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writes:This is about my ex and his brother. I dated my ex for about four months last year. It didn't go well because we were both unwell at the time. I had only just come out of hospital when I met him. I was in there about my mental health problems. I was living in a hostel when I met him ( it was a rehabilitation place for people who had just come out of hospital). I am a lot better now, and I have my own apartment now. His brother and I have been friends since last year. Hr had a girlfriend when I met him, but they broke up a couple of months ago. He has said that he is interested in me. He told me that he liked me when he was with his girlfriend, and I was with his brother, but he couldn't tell me then.I saw my ex again yesterday for the first time since we broke up. He asked how I was, and I told him that I have my own place. He said "So, are you two together, or what?", to me and his brother. I looked at his brother, and my ex said,"She is looking at you because she wants to know what you think". I said we were friends at the moment. He also asked me to go out for his birthday next week with him and his family.My ex also left a couple of voicemail messages on my phone a couple of days ago, and he said "love you", at the end of one of them. I'm not sure if he said that by mistake though. He has a girlfriend at the moment, but he said in one of the messages that ge doesnt know if she will be his girlfriend because they keep having problems. She has cheated on my ex.What do you think of the things that my ex said to me?. It felt strange seeing him again. It hurt, because i still found him physically attractive, and the memories of what happened between us came back.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 August 2016):
 It does not matter what your ex's motivations are here, you need to look out for yourself, one of the two of them will hurt you, it sounds like the two of them want to date you, which is very messy and could come in between two brothers. You are in a happier place now and have your own apartment, keep continuing to get better and do not go backwards in to a place of darkness between two brothers. Good Luck.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (16 August 2016):
 You don't seem to be listening to what people have written to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2016): His brother told me that my ex asked him again today if we are together. I'm not sure if he is trying to get me and his brother together, or if he is asking if we are together for another reason?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (14 August 2016):
 I think YOU need to move forward, not backwards. You and the ex didn't work back then for whatever reasons, maybe it was too much to handle at the time.
BUT I would NOT go hang out with a guy for his B-day with family and friends when he has a GF - doesn't matter how rotten the relationship is.
I agree with Denizen, it LOOKS like he is trying to lone up a new woman (you) before leaving the old one (GF) so HE won't have to be alone. Which is really not a good idea.
The brother is not helping the situation either, he has ulterior motives. I think in all honesty... that you need to cut them both off and focus on you.
You have a place of your own, which is great, but don't stop there with the improvements. Friends? a job? hobbies?
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reader, Denizen +, writes (14 August 2016):
It looks like he is preparing to jump out of one relationship and into another. This doesn't sound good for you.
You have got your life together. You have your own place to live - your own front door key. I don't think you need this kind of complication in your life at the moment.
You split up before for a reason. It wasn't just because you were ill. A caring person would have helped you through that. He had problems and you had your health issues.
I don't think either of you are strong enough to do anything but disappoint each other again.
Sorry for a negative response. Find new friends, and new interests to enrich your new life. Good luck Hon'.
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