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I can't stop falling for older men. Why do I do this?

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Question - (19 February 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 20 February 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *iss-Kirstie-Lauren writes:

HELP!

Im in love with my teacher and my driving instructor! I cant stop falling for people, especially if they have authority over me! It is only these two people at the moment but it has been others before.

I especially love my teacher and when i am around him or i see everything becomes better. All of the things that were bothering me or worrying me suddenly dont matter just because hes here.

And with my driving instructor, i cant stop dreaming about him and us having sex on the back seats of his car! What is wrong with me?

I have never done anything with these older people but the feelings are there!!

Please Help Me!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011):

Mother nature determines who you are most attracted to.

Mother nature does not really care who is going to make you happiest or who is going to give you the most emotionally healthy relationship. Nature only cares who is going to get you pregnant with the best kids and provide for them best. So that is who you are attracted to.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011):

You are a girl who, at this age, has biological instincts to bear children.

And subconsiously you are looking for someone who can best provide for any offspring.

Once upon a time it was fit, strong, warrior types who could defend you and your children from predators as well as provide food and shelter.

Now it's not needed for a man to be able to work a spear through the heart of a lion to provide successfully for progeny.

Now you go for older men, as they are more likely to be able to provide for any offspring.

Or you could just be looking for a father figure and in the absence of familial bonds and boundaries, this turns into sexual attraction, heightned by hormonal changes happening in your body to ready it for child-bearing.

Flynn 24

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