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*atsun73
writes:It's been 5 years since I have been in a serious relationship because mainly I haven't found the right woman for me. I'm 39 I'm a straight male with beautiful blue eyes, but I look a lot younger than my age I look to be about 16 ish maybe 20 tops I am looking for someone who will love me for me and not because of money or material things. I am romantic and fun to be around with. Everyone who knows me know that I am very loyal and a great friend to have. I have all the time in the world but why can't women look beyond the young kid on the outside and see the ginormous heart I really have? Believe me I'm not trying to sound conceded or build me up in any shape or form I would just like to know why most people judge a book by its cover?
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reader, mooh  +, writes (21 June 2012):
What kind of woman do you date? do you see a pattern in the type of woman that try to take advantage of you or are materialistic superficial etc? Maybe try to go for a different type of woman. Do you think there is something in your behavior that seems to attract the wrong type of women? e.g. If you have the habit of talking about money, your income or expensive items you posses to people you have just met or don't know so well, the probability to meet a superficial/materialistic person are increased as you don't know the woman well enough.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (21 June 2012):
 Stop!!! Women will not be attracted to generousity n kindness n all that other nice guy bs., right away anyway. Do u have trouble attracting women with ur personality? I did. Body too. Oh well live n adapt right? Eff the be urself crap man change into someone ur comfortable in being so women throw themselves at u. I suggest david de angelo attraction isnt a choice the game by neil strauss and how to fall out of love. Read educate n know what women truly want!! U seem like an alrite guy good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 June 2012):
 As a 52 year old woman with a 39 year old man with gorgeous blue eyes who looks much younger than his age (he looks young enough to be my son) I am calling BS on your excuse.
First of all I am strongly doubting unless you are very small and slender and underweight in build with limited wispy facial hair you don’t look 20 tops. But keep thinking that… it’s a good thing to have a good self image.
If you do have that uber slender build, adding a bit of weight will help improve that pre-puberty look. It helped age my guy and now he looks about 30… I look 52 easily… so we get a lot of odd looks…
Perhaps you are coming across as TOO needy and too wanting? Perhaps your target age group needs to be revised… perhaps how you are attempting to meet women needs to be changed.
I rarely find folks that judge a book by it’s cover in my circle of friends… perhaps you need to branch out and find more mature folks to be friends with???
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 June 2012):
 I can't even imagine you having a youthful look being something a woman NOT liking.
Is there a particular age group/type that YOU go for? Maybe you need to rethink your "type"?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 June 2012):
 "It's been 5 years since I have been in a serious relationship because mainly I haven't found the right woman for me."
Asked and answered. As far as the judging people by the way they look some people do some do not, just a fact of life, you need to just deal with it. Enjoy your youthful looks I wish I could look 20 again, heck even 50 would be alright.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 June 2012):
 As it happens, the cover is the only part of the book that we can see without OPENING the darn thing!!!!!
Sooo, you might expose a few paragraphs of yourself - when the time is right - and see if you can find a woman who'd like to "read" you......
Good luck....
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reader, Puffalapeno +, writes (21 June 2012):
I certainly can't speak for all women, and it's not an issue of mine, but I do know that quite a few women that I know would not be comfortable in a situation with someone who looks so much younger than them. Is it vanity? Perhaps, or perhaps it's because while older men dating younger women is accepted and even applauded, older women dating younger men isn't quite as much so. They don't want to be ridiculed for dating someone who could be their son. Obviously you aren't young enough to be their son, but the rest of the world doesn't know that and judges her for being a sex crazed cougar.
Perhaps if you found ways to appear closer to your true age you would have better luck with women, unless you're having trouble with ladies in the 20-29 year range at which I have no advice for you. Hope you find the one you're looking for.
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