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anonymous
writes:Hey all. I have been chatting to this guy I met on an internet dating website. my profile was set up as a joke so i had no problem checking it out as it had nothing properly on it about me so being nice i tried to tell some quiet shy boys that they didnt need to be using this website and that they get out there and explore the world and hopefully find a girl the normal way. well anyways i got chatting to one guy who as it happens goes to the same school as me. he's slightly older and he seems nice and we've been asking each other some questions and stuff that people dont feel comfortable talking to each other about. Now he wants to know my name and i'm afraid to tell him, as i'm know around these place and i am not a normal girl. We can't email each other and chat perfectly, but i'm afraid when we do eventually meet what will happen. I dont want it to feel like i've done something stupid or make him feel bad and not be able to accept me for who i am. Dont worry i'm a girl and i have not had a sex change so thats not the problem.What do i do now in this situation and where do i go to??????
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 hi
maybe your intentions were good in that you wanted to give these guys a bit of a confidence boost? can you not just tell this guy that you like that you did not want to show your real identity because you were worried about internet predators/stalkers but you still wanted to chat online? or have you lied about your personality too? have you uploaded a different photo? if you have lied about more things than just your identity, and he finds out - or you admit it to him, he will probably never trust you.
you have got 2 choices: either confess or excuse your self from chatting online to him again, scrap your bogus profile and maybe make yourself known to him in the real world instead
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Well without knowing why you are not a 'normal girl' there is not much we can say to help!
Have you lied about your age? Or something worse?
What are you 'known' for? Why will that mean he wont like you anymore?
Unless you explain your full situation we can only guess and the only help I can give you is simply - tell the truth. If he likes you, and you get on well via the internet then hopefully he is a good guy and wont care about what you are 'known' for, and will only care about what he knows about you from your chats.
If you can give some more info then that would help, if you dont want to say then simply tell the truth and hopefully it will work out for you.
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