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What's an assertive, direct, funny response to their hot and cold dating behaviour?

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Question - (29 July 2015) 2 Answers - (Newest, 29 July 2015)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, *rOveranalysing writes:

A recurring situation is I'll go on a date with anothe gay guy. thing seem to go well.

They'll send me a thankyou message after, and continue small talk here and there.

I'm pretty direct and will try to lock off a second date, thats when they start to get flakey and non-commital.

Sending teasing here and there messages with winkey smileys or matching againg and again on tinder despite having made little to no effort to meet me again.

It's clear they like me, but for whatever reason the second date isn't happening.

Whats an assertive, direct and funny way of calling them out on their hot and cold behaviour, when we next match on tinder (some of them we've matched up to 8 times).

I don't want to come across as bitter and annoyed but at same time, the back and forth is irritating and immature of them.

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A male reader, MrOveranalysing United Kingdom +, writes (29 July 2015):

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I agree with you a bit. However, what is a funny, smart, polite way of calling someone out. "Not being that into you" would suggest they wouldn't bother with poking me again and again. However, if you are right and simply its not a priority for them to meet again, but they are wasting my time, I need a way to close the door firmly and take them by surprise without sounding weird or desperate but empowered with a smile.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 July 2015):

Honeypie agony auntWhy wonder "cooking up" funny responses to a bunch of time-wasters? Block them and move on.

They might find you attractive, but if they are SO vague about a second date, they are JUST not that into you. So WHY keep wasting your time of guys like that?

It is immature & annoying when a person just can't grow a set and say, hey I'm not interested in a second date, chatting is OK but I don't want to pursue dating with you. However, it seem to be very common.

So I'd just make the PRESUMPTION that they are NOT interested enough and move on.

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