would change the relationship you already have for the worse. If he enjoys how you are right now, you may need to subtly reassure him that that wouldn't be the case.
Never think its something wrong with yourself. You are your own person, and if he doesn't love you for who you are then he's not worth it.
Hope I've helped. x
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reader, Kait  +, writes (29 December 2007):
 He is obviously really shy too, and there's not really much you can do about it, I know, I was in the same situation there for a while!! But in the end the guy did ask me out, and I reckon he'll do the same for you. Just bide your time and focus on other things as hard as that may be. I'm sorry I can't be of more help. Good luck!
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reader, LouLee +, writes (29 December 2007):
 Woah im kinda in the same boat as you....he's probably planning on asking you out just give it time and he'll pluck enough courage to finally do it....best wishes
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