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writes:My exboyfriend and I have been seperated for almost four months and we were together for almost four years. the first time he wanted to end the relationship was september 2010 and after two months he came back says he missed me. we were ok at that time but later on we didn't get along. later on we reunited again and fought again. now i was talking to him about us like three months ago and he says that he can't trust me and wasn't happy about the comments people made on face book about me. he told me it was over for good because he thought we kept hurting each other. After a week he sent me the little emotics that we use when we chat on yahoo or messanger. I sent him one and he replied. I tried to talk to him if we can be together but he says that we can't talk about it any more and he says that he will never forget me and he loves me. i asked him if i can give him my picture that i took on the holiday that we had and he says ok. and i asked him if i can call me and he says i can call he anytime i want. does he care about me at all? I don't get it why did he sent me those stuff at the first place and says we can't get back together. please help me out enthough its been a long time i love him so much and i want to work it out with him. he is a great guy. Tell me why he can't leave me alone like he said if he doesn't care or doesn't love me? because i am sure that the chat message was not sent my mistake.
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reader, cheers  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 What's the point he cares for you but doesn't want to be with you? You end up get nothing but misery.
Look at brigher side. Keep an open mind & pull yourself up!Tell yourself that "you will pull thru" out of this misery relationship. Future is in your hands and please think wisely. Go out, widen social circle to meet more people. Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 September 2011):
 I think he is trying to stay "friends" in order to not hurt your feelings, however, the longer you hang around him/IM/Talk the longer it will take for YOU to get over him. He has already made his mind up, he is done with the relationship, but seems like he has a tough time to let you move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 September 2011):
 Tbh , it sounds as if he CAN leave you alone very well. 3 months are 90 days, over 2000 hours, and the fact that in 2000 hours he once found a couple of secs to send you an emoticon does not show that he can't cope without you. He may have had a moment of nostalgy, an impulse of tenderness, and why not ?, he never denied that he remembers you and that he still cares about you. So that answers to : does he care about you at all.
Nevertheless, he choose to NOT get back with you a third time, and he told you- very clearly. Love is not enough to keep a relationship going, and functioning, if regardless of mutual feelings, you keet hurting each other , I think he has been smart noticing there is a dysfunctional cycle and terminating it once for all.Basically he has been telling you that you two are not good together,regardless of lingering feelings, and, as hard as it is for you, I think you should respect that.
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