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writes:please help! Here are the facts: I stopped taking the pill birth control in april 2011 I have reguar periods and a pretty normal cycle.Last missed period: may 24. I found out I was pregnant: june 25I cheated on my boyfriend on: june 5I know it was so stupid and I regret it so much. Id never do anything like this again but...We used a condom THE entire time and when he finished he pulled out.However me and my boyfriend have sex pretty reguarly.. Probably about 2 to 3 times a week. and we do not use protection. We just use withdrawal method.I just am curious as to what are the chances that my boyfriend is the father? because I will be totally heartbroken if he isnt ): ... And is someone really fertile coming off the birth control pill?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 If you missed your period on 24 May, then you were already pregnant then - so there is no doubt - only your boyfriend could be the father.
By now you should have had a dating scan at the hospital, so should have an idea anyhow of when you conceived.
You have had a lucky escape.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (8 September 2011):
 You would need to confirm paternity with a DNA test. After the baby is born he and the baby will need to provide blood samples.
If your used a condom with your lover and it was fully intact after sex (no spillage afterwards) it would be EXTREMELY rare that he fathered your baby.
Once you discontinue the pill, your fertility returns. You can miss 1-2 pills and be fertile again. There really is not a state of being "more fertile". You either are or you are not. Just like you are pregnant or not pregnant. It is a state of "on" or "off".
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 September 2011):
 The doctor can tell you how long you've been pregnant, as marieclaire says, and then you can do the math. Though I'd be shocked if it wasn't your boyfriend's, since withdrawal is barely more safe than just forgetting about birth control all together. It seems pretty unlikely as well that the sex that made you pregnant could occur after your missed period. Not to mention that condoms are very effective and you would know if it failed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2011): Firstly withdrawal is not a safe method at all. You can get a dna test when the baby is born, it is possible to have one before the baby is born, I would check with your doctor about it. Though you say that you used a condom with the guy you cheated with, so unless it broke, chances are that your boyfriend is the father. But to ease your mind I would talk to the doctor and explore all the possibilities. Good luck
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 September 2011):
 I think if you want to be 100% sure, you wait til the baby is born and do a DNA test.
And withdrawal is NOT a safe method to avoid pregnacies, it's it's pretty sure to FAIL!
And yes, some women become very fertile after coming of BC. Not uncommon at all.
If you don't want a baby, why not be on birth control?
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