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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): women cheat because they saw there man cheating so it irritate them and they decide to revenge
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (25 April 2012):
Why men cheat - sex.
Why women cheat - attention.
There of course specific instances showing otherwise but IMO the two things above represent the vast majority of the cases.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (25 April 2012):
 Top Reasons? like the top 10 reasons? what are the best reasons? it depends I think on the person, some people are just garbage and have no feelings, and cheat merely because they are selfish, I actually believe this is the only reason for cheating, all else aren't reasons, they are excuses!
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (25 April 2012):
Probably the biggest reason is "grass is greener...." illusion. Probably most of us try it once when young and learn to be better partners later in life.
We all have different definitions of cheating. For many it is just about sex, but for me its more to do with lying and deceipt. I have a good friend (female) who just likes sex and would quicker have sex with a guy than a cup of coffee, her husband doesn't think this is cheating although he is 100% monogomous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): Male or Female it doesnt matter, at the end of the day you're just not a good person. Thats the only reason.
Theres no excuse, if you are unhappy in your relationship, just end it, why make things worse by running of with someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): The guy I had an affair with said to me on many occasions "its not fair I want to be with you but my wife is so dependent on me she needs me to stay in the marriage or her life will fall apart so I am trapped in this marriage with someone I don't even like while in love with someone else."
I ended the affair. Many years later our paths crossed again. He was still married to her and still miserable but no longer cheating on her since I was the only one he ever wanted that when I left there was no one else.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 There are no reasons for cheating, people just cheat because they want to, there's no justification for it.
All of us have two paths to choose from; when we were younger, we were told there's a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other shoulder, each guiding us in their own way. Cheaters choose to do what they do, despite knowing that it is wrong, and it is a conscious decision that they make. Why do they do it? Because they want to. They can have the best spouse/partner in the world, all their needs taken care of, a "perfect" life, yet they will cheat. Of course they always find someone to pile the blame on, that's what losers always do, but at the end of the day no one is to be blamed except cheaters themselves.
The other posters have stated reasons like boredom, curiosity, influence of alcohol, thrill, boring sex life....these are just excuses which are used and never reasons. No one's life is perfect, no one has a constant, entertaining, happy-happy life 24/7, 365 days a year. All of us go through phases where there is a lack of intimacy, fights, problems in life, problems at work, etc., etc. Most of us have been under the influence of alcohol at some of of time in our lives, have been silly drunk. Does that mean that we all cheat? Of course not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): I believe women cheat because she is needing something outside of the bad relationship/marriage she has now. She isn't being fulfilled sexually or emotionally.
I believe men cheat because they need variety. It's like eating the same cereal every day... A man can love his wife at home and be unfaithful at the same time. a.k.a seperating their emotions.
I was reading a book that stated "every man would have sex with other women if they could get away with it." It's their primal instinct. The good guys don't do this because they realize if caught? It would hurt the wife/girlfriend and that would make them sad as well. But the want and need to cheat is always there. Pretty scary stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): people cheat when they have huge problems with their official partner/relationship but are too afraid to leave the relationship, AND they then meet someone who they like or are highly attracted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): Don't buy this BS. There are no reasons. Cheaters are damaged goods. Every relationship has it's problems. Those who are flawed deal with it by having a fling on the side. Those who are not either solve the problem by communicating with their partners or find somebody else.
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Cowardice, boredom, greed, lack of communication, resentment, lack of attention, betrayal, lust take your pick.
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reader, screennametaken  +, writes (23 April 2012):
By and large, what I have seen is -- men can cheat (have sex) with someone and still be completely in love with their woman. If women cheat, it's worse -- generally, women don't cheat on someone they truly are in love with.
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reader, screennametaken +, writes (23 April 2012):
By and large, what I have seen is -- men can cheat (have sex) with someone and still be completely in love with their woman. If women cheat, it's worse -- generally, women don't cheat on someone they truly are in love with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): Either way, male or femail: it can be because the person's relationship is basically dead but limping on. Or a mismatch in desire that over time has become a problem. Or because the person doing the cheating can not settle for one person. There are many reasons. The age at which this happens alters the reasons. As you are young I would think that it is because the cheater is not in a settled relationship and wants to taste life to the full. Who knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): The top reason for cheating is a lack of love and respect for the one they cheated on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): There are no real valid reasons, but there are lots of excuses. The only real reason I think is that someone who cheats just does it because they want to.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 April 2012):
 1. They don't have the balls to dump you, but they continue to try to move on!!
2. Mundane sex life. The sex was great in the beginning but now it's lackluster.
3. Lack of attention from boyfriend. Includes working too much, hanging out with friends more often, playing video games, picking working out at the gym over spending time with your girlfriend etc.
4. Retaliation. If they're cheated on by their boyfriend.
5. Sometimes the boyfriend is too clingy and overbearing they push the girl away. Essentially the girlfriend doesn't break up with him, hoping he'll change...but that doesn't stop her from having a fling in the time being.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (23 April 2012):
# boredom
# curiosity
# looking for somebody to move on too
# lack of self control
# alcohol
# its all about me syndrom
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reader, Great or Good  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Cheating has nothing to do with women, I think you should consider editing your question and ask it again.
What I can say is cheating has no gender and for that reason I will say most man cheat cause of lust, and immorality.
Whereas women cheat as a result of material love they only.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 April 2012):
I cheated one time when I was 19 and it was on my first boyfriend. Some may not consider it cheating because I guess the term "cheating" is subjective, but I consider it cheating. But, I was hanging out with another guy I had met at work outside of work and we kissed and I slept in his bed (no sex) with him one night.
I didn't have the courage to break up with my boyfriend first. He had convinced me before that all guys are jerks, we would fight all the time, and he was very demeaning to me. Besides liking the attention from someone else because frankly, my self esteem was pretty low back then, I almost did it as revenge for all the times my boyfriend made me feel ugly or that I was stupid. I never told him about it, but it made me feel good to know that I had done something that would make him feel like total crap.
Of course, having matured and several boyfriends later. I would never cheat again because if I honestly don't like/don't want to be with someone that bad again, I would just break up with them. I've also been cheated on and it really hurts, so I wouldn't want to do that to someone else.
However, I know some girls that cheat on their boyfriends all the time. I think it's mainly because they like the attention, but they also have a hard time saying, "no." They actually feel bad turning anyone down so they just hook up with whoever. I'm sure it goes deeper than that, but I don't think people necessarily cheat because they are evil or coniving. But usually for selfish reasons.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Lack of integrity.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Mostly the same as most men. Insecurities/feeling unappreciated and not having the moral compass to break up first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): *just to clarify most cheaters, not most women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): I read statistics that stated over half of women cheat on their partners because they have problems in their current relationship and I've also read that is their biggest excuse for getting with a man who's married too, that he is unhappy in his relationship.
The rest are either serial cheaters who don't like monogamy, made a one time stupid mistake and there's a lot that don't want to end one relationship until they've found someone else and cheat that way.
BY far the biggest reason (excuse) they use to justify cheating is the unhappy in the relationship thing. Most think that gives them license to go off and shag another guy.
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reader, Thisiscrazy  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Not enough excitement in the relationship
Partner not willing to be open to suggestions
Bad relationship
Fighting
feeling unloved is a big 1
Partner not making the other feel that they are sexy to the partner
Sex life boring
Some women do it for the thrill
Some for the touch of another
There are so many reasons
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